Age differences in relationships

works for me

It'd be nice to meet someone just a little bit older, like say 2 or 3 years, maybe.

You have to use the half plus seven rule.

Take half your age rounding up, add 7 years. The answer you get is the minimum age of the person you should date. Or if the person is older use their half plus 7 rule to figure out if it's appropriate. There are plenty of exceptions I'm sure, but it seems to be a socially acceptable benchmark.

hstencil = zung.

when i was 25 (y'know, like, now) i was dating someone who was 20 and our age difference didn't matter at all.

see, peasy.

But on the other hand that's a personal preference, why does society care about that?

Sir Sean Connery.

If there's grass on the in-field, play ball!

I think it seems vaguely wrong to my parents.

I think you really, really can't generalise. I've got a partner younger than me by a decade and have gone out with two other younger guys for any amount of time that mattered, and two who were older. All are my peers. It's probably easier to say that when you're a woman, however - I've given more than my fair share of shit to a friend who dates women half his age for all the usual reasons, but mainly because I didn't think his partners *were* peers - and I'm sure that the guys would say that older partners are also cool as long as they're peers too.

let's assume 72 year lifespan / 12 = 6 years to the calendar month in this exercise.

ie "may" "december" = 30 and 72
may = 6 x 5 = 30 y/o
december = 6 x 12 = 72 y/o

biggest difference for me has been:
mid-march and may (i was the younger)
mid-march and may (i was the elder)

spring is in the air.

I'm not sure what to make of that.

I find most people much younger than me less interesting. I don't know how much this is that we have less common undrerstanding (whaddaya mean you don't remember punk?) and how much it's that they have had less life experience to complicate and enrich them*. Also, why would a sexy 20 year old want an unattractive middle aged man anyway?

*Having said that, a few of the ILXers I like best are 20 or more years younger than me, so this 'less interesting' thing is far from universal.

Personally, I've done the 11-year gap thing and it was a disaster, primarily because we had absolutely no common experiences.

Although I did have a fling with a 36-year-old when I was 23, and even though there might have been similar fetishization issues on his end, this courtship felt a lot different from the one I had at 18 -- those five years made me a lot more worldly.

nice work, roberto

xpost, no, didnt try and hit it. tempted, but decided she was too young. also, shes been dating a guy for a while, but says shes trying to break it off as its just a rship of convenience, she doesnt love him, she wants someone she really feels something for etc etc. anyway, i just told her the age gap was too big, she said i was just making excuses, then said never bring this up again as she doesnt like rejection. which was all fine, as far as this sort of thing goes, but then in the middle of the night, she sends me a txt meant for her bf (telling him that he needs to fix up or its over and she doesnt love him enough to be with him much longer), and then a 2nd txt apologising, saying that her numbers are a mess (lol is this possible?) and that i shouldnt text her. now shes deleted her fbk account.

18th bday isnt too far off though.

lol this chick is truuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuubl

run

xp

she sounds like trouble, all caps, with some other letters capped that aren't even in trouble

edit: curse you max!

mark yr calendar!

of course she's trouble she is SEVENTEEN YEARS OLD

but even special kind of 17 trouble

^^appropriate screenname

29 and 17 are worlds apart, the "mature for his/her age" thing is usually not true after awhile

― my fingers is a jellyfish (omar little)

naw man that's beyond just being 17 i think

xps

http://blog.wired.com/photos/uncategorized/2007/06/29/kipwinger.jpg

remember: a 17 yr old girl might act mature but she isn't actually mature

― my fingers is a jellyfish (omar little)

17 yr olds are all a mess, let them work out their growing-up issues amongst themselves

omar little is the otmiest all through this thread

i didnt read this thread but here is how i break it down to an extent: if ur an old dude (late 20s+) and u wanna DATE a teenager, u r functionally retarded. wanting to bang one is natural but dating is weird & creepy, and if u were in my circle of friends u would be clowned on w/o mercy

^^^

yep

be careful what you do
don't go around breakin' young girls' hearts
heee

man no one should date 17 yr old girls, not even 17 yr old guys

― 8====D ------ ㋡ (max), Monday, January 5, 2009 5:24 PM (1 week ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

heee.

you should do this to 17 yr old girls

8====D ------ ㋡

A friend of mine met and started going out with her now-husband when she was 17.
Another friend was about 16 or 17 when she started going out with this guy who was at least mid-20s if not nearing 30. They were both going through periods of depression but it lasted quite a long time and she was in some ways (not others) wise for her age. She's perfectly fine now but looking back it seems a bigger age gap than what everyone else our age was doing then.

