I mean if they didn't do anything particularly bad to you.
Whenever I hear people say "God, I had this ex who was such a moron/asshole", and then quote some horrific/hilarious example of their behaviour I always wonder why they went out with them in the first place. I guess if they fell blindly in love with them then that's different, but half the time they just seem to be talking about a casual relationship.
Is it because their tastes have changed so radically, or do these people just go out with anyone who asks them?
― N. (nickdastoor), Thursday, 15 May 2003 13:39 (twenty years ago) link
― hstencil, Thursday, 15 May 2003 13:42 (twenty years ago) link
― Nordicskillz (Nordicskillz), Thursday, 15 May 2003 13:43 (twenty years ago) link
Also, it depends on the circumstance, and who I am slagging to - a friend with whom I can speak openly, a boy I am trying to impress, or a boyfriend I am trying to talk out of annoying behaviour.
― kate, Thursday, 15 May 2003 13:46 (twenty years ago) link
everyone tells me this is very rare though.
― gygax! (gygax!), Thursday, 15 May 2003 13:47 (twenty years ago) link
― Mark C (Mark C), Thursday, 15 May 2003 13:47 (twenty years ago) link
― N. (nickdastoor), Thursday, 15 May 2003 13:47 (twenty years ago) link
― hstencil, Thursday, 15 May 2003 13:48 (twenty years ago) link
― Nicole (Nicole), Thursday, 15 May 2003 13:51 (twenty years ago) link
This has rarely happened to me. The only way a girl and I could still be friends is if we mutually didn't expect much out of the romantic part of the relationship. But once one or the other person gets their hopes up, and starts thinking about babies and shit, you can't go backwards.
― Kenan Hebert (kenan), Thursday, 15 May 2003 13:53 (twenty years ago) link
― N. (nickdastoor), Thursday, 15 May 2003 13:54 (twenty years ago) link
― Nicole (Nicole), Thursday, 15 May 2003 13:55 (twenty years ago) link
― Kenan Hebert (kenan), Thursday, 15 May 2003 14:03 (twenty years ago) link
I've often wondered this myself. It's the punchy one-liners.
― Nordicskillz (Nordicskillz), Thursday, 15 May 2003 14:03 (twenty years ago) link
That never seems to work out for me, but I don't have anything against any of them. I dated them because they were cool guys, though some were assholes at the end. In retrospect, I understand the endings better, so I don't really have negative things to say, other than wishing things had worked out differently in some cases.
I thought exes did take an e in the plural, N.
― JuliaA (j_bdules), Thursday, 15 May 2003 14:05 (twenty years ago) link
The latter, for me. There was a period in my dating life when I glommed onto anyone who'd fuck me. I learned better. That's what people mean when they talk about the morons and assholes. It means they're beginning to figure out that sex isn't the end-all be-all.
― Kenan Hebert (kenan), Thursday, 15 May 2003 14:06 (twenty years ago) link
― Nicole (Nicole), Thursday, 15 May 2003 14:11 (twenty years ago) link
and this side will seem spectacular weird/ugly when the old love goggles slip off.
also a lot of people get bitter, because it helps heal the wounds.
but i dont think i ever slag exs off apart from in the heat of post break up months. but i can find myself describing them in a detached way which may seem to be throwing them into a dark light. but that is just the way i describe everyone. especially my family.
― arthur woodlouse (arthur woodlouse), Thursday, 15 May 2003 14:17 (twenty years ago) link
― Archel (Archel), Thursday, 15 May 2003 14:18 (twenty years ago) link
― N. (nickdastoor), Thursday, 15 May 2003 14:23 (twenty years ago) link
― nickalicious (nickalicious), Thursday, 15 May 2003 14:24 (twenty years ago) link
on the plus side, if there's resentment between ma and an ex, i find it can help to make a clean break. sounds horrible, but it's true! you see them less, you move on to someone else quicker!
― weasel diesel (K1l14n), Thursday, 15 May 2003 14:32 (twenty years ago) link
h, i'm whatever you want me to be.
― gygax! (gygax!), Thursday, 15 May 2003 14:34 (twenty years ago) link
― hstencil, Thursday, 15 May 2003 14:39 (twenty years ago) link
― gygax! (gygax!), Thursday, 15 May 2003 14:42 (twenty years ago) link
I think people do this alot. It's a bit like the way on I Love 1994 people say "what was I thinking" about 2 Unlimited or something.
― Ronan (Ronan), Thursday, 15 May 2003 14:43 (twenty years ago) link
― hstencil, Thursday, 15 May 2003 14:44 (twenty years ago) link
do boys really get impressed by girls slagging off their ex-boys? I'd just think "bloody hell, don't want to go out with her imagine if we ever split up!". Just as well girls seldom have to resort to impressing me really.
and erm of course i'm a firm believer in ever lasting relationships so the thought of splitting up would never cross my mind, much like the thought of sarcasm.
― ken c, Thursday, 15 May 2003 14:44 (twenty years ago) link
i think that metaphor just suceeded in muddying the water again.
