Crying C/D?

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So what's the thing about crying? (I know this has been done before but I wanted to start a new thread.) Who cries? I cry quite alot. I cried last nite as my boy was getting anxious about our impending financial commitments & I just wanted him to feel better. I cried on Sunday watching the Confederations final. I cry for alot of reasons, but I always find it helps. So what's ILE's opinion or crying? I predict there will be tears today too.

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 08:29 (twenty years ago) link

dud! horrible! hate it when i do (even though sometimes it's necessary) and simply can't deal when others do. this is a deficiency in my personality i've no doubt.

― electric sound of jim (electricsound), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 08:33 (twenty years ago) link

I very rarely cry, though I quite often want to. I guess I am just a hard-assed biatch. Emma used to cry loads but doens't anymore (though she cried at Leon on Sunday, but that's OK).

― Nick Southall (Nick Southall), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 08:36 (twenty years ago) link

V. pertinent. I don't cry much usually, but have done three or four times in the last two days. It's like sneezing, a physical relief. Though it's not very nice to feel constantly on the brink of wobbly tears when you're trying to go about your day.

I never usually cry at films, so when I do I know there's another reason somewhere.

― Archel (Archel), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 08:38 (twenty years ago) link

At the movies, I cry often, otherwise, rarely. Usually it has to do with some deep personal grief, and I always find it relieving. I wish I could do it more often, but for some reason I can't.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 08:45 (twenty years ago) link

I think it's natural and healthy and can be beautiful although I don't do it too often. With me, it's usually triggered by thinking too much about yesterdays though sometimes particular high-emotion scenes in films of phrases in music do it to me. Actually, there are some songs which for various reasons and resonances start to make me well up after a few bars if I'm feeling all vulnerable or whatever.

― Alex K (Alex K), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 08:51 (twenty years ago) link

Oh, I just remembered, I cried during the fa cup final aswell. we were watching the build up & they played 'abide with me' & the camera panned to this chubby guy who was overcome with emotion & was crying. I found it really touching.

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 09:26 (twenty years ago) link

i'd had no sleep at all on friday night and was taking a bus down to pick up the van i was going to use to move house on saturday, listening to the dizzee rascal album. one of the tracks made me cry... i was tired and a bit fragile...

― Dave Stelfox (Dave Stelfox), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 09:39 (twenty years ago) link

my mum once came in and found my dad crying at blockbusters

asked wtf, he said "they're so young and they have so much potential"

this of course became grebt family in-joke material, esp.in the hands of his cruel children: little did we realise the gene had an age-related trip-switch — my sister wz some years later caught crying at footage of the crowd at a football match, and cd only blubber "all the little heads they're so SWEET!"

and i now well up at the sound of the set warming up

(luckily none of this seems to apply to real situations involving flesh and blood ppl)

― mark s (mark s), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 09:42 (twenty years ago) link

Sometimes I hate that I cry, I guess when it shows Im weak or fucked up (in front of certain people I guess). But sometimes a good howl feels cathartic. I dont ever want to have a collapse on the floor on my knees coming-off-e sob session ever again tho if I can help it :-/

― Trayce (trayce), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 09:43 (twenty years ago) link

Def a cathartic process, yes Trayce!

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 09:51 (twenty years ago) link

Crying is a total classic.

― Cozen (Cozen), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 11:42 (twenty years ago) link

Crying is classic.

I wish I could do it more, let out my emotions.

Wekaness can be beautiful.

― mei (mei), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 11:56 (twenty years ago) link

I don't necessarily see crying as a weakness. I cry alot & certainly don't consider myself to be a weak person. Quite the opposite in fact.

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 11:57 (twenty years ago) link

tough as hard bitches in fact

― james (james), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 12:07 (twenty years ago) link

I was almost crying when thinking about all the Katharine Hepburn films I love so much yesterday, but I don't get like that very often. I sort of choke up really often, but I'm rarely close to real tears. I don't think I've actually cried in well over a year.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 12:09 (twenty years ago) link

I cry a lot. I wish that I didn't, because it does make me look silly since it is usually over trifling little things. If I could control it better it probably wouldn't be so bad.

