Have you ever dated somone who doesn't speak your main/native langauge?

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just curious.

― Debito (Debito), Friday, 23 April 2004 04:55 (twenty-two years ago)

I had this bettie once, and she totally wasn't biting on my chew, if you dig my drift? So, I just grooved on over and just, like, told her we should just rock on, ya know?

― donut bitch (donut), Friday, 23 April 2004 05:07 (twenty-two years ago)

I don't know what to say. I hope it worked out for the best.

― Debito (Debito), Friday, 23 April 2004 05:08 (twenty-two years ago)

oh yeah it's great

― cinniblount (James Blount), Friday, 23 April 2004 05:08 (twenty-two years ago)

Debito you seen Bottle Rocket?

― cinniblount (James Blount), Friday, 23 April 2004 05:09 (twenty-two years ago)

one of my old college chums came up to me a couple of years ago and told me he was seeing someone. I congratulated him (which is the proper response when presented with such news from some of my friends) and asked him what she was like. "Well, she's not much in the face department, she doesn't speak very good English, we have nothing in common, but man does she have a great body!" Which she doesn't BTW. anyway they've been dating for two years now, good for them.

― Gear! (Gear!), Friday, 23 April 2004 05:10 (twenty-two years ago)

a friend of a friend's longterm partner spoke virtually no english when they got together (but she knew italian reasonably well). it made get-togethers every-so-slightly awkward due to the constant translating. he speaks fairly fluent english now.

― the surface noise (electricsound), Friday, 23 April 2004 05:11 (twenty-two years ago)

Gear, keep in mind she probably said the same about him to her friends (substitute appropriate other language for 'English').

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Friday, 23 April 2004 05:12 (twenty-two years ago)

yeah he's not much in the face either.

― Gear! (Gear!), Friday, 23 April 2004 05:15 (twenty-two years ago)

I haven't. Am I missing something?

― Debito (Debito), Friday, 23 April 2004 05:30 (twenty-two years ago)

I dated a girl who didn't speak much English once. She had a bad habit of sleeping with dudes who didn't speak much English too. I guess we just didn't have enough in common.

― Huck, Friday, 23 April 2004 05:38 (twenty-two years ago)

Yeah. It really didn't work out. But not because his English was rubbish and my Dutch was rubbish - but because he was crazy!

Do I have a SIGN on my forehead or something? Saying "If you are a STALKER FREAK attach yourself to me!" Except it's in Dutch or Spanish or Hindi or something so I can't read it?

That's not even counting the Italian guy I dated for about a week and a half because his understanding of English was perfect except for the word "No".

― Super-Kate (kate), Friday, 23 April 2004 06:59 (twenty-two years ago)

I haven't, but my wife has -- her English is absolutely terrific and nearly accent free, and when I met her, my German was pathetic. We got married anyway, but things have been so much nicer and more interesting since my German has improved.

― Colin M on the road, Friday, 23 April 2004 08:25 (twenty-two years ago)

This always strikes me as unutterably dud but it hasn't happened to me yet so I'll reserve final judgement. Oh no, hold on, it HAS. Ha ha. It didn't work out too well!

― Dadaismus (Dada), Friday, 23 April 2004 09:00 (twenty-two years ago)

Well, Rover doesn't say much but he sure seems to understand me!

― Dan I. (Dan I.), Friday, 23 April 2004 09:07 (twenty-two years ago)

Growing up near the border this was pretty much an inevitability. He was the only punk rocker in school so we were meant to be together even though we didn't share a language. We communicated via mix tapes, it worked out for about a month.

― teeny (teeny), Friday, 23 April 2004 09:22 (twenty-two years ago)

I have dated two or three Scots, which is pretty much the same thing. Certainly was when they met my (deaf) mother anyway, soon she would give up trying to lipread and say 'well I don't know what he's talking about but he looks pretty so well done dear.'

― Archel (Archel), Friday, 23 April 2004 09:53 (twenty-two years ago)

I always find the idea kind of suspicious and ridiculous. But maybe I am too hung up on language and should discover the art of mime as the key to the soul or something.

