Say something nice about another ILXor

LL well said & you rule

i don't like praising people specifically probably because of how i was raised but i feel like sarahell has been doing a lot of work to be less snarky and more open and compassionate over the last few years and i think it's paid off really well, i think she's a top poster

I'm literally so grateful for the atmosphere of ILX (in peace times) that I composed (and posted!) that post. Cheers!

― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Friday, August 2, 2019 9:06 AM (forty-one minutes ago) bookmarkflaglink

"(and posted!)" indeed there are many times that I compose and then do not post!

We really need avatars though

check out james fuckin cameron over here

we really need five avatars

2027 can't come fast enough

Didn't realize we'd already firmly rescheduled 2012.

no need for Arrrghhh..vatars on here thank you very much. I have enough trouble brushing my teeth on a morning.

LL way otm. I have rewarding interactions on other social media but honestly a chill generalist nerd message board is the kind of online hangout space I’m most suited to. It feels like it’s senesced even in the eyeblink since I joined but it’s very comforting to me when everything else is shit to know I can go on my phone at coffee time and see a 2am darraghmac troll poll or a yerac food opinion or the mordant capering of Britain’s onlinest shepherd bizarro gazzara

i don't like praising people specifically probably because of how i was raised but i feel like sarahell has been doing a lot of work to be less snarky and more open and compassionate over the last few years and i think it's paid off really well, i think she's a top poster

I love every poster in this revive

i will take all compliments, back-handed or not? i think?

sarahell imo you have always been a good poster

yes

idk ... I have definitely had my self-indulgent embarrassing periods, and the troll the fuck out of everything periods, and honestly, I am almost expecting former posters to login just to remind me that I suck.

same here tbh, but the way i was raised was if you condescend like fuck to someone like they are one of your creatures or something.. they might just tell you to go fuck yourself [exclamation mark]

sorry if I have been condescending to you?

no!

forget it!

some of your r-word use used to piss me off but i was probably too much of a delicate flower at the time, but otherwise I've always enjoyed angry posters on here. but I found that post about you a bit of a creepy stretch. who is to say where anybody is right now just from reading their posting style on here. we are all in all sorts of different situations, but yeah i'm glad you've found the path of light by not offending my delicate sensibilities etc.. etc..

lol i think I'm doing this thread wrong .. I'll log off!

lol, if I'm the poster that turns "say something nice" into "say something kinda nice, but also kinda mean" ... as in I'm the subject of that ... I accept my fate.

This revive is so nice!! ILXers are pretty swell, for the most part I think.

brimstead has been very funny lately imo

i want to say how much I appreciate all the other "no boys" thread posters: it's one of the threads that keeps me here. ... also, whomever made the various "old" stylesheets, they are nice.

Old Lunch’s Hooch thread made me laugh like a deranged idiot on the subway today

Would 100% go antiquing with OL

i still want to go thrifting w sarahell

Yes! and drumming too?

Of course!! A noncompetitive duet!!! If it were competitive, I would 100% lose and it would be embarrassing for everyone. This thread is a perfect example of something I wouldn't trouble anyone with irl but I enjoy talking about asynchronously with ilxors i'm over here in the green section, see you by the hats

OL and Karl Malone are delights on the political thread.

You are too.

i like Alf's book recommendations as well, just finishing that excellent J jackson book on the Vichy regime.

i didn't mean it as backhanded! it's more like, idk, you were one of the people whose bad side i was specifically terrified of getting on the bad side of. ilx was just a super intimidating and scary place. oh, i don't know, that almost sounds more backhanded, doesn't it?

what i mean is that everybody here is great and/because everybody here has gotten better over time

it's cool! i can relate! you are a rad person, too!

It's a good spot, this place.

i like Alf's book recommendations as well, just finishing that excellent J jackson book on the Vichy regime.

― calzino, Friday, August 2, 2019 7:58 PM (three hours ago

oh thanks! I hope someone's read his De Gaulle bio.

i don't recall the era when sarahell claims she was sometimes trolling? she's always been a+ unless it involves semiotics, about which i'm unqualified to comment

so i woke up thinking about this (no i don't have an ilx problem) and i'm sorry if i get kind of personal here but i do want to talk a little about how ilx has grown and developed and what that means to me

i get frustrated when i see people being nostalgic for Old ILX because, particularly when one of those threads gets bumped, it was something i was always kind of conflicted about. the people here were really smart and really well-spoken and, well, the reputation was that it was sort of a critics' hangout, right?

