Low in confidence: how would you address this?

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Has this ever been said abt you? Did you take it seriously? if so, how did you go abt gaining confidence.

This has been said to me. I've never really taken it seriously bcz its all to do with appearances that you give. But when ppl keep saying it its a bit annoying.

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Friday, 25 July 2003 12:37 (twenty-two years ago)

Wear a T-SHirt saying "Confident - But Undercover(s)".

― Pete (Pete), Friday, 25 July 2003 12:45 (twenty-two years ago)

it depends. if they are wrong and you are full of confidence, then it doesnt matter that they think this. if they have something of a point, then it is different. if you are low on confidence, it can be good to force yourself to have some. make yourself do things. act like you have confidence (not necessarily to others, but yourself). fake it to yourself

― gareth (gareth), Friday, 25 July 2003 12:46 (twenty-two years ago)

I have no idea how this is addressed, except that the deep end approach employed by 'Would Like To Meet' seems to work (new series on Sundays in BB-conflicting but not no more Sunday 9pm BBC3 slot hurrah)

― N. (nickdastoor), Friday, 25 July 2003 12:48 (twenty-two years ago)

that program is pretty funny. and i have BBC3. and i do not watch BB.

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Friday, 25 July 2003 12:49 (twenty-two years ago)

if you are low on confidence, it can be good to force yourself to have some. make yourself do things. act like you have confidence (not necessarily to others, but yourself). fake it to yourself

Easier said than done, though. I have tried this in the past w/varying degrees of success. Confidence is a hard thing to fake.

― Larcole (Nicole), Friday, 25 July 2003 12:49 (twenty-two years ago)

balls to it. it's cool to be a bit shy.
people like it. better that than mouthy.
stay underconfident. takes all sorts etc.

― piscesboy, Friday, 25 July 2003 12:51 (twenty-two years ago)

It also looks like a pretty lousy movie.

― Pete (Pete), Friday, 25 July 2003 12:51 (twenty-two years ago)

yes gareth how do you fake confidence?

see I feel that I am confident. I don't feel 'low' abt anything concerning my work, say. But today someone has said this to me: that I appear to have low confidence in my own abilities. doesn't make any sense. But it is damn annoying.

So I like gareth's strategy of faking confidence. So when you talk to someone and you want to appear confident how woud you go abt doing this (i really don't care in the end but its friday and my brain is against doing work).

examples (esp ones including pie charts) would be appreciated.

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Friday, 25 July 2003 12:59 (twenty-two years ago)

Some people confuse modesty/humility with lack of confidence. These people are not usually modest or humble themselves.

― Archel (Archel), Friday, 25 July 2003 13:08 (twenty-two years ago)

Faking confidence would start with ignoring such comments, even if they bother you; it's basically a matter of moving forward despite fear.

There's also generally no problem with understating your abilities unless and until you're trying to sell them.

― Colin Meeder (Mert), Friday, 25 July 2003 13:12 (twenty-two years ago)

yeah fair enough colin.

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Friday, 25 July 2003 13:15 (twenty-two years ago)

Yeah, smell the glove and face it anyway.

― N. (nickdastoor), Friday, 25 July 2003 13:19 (twenty-two years ago)

'smell the glove' is v spinal tap N.

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Friday, 25 July 2003 13:57 (twenty-two years ago)

yes gareth how do you fake confidence?

I hear 'yo, where's the bars at?' works.

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Friday, 25 July 2003 13:58 (twenty-two years ago)

I so want to see someone on WLTM being forced to approach a stranger and say that.

― N. (nickdastoor), Friday, 25 July 2003 14:03 (twenty-two years ago)

All through my life I have had this "lacks confidence" tag. It becomes a self-fulfilling propechy after a while. It's very annoying, and fortunately, I don't get this low in confidence that often these days. I have confidence in my intellectual ability, but confidence socially, isn't that great.

― jel -- (jel), Friday, 25 July 2003 14:43 (twenty-two years ago)

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