bros before hos

But yesterday HSA rang me up to tell me that he was going out with a mate instead of coming over mine, and I was just desolate. Like, I was in a REALLY shitty mood, and could have done with some toe-rubbing and snuggling.

And I'm still bummed about it a day later. Probably because I felt like I didn't have any friends I could say "screw you, I'm going out with the girls anyway!" myself. Hence intense need to go FAP-ing tonight.

I say it depends on the ho in question. It's a tough call, but deep down, you probably know how serious you are about said significant other, and if your bros give you guff for spending too much time with your ho (or reverse the genders as necessary), then fuck them. They aren't going to change your diapers when you're old.

It's weird cause this is the first time it's really happenned. And I guess it was like a warning signal.

Most of my friends are coupled up, and they've formed these little couple units against the outside world. Sure, you can hang out with them, but you can't have that intense "best friend" sort of intimacy with them, cause their best friend is their partner. I was all happy because I thought I'd got that "best friend = partner" thing. Finally *I* got to couple up against the outside world.

And this is kind of shaking me into realising that this isn't necessarily the case, and even if it were, it's not neccessarily healthy. For the past few months, I haven't really had to plan social activities. I never had to think "Oh god, what am I going to do tonight?" because the answer was always "I'm going to do something with HSA."

And this is like a rude shock that I can't... or maybe *shouldn't* have that expectation.

I dunno. And maybe I'm just PMS-ing to all heck and just feel weepy and unhappy because of hormonal moodswings that are nothing to do with HSA. :-(

This has happened to me too...it's really irritating.

How is that true? Why is it that someone's self-worth and their relationships with friends/family isn't as important as their romantic relationships in our society?

But then, I like when a girl constantly says she's gonna call you and hang out and then goes out with her friends and then doesn't call (for like 4 days in a row) and then your ex-g/f shows up at your house and you both get way too drunk on wine and then she encourages (forces) you leave a drunken "yeah, it'd be really cool if you like called me sometime, y'know, especially when you, like, say you're going to" message on her voice mail and then you pass out and wake up the next morning and think "oh fuckinay I've realled fucked up now".

So taking this into consideration, I've decided I'm switching my stance back to bros before hos, cuz the bros ain't full of shit.

i dunno, it was just as observation. why do old couples spend so much time exclusively with each other instead of hanging out with their friends all the time?

Also, it's inevitable that after a while in the blissful honeymoon period, you begin to see things wheich don't fit into your idea of perfect bliss. It mayb be deflating when it happens, but it'll only help you know and understand each other all the better.

if you throw your whole life onto one person, you got serious problems if that finishes, everyone knows at least one person that disappears for months on end, then picks up the phone, aha, you know what happened there!

you got to keep up your end of the bargain with the people you know, with your girl/boy, with your family, with your friends, with everyone, with yourselfif you dont, bam they might be gone, and you never even knew, cuz you were starstruck, looking the other way.

dont exclude! its not about bros before hos, or hos before bros! its not really that hard to keep your friends! and keep up with yourself as well, being alone is good, you got to like yourself!

its easy, keep up with the people you want to keep up with, you like them? call them!

Yeah, not having enough to do/enough people to socialize with/etc. outside of a relationship can easily lead to small problems and frictions in the relationship seeming much more important than they are. It leaves you less to talk about, too.

(Meta-question: why am I always *so* irritated by everything and everyone?)

You also don't want to be the "bros before hos" reminder-guy, either, because as it happens any guy who's suspected of putting the ho before the bros probably doesn't appreciate anyone calling her a "ho." (In fact, he goes home and says "Christ, my friends are such crude little idiots" and they bond against you.)

Umm. I've never had this problem. I certainly didn't have it with Nory, cause all of our friends stopped talking to us when we got together. Dicks.

I read this as "like rabbit in headlights after a spliff"

I think it's always important when meeting new people not to think you're somehow moving away from old mates. When you meet a new bunch of people or new girlfriend, your "getting to know you" traits like sense of humour and general wit are always at the forefront and so it's easy to get carried away with yourself.

But often you never go past that level with a bunch of people, and if you've ditched your old friends then....it's your own fault really. I have been hanging with the same 5 or 6 best friends for about 13 years now, things change within that, but 13 years is a long long time.

I make acquaintances very easily and like this to some extent, but I like the constancy of having the same friends I hang around with for so long. I like the routines I have with them, for drinking etc.

I like my routines, like a grandad or something.

Gareth, your friends are very strange, aren't they?

that is more of a meme-question or, more still, a mememe-question.

