The fear of responsibility thread

b-but i don't want a mortgage, insurance, or guardianship of another human being!!

all the other stuff relating to responsibility is current tearing my life apart at the seams, tho.

it is not right for me to be as old as i am cos i have not done all these things that you're 'supposed' to have done by now

on the other hand, i dunno if i wanna play that stoopid game anyway

I don't even have a driver's license. I'm perfectly okay with this.

i never got to do the 'fun' stuff either if it's any consolation to anyone

home sweet home.

I could have got a driver's license but I chose to lock myself up during the summer holidays and listen to music and watch cricket on TV.

never had a *proper* job, not even a summer one. I only got a bank account when i got to university but I don't want to deal with any of the other crap mail they send me.

I suspect i'd have a prob with most human beings too but i never spend enough time around them to find out abt them. they don't want to know anything abt me, either.

I have just about every 'adult responsibility' known, and it's no picnic. Whatever you don't feel ready for, or don't want ever, or just seems like a pain in the ass, don't do it.

That having been said, I love my 'responsibilities' because they bring me joy and security and opportunity. So I ain't complaining, I knew what I was doing.

Still, though, sometimes, in the middle of the night....

i can cope with any responsibility that doesn't include the wellbeing of another person. i can handle my mortgage, insurance and kittens. the rest? nah

jody, 'don't even'? you live in new york!

no credit card, no driving licence.

no kids, no pets, no cohabiting. i'm gonna have a career, so i'll probably end up with a house and insurance, though the thought of it makes me giggle. owning stuff hahahahahahahahaha!

Taxes are evil and I hate them. I lose important bits of paper like group certificates and share dividend statements and so I am too scared to see the tax man. I'm useless with bills. I never want kids. I can't drive (and dont want to).

But I'd like to own my own place someday.

I've never felt grown up and responsible and sometimes it freaks me out, but then again I'm also happy to act like a kid. It keeps one vital in the blood, or something. Climbing up a tree at night BECAUSE YOU CAN is way better than worrying about wether the gas bill got paid on time.

This thread + ilx's (warning generalization ahead) dislike of the indie slacker "aesthetic" = ...well, what?

I have noticed a certain dislike of the indie aesthetic, but not the slacker one by any stretch.

there is noooo such thing as the "indie aesthetic"

Right at the moment, I don't even have a bank account. I made so little money this year that I didn't need one, and there's little reason to start one now that I'm moving in a couple months. I'm excited about having a debit card again soon... I love buying things online.

Don't want a mortgage, though. Not yet. But I don't want to die alone in a two room apartment, either, so I won't say "never" to the mortgage.

And I certainly won't say "never" to the career. But neither will I be suckered into doing something I hate for years on end just because I have "responsibilities." Which means no kids. Never.

But remember, it's not cool. OR grown-up.

Fear is not grown up. Knowing yourself and what you want and accepting your limitations is.

I can't motivate myself enough to try all out in getting a job!

i don't need no good advice

I just renewed my learner's permit after about 5 years w/o driving on the 10th anniversary of when I should have got my license.
I've been doing a lot of highway driving, but hate city driving, because everybody is an asshole but me.
I have a HUGE fear of growing up, but also am beginning to fear that I've grown up behind my back, such as last week I got a letter from the bank telling me they've doubled my credit card limit:

"Dear Mr. Mann,

We here at the Bank of Snicker & Giggle have decided that we like the feel of your money. Pls send more."

I mean, that would never happen to someone who was really doing their best to stave off maturity?
Also, have decided to do half as much work this summer. I don't get any time off from my job-job, but I'm accepting only 2 freelance assignments per week. Because, fuckit, these assholes have never done anything for me, so why should I bust my ass for them.
So maybe not so mature?
Also, so afeared of the mountain of responsibility that comes with producing offspring that I have sworn off sex, even with myself.

Don't forget the responsibility that comes with being offspring. Eventually the caregivers need to be taken care of.

Don't forget the responsibility that comes with being offspring. Eventually the caregivers need to be taken care of.
-- Jodi (jenkyhaypatc...), June 30th, 2003. (later)

*shudders*

I once gave up a goldfish because I thought it was too much responsibility.

Ach! Must. return. to. womb.

I don't like this return care. *they* were the ones who forgot to use a condom, so they have to take responsibility and feed and clothe me for the next forty years.

But what about when *they* get cancer and can't look after themselves? I don't like this return care either, believe me, but I'm sure as hell not going to ignore my dad, and just let him die.