Trans/Genderqueer/Agender/Questioning Thread

Congratulations!

woohoo

excellent news!

Aww. I hope he does actually make more of an effort to understand as well but that sounds like a good first step.

NYT and its union arguing over whether or not to change trans journalists' bylines retroactively after they've transitioned, per an email from @newsguild pic.twitter.com/omuJ8idPm1

— Ben Smith (@benyt) April 20, 2021

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Forgive me if this is a stupid question. I am editing a short bio of a trans scientist (Ben Barres). Is this line OK? "Barres officially transitioned to male in 1997 and became the first openly transgender member of the National Academy of Sciences." The "officially" strikes me as potentially off, and I am not confident about the phrasing generally.

the "officially" sounds a little awkward and would probably imply to me specifically that 1997 is when he got legal recognition of his transition (which doesn't necessarily correspond to just his coming out or presenting as a man etc.). just "Barres transitioned to male in 1997" would be fine generally but otherwise it's all good

maybe something like "has been openly trans" or "has publically identified as" since whenever or explicitly mention the legal recognition since officially can be ambiguous. but if you have anything specific about how he describes or conceives of things i'd go with that and try to avoid other more general rules unless there's nothing else to go on

‘Openly’ is a bit retrograde; you wouldn’t append any other type of LGBTQI person with that in the 21st century.

Thanks all!

I take the point about "openly", but in a sentence like this doesn't it work as an acknowledgement that there were likely previous transgender members we don't know about? What other word/expression would do that job?

Unless you know for a fact that there were closeted trans people in the field, you’re just leaving a hostage to fortune. Try the sentence without ‘openly’ and I think you’ll find it’s OK.

Are you able to get in touch with this guy and ask him what he'd prefer?

Unfortunately Prof Barres passed away in ... 2019 was it? 2017. I loved his anecdote about overhearing people after a seminar he gave describing him as much more impressive than his "sister".
For the interested: https://www.nature.com/articles/d41586-017-08964-1

pretty sure i'm a woman, not really in a position to do anything about that yet, not sure why i'm telling y'all first but y'all have proven to be a really accepting community when it comes to things like this so maybe i am sure why i'm telling y'all first, it's also confusing and ambiguous knowledge to try to hold onto and thus doesn't yet feel real. not sure why typing this up made me feel more sad than relieved

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Thank you for telling us, and congratulations on taking this step!!! I'm happy and honored to know more about one of my favorite ilxors. I'm sorry you're sad, and hope this will soon bring you some joy as well. <3

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:-D It's all good!

Love and support to you!

it's also confusing and ambiguous knowledge to try to hold onto

I feel this, but holding space for the confusing and ambiguous can be important in itself. I hope the sadness is fleeting <3

ILX will trans ALL the genders. ALL of us. It happened to me, it happened to Brad, it will happen to Ned. All of us.

But, seriously, congratulations on the discovery. Good luck with finding your authentic self, whatever it will be.

<3 <3 <3 much <3 and support!!!

Hard not to just echo what others have already expressed, but so be it... <3 Brad!

<3 thanks y'all

just saw this thread update and teared up

it's one thing to know it in yourself, it's another thing to put it out into the world and make it real, and taking that step is a huge and wonderful deal. <3 you Brad

Happy for you, Brad! Hope the sadness goes away

Brad, you rule. Cheers to you.

Congrats Brad

sweet Brad this is a glorious update. thanks for sharing here <3

infinite heart emojis

all the best to you Brad ♥️

go get it Brad! pronoun preference changed?

<3 Brad, I'll toast you when those CabVolt DVDs arrive

Brad, you are one of my favorite ilx posters. Best to you on this journey and hope you are feeling less sad soon.

Cheers, Brad!

Last night my eldest child (14, AFAB, nonbinary, pan-identifying) told me I have "bi wife energy."

Um... thanks?

OH and best wishes to Brad!

Last night my eldest child (14, AFAB, nonbinary, pan-identifying) told me I have "bi wife energy."

this kid rocks

Brad <3

Much love and luck to you, Brad!

It’s a very scary but extremely worthwhile experience, ime, welcome to it B! I started transitioning about 4 and a half years ago, feel free to ilxmail me if you want to talk to someone who’s been there.

much love to you Brad! I'm glad you're a part of this board!

❤️ and good vibes to you, Brad.

This thread is the just amazing. All the very best to you Brad.

<3 BRAD!!

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