the "officially" sounds a little awkward and would probably imply to me specifically that 1997 is when he got legal recognition of his transition (which doesn't necessarily correspond to just his coming out or presenting as a man etc.). just "Barres transitioned to male in 1997" would be fine generally but otherwise it's all good
― ufo, Thursday, 27 May 2021 11:52 (three years ago) link
maybe something like "has been openly trans" or "has publically identified as" since whenever or explicitly mention the legal recognition since officially can be ambiguous. but if you have anything specific about how he describes or conceives of things i'd go with that and try to avoid other more general rules unless there's nothing else to go on
― Left, Thursday, 27 May 2021 12:29 (three years ago) link
‘Openly’ is a bit retrograde; you wouldn’t append any other type of LGBTQI person with that in the 21st century.
― the thin blue lying (suzy), Thursday, 27 May 2021 14:07 (three years ago) link
Thanks all!
I take the point about "openly", but in a sentence like this doesn't it work as an acknowledgement that there were likely previous transgender members we don't know about? What other word/expression would do that job?
― Eyeball Kicks, Thursday, 27 May 2021 14:42 (three years ago) link
Unless you know for a fact that there were closeted trans people in the field, you’re just leaving a hostage to fortune. Try the sentence without ‘openly’ and I think you’ll find it’s OK.
― the thin blue lying (suzy), Thursday, 27 May 2021 14:49 (three years ago) link
Are you able to get in touch with this guy and ask him what he'd prefer?
― paolo, Friday, 28 May 2021 09:17 (three years ago) link
Unfortunately Prof Barres passed away in ... 2019 was it? 2017. I loved his anecdote about overhearing people after a seminar he gave describing him as much more impressive than his "sister".For the interested: https://www.nature.com/articles/d41586-017-08964-1
― assert (matttkkkk), Friday, 28 May 2021 09:30 (three years ago) link
pretty sure i'm a woman, not really in a position to do anything about that yet, not sure why i'm telling y'all first but y'all have proven to be a really accepting community when it comes to things like this so maybe i am sure why i'm telling y'all first, it's also confusing and ambiguous knowledge to try to hold onto and thus doesn't yet feel real. not sure why typing this up made me feel more sad than relieved
― mellon collie and the infinite bradness (BradNelson), Wednesday, 2 June 2021 16:56 (three years ago) link
<3 brad
― braised cod, Wednesday, 2 June 2021 17:18 (three years ago) link
<3 <3 <3 <3
― intern at pelican brief consulting (Simon H.), Wednesday, 2 June 2021 17:19 (three years ago) link
:)
― 《Myst1kOblivi0n》 (jim in vancouver), Wednesday, 2 June 2021 17:20 (three years ago) link
Thank you for telling us, and congratulations on taking this step!!! I'm happy and honored to know more about one of my favorite ilxors. I'm sorry you're sad, and hope this will soon bring you some joy as well. <3
― Lily Dale, Wednesday, 2 June 2021 17:40 (three years ago) link
<3 Brad
― Feta Van Cheese (Neanderthal), Wednesday, 2 June 2021 17:42 (three years ago) link
<3<3
― Clara Lemlich stan account (silby), Wednesday, 2 June 2021 18:22 (three years ago) link
:-D It's all good!
― Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 2 June 2021 19:12 (three years ago) link
Love and support to you!
it's also confusing and ambiguous knowledge to try to hold onto
I feel this, but holding space for the confusing and ambiguous can be important in itself. I hope the sadness is fleeting <3
― emil.y, Wednesday, 2 June 2021 19:15 (three years ago) link
ILX will trans ALL the genders. ALL of us. It happened to me, it happened to Brad, it will happen to Ned. All of us.But, seriously, congratulations on the discovery. Good luck with finding your authentic self, whatever it will be.
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Wednesday, 2 June 2021 19:53 (three years ago) link
<3 <3 <3 much <3 and support!!!
― brimstead, Wednesday, 2 June 2021 20:29 (three years ago) link
Hard not to just echo what others have already expressed, but so be it... <3 Brad!
― soaring skrrrtpeggios (jon /via/ chi 2.0), Wednesday, 2 June 2021 20:31 (three years ago) link
<3 thanks y'all
― mellon collie and the infinite bradness (BradNelson), Wednesday, 2 June 2021 21:30 (three years ago) link
just saw this thread update and teared up
― So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Wednesday, 2 June 2021 21:35 (three years ago) link
it's one thing to know it in yourself, it's another thing to put it out into the world and make it real, and taking that step is a huge and wonderful deal. <3 you Brad
― boxedjoy, Wednesday, 2 June 2021 22:04 (three years ago) link
Happy for you, Brad! Hope the sadness goes away
― Fauna Sukkot (Deflatormouse), Wednesday, 2 June 2021 23:32 (three years ago) link
Brad, you rule. Cheers to you.
