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I've become a hermit. I don't call my friends, I don't leave the house. I don't even leave my apt except to find some food and maybe bewz. I don't know why. My friends call me and I gladly meet up with them and have a good time, but I never initiate. I have many esoteric things that I'm trying to do (whether i'm successful or not is another question) and i'm just wondering... do others do this? I know it's not necessarily normal behavior but that's not important. Is it the natural evolution of the introverted personality, or am i just being a dick with regard to my friends and various associates? is it a phase? Should I even care?

― pizzadog, Tuesday, 16 December 2003 08:58 (twenty-two years ago)

Do you know any hermits?

hermitism

― N. (nickdastoor), Tuesday, 16 December 2003 09:12 (twenty-two years ago)

Being a hermit...

Who'd have thought there'd be so much hermit talk on ILE?

― N. (nickdastoor), Tuesday, 16 December 2003 09:13 (twenty-two years ago)

ILX users in 'prefering to be alone' shocka.

― Johnney B (Johnney B), Tuesday, 16 December 2003 09:14 (twenty-two years ago)

i'm living somewhat of a hermitic existence right now. i'm not a full blown recluse though, thank god.

of course you should care.
the longer you stay in the house, the harder it will be to leave it. basic: try to at least leave the house everyday to get some exposure to the sunlight and air.

sorry, i could talk about this subject for ages i guess, but i've got to sleep in order to wake up at an ungodly hour for a pilates class, of all things.

― Leese, Tuesday, 16 December 2003 09:17 (twenty-two years ago)

yeh, going for a walk is good. Living without company is fine - living without the suns vitamin C is bad.

― Johnney B (Johnney B), Tuesday, 16 December 2003 09:20 (twenty-two years ago)

Okay cool, i'm still trying to utilize the 'search threads' option and i realize "hermit" might not me the preferred nomenclature for my situation but i guess that was the first thing that popped into my brain while i was enthusiastic about starting a new thread.

― pizzadog, Tuesday, 16 December 2003 09:21 (twenty-two years ago)

i spent entire weeks without leaving the house this year

― stevem (blueski), Tuesday, 16 December 2003 10:15 (twenty-two years ago)

pizzadog, I think it's a great road to travel, and I would do it myself if my circumstances permitted it. Maybe I will some day. I spent about five years living that existence and it was bittersweet communion with the void all the way. I realised true and deep things about life I've since almost forgotten, and experienced bliss every day.

― the music mole (colin s barrow), Tuesday, 16 December 2003 10:26 (twenty-two years ago)

one year passes...

I'll add my belated reply to this thread.

I am, at this point, an absolute hermit. I have no friends or associates. I spend my days reading, browsing the internet, playing my guitar or walking in the hills. I walk about ten miles a day. True, over the years my personality has become so eccentric and stunted (as one can no doubt see from my recent posts on this board) that a normal life seems impossible, but the alternative was endless anxiety and complications involved in trying to live a normal existence. This is the way it is to be, I suppose. I have come to accept it.

― Dialectical Dave (Dialectical Dave), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 19:22 (twenty-one years ago)

Hey, I always like to think that its perfectly acceptable for monks and the like to cloister away for years on end and not even talk to anyone, just meditate eat and sleep, so I say go for it if you want to be alone.

I've been alone/indoors a lot while not working and I like it, though now and then I get a wee bit stir crazy, so I go walking.

― Trayce (trayce), Thursday, 14 April 2005 01:00 (twenty-one years ago)

if i don't talk to anyone for more than a couple of days, i begin to feel very strange. like i'm getting out of practice engaging with others. i think if i went years without it i would completely lose my ability to relate to others.

― shine headlights on me (electricsound), Thursday, 14 April 2005 01:03 (twenty-one years ago)

Umm... Classic!

More to the point, I've been looking at graveyard shift jobs - there's always room for the overnight IT guy that runs the backups, make sure the network is running, etc.

― Elvis Telecom (Chris Barrus), Thursday, 14 April 2005 01:45 (twenty-one years ago)

Oh yeah I love working nights in a quiet IT environment with only a few things to do. Browse the web all you like, quiet as the grave, and if you do an earlier shift, say ending at midnight, you can finish work and go clubbing if you want!

― Trayce (trayce), Thursday, 14 April 2005 02:18 (twenty-one years ago)

Friends are Gay!

― Star Cauliflower (Star Cauliflower), Thursday, 14 April 2005 03:26 (twenty-one years ago)

you wish!

― shine headlights on me (electricsound), Thursday, 14 April 2005 03:31 (twenty-one years ago)

Ah, jesus, I've just been rereadng that last post above. The solemn angstiness of it makes me cringe.

"the alternative was endless anxiety and complications involved in trying to live a normal existence. This is the way it is to be, I suppose. I have come to accept it"

My God.

What I meant to say, was that I am a social retard and that I choose a life of solitude as a way to avoid dealing with it. It's not the "way it is to be" or some similar sub-livejournal nonsense.

― Dialectical Dave (Dialectical Dave), Thursday, 14 April 2005 09:35 (twenty-one years ago)

I wonder who DialectiCAL Dave could be?

― need one ask? (nostudium), Thursday, 14 April 2005 09:39 (twenty-one years ago)

I am not C-Man, although I have lurked here long enough to know who he is. I am an entirely distinct scottish cunt.

― Dialectical Dave (Dialectical Dave), Thursday, 14 April 2005 09:56 (twenty-one years ago)

How do you freaks bring food to the table, huh?

― Baaderonixxxorzh (Fabfunk), Thursday, 14 April 2005 12:32 (twenty-one years ago)

Well, that question will arise eventually. However I dropped out of university a month into my first year due to, ahem, mental...issues. (i.e. I was too preoccupied with finding the OMG MOSSAD HIDDEN CAMERAS to get much work done) so until I go back in September I will be leeching off my parents.

― Dialectical Dave (Dialectical Dave), Thursday, 14 April 2005 12:52 (twenty-one years ago)

This week, I am antisocial, unhinged and unsightly. This only means I'm 10% worse than any other week.

― Plus-Tech Whiz Kid (Disco) (Barima), Thursday, 14 April 2005 12:54 (twenty-one years ago)

wait a sec youre like 19 years old, wtf. that first post really was some kinda lj bullshit dude.

― hermetical harry, Thursday, 14 April 2005 12:56 (twenty-one years ago)

are you calum?

― Dialectical Dave (Dialectical Dave), Thursday, 14 April 2005 12:58 (twenty-one years ago)

Oh god this is getting worse...

― Baaderonixxxorzh (Fabfunk), Thursday, 14 April 2005 12:59 (twenty-one years ago)

What do you mean I'm like 19 years old, wtf. I acknowledged the lj-ness of my first post and have atoned.

― Dialectical Dave (Dialectical Dave), Thursday, 14 April 2005 13:00 (twenty-one years ago)

Oh god this is getting worse...

lol mental illness lol

― Dialectical Dave (Dialectical Dave), Thursday, 14 April 2005 13:00 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm 18, anyway

― Dialectical Dave (Dialectical Dave), Thursday, 14 April 2005 13:01 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm 31 and enjoy hermitude even more so as I grow older. I'm currently unemployed and this only magnifies my urges. The only person I ever see is my boyfriend. Going out to the grocery store becomes a strange and unusual adventure for me.

― Miss Misery (thatgirl), Thursday, 14 April 2005 14:48 (twenty-one years ago)

Hey fellow unemplyed hermit.

― Dialectical Dave (Dialectical Dave), Thursday, 14 April 2005 14:59 (twenty-one years ago)

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