― Nicole (Nicole), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 12:11 (twenty years ago) link

I mean, part of The Matrix Reloaded made me cry and I think we all know what a rubfest that was!

― Nicole (Nicole), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 12:12 (twenty years ago) link

Hey! There's no need for that! :-(

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 12:14 (twenty years ago) link

*insert 'well, Keanu would make ME cry' joke here*

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 12:18 (twenty years ago) link

i hate crying and thankfully haven't been doing much of it at all lately. even when something terrible has happened (death of relation, etc,) and i cry and cry loads i still hate it. it turns my face to mucus, i find it hard to breathe, and surely no-one wants that. occasionally hormones have triggered mild crying episodes but they're not severe and pass very quickly. i generally try to avoid films that will make me cry because of not liking to.

― angela (angela), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 12:19 (twenty years ago) link

The matrix reloaded, made me cry too, I'm a complete cry baby, though, but I don't think there is anything wrong with letting out emotions, so I say crying is classic.

― maddylonglegs, Tuesday, 1 July 2003 12:19 (twenty years ago) link

i cry more now that i am tough guy than i ever did as the pathetic little femmebot i was in high school, but i still keep it private. its dreadfully touching when people open up and cry in front of you, but personally i'm not prepared to do that.

― di smith (lucylurex), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 12:21 (twenty years ago) link

being 'emotional'= dud.

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 12:33 (twenty years ago) link

I am very emotional at the moment & I am beginning to agree with Julio. I doubt this is a good sign!

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 13:01 (twenty years ago) link

Crying is definitely classic.

― Andrew (enneff), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 13:07 (twenty years ago) link

Generally I could probably be described as 'unemotional'. But I feel much healthier somehow and more like I'm really alive on the rare occasions when I AM being 'emotional'. So I think Julio you are wrong.

― Archel (Archel), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 13:18 (twenty years ago) link

I wouldn't go as far as to say i enjoy crying, but i do find it cathartic sometimes, but when I have a proper episode (as described by angela above) I hate it. I get myself into a complete state & sob uncontrollably, whilst trying to breath & give myself a headache & generally make myself feel sick.

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 13:21 (twenty years ago) link

Oh I hate it too. But I sure know I'm alive ;)

― Archel (Archel), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 13:24 (twenty years ago) link

Oh yeah! I have had this conversation several times over the last week. I would much rather be emotional than not at all. I couldnt imagine it the other way round.

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 13:27 (twenty years ago) link

I reserve crying for grief over a death of someone close to me or when I've been hurt (either physically or emotionally). none of that has happened in ages and ages.

for me there has to be a big reason for crying.

but even then, at times you have to fake the 'being in control' thing bcz if you cry then ppl around you will be affected (at least that's the case for me) and I don't want that.

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 13:27 (twenty years ago) link

Oh don't get me wrong Julio, each to their own. It wouldn't do for us all to be blubbing every 5 minutes! There is also something to be said about not getting over emotional about trivial things. I personally just seem to use it as another way to vent my feelings.

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 13:36 (twenty years ago) link

I tend to agree with julio, in that I respect stoism/defiance more than overly emotional responses to minor setbacks/life/etc. I know crying can help people feel better and that's a good thing, but me, I haven't cried in years.

I think belligerence is probably the way I deal with really stressful situations.

― jel -- (jel), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 15:11 (twenty years ago) link

I cry. Barely ever as a reaction to unpleasant-life-events, but actually quite often when inspired by moments in film & music. Also, it's fairly common for me to find myself in the middle of some unexpected octal leakage when I'm feeling very good about the world, like I'm one of those pathetic "isn't the world just so beautiful?" criers.

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 15:20 (twenty years ago) link

I cry, less now than I used to. Sometimes it's when my hormones are crazy, sometimes it's when I'm angry. The b/f does not cry ever, which I find remarkable and alien but it secretly gives me comfort. He's my rock.

― teeny (teeny), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 15:49 (twenty years ago) link

Crying and wanking - c/d?

Urgh - so does being a boyf who *does* cry mean the girlf doesn't feel safe and supported?

