I am going away to another country on wednesday.
I will be gone for one day short of five weeks.
I have to pay rent at my place while I am gone.
I live with three friends.
another friend has just got a job in town and he doesn't have a flat here.
he will have to be looking for one while working and commuting pretty far every day.
I offer him my room while I am not here.
he says "perfect."
I say something similar.
he gets a place to stay while he finds something of his own.
I get some money towards my rent that I have to pay while not being here.
my flatmates have all met him.
one thinks he's OK, I think.
another thinks 'whatever', I think [but he is just like that--cares not for people].
the other thinks nothing, maybe, as she hasn't spoken to him.
flatmate #1 says "oh, no, not him!! ... well, I don't mind."
flatmate #2 says "no. I don't like the idea of it." he says we might have some probs soon w/ multiple occupancy issues [I don't know] and doesn't want this extra complication. I say it makes things no more complicated and, if we've probs on the way, what the fuck?
flatmate #3 says "I don't think you should" because she has known #2 the longest and knows his 'view'. but, I think, she agrees w/ me re: what the fuck?
ultimately it is up to me if I give my keys to my friend.
I tell them and ask what they will say. I don't like what they say.
my friend is in need of a favour and I am [in a way] in need of a [financial] favour and I have done favours in the past and wasn't planning on not doing any in the future [for flatmates].
my friend is not a dick. well, he is a bit. but I only say that because I actually know him. I don't think he's a dick to people who don't know him. except flatmate #2, to whom everyone he doesn't know is a dick.
[flatmate #2 is the mess-maker/non-tidier in the flat, too, and this just makes me resent his having a contrary opinion on this more].
I am leaving soon and hadn't actually thought about this until I was talking to my friend last night. but now there has been an expression of immediate-antiness [from some], I have thought, and may only think, "this is making me lose a lot of money that I really would like not to." and not just "like," either, really. this, as I say, even though I had just accepted the 'loss' previously.
OK?
― RJG (RJG), Sunday, 22 June 2003 18:22 (twenty-two years ago)
there is zero risk of the friend not leaving [I would make him not stay].
I am sure that he would be v. [almost] respectful that he was in other people's place for a while. and I would definitely make him aware that he [almost] should be.
otherwise.
I kinda think that flatmate #2 would have no qualms about letting a friend of his stay in my place a night or few and [even] in my own bed. this annoys me. and I do kinda think it.
if no my-friend, the only action I can take, as PJM advises, is to secure my space and belongings and make it obviously off-limits [I am paying for it], etc.
[I must have a reaction to something]. [I am drunk just now].
― RJG (RJG), Monday, 23 June 2003 00:12 (twenty-two years ago)