my boyfriends family HATES me

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yeah, so me and my boyfriend have been together for like over a year now, and his family hates me. His parents think that i am too young for him, we are only 3 years and sum odd months apart. I feel like he lets this get to him...ok like one day, i went to his apartment, and i guess he had told his parents that we were "taking time off" (whatever that means) and so anyway, hid picture of my was in his dresser shoved underneath a bunch of shit, when i asked him about it he said that his sister came over and he didnt want her to ask questions and tell his mom and dad. yeah, so i eventually got over that. BUT THEN, a couple weekends ago he came over and i hadnt seen him in like 2 weeks, well he brought his sister with him, and i guess she hates me too coz she is a snob anyway and thinks she is better than. But like the whole time she was there, i was in my room and he went back there and she was bitchin and mouthin me, in MY house, in front of my sister, saying that she wanted to leave NOW and that she didnt want him back there with me and stuff....what a cunt. Anyway, if you were me, would you let this stuff get to you, or would you love him anyway despite his family???
Oh...dont forget, there is always that WHAT IF in the back of your mind telling you that IF he IS the one for you, you will never fit in. HELP ME!

― Les, Friday, 16 April 2004 02:29 (twenty-two years ago)

if he didn't stand up for you then get rid of the loser

― s1ocki (slutsky), Friday, 16 April 2004 02:31 (twenty-two years ago)

if he thinks you're the one for him then he'd be sticking up for you in front of his family not trying to disguise your existence. The person you're with should make you feel good about yourself, not like a piece of dogshit.

― ipsofacto (ipsofacto), Friday, 16 April 2004 02:33 (twenty-two years ago)

What they said.

Mind you, you say youre younger, which shouldnt be an issue, but how old are you? That could make a diff if hes like 18 and you're 15 for eg.

― Trayce (trayce), Friday, 16 April 2004 02:34 (twenty-two years ago)

or if you're 65 and he's 68.

― s1ocki (slutsky), Friday, 16 April 2004 02:34 (twenty-two years ago)

Im 16 and he is 19...

― Les, Friday, 16 April 2004 02:35 (twenty-two years ago)

theres your problem honey

― ipsofacto (ipsofacto), Friday, 16 April 2004 02:36 (twenty-two years ago)

his family has always been the type of people who have to have perfect kids...his dad is a dentist, they have money, my mom works in home health care and i barely have a dad if that means anything, but i dont think it should

― Les, Friday, 16 April 2004 02:37 (twenty-two years ago)

I don't think that's the problem Les.

― ipsofacto (ipsofacto), Friday, 16 April 2004 02:37 (twenty-two years ago)

Yeah I hate to say it, but that could be a bit of an issue. It shoulnt be, but I can kinda see how some parents might have a problem with it (have they said youre too young?)

He should stand up for you tho, not shove your pic in a drawer! I mean blimey :/

Also no, where youre from shouldnt matter, and in the end neither should what his family thinks, but if *he* is letting it affect things, you should talk about that I guess.

― Trayce (trayce), Friday, 16 April 2004 02:38 (twenty-two years ago)

we have talked about it, he keeps saying they dont hate me, i finally got him to say his slut sister doesn't like me though, i mean, i not stupid

― Les, Friday, 16 April 2004 02:39 (twenty-two years ago)

Given the information you've presented I would imagine they probably don't hate you but feel their son having an (I assume) sexual relationship with an underage girl is more than a little inappropriate.

― ipsofacto (ipsofacto), Friday, 16 April 2004 02:41 (twenty-two years ago)

yeah, but they knew that he has done it before and they never had a problem with it then.

― Les, Friday, 16 April 2004 02:42 (twenty-two years ago)

I wouldnt worry about his sister hating you BTW. Sisters are evil piglets.

(NB can you tell I dont have a sister haha)

― Trayce (trayce), Friday, 16 April 2004 02:43 (twenty-two years ago)

When did ILE become "help me with my relationship schtick" central?

― Alex in SF (Alex in SF), Friday, 16 April 2004 02:43 (twenty-two years ago)

Plus, if he's going off to college and thinking about his career, they might feel as though the girl back home shouldn't enter into his long-term plans.

― Prude (Prude), Friday, 16 April 2004 02:43 (twenty-two years ago)

maybe they had an attack of the guilts or something. Maybe they realised the error of their ways.

― ipsofacto (ipsofacto), Friday, 16 April 2004 02:44 (twenty-two years ago)

Yeah, but this is what REALLY pisses me off is that his mom waited until our relationship got really serious to make a huge deal outta nothing. If she was SO worried about it, she should have confronted him long before...Right?

― Les, Friday, 16 April 2004 02:46 (twenty-two years ago)

Not neccesarily: it may be the seriousness theyre concerned about, and at your age I can understand that, I hate to say :/

― Trayce (trayce), Friday, 16 April 2004 02:48 (twenty-two years ago)

Perhaps, however parents make mistakes too.

― ipsofacto (ipsofacto), Friday, 16 April 2004 02:48 (twenty-two years ago)

Only very stupid parents try to influence who their children date because all children LIVE to date people their parent's disapprove of. So don't worry you are safe, Les.

― Alex in SF (Alex in SF), Friday, 16 April 2004 02:50 (twenty-two years ago)

thanks

― Les, Friday, 16 April 2004 02:50 (twenty-two years ago)

Welp, im gonna go, thanks for everything guys! talk to ya soon
¤Les¤

― Les, Friday, 16 April 2004 02:52 (twenty-two years ago)

Wow. The difference between this thread and the no-sex one is making my head spin.

― Trayce (trayce), Friday, 16 April 2004 02:59 (twenty-two years ago)

That's cuz there is no-sex on this thread.

― Alex in SF (Alex in SF), Friday, 16 April 2004 02:59 (twenty-two years ago)

This thread's surprisingly un-snarky, which is nice.

― Prude (Prude), Friday, 16 April 2004 03:05 (twenty-two years ago)

(Stop jinxing it!)

― Tep (ktepi), Friday, 16 April 2004 03:06 (twenty-two years ago)

(Eep! Sorry...)

― Prude (Prude), Friday, 16 April 2004 03:08 (twenty-two years ago)

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