― Mark C (Mark C), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 15:56 (twenty years ago) link

crying and wanking...DUD

― sara, Tuesday, 1 July 2003 16:27 (twenty years ago) link

no not at all markC...I think boys should be able to cry and wouldn't have any problem if my boy did. It's just not how he expresses his frustration/anger/sadness. He does other things like running around and yelling that have the same sort of losing control aspect to them. I just personally like it that we express these feelings in different ways, and we know how to react and comfort the other. He's the only person I've known who could effectively calm me down.

― teeny (teeny), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 16:33 (twenty years ago) link

I can't cry without some difficulty. I feel the emotions that would be behind crying, but I can't actually just go out and cry. It takes quite a lot for me to cry, and even then my last few attempts have fallen short of actually breaking out the waterworks.

The last time I did my little crying thing was when I was at the waiting room of a local hospital late at night waiting for Dad to come out of the emergency room, who was bleeding profusely out of a place he was operated on earlier that afternoon. I was trying to keep this person alert and conscious and I kept on trying to get him to stay awake. I struggled and fought and toward the end of it (before he was taken back to the emergency room) I could feel myself getting all broken up and my speech starting to sound shaky. I think I shed maybe two tears, and then looked down at my hands and felt awkward.

Maybe my mental state in general would be better if I could cry more easily. I certainly envy those of you who can cry when the mood strikes you. Crying = classic, especially as a catharsis.

― Innocent Dreamer (Dee the Lurker), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 18:27 (twenty years ago) link

Oh yes, and this person = another person who was waiting to be seen in the emergency room. I'd met up with his friend, who had taken him there, and she had asked me to keep an eye out on him while she went to the restroom. Just so you won't be confused.

― Innocent Dreamer (Dee the Lurker), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 18:29 (twenty years ago) link

I cry too much. My dad yells at me when I cry in front of him, which doesn't help.

― Curt1s St3ph3ns, Tuesday, 1 July 2003 18:30 (twenty years ago) link

What's with this talk of "trying to cry"? Fer me it's totally involuntary, uncontrollable, like how yr knee kicks out when you hit it with a hammer or how you get an erection watching two hot girls kissing each other or something.

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 18:44 (twenty years ago) link

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(i meant his initial one)

― oops (Oops), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 18:49 (twenty years ago) link

I don't cry often enough maybe. I'm sure this week will be rough though.

― Ronan (Ronan), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 19:54 (twenty years ago) link

classic, maybe my favorite roy orbison song

― gygax! (gygax!), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 20:53 (twenty years ago) link

http://www.movieclub.com/dvd/photos/oldyeller.jpg

― amateurist (amateurist), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 20:59 (twenty years ago) link

if am's playing that game,

this one gets me almost every time:

turned over and spun around
take me back- you've got it down
reciting lines out of a book
who wrote it? i forgot to look

i tried to resist
you held me by the arm
i tried to make a list
but there was only one

two hours of sleep
think that's enough
straining my eyes to see
to find my stuff
i'll leave you sleeping
turn off the light when i'm leaving

i tried to grab a bunch
but there was only one
i tried to crawl away
but gravity made me run

i tried to resist
i tried to resist
i end up walking home at dawn
i tried to make a list
but there was only one

mouseover-select if you dare: superchunk - "home at dawn"

― gygax! (gygax!), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 21:07 (twenty years ago) link

― oops (Oops), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 21:14 (twenty years ago) link

http://www.documentaryfilms.net/_borders/7950.GIF

― gygax! (gygax!), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 21:23 (twenty years ago) link

I tend to cry only in situations of extreme emotional or physical distress. (I knew for sure I had the flu a few years back when I started crying at the end of an episode of "Friends.") My wife, on the other hand, cries early and often. This alarmed me when I first got to know her, but then I realized it has a real cathartic effect for her -- she always feels a lot better 5 minutes later. Plus, it turns out to be an effective method of dealing with problematic representatives of the telecommunications industry -- she got a really nice phone upgrade by crying at the Cingular store. (She doesn't cry on purpose in those situations, it's just what happens -- which is why I think it's effective. Deliberate crying would seem contrived.)

