Strange friends and their mannerisms

One friend speaks in an affected accent somewhere between posh RP and southern Irish though he has lived in estuary England all his life. He hasn't cut his hair since about 1997, not because he prefers it that way, but more upon principal because people keep telling him to get it cut. He once went to Siberia and wore nothing but a long sleeved shirt, whilst in England it is not uncommon he will sit in a pub garden in the snow wearing nothing more than a vest. Though he looks quite lean he's actually a bit good at the old Wing Chun and could have anyone I know (especially if they take the piss out of his hair). The world is a climbing frame for this guy. Walk through the high street with him and he'll be jumping over bins, hanging from scaffolding etc. He once put out a lit cigarette on the side of his head and also stamped out a burning crisp packet with the flat of his hand. He is a computer engineer and systems analyst for a large computer company and is one of the few people I know who I would class in the "genius" category. He is also one of my best friends.

a friend of mine was giving me a lift from a party last night, and as i was telling him about a cousin of mine, he comes out with some kinda really unsubtle comment about her being fit. so im like 'er what?' but then instead of making it better, he comes out with, 'shes the type of girl that makes you wanna sing 'sister'' (as in the prince song about incest). so im like ' er WHAT?!' i mean, theres nothing wrong with perving on mates family members, but saying i might want to fuck my cousin is kinda gross imo. anyway i told him afterwards, and he apologised. maybe cos i was feeling petty, it didnt seem good enough tho lol, so i texted him for good measure again to say that i didnt wanna hear anything like that.

sounds par for the course for bro style ballbusting

what do you do when ppl make 'yr mom' jokes

yr mom jokes are fine. as long as its in good humour. saying i want to fuck my cousin is a bit off key in my book. esp cos i remember this same mate getting on his high horse a few years back when i said something similar about his cousin.

i cd have just said somethin about his cousins of course, but i dunno, felt like i just wanted to be a bit of an arse and get serious about it.

so you're the friend who's strange because he had the exact same reaction when you made the same joke, but you got all butthurt when he did it this time?

what i'm taking from this story is that you want to fuck your cousin

i'd rather not take anything from this story and instead give it a wide berth.

post pic of said cousin to ws thread for full evaluation imo

so you're the friend who's strange because he had the exact same reaction when you made the same joke, but you got all butthurt when he did it this time?

he got butthurt last time too. very in fact. he got very holier than thou.

what i'm taking from this story is that you want to fuck your cousin

oh fuck off.

weird

No smoke without fire.

i'd rather not take anything from this story and instead give it a wide berth.

― estela, Sunday, October 11, 2009 8:56 PM (Yesterday)

I have a friend who always walks off in mid conversation and if he's been at my house he also leaves the door wide open - WITHOUT FAIL. I saw him today for about 2 minutes, at my place. He's very hard to "pin down". Our conversation:
him: oh you have one of these (wobbly kids toy thing that chimes)
me: it's my friend Dean's
him: who's Dean? oh is he one of your FRIENDS (sounding sarcastic: I don't have many friends)
me: ( )
him: oh you have one of these (a "rain stick"), picks it up
me: that's Dean's too
meanwhile he's muttering free association on the rain stick theme, "is Dean an alien?" he sees the picture I have sitting nearby of the torso of an Ethiopian woman with scar patterns - "oh is THAT Dean?" - abruptly walks out the door, leaving it wide open, saying "does Dean speak english?" then I didn't catch the rest because he was gone.
This sounds like he's contrived but he really is NOT striving to be odd.

― cuspidorian (cuspidorian), Tuesday, May 18, 2004 10:28 AM (5 years ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

amazing^^

so what youre saying is you want to give birth to estela's cousin

I had this friend in high school who was muy weird-for-weird's-sake. He never had much of an affect so he was hard to read, emotionally. He was always doing this wacky shit, stuff that made no sense, his own Andy Kaufman bit all the time. One time he needed a ride to his father's home – he lived with his mom, and that's where his school bus went. I happened to have the family car that day so I drove him home and decided I'd try his bit back on him & see how he liked it, so I said the most deliberately nonsensical stuff I could about his dad as I drove him there. He didn't say anything back. Finally outweirded him, I thought. It turns out his dad had had a stroke that day & that's why he'd gone to his dad's. I still feel like a jackass about all this.

u got strange'd

so have any of you ever started having reservations about a friend you see regularly and had to deal with the consequences?

i went away for a bit with some friends a while ago and on the trip i saw a diff side of one of them, who acted in a v spoiled way for the duration. it was sort of a series of minor things, but grouped together they make me think of her as a v rude person, albeit unintentionally, it's just a natural trait of spoiledness or something. basically it was my parents apartment and she showed no real appreciation for the fact it's a free holiday, losing a set of keys and making no effort to look for them, taking out a lightbulb cos she didn't like the light (!! unscrewing it) then leaving the bulb to blow off a table and break, sleeping on the sofa cos "i don't want to sleep in that room".

none of these things are a major deal as such just i now can't see her as the friend i did before, i've no real major dislike, i just don't want to hang out anymore as i'd find myself just noticing repeat patterns of this behaviour. but since there was no overt falling out i keep having to refuse invitations to do things or make excuses.

i feel a bit bad as i don't think my friend can actually change this behaviour, it's just who she is. but obv also i don't have to hang out with her in sympathy of that.

have you ever had a similar situation? i mean, all friends have their quirks or whatever, but in this case now i've discovered this side to my friend i don't think i can see any other sides!

I've been in that situation but usually it's someone I'm "friends" with because it's a FOAF, not because I directly made friends with that person. I hate just not returning phone calls because it makes me feel guilty and corrupted.

Facebook does weird things to your friendships. When I was younger I had a huge group of friends, a pack of about twenty or thirty people. They are nice enough online and are happy to catch up with everyone but when it's time to plan get-togethers, they would rather hook up with some acquaintances from this creepy and ultra conservative church. Some of them even deleted profiles because ours are so offensive to their church. It's a conflict that is simmering, where some people always hated the church and can't believe so-and-so is still going there. I wish this thing would have died and we could all be civil.

I'm not deleting anyone because I am actively involved in my community. I have no difficulty being civil and no one has a particular beef with me, except I did get into a nasty fight with at least one person over the same really old rubbish.

The older I get the more I think I am the strange friend with weird mannerisms. :\

nah my close friends are incapable of surprising me in this way tbh. tho my older brother would be well capable of the kind of behaviours you've described ronan, it's basically typical of very self-centred people. just don't take people like that on group outings, ever, when it can be avoided.

My closest friend in Las Cruces has the curious mannerism of not liking to reply to phone calls. She doesn't like talking on the phone at all. She doesn't check her email or facebook page, and she says she's too lazy reply to letters. I knew when I moved away that all these things meant I would probably never talk to her again, and I was right. She hasn't tried to communicate with me, or reply to any of my attempts at all. It's kind of bumming me out.

x-post yeah people i've known for longer wouldn't surprise me, i guess this is more a case of hanging out with someone lots and lots over a few months, which is why suddenly stopping may seem weird to them.

do it anyway, sure if she asks why, out with it! 'you're only an aul witch is why'

I don't mind a friend being quirky as long as they acknowledge it, i.e. people who never return e-mail or phone calls, I know a lot of people who just say "I probably won't return your call" etc. and then it doesn't bother me at all.