Car alarm outside. “Get up,” mom says to girl who’s fallen
― calstars, Sunday, 7 November 2021 20:03 (two years ago) link
Other one is playing “Flip the thermos on to the table until it lands vertically” then falls backward knocking over a bench
― calstars, Sunday, 7 November 2021 20:30 (two years ago) link
Toddler at the big tableI guess there’s an economic imperative
― calstars, Sunday, 23 January 2022 20:33 (two years ago) link
BPA free pint glass
― calstars, Sunday, 23 January 2022 20:47 (two years ago) link
“can i get another cranberry juice?”“you’ve had enough”
― Tracer Hand, Sunday, 23 January 2022 22:35 (two years ago) link
Needs one or two tweaks to be a Morrissey lyric
― Josefa, Monday, 24 January 2022 04:06 (two years ago) link
spouse and i brought our firstborn to meet some friends at a hype williams video retrospect at some bar years back and that was the first and only time we ever did that.
did very briefly meet whiney and he complemented the name of our kid.
― Western® with Bacon Flavor, Monday, 24 January 2022 04:18 (two years ago) link
Presumable mom placing 5 yo st the window seat at 9 pm
― calstars, Sunday, 13 March 2022 01:43 (two years ago) link
His mom holds him in her arm as she partake in a group tequila shot
― calstars, Sunday, 13 March 2022 01:50 (two years ago) link
Mstanding on the bar stool and hugging his Mom
― calstars, Sunday, 13 March 2022 01:55 (two years ago) link
I mean, isn't it better to learn about tequila shots under parental supervision, rather than at the playground?
― jenny from the blockchain (Ye Mad Puffin), Sunday, 13 March 2022 16:42 (two years ago) link
This 2 year old left to entertain himself at an empty table for six with a plastic dinosaur. He bangs on the seat.
― calstars, Saturday, 18 June 2022 00:45 (two years ago) link
He’ll never remember this right
― calstars, Saturday, 18 June 2022 00:46 (two years ago) link
uh calstars what did you do
― Tracer Hand, Saturday, 18 June 2022 08:22 (two years ago) link
lol
― peace, man, Saturday, 18 June 2022 09:45 (two years ago) link
Haha
― Slowzy LOLtidore (Neanderthal), Saturday, 18 June 2022 13:44 (two years ago) link
I have very mixed feelings about Orwell (of course) but he got it at least about excluding kids from pubs. https://t.co/0g2aPEDDVN pic.twitter.com/jmOetE8nCT— Tom Gann (@Tom_Gann) July 25, 2022
― mookieproof, Monday, 25 July 2022 13:43 (one year ago) link
Two adolescents here with mom and dad, dad keeps ordering rounds for himself and mom. Who am I to judge, there’s so Much I don’t know
― calstars, Saturday, 6 August 2022 22:41 (one year ago) link
I heard about an article in last Sundays n y times about children in barsAnyone have a link?
― calstars, Friday, 2 September 2022 01:11 (one year ago) link
I subscribe to the Sunday NYT and try to at least glance at every article in the paper, but that doesn't ring a bell.
― jaymc, Friday, 2 September 2022 01:38 (one year ago) link
Yeah, I just tried a few different searches for the month of August and didn't find anything.
― peace, man, Friday, 2 September 2022 11:27 (one year ago) link
5 year old holding daddy’s hand in line for the rest roomSurely there’s a better way
― calstars, Sunday, 9 October 2022 19:47 (one year ago) link
40 year old genius brings his five year old daughter in to sit under the disco lights
― calstars, Friday, 28 October 2022 21:38 (one year ago) link
Maybe Cib is not such a bad idea when you consider the alternative — dads drinking 40s on stoops while their kids look at dead bugs on the sidewalk
― calstars, Friday, 28 October 2022 21:54 (one year ago) link
I gave up my seat to a family with a stroller and a toddler
― calstars, Friday, 17 March 2023 22:01 (one year ago) link
Mom walks in holding a baby with a head brace
― calstars, Sunday, 23 July 2023 20:43 (ten months ago) link
Children in bars they have no conscienceNo resistance
― linoleum gallagher (Neanderthal), Sunday, 23 July 2023 22:03 (ten months ago) link
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2023/aug/01/i-dont-come-here-to-enjoy-other-peoples-children-should-pubs-and-restaurants-be-kid-free-zones
― Andy the Grasshopper, Tuesday, 1 August 2023 17:42 (ten months ago) link
my dad took me to the village pub every Sunday lunchtime in the early 90s, not that they had any food besides crisps and kinder eggs, he got the Sunday Times even though he hated it, because it was the only paper that came with a free comic. all seemed very standard at the time.
