Over-analysing every word in an email/letter/whatever: dud or dud?

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So, I have a crush on someone I vaguely know. We email each other occasionally. How do I stop myself reading all their emails over and over a thousand times trying to read little bits of meaning into every single word?

(we live a few hundred miles apart, too. Should I just try to stop crushing on the grounds that nothing will ever happen over that distance?)

(how *do* you stop yourself having a crush on someone, anyway?)

― Anon mouse, Monday, 21 July 2003 12:34 (twenty-two years ago)

Find out more about them! Preferably, have a relationship with them! 9 times out of 10, the cruel harsh wind of reality kills crushes dead in their tracks!

(Plus, long distance relationships really = dud. Unless you're not really looking for a relationship. In which case the thrill of getting an email from your crushee is probably such a wonderful thing that you'd be stupid to give it up for something real)

― kate (kate), Monday, 21 July 2003 12:37 (twenty-two years ago)

Yeah meet up, that'll prob kill it!

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Monday, 21 July 2003 12:39 (twenty-two years ago)

Best thing to do with a crush is just sweat it out. It'll go eventually.

― Tico Tico (Tico Tico), Monday, 21 July 2003 12:44 (twenty-two years ago)

But crushes are so much FUN... while they last and are still in the fun stage.

― kate (kate), Monday, 21 July 2003 12:45 (twenty-two years ago)

We've met once; it was only after that that it became a full-on crush (and not just a vague liking)

― Anon mouse, Monday, 21 July 2003 12:47 (twenty-two years ago)

Poring over such emails is one of the small excrutiating pleasures of life, and in some ways a lot more fun than a real relationship.

However, straightforward friendships where the two people involved know each other well and where each nuance is not so intriguing are also fun.

If there is no prospect of an actual (non long distance) relationship, I would eventually rather settle for the second.

― Archel (Archel), Monday, 21 July 2003 12:50 (twenty-two years ago)

Probably just email this person some more, you will eventually discover the person's chuckleheaded qualities and then wonder why you were ever attracted to him/her in the first place.

― Larcole (Nicole), Monday, 21 July 2003 12:51 (twenty-two years ago)

Mouse, I'm afraid I'm taken.

― Mark C (Mark C), Monday, 21 July 2003 14:28 (twenty-two years ago)

Many people are far more charming in email than in an actual relationship. Be careful.

― Orbit (Orbit), Monday, 21 July 2003 14:30 (twenty-two years ago)

Mouse, I'm afraid I'm taken

I was wondering if you were going to jump in to defend long-distance relationships, Mark.

― Anon mouse, Monday, 21 July 2003 14:44 (twenty-two years ago)

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