― JesseFox (JesseFox), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 23:00 (twenty years ago) link

my girlfriend cries quite a bit. i haven't done it in a while, though i find it quite cleansing when i do. i find that i cry more over family events (not deaths or illnesses necessarily - just fights/arguments) than worries over college/friends/relationships - even if those things prey on my mind just as much/more. i'm not sure why that is.

― weasel diesel (K1l14n), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 23:09 (twenty years ago) link

I only ever cry when I hear of people doing really well at something, occasionally I get this feeling where I'm really proud of them even if I've never met them, and the pride causes the odd tear. I've never understood this, last time I cried on my own account was about four years ago I think, it was loneliness that caused it at the time.

― Matt (Matt), Tuesday, 1 July 2003 23:17 (twenty years ago) link

my girlfriend cried when she did well in her exams. i don't think i've ever cried with happiness like that.

― weasel diesel (K1l14n), Wednesday, 2 July 2003 00:45 (twenty years ago) link

I have. I cried after sex once, and I know most people would probably find that hideously dud, but at the time my emotional state was a mess, so being happy was just too overwhelming.

The guy kinda lost interest after that happened too, unsuprisingly.

― Trayce (trayce), Wednesday, 2 July 2003 01:10 (twenty years ago) link

I cry after sex quite a bit. It's all just one big release, you know!

― teeny (teeny), Wednesday, 2 July 2003 01:12 (twenty years ago) link

I cried during sex once, but, uh, not cause I was happy.

I cry at tv and movies ALL THE TIME.

― rosemary (rosemary), Wednesday, 2 July 2003 01:18 (twenty years ago) link

When I was a teenager, I cried whenever I talked about myself--and I mean every time I talked about myself.

"I listen to college radio all the time--sniff!"
"I like Rice Crispies in the morning--sob!"
"I like to play outside with my dog after school--wah!"

Yes, it was that bad. And I almost got sent to an institution for it. Fortunitely, it went away when I turned 16.

― Christine 'Green Leafy Dragon' Indigo (cindigo), Wednesday, 2 July 2003 03:24 (twenty years ago) link

I cried again this morning, reading about Katherine Hepburn. I'm like a leaky tap at the moment. I wonder how long it's going to last?

― Archel (Archel), Wednesday, 2 July 2003 07:25 (twenty years ago) link

I cry sometimes - usually in cases of high emotion or heavy stress but one thing always guarantee me to get properly choked up are old war vetrans recounting tales of there friends passed - im useless after that, during band of brothers i was particularly rubbish for a good ten weeks or so - then i got the DVD and can still turn on the water works at a drop of a hat

― james (james), Wednesday, 2 July 2003 08:43 (twenty years ago) link

but i like it - i like that intense feeling of relief and warmth after you have cried - as though something heavy has been lifted a touch

― james (james), Wednesday, 2 July 2003 08:44 (twenty years ago) link

having posted yesterday about not having cried much at all recently i had such a horrible nightmare last night about the destruction of a place i really like and nasty, mean people that i woke myself up crying. bah. i shall now shun sleep as well as soppy films (or maybe not).

― angela (angela), Wednesday, 2 July 2003 08:52 (twenty years ago) link

I had a very incongrous (and tiny) cry last night.

― Nick Southall (Nick Southall), Wednesday, 2 July 2003 08:54 (twenty years ago) link

I cry quite easily and I wish I didn't. Or at least I wish I cried differently. It'd be really cool to be able to that thing where you look perfectly dignified and a single tear runs down your cheek. With me though, I become a mess and my nose starts running and I can't talk and...icky

― jamesmichaelward (jamesmichaelward), Wednesday, 2 July 2003 08:58 (twenty years ago) link

I can't remember the last time I cried in front of anyone but Matt. He's horribly used to my ugly snivelling face by now.

I have cried at sleeve notes relatively often - there's that elegiac feel to them when the artist is dead and stuff has been re-released, or there's just an emotion there that isn't often present in criticism.

― Archel (Archel), Wednesday, 2 July 2003 09:04 (twenty years ago) link

I just find those BB notes so honest and passionate and hopeful. It was weird; I must've read them half a dozen times before and never had it happen.