― the world is your octopus (Camaraderie at Arms Length), Tuesday, 1 August 2023 17:46 (ten months ago) link
On Sunday night my wife and I had dinner at a place called A Bar, Montana (it's in an A-frame building). It's a bar, but it's got tables (and digital slot machines, because every third business around here is a "casino"). The food's great, and yeah, people bring the whole family, and sit right next to groups of drunken dudes in camo caps, squads of aging ex-cheerleaders (going based on demeanor here), retired couples, and everybody else.
― but also fuck you (unperson), Tuesday, 1 August 2023 18:00 (ten months ago) link
LOL @ the idea of my dad talking me to the pubs he used to drink in, or any child being anywhere near them!
― Continuous Two-Tone Warble (Tom D.), Tuesday, 1 August 2023 18:17 (ten months ago) link
rural herefordshire is a bit different, there are a couple of dodgy pubs in hereford (and my great grandad was once the landlord of the worst one) but there's not enough people around to justify smokey men-only boozers when only a few hundred people live within walking distance.
― the world is your octopus (Camaraderie at Arms Length), Tuesday, 1 August 2023 18:25 (ten months ago) link
The place where I tend bar promotes itself as a family restaurant that happens to have a full bar rather than a watering hole that serves food. One of my regulars is a local tax preparer who talks loudly about her 80-hour workweeks, whose husband is on the road all week as a truck driver and who likes to bring her 13-year-old daughter and 12-year-old son to the bar to be bored to death while she drinks. She leaves them sitting at the bar to continue to be bored to death while she goes out and smokes. She always goes out to smoke right after she's gotten a very cold drink, so it's closer to room temp by the time she gets to it, which may offend me most of all. Last week she came in with her husband, the 12-year-old boy, and her husband's sister and the sister's babe in arms, not yet two. The baby got its own barstool, so the group took up five of our 11 bar seats. I saw my boss come through the room and take several extra beats assessing the situation; he decided not to say anything. She tips reasonably well.
― The Terroir of Tiny Town (WmC), Tuesday, 1 August 2023 18:39 (ten months ago) link
WmC, this might seem like a strange question, but do you “like” bartending? I like it, but my partner hates that I do it, for whatever reason. I figure— I don’t drink when I’m bartending, I don’t do other drugs, what’s the big deal!? It’s a sticking point. Anyway, the bar where I work in the summer/fall has been super nice this year.
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Wednesday, 2 August 2023 00:20 (ten months ago) link
Not a strange question at all, and in fact my wife and I talked about exactly that this afternoon. I'm usually exhausted when I get home and unload frustrations about the shift — bad tippers who ask for bad drinks, people who wander in ten minutes before closing time wanting a big meal and a long drinking session, etc. When my wife and daughter have come to the restaurant, they see me having fun, turning drink orders around quickly and still managing conversation with bar patrons, performing in my lowkey way. J said, "If I were to go only by the way you talk about the job when you get home, I'd say you were the most miserable person in the world." So I need to work on that and acknowledge the pleasure I get as well as the frustrations. The short answer is yes, I like bartending. (But the job has a thousand moving parts and the parts change from shift to shift as I'm sure you know, and some of the parts are shitty. But occasionally three of the pieces are a perfectly made Sazerac, a customer who practically weeps for joy because I'm the only bartender within 75 miles who knows how to make one, and a 60% tip for being that bartender.)
― The Terroir of Tiny Town (WmC), Wednesday, 2 August 2023 00:57 (ten months ago) link
i haven't tended bar, but back in the day when i worked in books/music stores there was almost a joy during christmas season when you just non-stop knew where everything was/understood what customers meant by 'you know, the red book' or whatever/just kind of flowed through eight hours
(unfortunately there was no payoff. on december 26 you started getting returns from people who have very obviously sliced bread on the cover)
but when you find yourself mastering all the moving parts, the flow is wonderful
― mookieproof, Wednesday, 2 August 2023 01:18 (ten months ago) link
btw, how do you handle buybacks?
― mookieproof, Wednesday, 2 August 2023 01:20 (ten months ago) link
As a formal policy, they don't exist at my workplace (and I don't think they're much of a thing anywhere in this conservative part of the country where small towns and counties are only recently going wet), but if I miscount the number of rounds a regular had in their favor when they tab out, well, it was a busy night.
