when oh when?

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..is it respectable to call someone you have *ahem* spent the night with ?
i know this is an often asked question...but its been a while, having just gotten out of a long term relationship////etc.
not meaning to sound as though i belong on some Cosmo board..bleh.

...he gave me his number, said its up to me. hmm ...

― ***1979*** (***1979***), Saturday, 25 January 2003 12:27 (twenty-three years ago)

i think if you have slept with them, then reasonably soon, you dont want to play any games and you have to assume hes reasonably keen (otherwise its a one night stand kinda guy in which case its not going to matter when you call him). perhaps 2 days later?

but!

...he gave me his number, said its up to me.

this sounds a little distancing on his part. "its up to you", i dont know, that doesnt sound amazingly positive. anyway, benefit of the doubt, dont call him the next day, call him the day after

― gareth (gareth), Saturday, 25 January 2003 12:38 (twenty-three years ago)

hmm yeah - he said its up to me, and that he hasnt done 'this kind of thing before' [ me either ] ... so im hoping its purely this reason that hes told me to 'call him'.

thing hes lovely, thing is i should not have slept with him after just meeting him.

damn.

― ***1979*** (***1979***), Saturday, 25 January 2003 12:43 (twenty-three years ago)

If you like him, as soon as you like. Don't worry about sleeping with him quickly, and don't worry about playing games. If he is the sort of fool who would lose interest because you had sex too quickly or you call too soon, he is a fool. Good luck.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Saturday, 25 January 2003 12:46 (twenty-three years ago)

thanks martin :)

― ***1979*** (***1979***), Saturday, 25 January 2003 12:49 (twenty-three years ago)

Martin's exactly right. If he gave you his phone number, that's a good sign... and if he's thinking he doesn't want to call you if you don't want to be called, that seems like a fair reaction on his part.

Like M. said, avoid game-playing. If you want to call him, call him, and don't worry about when, as long as it's at a reasonable hour.

― Douglas (Douglas), Saturday, 25 January 2003 13:40 (twenty-three years ago)

I wish my life was as easy as call or not call,

make the call......go on....
choose life........

baggy.x.

― baggy (baggy), Saturday, 25 January 2003 13:48 (twenty-three years ago)

Just call him. He might be feeling embarrassed about common on so strong straight away, that's why he left it to you.

He didn't leave you with any odd instructions when he gave you the number though did he? Like tell you to ask for Bossack because that's what his family called him?
A certain person who shall remain nameless except that he posts on here and has the same email addy as me did that. Thankfully I never phoned him and made a fool out of myself, but it all worked out okay anyway.

― Celeste (Celeste), Saturday, 25 January 2003 14:00 (twenty-three years ago)

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