When did you know...

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...that your significant other truly loved you? (True love = something beyond being happy to get laid regularly, having someone to hang-out with, etc.)

For me, it was my S/O voluntarily giving-up annual holiday trip to see their family (who they only see once a year at Christmas) to stay with me when I was too sick to travel to see my family for Christmas. That's when I knew they were someone I wanted to grow old with.

― LCD (Ms Laura), Friday, 24 January 2003 16:55 (twenty-three years ago)

I don't remember when I realised he truly loves me(there are loads of examples but I cannot for the life of me remember the 1st one)but I remember the exact moment when I realised how much I love him.

― smee (smee), Friday, 24 January 2003 16:59 (twenty-three years ago)

Care to elaborate?

― LCD (Ms Laura), Friday, 24 January 2003 17:05 (twenty-three years ago)

I never *know* this sort of thing. I need to be told and don't quite know why this is.

― Lara (Lara), Friday, 24 January 2003 17:44 (twenty-three years ago)

Is it an insecurity/self-esteem issue? Or not trusting your ability to read the situation?

I used to have trouble believing that someone loved me, no matter what they said and did, and no matter how I felt about them. But eventually I came to realize that if they didn't love me then they'd not have stuck-it-out with me (I am, to put it mildly, difficult to live with).

― I'm Passing Open Windows (Ms Laura), Friday, 24 January 2003 19:05 (twenty-three years ago)

n/a

― j.lu (j.lu), Friday, 24 January 2003 19:10 (twenty-three years ago)

Hmmm... One time we had this huge relationship talk because I realized that he wasn't gung ho about making babies ever. In the end he said, "Sarah, I want to do whatever makes you happy. I love you very much. That is all very far ahead in the future for me, and I don't know how I will feel later. But we have all the time in the world..."
I saw that even though he couldn't picture himself having babies and a house and what-not, he could see me in his future. And that's all I really cared about.

― Sarah McLusky (coco), Friday, 24 January 2003 19:15 (twenty-three years ago)

Thanks, Sarah - now I've got watery eyes :)

― I'm Passing Open Windows (Ms Laura), Friday, 24 January 2003 19:18 (twenty-three years ago)

Hard to pin down. By about the fourth or fifth day after we started dating, I guess. No particular incident or evidence. It seemed insanely fast, but it did last for 23 years, so that kind of justified what seemed like mad haste to most.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Friday, 24 January 2003 20:52 (twenty-three years ago)

*grin* I think it sounds perfect, Martin.

― I'm Passing Open Windows (Ms Laura), Friday, 24 January 2003 21:04 (twenty-three years ago)

It was, until two years or so ago.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Friday, 24 January 2003 21:19 (twenty-three years ago)

I envy you Sarah. My relationship history is as follows:

He says he loves me after two days, acts like a love starved puppy for a month and then decides that he doesn't love me *that* way after two.

He says he loves me after a couple of months. We break up, he wonders whether he ever really loved me.

― Lara (Lara), Friday, 24 January 2003 21:24 (twenty-three years ago)

Okay so, this girl I've been seeing (Smee knows bout it)... we've really just been actively hanging out for over a week or so but already, at any opportunity, will sit gazing into each other's eyes. And not just like a short little glances, like long, deep gazes for minutes at a time. It's completely uncanny and we both agree we've never experienced anything like it. So, yeah, I think I know (although it's a bit scary that it's this early).

― Aaron W (Aaron W), Friday, 24 January 2003 21:29 (twenty-three years ago)

Ah, Martin, I am sorry to hear that.

― I'm Passing Open Windows (Ms Laura), Friday, 24 January 2003 21:45 (twenty-three years ago)

Thanks, but it is a while ago now. We had 22 great years, so it's still a good thing, despite a bad ending.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Friday, 24 January 2003 21:52 (twenty-three years ago)

*nodding in an understanding manner* Martin, I never know what to say in such cases. There really should be a book or two that gives some options or ideas about what one might say that's appropriate. But since I don't have such a book at hand, then I shall just say that I am glad you had so many good years together.

― I'm Passing Open Windows (Ms Laura), Friday, 24 January 2003 21:55 (twenty-three years ago)

You're very kind, Laura, but you don't need to worry. These things happen. Given what an awkward person I am, with little in the way of attractions, I count myself very lucky to have had a great relationship with a great woman for over two decades. I'm sorry it ended, and I'm sorrier it ended badly, but it's a while now and it's not a big issue any more.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Friday, 24 January 2003 22:01 (twenty-three years ago)

*grin* That is good to know. And since I tire of stumbling over my big mouth, would you like to suggest another topic?

― I'm Passing Open Windows (Ms Laura), Friday, 24 January 2003 22:08 (twenty-three years ago)

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