― 80's hair metal , and good praise music ! (DJP), Wednesday, 2 June 2021 23:39 (three years ago) link
Congrats Brad
― maf you one two (maffew12), Wednesday, 2 June 2021 23:49 (three years ago) link
sweet Brad this is a glorious update. thanks for sharing here <3
― terminators of endearment (VegemiteGrrl), Wednesday, 2 June 2021 23:56 (three years ago) link
infinite heart emojis
― class project pat (m bison), Thursday, 3 June 2021 01:22 (three years ago) link
all the best to you Brad ♥️
― Blues Guitar Solo Heatmap (Free Download) (upper mississippi sh@kedown), Thursday, 3 June 2021 01:27 (three years ago) link
go get it Brad! pronoun preference changed?
― assert (matttkkkk), Thursday, 3 June 2021 01:36 (three years ago) link
<3 Brad, I'll toast you when those CabVolt DVDs arrive
― sleeve, Thursday, 3 June 2021 01:38 (three years ago) link
Brad, you are one of my favorite ilx posters. Best to you on this journey and hope you are feeling less sad soon.
― Vin Jawn (PBKR), Thursday, 3 June 2021 13:26 (three years ago) link
Cheers, Brad!
― pomenitul, Thursday, 3 June 2021 13:37 (three years ago) link
Last night my eldest child (14, AFAB, nonbinary, pan-identifying) told me I have "bi wife energy."
Um... thanks?
― portmanteaujam (Ye Mad Puffin), Thursday, 3 June 2021 13:51 (three years ago) link
OH and best wishes to Brad!
― portmanteaujam (Ye Mad Puffin), Thursday, 3 June 2021 13:52 (three years ago) link
this kid rocks
― mellon collie and the infinite bradness (BradNelson), Thursday, 3 June 2021 14:22 (three years ago) link
Brad <3
― Eschew things thirty two times before swallowing them (darraghmac), Thursday, 3 June 2021 14:28 (three years ago) link
Much love and luck to you, Brad!
― a man often referred to in the news media as the Duke of Saxony (tipsy mothra), Thursday, 3 June 2021 14:33 (three years ago) link
It’s a very scary but extremely worthwhile experience, ime, welcome to it B! I started transitioning about 4 and a half years ago, feel free to ilxmail me if you want to talk to someone who’s been there.
― nicole, Thursday, 3 June 2021 14:35 (three years ago) link
much love to you Brad! I'm glad you're a part of this board!
― eisimpleir (crüt), Thursday, 3 June 2021 14:35 (three years ago) link
❤️ and good vibes to you, Brad.
― In my house are many Manchins (WmC), Thursday, 3 June 2021 14:39 (three years ago) link
This thread is the just amazing. All the very best to you Brad.
― Vanishing Point (Chinaski), Thursday, 3 June 2021 14:55 (three years ago) link
<3 BRAD!!
― what's fgti up to these days? nothing. she's fake (flamboyant goon tie included), Thursday, 3 June 2021 16:39 (three years ago) link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YUb7QY1T4Wk
― Ima Gardener (in orbit), Thursday, 3 June 2021 18:10 (three years ago) link
brad, wishing the best for you and lots of support.
― Linda and Jodie Rocco (map), Thursday, 3 June 2021 19:14 (three years ago) link
<3 Brad, bon courage!
in orbit: thank you for that useful post
― rob, Thursday, 3 June 2021 19:26 (three years ago) link
<3 Brad <3
― heyy nineteen, that's john belushi (the table is the table), Thursday, 3 June 2021 20:15 (three years ago) link
nothing but good wishes for you here
― What's It All About, Althea? (Aimless), Thursday, 3 June 2021 20:40 (three years ago) link
Congrats, Brad! Excited for u.
That video is so cute and now stuck in my head.
― Ima Gardener (in orbit), Thursday, 3 June 2021 23:19 (three years ago) link
Yay Brad xx :)
― paolo, Friday, 4 June 2021 08:47 (three years ago) link
Petition to remove You Know Who from his last remaining platform..
https://www.change.org/p/substack-inc-substack-take-corporate-sociable-responsibility-remove-graham-linehan-from-the-platform
― piscesx, Tuesday, 8 June 2021 20:03 (two years ago) link