thread for sarahel

good day sarahel

Sarahel, recommend me something awesome to listen to that you have been enjoying of late.

I've been liking Absu a lot, and Koenjihyakkei. Flying Luttenbachers have been one of favorite bands for several years now.

awesome thankig u

The latter band also did a great cover of "De Futura" by Magma. Unfortunately, the album is out of print. I'm sure it's online somewhere, so if you download it for free, you can do so with a clear conscience.

testing bookmark function

did it work?

yes!

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It's the first time I've used that feature. I wanted to figure out how it worked. I felt dumb that people had posted on this thread yesterday, and I didn't notice, because I was too busy over in the milk aisle.

bookmark function has destroyed my personal life tbh

is milk aisle bookmarked T

xp kenan: that is my astrological sign, yes. Some of my best friends are also Scorpios, including my better half.

A scorpio-scorpio marriage sounds both awesome and anxious. I learned to stay away from those people a long time ago. :)

(I'm a Scorpio-Libra cusp, btw. October 23.)

I thought that's what v1agra was invented for?

xp kenan: he's a Scorpio/Sag cusp. I'm square in the middle of Scorpio, but with a Leo moon and Aries rising. One of my exes was a Scorpio-Libra cusp -- he was a real piece of work.

As am I.

What a piece of work is a man! How overbearing in conversation, how intolerable in vanity!

I felt very proud to be his first ex-girlfriend that he was on speaking terms with post-breakup.

we were close friends first, and the relationship really should have stayed that way, tbh.

I have a couple exes that still like me ok. I have a few that really, really don't.

no interest with being friends with exes

It's always better to get out before they hate you deeply.

before me, he made not-speaking-to-his-exes a matter of principle. When I found out he was getting married (years after we broke up), I was pretty shocked. He had trouble getting close to someone and not becoming seriously contemptuous of them.

really do not agree with that principal, reason they're exes afaics

meant to say disagree

double negative yo!

My contempt of people is constantly being tempered by my need for them. So you make choices.

I think he probably just grew up, honestly. Some of the emails he's sent me about his wife, definitely seem like the contempt thing hasn't gone away, but I think he genuinely does love her, and I hope it works out.

I think part of his appeal to me was that he was more fucked up than I was, and I wanted to "help." The first time I cried in front of him, he told me, "I liked you better when you didn't have feelings." I should have ended things right there, but I was romantic and 20 years old.

The first time I cried in front of him, he told me, "I liked you better when you didn't have feelings."

Whoa. Ok, I'm not THAT much of a piece of work.

what's fucked up is i think he sounds awesome in that story

I can be a cold-ass motherfucker, but that's extremely mean-spirited.

I mean, if your crying girlfriend doesn't soften you up just a bit, you may be hopeless.

At the time, I liked me more when I didn't have feelings. Also, girls crying was kinda a weird turn-on for him.

when ppl cry for relationship-related reasons, I just get really suspicious and don't really believe them entirely

I don't know how your username sounds, when I look at it, it's all

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The crying wasn't related to the relationship. Someone had written something mean about me in a campus publication. At the time, I wrote for another campus publication that regularly made fun of other students. So, I felt like I couldn't actually complain about the treatment. It still made me upset, though.

when ppl cry for relationship-related reasons, I just get really suspicious and don't really believe them entirely

That's pretty psycho. Yeah, Rorschach seems about right.

there are people that cry as a means of manipulation, but most of the time, they're genuinely upset.

I dunno, when it comes to relationship i've been with guys that were all about talking about their feelings, which generally gets me v. eyeroll unless you have some real current issues anyway, but never really gave any evidence of having feelings in any other way, and despite their words were really calculating, and I always feel like I'm the opposite, i'm sincere about stuff I just don't want to have to talk about it, you know, ever.

my most drama filled relationship was basically a lot of going through the motions on both ends i think

i'm sincere about stuff I just don't want to have to talk about it, you know, ever.

Talking about it is a skill I have acquired over time, to be sure. Ok, I kinda relate to that.

I think the thing for him, was that the crying was simultaneously affecting and he was also suspicious of it. He was definitely a product of boarding schools -- where it seems like kids perfect bullying, manipulation, and fucked up behavior towards one another a lot more than at schools where they go home to their families every day.

xp Surely I still conceal more feelings than I reveal. But there are practical reasons for that. I'm given to having intense feelings about anything and everything, and that's no way to go through your day.

yeah boarding school will fuck you up

I just try to remind myself, when I feel really intensely about something, that we're all going to die. It helps.

the school I went to still had boarders when I started going there an they were all total psychopaths, whenever they got into fights it was vicious too

At one of the boarding schools he went to, one of his best male friends got raped by a resident assistant.

some of us boarded and turned out ok

Good for those people. Your point being?

perhaps i shouldn't go for comic irony in every post...