― Nick Southall (Nick Southall), Wednesday, 2 July 2003 09:23 (twenty years ago) link

Jesus I cry all of the time. I get choked up at songs, I cry on my b/day cos I get overwhelmed, I have cried during/after sex, I cry at sad films, I cry when I am happy, I cry when I am feeling frustrated or hopeless, I cry with relief, I cry loads when I argue with my boy, I cry when other people close to me are hurting, I cry when I worry about things that may never happen, I cry when I have a crisis of appearance, I cry for no reason at all. So yeah, crying is classic def & that's all there is to it! *sniff*

(Hey archel, hope you're feeling better today.)

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Wednesday, 2 July 2003 09:32 (twenty years ago) link

Hey, thankyou I am. Hope your receptionist isn't causing you any grief today!

― Archel (Archel), Wednesday, 2 July 2003 09:36 (twenty years ago) link

Nah, I slapped the bitch upside her head & I think she is now clear where we both stand! ;-)

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Wednesday, 2 July 2003 10:22 (twenty years ago) link

On the whole, I think that crying is an emotional catharsis, and it's better off just doing it than holding it in.

However, what pisses me of is this: I cry not just when I am sad, but also when I am very ANGRY. This really annoys me because anger should be a source of strength, and crying (in response to being overwhelmed by the emotion of anger) makes it seem like a weakness. It is easier for people to dismiss it, "Oh, Kate's just upset." No, Kate isn't upset, she is ANGRY.

However, whoever said that thing about the sniffing and the nose-running is OTM. I can just about hold back tears, but the moment I'm upset, I become an undignified, snotty mess. Yuck.

― kate (kate), Wednesday, 2 July 2003 10:33 (twenty years ago) link

Totally OTM about anger. I cry when I'm angry too, red hot blazing tears from the fires of HELL, but people don't seem to realise that.

― Archel (Archel), Wednesday, 2 July 2003 10:37 (twenty years ago) link

If I cry as a result of anger, then I am a completely different person. I can be in a flaming rage with big, fat tears rolling down my cheeks, but I don't think anyone is under the impression that I am weak!!

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Wednesday, 2 July 2003 10:41 (twenty years ago) link

I cry at demonstrations. It's a weird thing that I can't quite explain, and I think it's more a physiological conditioned response than an actual emotional response. Every time I see a large crowd of people gathered in protest, I have the overwhelming urge to cry.

My angry tears are more like tears of frustration. I hate them, they make me FEEL weak.

― kate (kate), Wednesday, 2 July 2003 10:43 (twenty years ago) link

I like it when males cry since it apparently isn't as acceptable for a man to be all emotional than it is a woman. It is as though they are supposed to be all macho, manly, as though crying is a "womany thing". YEAH RIGHT. GIVE US A BREAK.

― ThErEdNeD (ThErEdNeD), Wednesday, 2 July 2003 20:50 (twenty years ago) link

I cry far too much at the moment, through anger and frustration and general unhappiness. It's got a lot worse recently. Crying used to be cathartic for me, and it's just a pain in the neck just now, as it's just something I do periodically, like yawning or sneezing :)

― ailsa (ailsa), Wednesday, 2 July 2003 20:59 (twenty years ago) link

i can't cry. very frustrating, actually. sometimes i honestly try. but it never happens. the last time i cried was when i was like eight?

― doom-e, Wednesday, 2 July 2003 21:01 (twenty years ago) link

Sometimes I hate how much I cry because it's just one more way I make an obnoxious spectacle of myself without wanting to: I'm a LOUD crier. Other times I feel like it's the most human and maybe even spiritual thing about me. But I still wish people wouldn't stare or feel uncomfortable as a result of it.

― jewelly (jewelly), Wednesday, 2 July 2003 21:55 (twenty years ago) link

I cry - I find it to be cathartic - it helps me to shed negative energy and to recenter myself. I've a little sketh on my wall, and the accompanying text reads "She said she cries a little each day, not because she is sad, but because the world is so beautiful and life is so short." That pretty much sums up a lot of things for me.

― I'm Passing Open Windows (Ms Laura), Thursday, 3 July 2003 04:03 (twenty years ago) link

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