Guys who think the lead singer girl has the hots for them

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OK, this is inspired by the Guys Who Think The Barmaid blah blah thread.

Something that's arguably worse: guys who are at gigs - small, local ones, generally speaking - and think that someone in the band is coming on to them. Either when they're on stage, or if they get chatting to the band afterwards.

Better or worse? More deluded, or less deluded? You decide.

― caitlin (caitlin), Friday, 23 April 2004 09:05 (twenty-two years ago)

BWAH HAH HAH HAH HAH HAH HAH!!!

What about "guys who don't notice that the lead singer chick has the hots for them until they see her leaving in a cab and try to pull her out..." (not that has ever happened to me, oh no...)

― Super-Kate (kate), Friday, 23 April 2004 09:09 (twenty-two years ago)

Various bands/groups I have been in, I've ended up being 'pretendy boyfriend' to various girl band member colleagues, while chatting to people afterwards...

― mark grout (mark grout), Friday, 23 April 2004 09:10 (twenty-two years ago)

'pretendy boyfriend' for various girl band ........

(i.e. it was their idea)

― mark grout (mark grout), Friday, 23 April 2004 09:11 (twenty-two years ago)

The weird thing is, I don't think that girls in bands suffer from it any more than guys in bands do.

I mean, how many times do you see guys in bands *surrounded* by girls who want to chat/pull?

With girls, it's a more threatening sort of power dynamic. It's weird. I used to be totally flattered by it, I just thought "groupies, wa-hey, that's what I go to gigs for!" But sometimes it can be downright creepy.

― Super-Kate (kate), Friday, 23 April 2004 09:13 (twenty-two years ago)

It's more a problem with the "Creepy Fanzine Guy" usually (no offense to any of my lovely friends who do non-creepy fanzines!) who cause the strangeness.

― Super-Kate (kate), Friday, 23 April 2004 09:14 (twenty-two years ago)

I don't think that girls in bands suffer from it any more than guys in bands do.

True, but they usually want it less...

― mark grout (mark grout), Friday, 23 April 2004 09:15 (twenty-two years ago)

May I repeat... groupies were WHAT I WAS IN A BAND FOR!!!

― Super-Kate (kate), Friday, 23 April 2004 09:16 (twenty-two years ago)

(Perhaps girls in bands are pickier than guys in bands.)

― Super-Kate (kate), Friday, 23 April 2004 09:16 (twenty-two years ago)

Yes, the stereotype is always that men in bands will just be impressed that they've got groupies, and not worry about it being creepy. And, also, that male fans are more likely to be creepy than female ones.

(xpost)

― caitlin (caitlin), Friday, 23 April 2004 09:17 (twenty-two years ago)

Lots of female groupies are *just* as creepy as the C-man type creepy male groupies. Like I said, the guys just don't CARE.

― Super-Kate (kate), Friday, 23 April 2004 09:18 (twenty-two years ago)

Dawn used to be quite fretful about my going off to play gigs if she didn't go (another evening of the same old ska tracks tends to pall after a while), particularly one time she was on a night shift, and I called her at 3.00 to find her worried. She calmed down anyhow.

The next gig she did come to, along with some family and friends. This one time, a couple girls made their intentions known, shall we say? One shouted "Give it some, bassplayer". I looked over and laughed in her general direction, what she didn;t know was Dawn was sat right behind her, and it was actually her I was sharing the joke with. Afterwards she asked the big question, "Would you have, if you were single etcet?", I was "Her, yeah she was alright, if i was 10 years younger. Her mate absolutely no way". After that, having seen the face of the devil, shall we say?, she never worried again.

― mark grout (mark grout), Friday, 23 April 2004 09:24 (twenty-two years ago)

Well, this thread died a premature death...

― Super-Kate (kate), Friday, 23 April 2004 10:07 (twenty-two years ago)

cool, kate, does that mean we'll have groupies for our various nonexistent bands?

― colette (a2lette), Friday, 23 April 2004 10:30 (twenty-two years ago)

Yes. Oh yes. Imaginary groupies for imaginary bands!

(Except if I keep writing and recording at the rate I'm going, I'm going to need a proper imaginary band to promote a proper imaginary album within about a week and a half.)

― Super-Kate (kate), Friday, 23 April 2004 10:31 (twenty-two years ago)

I thought men only fancied bassists?

― Dom Passantino (Dom Passantino), Friday, 23 April 2004 10:33 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm in!
x-post

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Friday, 23 April 2004 10:34 (twenty-two years ago)

Oh man, I had a good friend INSIST that Corin Tucker was giving him the eye at a gig once, despite my "it's her onstage thing"/"yr gay"/"she's married" insistences

― Mr Mime (Andrew Thames), Friday, 23 April 2004 10:34 (twenty-two years ago)

That was classic obv I think

― Mr Mime (Andrew Thames), Friday, 23 April 2004 10:35 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm actually faintly serious here. I've been writing and recording songs. I could probably scrape together a record label and/or distribution and possibly management. But there's no way in hell I'm ever going on tour again, doing promotional work, or playing a gig ever again in my life. I wonder if I can just recruit a gang of my mates to mime to backing tracks. If it's good enough for Katz and Kasenatz, it's good enough for me!

