Where does one meet people?

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Especially if one is shy and not good at small talk because I take a long time to think and be witty.

― Leee (Leee), Tuesday, 17 December 2002 08:07 (twenty-three years ago)

small talk is evil. if you ask me, that's what usually puts people off. but er, don't listen to me, i'm shit with friends.

― g-kit (g-kit), Tuesday, 17 December 2002 09:29 (twenty-three years ago)

I don't do small talk. I only do d&m. I scare people away.

― toraneko (toraneko), Tuesday, 17 December 2002 10:34 (twenty-three years ago)

In the street, face up. Nice old ladies will call an ambulance.

― Gordon (Gordon), Tuesday, 17 December 2002 10:43 (twenty-three years ago)

Meaningful employment! GET A JOB.

Of course they will tend to be cockfarmers but you didn't specify people "to be friends with".

― Sarah (starry), Tuesday, 17 December 2002 10:49 (twenty-three years ago)

only if you get a job in a cock farm

― k chu, Tuesday, 17 December 2002 11:40 (twenty-three years ago)

K-Chu, every time I read one of your posts I think of sneezes. Soz.

― smee (smee), Tuesday, 17 December 2002 11:44 (twenty-three years ago)

Every time I see Ken I think of sneezes. Because he's wet and slimy and strangely satisfying. Arf. I just disgusted myself again, along with everyone else, probably.

― Liz :x (Liz :x), Tuesday, 17 December 2002 12:05 (twenty-three years ago)

get your hand out!

― Gordon (Gordon), Tuesday, 17 December 2002 12:14 (twenty-three years ago)

Prison is a good place to meet people, because you know people be hanging round ong enough for you to make decent conversation.

― Pete (Pete), Tuesday, 17 December 2002 12:56 (twenty-three years ago)

Been wondering this myself...

I met lots of people in school. Maybe I need to go back.

― Sarah McLusky (coco), Tuesday, 17 December 2002 15:35 (twenty-three years ago)

I can't answer this question either. Wait a minute, yes I can; the internet!!

― Sean (Sean), Tuesday, 17 December 2002 16:14 (twenty-three years ago)

i met a couple of my best pals over the internet.

― g-kit (g-kit), Tuesday, 17 December 2002 16:16 (twenty-three years ago)

alcohol = the great social equalizer

Therefore, get thee to the bar (or pub).

― Aaron W, Tuesday, 17 December 2002 16:19 (twenty-three years ago)

The vast majority of my friends I met as a result of joining a Belle & Sebastian mailing list. It is also a good way of getting a snog, especially if you're new and foreign.

― Madchen (Madchen), Tuesday, 17 December 2002 16:29 (twenty-three years ago)

My days of being new and / or foreign predate the interweb. It's the great tragedy of my life.

― Tim (Tim), Tuesday, 17 December 2002 16:32 (twenty-three years ago)

parking lots at Phish concerts

Many easy-to-talk-to (painfully friendly) hippy girls & boys, and 3$ ganja gooballs as far as the eye can see. Shagging in tents within ear-shot of the drum circle. BOO-YAH!!!

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Tuesday, 17 December 2002 16:41 (twenty-three years ago)

Phish!

― N. (nickdastoor), Tuesday, 17 December 2002 17:55 (twenty-three years ago)

get some hobbies/activities and you will tend to meet some people aho like the same things as you. for example, play a sport and join some kind of recreational league, go to small local band shows, maybe even do some charity work or something. Of course you have to make a bit of an effort not to be too shy...

― g (graysonlane), Tuesday, 17 December 2002 17:58 (twenty-three years ago)

parking lots at Phish concerts

Many easy-to-talk-to (painfully friendly) hippy girls & boys, and 3$ ganja gooballs as far as the eye can see. Shagging in tents within ear-shot of the drum circle. BOO-YAH!!!

Don't forget the grilled cheese.

― Chris V. (Chris V), Tuesday, 17 December 2002 18:00 (twenty-three years ago)

The most expensive (cold, I might ad) grilled cheese EVAH.

But those girls love me, I have no idea why. If only they would hang out at coffee shops or on my front porch or something.

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Tuesday, 17 December 2002 18:47 (twenty-three years ago)

I always found that hippie chicks were attracted to me in college, in fact thats all I dated. And I hated the hippy culture, it was strange.

― Chris V. (Chris V), Tuesday, 17 December 2002 18:58 (twenty-three years ago)

I resent Radiohead. Meeting people is hard.

― Leee (Leee), Tuesday, 17 December 2002 21:44 (twenty-three years ago)

Oh and I don't drink.

― Leee (Leee), Tuesday, 17 December 2002 21:44 (twenty-three years ago)

through friends usually... the old "friend of a friend" thing.

― gygax!, Tuesday, 17 December 2002 22:28 (twenty-three years ago)

All of the people I've met this year who I hope I'll see lots more of have been through the internet - dating sites and ILX, really.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Tuesday, 17 December 2002 22:28 (twenty-three years ago)

At work. And then at bars with people I work with. And in training. And at school. So basically I meet people when I'm forced to, which is not to say I don't like meeting them, just that I'm very wary.

You can always wear cool clothes and drive cool cars, that usually gets people to strike up conversations with you without any real work on your part. Depending on who you want to meet this can mean nice suits, Linux T-shirts, Cooper Minis or Bugattis.

Photos of yourself with turntables or a guitar posted next to your desk also help.

― Tom Millar (Millar), Wednesday, 18 December 2002 00:32 (twenty-three years ago)

haha don't wear a Linux t-shirt! You'll just meet computer geeks! (I offer this advice as a programmer.)

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Wednesday, 18 December 2002 12:25 (twenty-three years ago)

Where does one meet people with Linux T-shirts?

― N. (nickdastoor), Thursday, 19 December 2002 02:35 (twenty-three years ago)

How do you avoid people?

― , Thursday, 19 December 2002 02:40 (twenty-three years ago)

Many easy-to-talk-to (painfully friendly) hippy girls & boys, and 3$ ganja gooballs as far as the eye can see. Shagging in tents within ear-shot of the drum circle. BOO-YAH!!!

To me that sounds pretty good right now. If only the music didn't suck...

― j.lu (j.lu), Thursday, 19 December 2002 04:54 (twenty-three years ago)

six months pass...

Things are no better for me now, and in some ways worse, I've actually developed an even keener kind of social anxiety now that I'm beginning to dread being around people.

What hobbies I do have tend to be cliquish (comics come to mind) and are hard to ingratiate into. And I'm left to pursue these things mostly on my own.

I do have some kind of employment now but it's kind of a weird arrangement and the people there are all quite older than me (among other things).

Also I'm tending to be very 1) judgmental and 2) standoffish and 3) hostile, e.g. when I was taking a poetry workshop at the local community college, it took only a few classes for me to decide what kind of people they were and know that they weren't the type that I'd want to associate with (CC-types being dodgy notwithstanding, I'm pretty sure that this behavior is consistent in me), sort of shooting myself in the foot.

― Leee (Leee), Thursday, 10 July 2003 23:09 (twenty-two years ago)

It's sort of the catastrophe-slanted thinking where you don't do something because you can only think of the bad possibilities/making excuses not to do something.

― Leee (Leee), Thursday, 10 July 2003 23:12 (twenty-two years ago)

Leee, comics fandom isn't hard to get into if you are bright and interesting. Whether it would lead to meeting people you'd want to hang out with I don't know. I can't remember where you live, but anyway I'd suggest seeking out some mailing groups or something as a first step - there are thousands of comics ones, for instance.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Friday, 11 July 2003 10:42 (twenty-two years ago)

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