Do you understand or respect what the opposite sex see in your sex?

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Or is it all such a laugh?

― N. (nickdastoor), Wednesday, 30 July 2003 21:32 (twenty-two years ago)

I sometimes wish I had bigger hands, if that's what you mean

― Millar (Millar), Wednesday, 30 July 2003 21:39 (twenty-two years ago)

Seeing something in the other sex = sexism, no?

― Sommermute (Wintermute), Wednesday, 30 July 2003 21:42 (twenty-two years ago)

i understand why people generalise but not sure i respect it

― stevem (blueski), Wednesday, 30 July 2003 21:48 (twenty-two years ago)

I hate it when a woman makes a fuss of me for doing something manly. That's all so primitive. It bores me.

― thoth (Jake Proudlock), Wednesday, 30 July 2003 21:52 (twenty-two years ago)

If you ask most people things they like in potential partners then they can usually come up with something. I don't think means they are making generalisations.

― N. (nickdastoor), Wednesday, 30 July 2003 21:57 (twenty-two years ago)

i don't know what anyone sees in men frankly

― electric sound of jim (electricsound), Wednesday, 30 July 2003 22:12 (twenty-two years ago)

Yes, I'm not sure if this is a general 'how well can you get into the mindset of a heterosexual man/woman if you're not one?' question, or one about the specifics of what certain people like.

― N. (nickdastoor), Wednesday, 30 July 2003 22:20 (twenty-two years ago)

Perhaps understanding it, and playing up to it, is deceiptful.

― Judge Mentalist (Judge Mentalist), Wednesday, 30 July 2003 22:41 (twenty-two years ago)

i'm with jim

― gaz (gaz), Wednesday, 30 July 2003 22:42 (twenty-two years ago)

I like it when my girlfriend makes a fuss over my being womanly. Like when she says she only trusts me to pick out flowers, that kind of thing.

― Kenan Hebert (kenan), Wednesday, 30 July 2003 22:44 (twenty-two years ago)

She might love it if I worked on the car and watched sports and stuff, but I'll never know.

― Kenan Hebert (kenan), Wednesday, 30 July 2003 22:44 (twenty-two years ago)

i couldn't care less what the opposite sex see in women, i care what I see in women.

― The Lady Ms Lurex (lucylurex), Wednesday, 30 July 2003 22:50 (twenty-two years ago)

i couldn't care less what the opposite sex see in men, i care what they see in me.

― Anthony Miccio (Anthony Miccio), Wednesday, 30 July 2003 22:54 (twenty-two years ago)

you care what men see in you?

― electric sound of jim (electricsound), Wednesday, 30 July 2003 22:56 (twenty-two years ago)

Seeing something in the other sex = some sort of infection, no?

― Girolamo Savonarola, Wednesday, 30 July 2003 23:14 (twenty-two years ago)

I have all these ideas and notions as to what the opposite sex looks for in terms of attractiveness for people in my gender, and I compare myself to that and think I fall far short of those expectations or ideals. I think I'm far too ugly for my own good, think I need to lose copious amounts of weight, think my hair is just too unruly, think I look far too "ethnic" to be considered "attractive", etc. All of these shortcomings and, in my eyes, utter genetic failures end up really bumming me out in the end and then I go into a huge mopefest where I feel like just shutting myself away in my house, not bothering to go outside.

Maybe I'd feel differently if I'd had numerous romantic relationships or if I'd had experience with people telling me I'm beautiful or that I don't need to worry about my physical appearance, but I have little experience with relationships, and every time my mother sees me (save for the last month, that is) she launches into a laundry list of things I need to improve about my physical appearance. And no one (IRL) has really come out and even just said I looked "cute".

Really, though. Physical appearance is the one aspect about myself that I am absolutely the most sensitive and pessimistic about.

― Just Deanna (Dee the Lurker), Wednesday, 30 July 2003 23:23 (twenty-two years ago)

Oh my goodness, I just managed to depress myself.

I think I'll just crawl into a corner somewhere....

― Just Deanna (Dee the Lurker), Wednesday, 30 July 2003 23:24 (twenty-two years ago)

*hugs* Dee

― luna (luna.c), Wednesday, 30 July 2003 23:26 (twenty-two years ago)

hugs too. i think i saw a photo of you on here...no way yer ugly dee.

― gaz (gaz), Wednesday, 30 July 2003 23:31 (twenty-two years ago)

More like adorable.

― Kenan Hebert (kenan), Wednesday, 30 July 2003 23:39 (twenty-two years ago)

Deanna-
Looks don't matter, Really. They only matter to people you wouldn't want to waste your time on.

― Orbit (Orbit), Thursday, 31 July 2003 00:05 (twenty-two years ago)

dee, you're a cutie.

― The Lady Ms Lurex (lucylurex), Thursday, 31 July 2003 02:11 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm not sure I see it as a gender-specific thing... I mean, I can see what people see in some people, and not what they see in others. And I can see what they see in me. But beyond that...

