My two big problems are the lack of a regular job and the lack of a boyfriend. Recently it occurred to me that these two things have something in common: In both cases I'm trying to convince someone to choose me. Any advise on how to cope in the face of continuing rejection in both sectors?
― j.lu (j.lu), Saturday, 15 March 2003 20:29 (twenty-three years ago)
Both are totally overrated. However, jobs are slightly more useful, as they provide you with money, while boyfriends only ever end up consuming your money. Luckily, it's also probably easier to obtain a job. But that doesn't mean that you'll like it.
― spirits-ualized (suzy), Saturday, 15 March 2003 20:32 (twenty-three years ago)
Yeah it's true all boyfriends ever do is TAKE TAKE TAKE yr hard-earned cash, I know my last relationship sure made me fucking RICH it did indeed.
― Millar (Millar), Saturday, 15 March 2003 20:51 (twenty-three years ago)
satre quote and the name of a band and a sound assessment of life.
― Marika (marika), Saturday, 15 March 2003 20:52 (twenty-three years ago)
Don't ever equate jobs with significant others. Both take work once you have them, but getting them is completely different. Jobs are more necessary and can be achieved with hard work.
Oh, and Millar (or sarcasm thereof) is otm.
― donut bitch (donut), Saturday, 15 March 2003 21:00 (twenty-three years ago)
You don't have to be liked at your job, though it helps.
― Mr Noodles (Mr Noodles), Saturday, 15 March 2003 21:10 (twenty-three years ago)
To phrase it a little better...
You need to work hard to get a job, which you necessarily may not like. And if you can work harder, you can eventually get the job.
You can work hard to get a boyfriend, who you necessarily may not like. But you can't guarantee hard work will get you the boyfriend.
And the benefits of a job are a better guarantee.
I'm currently looking for a job, and I really have been anxious about the situation since nearly the beginning of the year. Since then, I've kinda lost the ability to be concerned about my single status. I'm not exactly sure why, but I'm really happy I'm not concerned.
Maybe the best way to cope is to concentrate and work really hard at finding a job first and foremost, and train yourself along the way -- perhaps that way, you can have something to dream about, knowing you'll eventually get it. And you get to run into a lot of people you normally wouldn't otherwise meet while looking for a job, and we all know what that could lead to...
― donut bitch (donut), Saturday, 15 March 2003 21:34 (twenty-three years ago)