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I think I've just had another panic attack over the new terrorist warnings. It's ebbing away but I'm seriously thinking that I just can't live like this anymore and part of my problem is living in New York City. I love this city but I can't be happy in it when I always feel like there's a target on my back, and I can't bring myself to enjoy what's in here. Living somewhere won't make me feel totally safe -- nothing will -- but it'll make feel somewhat safer, at least.

So how do I move? Where do I go? I seriously don't know how to start.

Michael Daddino (epicharmus), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 02:06 (twenty-two years ago)

noooo! don't leave, mike!!!!

geeta (geeta), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 02:47 (twenty-two years ago)

:(

also we should hang out soon!! what's your schedule like this week/weekend? (email me offlist)

geeta (geeta), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 02:49 (twenty-two years ago)

Wow.

Andrew (enneff), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 03:08 (twenty-two years ago)

You can't leave! (Granted I'm probably going to be bailing in the next couple of years myself, but SOMEONE cool has to stay here.)

stockholm cindy (Jody Beth Rosen), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 04:09 (twenty-two years ago)

you're not alone, mike.

i should know better, but this latest warning is freaking me out too. i don't know whether i would move ... but this is wearing on me, too.

Eisbär (llamasfur), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 04:15 (twenty-two years ago)

(I know this won't make the NYC people happy but) Michael, it sounds like you've been needing an escape of some kind anyhow -- not permanent necessary, but some form of getting away from NYC for a small time, at least.

I'm obviously going to raise Seattle's flag here and say "come visit us!" and want you to see what it's all about here. I'm sure anybody here would be willing to let you stay at their place. I certainly would.

donut bitch (donut), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 04:45 (twenty-two years ago)

(But don't move until I visit in June, dammit! :) )

donut bitch (donut), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 04:45 (twenty-two years ago)

(Would it be so bad if he moved to Seattle before you visited in June?)

Casuistry (Chris P), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 04:46 (twenty-two years ago)

Michael was one of my tour guides the first time I was in NYC.. it just wouldn't be right if I visited and he wasn't there...at least the second time around. But of COURSE it wouldn't be bad, Casu!

donut bitch (donut), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 04:50 (twenty-two years ago)

People have to understand that I'm susceptible to panic attacks, and even well before 9/11, I was freaking out about terrorism. In fact, on 9/10, I missed my train and sood outside of Penn Station while it was raining because I was so uncomfortable about being in such a bombable place. For me, in spite of loving this city and what it has to offer, living here is sort of like an asthmatic moving in the middle of an open field of goldenrod. Living elsewhere would help my situation a lot.

So, seriously, how do I go about moving to another city when I don't have a job or a home there yet?

Michael Daddino (epicharmus), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 07:01 (twenty-two years ago)

So, seriously, how do I go about moving to another city when I don't have a job or a home there yet?

Hey Mike, let's trade... I'm moving to NYC with no job or home there.

Elvis Telecom (Chris Barrus), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 07:09 (twenty-two years ago)

So, seriously, how do I go about moving to another city when I don't have a job or a home there yet?

Try a few searches, I'm sure there's been a thread on this before.

I'm sorry to hear of your condition. Are you seeing a psychologist or counsellor? (I must stress: not a psychiatrist) They can be really helpful with stuff like this.

Andrew (enneff), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 07:18 (twenty-two years ago)

I do agree that moving away from the source of your anxiety would definitely help you, though.

Andrew (enneff), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 07:18 (twenty-two years ago)

Funnily enough, after trying to talk me down and allay my worries, my mom called me later to tell she just listened to the news reports and said I was doing the right thing. Not the response I expected.

Michael Daddino (epicharmus), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 09:59 (twenty-two years ago)

Mike, I have terrible panic attacks too. I think you are making the right decision. In fact I refuse to even visit NYC because of fear of an attack. Well you could start by looking for jobs and visiting places for interviews and do a apt search at the same time. You could always move to Worcester, we need more cool people. And its not exactly a highly bombable place.

Chris 'The Velvet Bingo' V (Chris V), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 11:02 (twenty-two years ago)

Well you could start by looking for jobs and visiting places for interviews and do a apt search at the same time.

That seems a bit high stress for me. I think I'd rather snag an apartment first, then spend my time looking for a job.

Michael Daddino (epicharmus), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 11:18 (twenty-two years ago)

If you have the means to do so, then go for it. I think you'd probably feel a lot better about things if you left.

Chris 'The Velvet Bingo' V (Chris V), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 11:20 (twenty-two years ago)

hey worcester is cheap-o.

Chris 'The Velvet Bingo' V (Chris V), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 11:20 (twenty-two years ago)

I do have the means; I've got quite a bit of money saved up, and I've been told that I can sell my current apartment at a profit (even though the floor now needs to be refinished).

