what is not to love?

Oh and bouze.

(not for the reason you might think)

"...smile when you're making it..."

"I'm not a rat."

what is not to love???

Something like that. I'm in a dry spell and for the first time in my life (approaching dirty 30) finding myself wanting to jump in bed with just about every girl I meet. I'm confused.

Also, why is there no category for 'twee bullshit'?

Okay, so we're not talking about long-term relationship potential here, which is a whole nother can of worms (cause I had all of the above, plus the wanting-to-shag, going with my most recent ex, and we broke it off after four years even though none of that changed).

Chemistry. The missing ingredient is chemistry. It's more than attraction -- Kenan didn't believe me when I said I thought Audrey Hepburn was gorgeous but not in an especially sexual way, but there you go. She was gorgeous. But I don't think I've ever looked at a photo of her and thought, "I want to have sex with someone who looks just like that."

That's maybe purely physical chemistry, or maybe it's wrapped up with my associations with her through her movies, which presumably paint a mental image of her which maps to a woman I'd have no emotional/whatever chemistry with. I don't know. Maybe it's both. Maybe it's something else.

I've been very attracted to women I wouldn't have thought would be ideally "my type," had I seen just a photo of them, but something clicked, something worked. I don't know what; I don't know that it's the same for each, or if it's something held in common with the women who were both "my type" and someone I wanted to sleep with.

This is not terribly helpful.

So *that's* what's wrong with me.

Tep's follow-up post makes me think this: people find different physical attributes sexy/attractive, and people find different personality attributes sexy/attractive. For many people there needs to be a combination of both of these for them to want to shag someone. Not an equal amount though--someone's incredible personality can make up for their just average looks (vice versa, obv).
That, or, yeah, alcohol.
Further than this, it seems impossible to generalize.

That might also explain the prevalence of people who develop online crushes on people they have never met or, in some cases, have never even seen a picture of. A cerebral connection with someone is a very powerful thing which can, I think, play as great a role in fancying someone as the purely physical attraction can.