(sorry for thread derail, should move to the bartending thread, p.s. we have plenty of kids at the bar)
― The Terroir of Tiny Town (WmC), Wednesday, 2 August 2023 01:49 (ten months ago) link
Honestly I had never heard the term "buybacks" until ilx.
In my experience the verb is/was "housed." As in, "it's on the house." She housed my beer.
They're not "buying it back,:" they're just not charging you for it.
Perhaps I am an outlier, but I don't hear this term in any bar I have ever been in (and I have been in quite a few).
Maybe someday I will tell you about the time I was sitting in a bar in Washington DC and a British woman tried to tip in an English way ("and for yourself?"). Neither person understood the other at all, and I sorta wanted to intervene but decided not to.
― Steely Duran (Ye Mad Puffin), Wednesday, 2 August 2023 02:12 (ten months ago) link
My previous knowledge of buybacks was 401(k) forfeitures and restorals lingo so it was nice to learn a less boring use of the word
― linoleum gallagher (Neanderthal), Wednesday, 2 August 2023 03:53 (ten months ago) link
friends who are bartenders or barflies say 'buybacks', i think those who are neither mostly don't know what it means. but maybe it's also a regional thing?
― Deflatormouse, Wednesday, 2 August 2023 06:17 (ten months ago) link
buybacks are just a bartender who’s like ‘this one’s on me’, with ‘this one’ being maybe a fifth drink. tab’s a little less but you tip a little more
still miss dc’s frank v., who would basically just make up a number at the end of the night and we’d tip him the difference
― mookieproof, Wednesday, 2 August 2023 06:41 (ten months ago) link
The pub mentioned in that Guardian link up thread is my local (or one of five or six locals I suppose). They may ban U10s now but back when the kids were that small it was a total dive anyway; the gastropub refurb was fairly recent. Most annoying thing about that place is the insistence on table service.
― Michael Jones, Wednesday, 2 August 2023 08:18 (ten months ago) link
Deflator and mookie, I have been a waiter and a barfly, mostly Mid-Atlantic. Just never heard it called that.
"This one's on me"? Definitely. "This is on the house"? Absolutely. "They housed my beer"? Many times.
Clearly it is accepted jargon somewhere but "buyback" makes no sense - buying it back would imply that you give me some money and I hand the drink back to you, instead of drinking it. But drinking it is the entire fricking POINT.
Why not just say "on the house," which everyone understands?
― Steely Duran (Ye Mad Puffin), Wednesday, 2 August 2023 10:54 (ten months ago) link
‘this one’ being maybe a fifth drink.
ouch
― Deflatormouse, Wednesday, 2 August 2023 11:02 (ten months ago) link
my peak barfly days when I was super in with the bartenders at 3 different joints, it was usually after 2 or at the most 3 when the buyback would kick in. Then heavy pours, free shots, experimental drinks, wild shit would come soon after. I don’t do any of that shit now I just drink at home because at a certain point you just age out of the bar scene unless you are into the daytime dive scene
― buzza, Wednesday, 2 August 2023 11:10 (ten months ago) link
it was usually after 2 or at the most 3 when the buyback would kick in. Then heavy pours, free shots, experimental drinks, wild shit would come soon after.
^^^
not a barfly myself but if i'm with someone who's a regular, it's after the first drink or at the most 2
― Deflatormouse, Wednesday, 2 August 2023 11:19 (ten months ago) link
cocktail bars, if the bar manager recognizes me, will usually offer a free shot while i'm waiting for my first drink and i seldom order more than 2.
― Deflatormouse, Wednesday, 2 August 2023 11:24 (ten months ago) link
"They housed my beer"? Many times.
Whoa wait -- ime to "house" something is to devour or destroy it. ("Monty housed his roast beef sandwich") and for freebies we use the verb comp ("I comped the drinks on 13 bc that's Angela's friend")
― Piggy Lepton (La Lechera), Wednesday, 2 August 2023 13:14 (ten months ago) link
butthouse is like smash something and destroy it, in the style of sitting down hard on a cupcake
― tuppence b. bag (roxymuzak), Sunday, April 19, 2009 2:34 AM (fourteen years ago) bookmarkflaglink
― peace, man, Wednesday, 2 August 2023 13:28 (ten months ago) link