― arthur woodlouse (arthur woodlouse), Thursday, 15 May 2003 15:10 (twenty years ago) link
― Ronan (Ronan), Thursday, 15 May 2003 15:11 (twenty years ago) link
― Ally (mlescaut), Thursday, 15 May 2003 15:16 (twenty years ago) link
especially the ones who i did not connect with at all.
― arthur woodlouse (arthur woodlouse), Thursday, 15 May 2003 15:28 (twenty years ago) link
― mark s (mark s), Thursday, 15 May 2003 15:49 (twenty years ago) link
― N. (nickdastoor), Thursday, 15 May 2003 16:00 (twenty years ago) link
― Al Gore (nickdastoor), Thursday, 15 May 2003 16:00 (twenty years ago) link
― That Girl (thatgirl), Thursday, 15 May 2003 16:01 (twenty years ago) link
― DV (dirtyvicar), Thursday, 15 May 2003 16:04 (twenty years ago) link
― N. (nickdastoor), Thursday, 15 May 2003 16:06 (twenty years ago) link
― Ronan (Ronan), Thursday, 15 May 2003 16:09 (twenty years ago) link
― N. (nickdastoor), Thursday, 15 May 2003 16:17 (twenty years ago) link
― Nicole (Nicole), Thursday, 15 May 2003 16:19 (twenty years ago) link
― N. (nickdastoor), Thursday, 15 May 2003 16:20 (twenty years ago) link
― Ned Raggett (Ned), Thursday, 15 May 2003 16:21 (twenty years ago) link
― That Girl (thatgirl), Thursday, 15 May 2003 16:22 (twenty years ago) link
― N. (nickdastoor), Thursday, 15 May 2003 16:27 (twenty years ago) link
― D@fuykrgk87, Thursday, 15 May 2003 16:33 (twenty years ago) link
― Douglas (Douglas), Thursday, 15 May 2003 19:34 (twenty years ago) link
― Mandee, Thursday, 15 May 2003 19:44 (twenty years ago) link
― Anna (Anna), Thursday, 15 May 2003 20:04 (twenty years ago) link
* Simultaneously scratches single testicle *
― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Thursday, 15 May 2003 20:08 (twenty years ago) link
quote some horrific/hilarious example of their behaviour I always wonder why they went out with them in the first place
well cos when you first hook up with someone they pretend to be a lot more palatable than they really are. then you wake up to the fact that they don't have a personality (despite the fact that nobody does, and we're all a bit foolish to believe in such things as "personality" to begin with). you know, it all comes down to humans being a bit thick. slagging off exes allows one, for a moment, to feel that long periods of devotion to a dipshit haven't been an entire waste: you have the enjoyment of being able to laugh at them and pretend that they aren't doing exactly the same thing to you. to be honest, theres only a select few people that i don't slag off. ever.
― di smith (lucylurex), Thursday, 15 May 2003 23:38 (twenty years ago) link
(But hell, sometimes, with certain of them, it's just too easy...)
― luna (luna.c), Friday, 16 May 2003 03:42 (twenty years ago) link
i guess there must be people who have exes they still like as people, and are friends with, but we never hear from them! also, it's weird that despite the fact that most of the people here are of above average intelligence, their choices of mate may not reflect this!
so, is there a correlation? book-learnin = lovers-spurnin!
― jeannot, Friday, 16 May 2003 08:05 (twenty years ago) link
― Sarah (starry), Friday, 16 May 2003 09:17 (twenty years ago) link
more fool you for going out with them.
this, essentially, is why I avoid slagging off exes.
apart from THAT BITCH who destroyed my life, wrecked my car, sold all my records, and invited ARE Weapons to stay in my flat.
― DV (dirtyvicar), Friday, 16 May 2003 09:19 (twenty years ago) link
As for the three serious girlfriends since (I was with each for 2-4 months), I have nothing but good things to say about them, and I value the memories of our relationships.
― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Friday, 16 May 2003 17:35 (twenty years ago) link
― Ethyl L. K'Hol (Ethyl L. K'Hol), Saturday, 17 May 2003 00:55 (twenty years ago) link
― Ally (mlescaut), Saturday, 17 May 2003 00:59 (twenty years ago) link
― Trayce (trayce), Saturday, 17 May 2003 03:33 (twenty years ago) link
I think I usually end up whining about how it was my fault things went pearshaped, not the guy's. I'm silly like that.
― Trayce (trayce), Saturday, 17 May 2003 03:36 (twenty years ago) link
― donna (donna), Saturday, 17 May 2003 07:30 (twenty years ago) link
― Spencer Chow (spencermfi), Tuesday, 24 February 2004 10:38 (twenty years ago) link
― Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Tuesday, 24 February 2004 14:30 (twenty years ago) link
Wonderful people, exes
― jk rowling obituary thread (darraghmac), Tuesday, 8 August 2017 23:37 (six years ago) link
Wait what
― Gary Synaesthesia (darraghmac), Monday, 16 October 2017 22:38 (six years ago) link