I think it's a vicous circle.

New York encourages ditching relationships, everyone's always looking for that next step up, something cooler right around the corner, I think suzy calls these people "swivel-heads".

Nothing on bros and hos really, sorry.

Hi everybody!

One of the weirdest things about my "sister" being around, is she is someone that I have known for half my life. Both of us can remember things that we shared 10, even 15 years ago. And I'm not used to that, it seemed very strange.

I don't know if I have a bad way of not holding on to people because I am odd, or if I am odd because I've never held on to anyone.

Maybe this is something I'll grow out of, but for now, love != friendship.

Oh, and to answer the question, hos before bros = relationship, bros before hos = no relationship (or one that is quickly ended). Fact of life.

haha, er, :(

not my friends, hypothetical! as in, when people do this, the friends might have gone and done anything in that period for all that the person ensconced in relationship tunnel vision would know.

oh no, i have turned into hstencil, taking a jokey post all serious, yesterday i turned into sterling. what has happened to me. damn, i think i need to float above the skies of LA again before that cat destroys any more buildings...

I mean, I haven't invited HSA along for record shopping on Saturday morning, what would he think about that? me? Going along record shopping with FOUR BOYS from the INTERNET? Maybe he might have a problem with that. I don't know yet. Last time, he didn't *want* to come (even though it was only ONE BOY from the INTERNET last time) so who knows.

Whenever I'm in a relationship, I need to have time away, time with my friends.

Sounds like HSA is doing HIS stuff tonite. I wouldn't take it as a bad sign at all - in fact the opposite - maybe he feels secure about you and him and is just... doing his *stuff*.

Say Hi to Marcello for me on Sat. and tell him to reply to a bloody e-mail once in a while (I'm joking-ish). I wish I was going to the FAP tonight, but I'm really feeling rough this week, so will be tucked up in bed by 10.00 just as JtN lets rip with another Billy Idol song.

Of course it helps when your other half is not psychotically jealous, nor your friends mean-spirited and needy.

2. "Bros Before Hos" = ?

3. Dave Q = Benna Carpenter

4. that is more of a meme-question or, more still, a mememe-question

RJG, I salute you once again.

So I'm pretty sure I'm worrying for nothing, and we're finding the balance. I hope. I did get very drunk and a bit odd on him last night, but he seemed OK with it...

The C family, Mark and Dr, are the voices of wisdom. There is a balance that each person finds between one and the other. My ex-wife had the odd casual friend, but they never lasted. I have had a bunch of friends who are hugely important to me for, mostly, twenty+ years. The one time I had a difficulty was after I split from my wife. I think I wanted to increase the amount of time and so on with those friends, but obviously they had their lives too, and there was limited scope, maybe limited desire too, to increase my share in them. I settled down after a while, and found a new equilibrium.

I think Gareth is right upthread. The key to happiness is balance among all elements of life. I *hate* being dissed by friends for their lastest bedmates but I'm sure I've been guilty for it in the past. What's sad though is how much more forgiving some women can be of this crime by fellow women. As in, "well of course she's choosing her BF over us. BFs are *so* much more important." CRAP!

Many of you will realise that I am not a nigger from the motherfucking streets.

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:)

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an alternate name for those snacks were 'ding dongs' iirc

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ahh so they ain't quite the same, d'oh

To what extent do you agree with "BROS BEFORE HOES"

I wish my job was illustrating cakes that are also kings.

KING –– it says it right on his crown.

ooh, he's just about to scoop out some frosting with that scepter of his

he is rushing to the aid of a fallen countryman (too late, too late)

Seriously considering a tattoo of that KING.

where

bros and girls

Lately I’ve noticed some tension among the bros; some dissonance in the brommunity

...as if millions of bros suddenly cried out in terror and were suddenly silenced.

The lads must save the bros

leave us ta fuck out if it

Lol, so young... not so different.

I so adhere to this. I hate couples and how they take away my friends. And my guy friends' girlfriends always hate me or my girl friends' boyfriends always think I'm out to maim them (not entirely untrue). I'm in a couple and I hate us.
― Carey (Carey), Thursday, 1 May 2003 13:34 (fifteen years ago

Bumper sticker decal ideas:
bros and hos onboard
What would a bro do?
If U gotta Bro

bro now, or else you gotta stay all night

Breau bummell

Love dem bros who use carabiners as keychains and hang em on a belt loop

Need access to a certain door or restricted area? Just listen for the jangle of the keymaster