He definitely didn't seem more mature than her or anything, really. They just had loads in common and the age differencewasn't a massive deal.

I think they were pretty much exceptions though - in most other instances this is pretty creepy.

Michael Jackson to thread!

― oops (Oops), Tuesday, 25 February 2003 18:25

rofl

hmm...at what age does it become perverted to like 15 year old girls in your culture? Is a 23 year old that likes 15 year old girls a pervert?

-- Heave Ho, Saturday, 11 August 2007 21:23

nicknshaz

big whup, she looks about 30.

"17 yr olds are all a mess, let them work out their growing-up issues amongst themselves"

yeah, i know - it would feel really weird dealing with someone going through all that teen angstiness again. when she said she just wanted a 'casual' thing, i couldnt help thinking 'but youre just a child'.*

*still, kids *these* days...

wanting to bang one is natural

hmm

In seriousness, how many times have you or someone you knew been in a situation where you met someone you thought was smokin' hot, only to discover said person was under 18? The most legendary example of this kept happening to a dude I sang with, where on successive tours he attempted to chat up a 16-year-old and a 13-year-old before realizing how old they were.

a friend of mine tried to "run game" on a 16 yr old once before realizing how old she was

13!

xp

that was incredibly legendary, trust me

thir-fucking-teen

that is well no way

http://socialitelife.celebuzz.com/archive/2007/07/26/shes_13_so_be_nice.php

a few years back when I was working in a record store I got to know this v pretty girl who was a customer and was emailing and stuff. when I realised she was 17 I did feel v weird about it, and I was 22 or something at the time. she was all "oh I'm going to come see you DJ with my friends" then I think she didn't get in, lol.

met her about a year later and she had horrible dredlocks and wasn't pretty anymore, I barely recognised her.

there's a lesson in there for all.

Everyone thought the 13-year-old was another 16-year-old, btw, except for him, and we were just lolling at him. When we found out she was 13, the lolling stopped until he got away from her, at which point it returned with a screaming vengeance.

We were in W. Virginia so maybe he could have pulled w/ no consequences...?

i didnt know there was a 13 y/o lohan this is good news now that lilo is saggy & baggy ;_;

I know you come a long way, baby
But you don't need that heart of stone, no
You proved that you could do it, do it, baby
You could make it on your own

But you can't keep runnin' away from love
'Cause the first one let you down, no, no, no
And though others try to satisfy you, baby
With me true love can still be found
Love can still be found

The second time around
Ooh, the second time is so much better, baby
The second time around
And I'll make it better than the first time

those prussian blue girls looked good on some other thread where they were posted, btu theyre like... 16 now or something

nicknshaz

― what are black holes made of (unregistered), Tuesday, 13 January 2009 21:32 (1 hour ago) Permalink

big whup, she looks about 30.

― max arrrrrgh, Tuesday, 13 January 2009 21:45 (55 minutes ago)

o shi she was 17! momus u big peed lol

"she was all "oh I'm going to come see you DJ with my friends" then I think she didn't get in"

haha.

the difference between the title of this thread and what is being talked about its kinda heavy.

It is because of titchy revive. WTFhorrorLOLZ not yet subsided. But yeah.

I mean, i guess I just have a "ha ha U old" feeling about myself here, because I saw the thread title and thought people would be actually talking about, like, actual relationships that they have with their partners, boyfriends, girlfriends, wives, husbands, y'know, uh, grownup stuff. But it's all about celebrities and 13 year olds and such. Which is funny and all, but . . .

theres a lot of people talking about actual relationships that they have w/ their partners!

Drew OTM, in how Titty dating a 17 year old when you're 28 doesn't nearly seem to fit the thread title, but should be filed under 'LOLOMG' more than 'Age differences in relations'.

I'm close to thirty and in a four year relationship with a woman 14 years older, and it's just... well, right. Awesome. The age difference just isn't an issue or 'problematic', and it never threatened to become so. Not to us anyway. Some family members or friends have frowned upon it - and maybe some still do, in silence - but I can't say it matters to me, or us. People must have seen by now that it just works, it's love, and that's that. If people near to me haven't seen that, or are unwilling to, well, that's that then. I lock thread :)

theres a lot of people talking about actual relationships that they have w/ their partners!

― 8====D ------ ㋡ (max), Tuesday, January 13, 2009 7:05 PM

it's hard to read more than 5 posts dude, in fairness

Especially when you are old and have poor eyesight like me!

On this topic, I recall that the seven year difference between myself and my boyfriend seemed like an enormous canyon at the time, and 17 years later it is there but far less significant. The gap between 21 and 28 is way bigger than the gap between 37 and 44.