lost in space - or - who am i where am i what should i do????

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how many of you are content that your lives are progressing in a fashion that brings or will bring you satisfaction?
do you have goals and if so are they coming to fruition? or do they seem unattainable?
are you wandering lost in the desert not knowing what you REALLY want or how to find out?

― donna (donna), Tuesday, 22 October 2002 20:17 (twenty-three years ago)

is this a modern thing? are we given so many choices now we cant decide and then end up dazed and confused?
are people who remain happy to 'stay in the same town forever get married have kids etc etc' luckier than those who roam endlessly searching?
do you throw your hands up and say 'ah fuck it i am so fucking OVER this' and want to yell / tear hair out / jump under passing trucks?
why?

― donna (donna), Tuesday, 22 October 2002 20:20 (twenty-three years ago)

or are you perfectly pleased with your choices and have your goals neatly laid out, with life trotting along at the pace you want?
if so, do you get impatient with people who seem to be seeking the 'un-seekable'? ( haha i know thats not a word but it fits )

― donna (donna), Tuesday, 22 October 2002 20:22 (twenty-three years ago)

i wonder if being happy or content or satisfied or whatever is what i should be doing, if there isn't something really really superimportant for i don't know what reason, so i keep wondering what that would be and THAT'S why i can't be happy. it's not un-seekable so much as unfindable, i fear.

if i didn't worry about that, it'd simply be a matter of trying to have some fun and taking more stock of buddhism than i do now (what little i know of it has been very helpful in staying on a much more even keel emotionally, in a very major way). i get annoyed at people who just want to be happy, although that's probably what i want deep down.

― Maria (Maria), Tuesday, 22 October 2002 20:50 (twenty-three years ago)

how many of you are content that your lives are progressing in a fashion that brings or will bring you satisfaction?

Not me. It's been on my mind a lot lately.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Tuesday, 22 October 2002 21:23 (twenty-three years ago)

I am not happy because my life is progressing consistantly, but I am happy because I have no idea what is approaching. It's a great adventure. I don't see my goals as all that important, even though I may strive for them as if they were, but I could change them if I wanted to.

I don't know "what I REALLY want or how to find out" but I think that's exciting.

― A Nairn (moretap), Wednesday, 23 October 2002 00:44 (twenty-three years ago)

I am getting old. Nothing else is happening. Ever. This is not even entertaining timewasting. So, my answer would be, "no. =( =( =(" or thereabouts. (Then again I'm not really seeking the unseekable, or only in that jobs and therefore places to live and therefore shreds of a social life are unattainable, if not strictly unseekable. I don't want that much - although for someone like me with no employable skills to say "it's not much to ask" might be irritatingly mistaken, I suppose - just every day not being the bloody same would be a start. But then apart from the money jobs don't help with that either, which just gets me thinking that it's 80 years of grey and Lost is the only way there is.)

― Rebecca (reb), Wednesday, 23 October 2002 01:33 (twenty-three years ago)

Personally, in question order:

No.

I did (past tense) and they were destroyed in August last year, so by definition they are unattainable; no "or" about it.

I know what I really want but haven't the balls to do it.

― Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 23 October 2002 06:35 (twenty-three years ago)

I set myself off in one direction and its going OK but i don't know if that's what i want anymore. I'd love to drift for a while but i can't so there...hopefully i'll figure it out.

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Wednesday, 23 October 2002 10:58 (twenty-three years ago)

im a 26 yr old university graduate who's temping job ends just after christmas. after that i don't know what. i don't want to waste my life but feel paralysed and don't know how to start making something of it. a bit scared really.

― michael wells (michael w.), Wednesday, 23 October 2002 11:13 (twenty-three years ago)

Actually, things are going pretty well (& now you're all making me feel guilty about it). I'm almost finished my bachelor's and will stay on for a master's so I don't have to worry about getting a job just yet. I like what I do & am happy with my choice. It just seems to be a question of deciding what you want to do and then doing it.

― Miss Laura, Wednesday, 23 October 2002 11:19 (twenty-three years ago)

things are going pretty well for me too. i've enjoyed my studies so far. but its the worry that, in two years, I'll have to get a job.

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Wednesday, 23 October 2002 12:27 (twenty-three years ago)

career status
social life
love/sex life
domestic status
life experience

these seem to be the main things that having a less then desirable measure of cause dis-satisfaction in life

like, i suspect, most people i am dis-satsfied with my life and seeking to 'improve' it - on the career front, on the spiritual front, by increasing my range of educative and inspirational experiences etc...the main improvments i can think of are ones that only really benefit me though...pehaps this is not the right attitude if true contentment in life is to be attained...i'm not searching for happiness as such because i believe you cant avoid pain and suffering so whats the point..but obviously you can go some way in choosing what you want for yourself and others important to you and you can work towards ensuring you receive a sufficient quotient of happiness and satisfaction in your life by trying to get a job that interests, rewards and satisfies you as well as challenges you to think and act and demands the application of your particular skills whatever they may be. having said that, i know i am lazy and sometimes fantasize about not having to work at all so i can spend time writing shite like this on forums amongst other things - bad attitude! i dont have very clearly-defined goals anymore in that i am not focussed enough on how to achieve them but i am getting towards that stage more and more...motivation is hard for some reasons - there are so many things i feel are just wrong in annoying little ways that i alwsy felt overwhelmed

i'm frustrated in all of the areas i mentioned at the top basically, but along with this i constantly question whether i SHOULD be frustrated by it - why do i want what i want? is it really what i want or am i just being made to want it as such? hard to answer

― blueski, Wednesday, 23 October 2002 12:42 (twenty-three years ago)

I feel at the moment I'm moving towards the things I want to do, and it pleases me alot actually. I also am starting to learn that my ambition is reliable enough, the things I've done so far begin to mean nothing to me very quickly, I guess wanting to write about music and do radio/tv/whatever else is my main focus in life.

― Ronan (Ronan), Wednesday, 23 October 2002 13:37 (twenty-three years ago)

Given that my 23-year marriage ended just over a year ago, the divorce negotiations turned nasty, I am broke, I am still suffering from clinical depression and the sick time has put my job under threat, I can hardly be happy about my lot.

On the other hand I'm not seriously in financial trouble yet, I've not lost my job yet, the depression isn't too bad lately, I was out with a great woman last night and have hopes. If the depression holds off, things won't be too bad.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Wednesday, 23 October 2002 18:43 (twenty-three years ago)

I'm getting a new computer this week. This is making me very happy (and anxious! Isithereyet? Isithereyet? Isithereyet? Isithereyet? Isithereyet? Isithereyet? Isithereyet? Isithereyet?).

― Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Wednesday, 23 October 2002 18:47 (twenty-three years ago)

I have a notion of what I want professionally. However, I dread change, and previously have come up with ingenious excuses for not pursuing my dreams.

― j.lu (j.lu), Wednesday, 23 October 2002 18:55 (twenty-three years ago)

Dan, stuff = happiness! I'm getting a new coat, and it's red, and I've checked the mail every day for a week.

― Maria (Maria), Wednesday, 23 October 2002 19:31 (twenty-three years ago)

What A Nairn said.

I mean, there are some things I'd kind of like to happen, but I realize I have to be proactive... The other things I want are just material (ie: a house, a piano, money to travel, ah, yes, money...).

There is quite a bit I'd like for the lives of other people around me. But what can you do?

― Sarah McLusky (coco), Wednesday, 23 October 2002 19:55 (twenty-three years ago)

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