Michael Daddino (epicharmus), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 11:21 (twenty-two years ago)

Yeah, but does Worcester have jobs-O?

Michael Daddino (epicharmus), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 11:21 (twenty-two years ago)

what do you do?

Chris 'The Velvet Bingo' V (Chris V), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 11:29 (twenty-two years ago)

and I won't get into the whole Boston vs. NY thing, but Boston is 45 minutes away.

Chris 'The Velvet Bingo' V (Chris V), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 11:30 (twenty-two years ago)

None of you find the timing of this latest 'warning' suspicious? That it came out right after a poll showing Bush about to fall below the deadly 40% approval line and with negative ratings on every single issue except terrorism? And right before Al Gore will give a speech (in three hours) calling for the resignation of 7 Bush administration officials for their failures in Iraq?

How about the fact that the release contains zero new content (read the stories on this closely; some quote the sources as saying that there is no new information, only a new 'assessment')? Yes, it lists a vague timeframe for anticipated attacks. We've gotten that before. Yes, it lists some major events. We've gotten that before too. Note the explicit attempt in most stories to push the line that "the terrorists want to influence the outcome of the election" (i.e. Osama wants Kerry to win). Note that the threat level has not been raised. Note the absence of Tenet's voice from any of this. It's nothing he can deny, because it's so vague and 'historical.'

I'm not trying to cry wolf; I'm just saying that the administration would like us to live in fear as a political strategy, and that this should be taken with a grain of salt. Yes, New York is probably the least safe place you can be, and yes, you can probably assure your safety by moving to Elkhart, Indiana, but you can't predict what will happen next, where, when, or what the response will be. General Tommy Franks, former Centcom under Bush has said that if the United States is hit with a weapon of mass destruction that inflicts large casualties, "the Constitution will likely be discarded in favor of a military form of government." Where do you want to live then?

gabbneb (gabbneb), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 12:20 (twenty-two years ago)

New Zealand. Come on down, MD

Mr Mime (Andrew Thames), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 12:26 (twenty-two years ago)

None of you find the timing of this latest 'warning' suspicious?

Of course I find it suspicious, of course the information is vague, of course it's convenient. At this stage of my digust with BushCo. I won't put anything past them. But my panic attacks are not entirely rational, by definition.

Michael Daddino (epicharmus), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 12:30 (twenty-two years ago)

I know you're right, gabbneb. I know a lot of this is all about keeping people scared. But also, I totally understand your feelings, Michael.

It's just weird. Last night they had this preview for the evening news and the newswoman said, "The National Terror alert level is as high as it's been since September 11th. More tonight at 10pm!" She had this big smile on her face and it creeped me out.

Sarah McLusky (coco), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 12:33 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm an anxiety-ridden mess myself, and I'm pretty well sick of NYC, but I tend to agree with gabbneb. The administration has a stake in a kind of second-order terrorism to keep us panicky. I live next to the Manhattan Bridge and near the 911 call center, so every time shit like this happens there's a flood of guys with automatic weapons outside my building. But fuck these scare tactics, I'm staying and I'm gonna tell all those Republican muthas what's what come the end of August.

Dickerson Pike (Dickerson Pike), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 12:35 (twenty-two years ago)

Maybe the terrorist s will live up to their name and leave it at terro rather than carnage and death.

(I am not at all happy with travelling on the underground every day, and not entirely convinced with "giving up will mean the terrorists win". But, you know, this is life. Touch my bum.)

Markelby (Mark C), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 12:47 (twenty-two years ago)

WHO ARE THE CHEEKY TERRORISTS

Mr Mime (Andrew Thames), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 12:52 (twenty-two years ago)


None of you find the timing of this latest 'warning' suspicious?

I agree too it's very suspicious, but at the same time I've read a few stories on Stratfor and elsewhere that suggest that Western intelligence services are getting increasing numbers of leads and breakthroughs vis-a-vis various terrorist groups (which makes more sense than to say 'al-Qaeda' as a whole). The story itself as reported is nearly pure vapor -- it is indeed mostly restatements of previous concerns for this year -- but the larger point is perhaps something to keep in mind.

Ned Raggett (Ned), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 13:22 (twenty-two years ago)

Seriousness aside for a moment... This morning I went online to check the weather and the apple welcome page had a terror alert headline. I was imagining the terrorists going online, seeing the news headlines and saying, "Damn it! They ruined the surprise AGAIN!"

Sarah McLusky (coco), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 13:27 (twenty-two years ago)

As resident dude with a federal job here I'm going to just say once and for all that every single "warning" or "raised alert level" or whatever has been a total waste of time since the inception of the color-coded stupid wankballs panic people system. Every single one is totally full of shit and worthless and a totally unhelpful in every possible way. Fuck that shit and don't believe a word of any of it. There.