that was kind of difficult for me. partly because i'd had some pretty terrible interactions with a music critic on usenet (he will not be named and as far as i know was never here, but he was super into kink shaming), and partly relating it to my own life

all the trauma work i've been doing the topic of the "inner critic" comes up. it doesn't mean quite the same thing as someone being a professional critic, but i don't see the two usages as being entirely unrelated. writers are people who tend to have a pretty poor self-image in the first place (one of the misguided reasons i never really pursued being a professional writer - i feel like i sort of confused correlation with causation, which i've done in other areas of my life), and then you add in a sort of work which tends to magnify the critical voice and at worst critics can become these "boys in the band" types who are utterly merciless and lacerating both of themselves and of others

well that was sort of how i saw Old ILX, and for whatever reasons - i'd prefer to accentuate the positive ones - i feel like ILX has become kinder, more compassionate, its posters more self-accepting. that makes me happy.

at the same time that experience and growth, this is the paradox, means that i feel like people here don't necessarily say as much stupid shit. people give the impression of having thought before speaking. certainly that's what i try to do, and the flip side of writing things and not posting them is that i've written some stuff where not posting was absolutely the right decision. there's less viciousness but it's still an environment where if someone talks shit, i mean speaks ad ignorantum, they stand a good chance of being called on it. it's been helpful and hopefully i talk less shit than i used to!

i feel like people here don't necessarily say as much stupid shit. people give the impression of having thought before speaking. certainly that's what i try to do

i love the 'posts you had second thoughts about posting' thread for this reason

just listened to all 50 of the songs brad has considered as being the best ever

i don't agree of course but it's an amazing list

is that a real list? because if so i'm so down.

yes when did i miss that? always have time for brad's enthusiasm.

01 The Blue Nile - The Downtown Lights (6:31)
02 Fleetwood Mac - Everywhere (3:47)
03 Machine - There But for the Grace of God Go I (5:19)
04 Van Halen - Panama (3:32)
05 Soft Cell - Say Hello, Wave Goodbye (5:23)
06 Evelyn 'Champagne' King - Love Come Down (6:15)
07 The Jets - Crush on You (6:20)
08 Patrice Rushen - Haven't You Heard (6:45)
09 Mariah Carey - Always Be My Baby (4:20)
10 Saint Etienne - He's on the Phone (4:08)
11 John Martyn - Small Hours (8:45)
12 Womack & Womack - Teardrops (5:04)
13 Luomo - Tessio (12:07)
14 Tears for Fears - Everybody Wants to Rule the World (4:11)
15 Sade - By Your Side (4:34)
16 Underworld - Jumbo (6:57)
17 ABBA - Knowing Me, Knowing You (4:02)
18 Prefab Sprout - The Sound of Crying (4:43)
19 Boz Scaggs - Lowdown (5:17)
20 Cyndi Lauper - Time After Time (4:03)
21 Steely Dan - Sign in Stranger (4:23)
22 Cameo - Candy (5:39)
23 Scritti Politti - Oh Patti (Don't Feel Sorry for Loverboy) (4:23)
24 Amy Grant - Every Heartbeat (3:33)
25 Janet Jackson - Escapade (4:43)
26 Taylor Swift - Treacherous (4:00)
27 Kylie Minogue - Get Outta My Way (3:38)
28 Prince - Mountains (3:57)
29 Anita Baker - Sweet Love (4:26)
30 Moloko - Forever More (7:22)
31 George Michael - One More Try (5:50)
32 Fall Out Boy - Disloyal Order of Water Buffaloes (4:17)
33 Maze - Back in Stride (7:06)
34 Maxwell - Pretty Wings (5:10)
35 Rickie Lee Jones - We Belong Together (5:03)
36 Luther Vandross - Never Too Much (3:49)
37 Little Big Town - Lost in California (4:47)
38 Van Morrison - Summertime in England (15:37)
39 Michelle Branch - Breathe (3:31)
40 Orbital - Halcyon + On + On (9:27)
41 Mama - Unmask Me (Ashley Beedle Vocal Mix) (9:17)
42 Sarah McLachlan - Sweet Surrender (4:00)
43 Jennifer Paige - Crush (3:20)
44 Force MD's - Tender Love (3:55)
45 Aerosmith - Combination (3:39)
46 Genesis - Keep It Dark (4:35)
47 Madonna - Take a Bow (5:21)
48 DeBarge - I Like It (4:39)
49 Annie Lennox - Why (4:54)
50 Tori Amos - Raspberry Swirl (3:58)

I'm rarely interested in ilm lists but I am def checking this one out

ooh yes

rickie lee jones was my top discovery

I love that Brad shares my love for "Panama"

Taht debarge track is a nice one

i was like "what a weird list how did i assemble that" and remembered at least part of it was made by searching for old ilx posts where i called a song "the best song ever"