Getcher tits out!

Karmic retribution can be a beautiful thing.

As I got closer I noticed that they were both Asian and I breathed a sigh of relief. I'd never been harassed or even looked at (as in looking with interest) or flirted with by Asian guys so I was sure I'd be safe. I walk past without incident.

Funny think is that today, for the first time ever, an Asian guy did try to flirt with me!

(btw - I hope my above assumptions are not so un-pc as to have offended anyone)

I too get cross when I see women being harrassed. Ironic and slightly pathetic really, as I can lech with the best of 'em. I never would actually say antyhing, though once or twice I've told the girl how beautiful I think she is (as in "excuse me, i think you're very beautiful" rather than "awwight, gorgeous!", not that it's necessarily any better). I hope that they take it as a heartfelt compliment rather than harrassment.

i am asian looking and I'm always trying to flirt with ya (even though its across a phone line and you're thousands of miles away)

That wasn't a cat call though. When I lived in a largely Hispanic part of town, it happened all the time. I don't notice it anymore. But if you start to look for guys checking girls out visually, that is everywhere and all the time. At the mall a few days ago I found a dad type conspicously staring at the asses of a couple of middle school aged girls and then he caught me.

you mean he caught you also staring at the asses of a couple of middle school aged girls?

you mean he caught you also staring at the asses of a couple of middle school aged girls?
yeah. we had a good laugh about it!

(of course it's sexist - and a little bit naive on my part - to think a group of girls couldnt kick my ass, but hey.)

n.
A desirous, sly, or knowing look.

I do think builders here are better behaved than in London, say.

The thing is, no one checking no one out would be very boring. Some men overdo it. Some women hate it full stop. Women can't overdo it as far as I know. That is all I know.

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Not at all, while I don't exactly look Chinese, I certainly am very reserved about flirting (actually about getting into others' personal space in general). I find this to be less true when visiting Shanghai or Beijing, since there's very little personal space to be had in the big east-coast cities. But flirting and harrassment are still uncommon.

Just don't ask me what I might be thinking about when an attractive woman walks by.

as to other stuff, well . . .
...

I check other people out a lot, but I try to be a bit subtle about it.

You were disgusted because he was completely mental, right? Or is that supposed to be a universal lech pose?

Yesterday, centre of London, response to me just walking along, but with stockings that had a seam.

Bloke 1: "There's two lines I wouldn't mind sniffing."
Me: [silence]

Bloke 2: "Hey, preeety laydee. I lak your tieeeeghts."
Me: [silence]

Bloke 3 [at cafe table]: "Hey, would you like to join me for lunch?"
Me: "OH WILL YOU ALL JUST FUCK OFF!"

Breaking point and all that. I'm not wearing them again, at least not in daylight. Back to the same old thing, restrict your dress or get hassled.

I listened to this guy tonight at a local bar go on and on about hot chicks and triple kisses and big tits and screwing and so on and so on blah blah fucking dood blah to the point that I began to feel a bit violated and harrassed. I think the woman with our li'l group managed to keep a straighter face than me in light of all the knowledge our friend was dropping. (So unworldly, I am.)

Omega = W, Dan?

Bloke 3 [at cafe table]: "Hey, would you like to join me for lunch?"
Me: "OH WILL YOU ALL JUST FUCK OFF!"

Awww... I'm sure in real life Bloke 3 was a disgusting old letch with strange stains on his jacket and an aroma of moist terrier, but in my mind he was the sort of nervous but perfectly gentlemanly type who loves his mother sends young females in 1960s films into rapture and has been building up the courage to do a thing like that for years now. And Anna told him to fuck off. He will one day meet the girl of his dreams but he will be too scarred by the experience to ask her to marry him and therefore will never have sex and will one day die lonely and unloved and thinking of what might have been and its ALL ANNA'S FAULT! *Sob*

DING DONG!

He was probably married anyway. (Tries to make self feel better.)

And, Anna, he was probably a lech - no one that clean-cut and normal can be so daring and NOT be a wacko. (Of course, now I'm trying to assuade my own fears re: social anxiety.) (Stop looking @ me!)

Aaaah... he DESERVED it then! How dare he, the bastard? How can he sleep at night?! Grumble, grumble, moan, etc.

I get my arse slapped by complete strangers with annoying regularity, but it's still kinda flattering at the same time. I suspect I wouldn't feel quite the same if I were female, of course.

it's not the same thing, but once when i was 11 or 12, my sister and i were out walking to the park, and some random guy (who went to my school, but i didn't know/speak to him) called me a paki and spit on me. i was freaked out, so i didn't say anything, but there were these 2 huge black guys who saw it happen, and they stopped him and his friend, and proceeded to give them some damn good verbal abuse, and then made them apologize to me, and also, i'm sure, scared the fucking shit out of them.

it was soooooo classic. (not the spitting obviously, but the look on the guys' faces). the guy who spit on me ended up being in my high school photography class years later, and he was still a fucking asshole.

(Christ that story makes me sound like an asshole. You know what I mean, I think.)

Sand.y, as awesome as it is to witness, I've never seen that sort of comeuppance work. It usually just makes the harassing man more bitter and committed to his beliefs that everyone else is shit.

(I think a thread on "Asian males, sexuality, and you" is a great idea, since it's a topic that's so little discussed, but I'm going to let someone else start it.)

It's interesting in some of the answers how girls getting hassled doesn't necessarily correspond to how they look. My girlfriend gets hassled all the time, and it definitely varies according to how she dresses, but it's not always when she looks overtly 'sexy' (sometimes it is, mind). Often she'll go out wearing quite plain, unrevealing clothes that somehow contain this secret ingredient that really appeals to scarey weirdoes.

Ned, do you like Hitler?

(PS: Gosh Rainy, you poor l'il mite)

I should note that NITSUH was the one who proposed to Rainy, and that he is not German. Punk.

All these stories have made me hate the world, my gender and myself all the more. SIGH.

i got hollered at out of the passenger side of a pickup truck today. thanks to the doppler effect, all i heard was "AAAA-AWWWW"

he wont get no love from me.

Mmm. I am depressed sometimes with the state of the human animal, my friend.

sorry by this i did not mean to imply that sexual harassment or harassment of any kind does not matter, more that i have just become quite desensitized to it when it is directed at me.

Then I said to one of his mates "Control your friend!"

The lurcher then whispered to me "Don't cry wolf". I hate to think what he was intending to do later if he hadn't passed out. Little shit.

There is very little to do in Ipswich, but even so, I fail to see where the entertinment value lies in pointing out the obvious.