― N. (nickdastoor), Friday, 23 April 2004 22:04 (twenty-two years ago)

"I dated this girl once. She had a real butter face. Everything was great about her.. BUT'TER FACE!"

(note: this is a joke.. not necessarily a good one, either)

― donut bitch (donut), Friday, 23 April 2004 22:12 (twenty-two years ago)

"good in the face", nevertheless, is now in my new vocabulary.

― donut bitch (donut), Friday, 23 April 2004 22:17 (twenty-two years ago)

Until I met my girlfriend about ten years ago, I hadn't been out with a native English speaking girl since high school.

― Michael White (Hereward), Friday, 23 April 2004 22:24 (twenty-two years ago)

Yeah, but could they speak English as a second language?

― N. (nickdastoor), Friday, 23 April 2004 22:28 (twenty-two years ago)

Oh bollocks. I've just asked the exact same question on another thread. Complete coincidence, I assure you. Sorry!

― Will McKenzie, Friday, 23 April 2004 22:30 (twenty-two years ago)

In varying degrees. I realize I should ammend my last post since my main and native language is a personal kind of gibberish impenetrable to anyone including myself though that doesn't keep me from writing in it.

― Michael White (Hereward), Friday, 23 April 2004 22:31 (twenty-two years ago)

It's not quite the same question, Will, as yours could cover people who just aren't native speakers, but yes, it is odd.

― N. (nickdastoor), Friday, 23 April 2004 22:34 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm currently dating a French girl and we only speak in French. It's OK - but I'm waiting for our first argument when she will surely kick my rosbif ass.

― Will McKenzie, Friday, 23 April 2004 22:37 (twenty-two years ago)

Be a pedant and tell her she should call you a godon.

― Michael White (Hereward), Friday, 23 April 2004 22:39 (twenty-two years ago)

Excellent! That's one for the mental notebook, Michael.

― Will McKenzie, Friday, 23 April 2004 22:43 (twenty-two years ago)

Do you know the word?

― Michael White (Hereward), Friday, 23 April 2004 22:49 (twenty-two years ago)

Non, franchement! I assumed it was some kind of culinary word? Tell all!

― Will McKenzie, Friday, 23 April 2004 23:04 (twenty-two years ago)

Met a German girl called Fatima in an Aberystwyth nightclub once. Her companion was tall, fair-haired and a bit butch. But Fatima was petite, dark-haired and elfin. She didn't believe me when I told her how gorgeous she was! She had no English, I had no German, so we communicated in broken French. We danced. Then we made love within the ruins of Aberystwyth castle at about 1:30 am. I do remember at one stage she said "C'est bon" and all I could think of to say back was "Tu a raison"! Oh how we laughed. Happy memories.

― Dorien Thomas (Dorien Thomas), Saturday, 24 April 2004 16:22 (twenty-two years ago)

Godon

A derogatory word for the English which dates back to the Hundred Years War. Derived from 'goddamn' uttered so frequently by vulgar soldiers. Archaic, though de Gaulle used it as recently as the 50s.

― Michael White (Hereward), Saturday, 24 April 2004 16:36 (twenty-two years ago)

I had an extremely brief fling with a lass I met at the Liquid Room in Tokyo after a Mansun gig - she literally leapt on me, we got by with my then minimal Japanese skills, and we communicated thereafter mainly by fax other than the few times we actually met, in order to avoid the perils of the mutually incomprehensible phone call thing.

― darren (darren), Saturday, 24 April 2004 16:44 (twenty-two years ago)

and we communicated thereafter mainly by fax other than the few times we actually met

The first time I read that sentence I missed the "other than" and it seemed like the best story in the world.

― N. (nickdastoor), Saturday, 24 April 2004 16:54 (twenty-two years ago)

N, looking back I think it would have been somewhat better had it been that way :-)

― darren (darren), Saturday, 24 April 2004 20:33 (twenty-two years ago)

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