― Super-Kate (kate), Friday, 23 April 2004 10:37 (twenty-two years ago)

Dude!!!

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Friday, 23 April 2004 10:37 (twenty-two years ago)

Be Brian Wilson

― Mr Mime (Andrew Thames), Friday, 23 April 2004 10:38 (twenty-two years ago)

Anyway, back on topic here... the funny thing is, that from the stage, there are two scenarios:

1) there are horrible bright spotlights, and you can't see a bloody THING, so any eye contact is purely coincidental, as the person is just looking at the pretty lights.

2) On many stages, the smaller the club, the more likely, from the stage, you can see (and often hear) EVERYTHING. A good performer takes advantage of this to MAKE EYE CONTACT with the punters/fans/whatever.

Is the person onstage looking at you? Probably. Are they thinking that they want to take you home/get married/have hot groupie sex? No.

― Super-Kate (kate), Friday, 23 April 2004 10:39 (twenty-two years ago)

i'll be a mime.

i'll actually be in your band, if you don't mind the fact that i don't play anything. but i've said that before.

i want real groupies. that would be so cool!

(xpost)

― colette (a2lette), Friday, 23 April 2004 10:39 (twenty-two years ago)

i always thought the crazier the groupies the better (until it becomes like homicidal of course), like, hey! groupies are supposed to be freaks so it must be amusing to have freakazoids following you around. (unless you're trying to pull someone else i guess)

― ken c (ken c), Friday, 23 April 2004 10:41 (twenty-two years ago)

I know the spotlight thing, but it is odd how often it seems like they are staring at you. Like a photograph where the person is looking right into the lens.

― N. (nickdastoor), Friday, 23 April 2004 10:42 (twenty-two years ago)

Depends on the venue, N. At the Astoria, I couldn't see a bloody thing of the audience. At the Shepherds Bush Empire, I could see every single person in the audience. (Except for some of the balcony seats.)

― Super-Kate (kate), Friday, 23 April 2004 10:45 (twenty-two years ago)

hey! groupies are supposed to be freaks so it must be amusing to have freakazoids following you around.

Errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr, no

― Dadaismus (Dada), Friday, 23 April 2004 10:45 (twenty-two years ago)

Actually, I was once sure that Jarvis Cocker was staring at me.

― N. (nickdastoor), Friday, 23 April 2004 12:03 (twenty-two years ago)

so was i, but that was because i had him tied to a chair and gagged.

― Felonious Drunk (Felcher), Friday, 23 April 2004 17:27 (twenty-two years ago)

I've got all the talent and all the guitar-welding poses, but none of the imagination. I can session for you Kate! You can have the money and the artistic freedom, and I'll have the fame and groupie sex. Deal?

― Johnney B (Johnney B), Friday, 23 April 2004 20:01 (twenty-two years ago)

Hrmmm. If you'll get a good haircut and wear the clothes I tell you to, you've got a deal, Johnny B!

― Super-Kate (kate), Saturday, 24 April 2004 06:47 (twenty-two years ago)

Kate, I totally had that same mime group idea a couple of years ago. I was going to do it too, but I chickened out. But I had been reading "Bubblegum Music is the Naked Truth" and listening to the Monkees a lot, and I had all these songs I'd recorded that I really liked, but I was too lazy to find people to be in a band with and teach them all the songs. So I was going to get friends to pretend to play instruments over the prerecorded songs, sort of as a bubblegum homage. It was also partially inspired by my friend Brian having this totally awesome Vox organ that was broken but looked really nice. I should have done it. Damn it.

― NA (Nick A.), Saturday, 24 April 2004 13:46 (twenty-two years ago)

Right then Kate, consider your hand shook. (I need people to tell me how to cut my hair and what to wear anyway, so I won't know the difference, except for all the groupie sex!)

― Johnney B (Johnney B), Saturday, 24 April 2004 17:47 (twenty-two years ago)

(P.S. Has your music got you groupie sex in the past?)

― Johnney B (Johnney B), Saturday, 24 April 2004 18:19 (twenty-two years ago)

freakazoid guys are creepier than freaky girls, who are mostly harmless. case in point: Arlan He|m. eeeeewwwwwww!!!!!

― Orbit (Orbit), Sunday, 25 April 2004 17:38 (twenty-two years ago)

Once the violinist from the Dambuilders licked her lips at me. I was at a complete loss at how to interpret this gesture.

― J (Jay), Sunday, 25 April 2004 23:31 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm not totally dud, then, am I?

― J (Jay), Sunday, 25 April 2004 23:31 (twenty-two years ago)

(I need people to tell me how to cut my hair and what to wear anyway, so I won't know the difference, except for all the groupie sex!)

You're a Barlow, surely girls follow you around all the time as it is.

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Sunday, 25 April 2004 23:49 (twenty-two years ago)

Groupie sex, bwah hah hah. I don't think I would ever have had a boyfriend in my life if I hadn't been in a band!

― Super-Kate (kate), Monday, 26 April 2004 07:05 (twenty-two years ago)

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