― Layna Andersen (Layna Andersen), Thursday, 31 July 2003 02:41 (twenty-two years ago)

I can see perfectly well what the men I know see in their ladies. What I do not understand, is what some of my lady friends see in their men.

― Lara (Lara), Thursday, 31 July 2003 18:28 (twenty-two years ago)

So we're agreed, then.

ILX women are a weird subset of womankind, mind.

― N. (nickdastoor), Thursday, 31 July 2003 22:22 (twenty-two years ago)

Um....

*can't speak*

whispers: Wow.

― Just Deanna (Dee the Lurker), Friday, 1 August 2003 08:39 (twenty-two years ago)

Hell yeah, I can see what people see in women! Women are yummy.

― Archel (Archel), Friday, 1 August 2003 09:05 (twenty-two years ago)

i do not understand.

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Friday, 1 August 2003 09:09 (twenty-two years ago)

you don't understand what people see in women?

― gaz (gaz), Friday, 1 August 2003 09:17 (twenty-two years ago)

i do not understand the question.

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Friday, 1 August 2003 09:25 (twenty-two years ago)

I understand completely what people see in men but I find it near impossible to convey to third parties when asked to do so.

― Alex in Rotherham (Alex in Doncaster), Friday, 1 August 2003 09:26 (twenty-two years ago)

hmm - intuitively I feel that often women see in men facilitators of some sort, ie. characters that can make life easier and get rid of certain hassles, somehow.. In there you can squeeze in all the old cliches, from the ancient provider thing to the contemporary reassuring manly 'can-do' approach

― Fabrice (Fabfunk), Friday, 1 August 2003 09:28 (twenty-two years ago)

I don't particularly have an opinion on Men, as a concept. I like most individual men very much indeed though.

― Archel (Archel), Friday, 1 August 2003 09:42 (twenty-two years ago)

What men see in women = boobs. What women see in men = pockets (so we can have tiny bags and they can carry our stuff).

― Emma, Friday, 1 August 2003 09:43 (twenty-two years ago)

men are a concept?!

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Friday, 1 August 2003 09:50 (twenty-two years ago)

For the purposes of this thread they seem to be.

― Archel (Archel), Friday, 1 August 2003 09:54 (twenty-two years ago)

ILX women are a weird subset of womankind, mind.

Yeah. I was having a discussion with someone about this recently. It's true, they are strange, but in a vague and undefinable way.

― Andrew (enneff), Friday, 1 August 2003 10:06 (twenty-two years ago)

men are a concept?!

Clearly Julio, you are too young to remember Concept Man.

― N. (nickdastoor), Friday, 1 August 2003 10:10 (twenty-two years ago)

Completely had it up to here with chicks. Whatever the fuck it is they want, I ain't got it. Even if I do.

― dave q, Friday, 1 August 2003 10:35 (twenty-two years ago)

What I see in women : pink flesh with reddish capillaries.

― Sommermute (Wintermute), Friday, 1 August 2003 11:29 (twenty-two years ago)

haha ilx women are weird! at least we don't ask questions like "Do you understand or respect what the opposite sex see in your sex?" on message boards!

― The Lady Ms Lurex (lucylurex), Saturday, 2 August 2003 01:29 (twenty-two years ago)

No, you ask for girlfriends

― Andrew Thames (Andrew Thames), Saturday, 2 August 2003 01:48 (twenty-two years ago)

i didn't ask for a girlfriend, i demanded one.

― The Lady Ms Lurex (lucylurex), Saturday, 2 August 2003 01:49 (twenty-two years ago)

i could give a cold shit what anyone else thinks about anything...i hope they all die soon

― unknown or illegal user (doorag), Saturday, 2 August 2003 01:54 (twenty-two years ago)

nah i'm just kidding, i love you all

― unknown or illegal user (doorag), Saturday, 2 August 2003 01:56 (twenty-two years ago)

ILX women are a weird subset of womankind, mind.
Yeah. I was having a discussion with someone about this recently. It's true, they are strange, but in a vague and undefinable way.

-- Andrew

Why? why? why?

< /selfinterest>

― Anna (Anna), Tuesday, 5 August 2003 12:40 (twenty-two years ago)

Yeah, I wanna know, too.

― Mandee, Tuesday, 5 August 2003 13:40 (twenty-two years ago)

if men actually knew this, wouldn't joy on earth and happiness prevail, etc? the answer is that there's no answer

― Vic (Vic), Tuesday, 5 August 2003 13:41 (twenty-two years ago)

It's a good thing, as I remember

― Andrew Thames (Andrew Thames), Tuesday, 5 August 2003 13:42 (twenty-two years ago)

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― Ally (mlescaut), Tuesday, 5 August 2003 14:30 (twenty-two years ago)

Answer, or we will riot.

― Anna (Anna), Tuesday, 5 August 2003 14:31 (twenty-two years ago)