I had a therapist for 6-7 years and then he died 6 years ago and I never looked for another one. I need one now.
A few comments:
1. I am somewhat resistant to therapy. This shit is so hard and I seem to have limited capacity to take the intellectual insights I recognize from therapy and actually internalize them so that I can apply them to my emotional state (mostly anger issues). Therapy helped, but mostly on the margins. Regardless, I would take even that right now.
2. Previous therapist was a straight-up Freudian psychotherapist (and quite old). I might want someone a little more practical this time. I don't want someone to merely prescribe me a drug, but would want that to at least be on the table if the professional thought that would help.
3. US-based.
Any recommendations for limiting my search beyond who is in-network for my insurance?
Any help or advice is very appreciated.
― Quiet Storm Thorgerson (PBKR), Friday, 25 September 2020 13:02 (three years ago) link
go for an integrated facility with multiple providers and standards/accountability rather than just some bloke in an office, just my 2p
― brimstead, Friday, 25 September 2020 16:59 (three years ago) link
Trust your instincts, be prepared to kiss a lot of frogs.
― lukas, Friday, 25 September 2020 17:00 (three years ago) link
For myself, one of the most important qualities in a therapist (besides compassion etc) is an ability to set structure and not just let every session be “brimstead whines for an hour”... I need goals
― brimstead, Friday, 25 September 2020 17:02 (three years ago) link
The way I found my current (amazing) therapist is I went to friends-who-themselves-work-as-therapists and asked them who was the best therapist they would recommend.
― flamboyant goon tie included, Friday, 25 September 2020 17:17 (three years ago) link
Thanks all for the suggestions; they are helpful.
This resonates with me:
Especially since most of my issues are self-inflicted.
― Quiet Storm Thorgerson (PBKR), Friday, 25 September 2020 17:57 (three years ago) link
I tend to favor psychologists over social workers as therapists, but of course there are awesome social worker therapists and shitty psychologist therapists. But I think training in a good psychology program is better suited to individual psychotherapy practice than social work training.
You can also use Psychology Today to double check any in-network lists; some may have cringe-worthy profiles that will help you weed out the obvious NO NO NO folks.
― mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Friday, 25 September 2020 20:34 (three years ago) link
I unexpectedly was referred to a new therapist and it’s early but…I felt seen, I felt heard, she got me. I’m only seeing her weekly but I felt tremendously relieved after doing so.A big difference from the last real therapist I had is that there was no beating about the bush this time; I felt a connection, I felt I could trust her with the things I wanted to talk about and deal with. That plus I’m old. I don’t have loads of time the way I did ten years ago when I started with my then therapist. But yeah. Surprised, but happy. I hope this lasts.
― Roman Anthony gets on his horse (gyac), Saturday, 11 May 2024 17:31 (three weeks ago) link
That is really good. I have to find a new one. Dreading it.
― Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Saturday, 11 May 2024 21:02 (three weeks ago) link
any way we could move this thread to 77? would like to contribute but would prefer to do so on the less public board.
― J Edgar Noothgrush (Joan Crawford Loves Chachi), Saturday, 11 May 2024 22:03 (three weeks ago) link
I’m in favour of that, yeah. Do we need to ask someone?
― Roman Anthony gets on his horse (gyac), Saturday, 11 May 2024 22:28 (three weeks ago) link
Have I mentioned itt that I can't believe someone hasn't set up Therapist Speed Dating? I mean for real it would be amazing to be able to get to get a 10-minute rapport check before committing. . .
― mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Sunday, 12 May 2024 04:50 (two weeks ago) link
That would be an excellent idea.
― Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Sunday, 12 May 2024 10:58 (two weeks ago) link
Too bad all the good ones are taken….
― It was on a accident (hardcore dilettante), Sunday, 12 May 2024 13:24 (two weeks ago) link