It is not worth it to spend your life in fear of things you cannot control.

But also you should obviously not consider moving to DC. Haha when they briefed us on the emergency evacuation procedures here everybody in my whole office just laughed, like we even have a chance in hell if shit goes down.

TOMBOT, Wednesday, 26 May 2004 13:33 (twenty-two years ago)

Just for that, I'm raising it to CODE BURNT SIENNA. See you in hell, Tombot. Mwahahahaha!

Donald Bumsfeld (Mark C), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 13:53 (twenty-two years ago)

CODE FLESH would be a great code.

Ned Raggett (Ned), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 13:55 (twenty-two years ago)

Missy's been cancelled, run for your lives!

hstencil (hstencil), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 14:00 (twenty-two years ago)

Meanwhile, Vermont and New York cops get terrorism info to protect you, the citizen. It seems.

Ned Raggett (Ned), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 14:02 (twenty-two years ago)

Code Flesh would be an awesome band name: I call it.

NA (Nick A.), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 14:02 (twenty-two years ago)

Indulge thyself.

Ned Raggett (Ned), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 14:04 (twenty-two years ago)

okay to be serious, I totally understand your panic, Michael. But I do think that it would probably be better to deal with it through therapy or something than to just move, because even in the most bucolic setting it'd probably remanifest itself.

hstencil (hstencil), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 14:04 (twenty-two years ago)

and obv. New York would suck without you. where would I find a good cowboy hat to wear?

hstencil (hstencil), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 14:05 (twenty-two years ago)

mike, you don't go to therapy for anxiety? i started going again 4 months ago and its the best thing i've done.

Chris 'The Velvet Bingo' V (Chris V), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 14:06 (twenty-two years ago)

I've had (lemme think for a second here) close to eight non-consecutive years of therapy in my life (that's 1985-1989 and 1998-2002) and I can't honestly say it's helped very much. Drugs, on the other hand, have helped quite a bit but always have felt like a crappy plasterwork coverup to the real problems, whatever they are.

Michael Daddino (epicharmus), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 14:22 (twenty-two years ago)

I wish I could afford to see a psychologist about anxiety. It's a real problem for me. :-(

Sarah McLusky (coco), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 14:31 (twenty-two years ago)

do you have health insurance, Sarah?

hstencil (hstencil), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 14:41 (twenty-two years ago)

It can be tough to get an apartment without a job. But it seems like you could sleep on anyone here's couch while you looked for something.

I'm not too worked up about "terrists" cause I'm kinda oblivious and hey whaddya gonna do. But, even though it's a horrible cliche, I'm seriously considering trying to move to Canada, depending on the results of the fall election. It's not so much the actual result--either party winning is likely to have little effect on me personally--as the fact that I don't want to live in a country that *approves* of all this crap.

mookieproof (mookieproof), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 14:42 (twenty-two years ago)

yeah, what happens in November will have more bearing on whether I stay in NYC than any potential for a terror strike (altho obv. if something bad does happen maybe that would affect things too).

hstencil (hstencil), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 14:43 (twenty-two years ago)

http://www.noaanews.noaa.gov/stories/images/bush-nws2.jpg

gabbneb (gabbneb), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 14:54 (twenty-two years ago)

"And you can watch your My Little Pony DVDs whenever you want!"

Ned Raggett (Ned), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 14:55 (twenty-two years ago)

the 3 key risky days for al queda attack

are 999 days after original 911 [this is June 8th 2004]
are 1000 days after original 911 [this is June 9th 2004]
and 1001 days after original 911 [this is June 10th 2004]

Bali bombing was 1 day 1 month 1 year after 911
Madrid was 911 days/ 2 and half years after 911

there are reports that secret services / military intelligence have been picking up extensive signals of terrorist build up.

google: terrorist warnings
http://news.google.com/news?q=terrorist%20warnings&num=100&hl=en&lr=&ie=UTF-8&c2coff=1&safe=off&sa=N&tab=wn

as reported in the media today
http://www.theage.com.au/articles/2004/05/26/1085461837717.html
now look at what is happening on june 8th/ and june 9th
the G8 Summit on June 8-9 at Sea Island, Georgia,

UK & US goverments don't want to release the number theory as it will scare the mass public, and the media are too dumb to work it out for themselves.

lets look at the numbers:

999 - this is British emergency number - so a possible attack in Britain, possibly London

1000 the big attack on America? but where?

1001 - like Room 101 - a surprise double attack? on America the day after the first attack.

DJ Martian (djmartian), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 14:57 (twenty-two years ago)

I'll be too happy celebrating Smarty Jones winning the Triple Crown to give a fuck.

hstencil (hstencil), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 14:58 (twenty-two years ago)

I humbly suggest the numerology aspect is overrated.

Ned Raggett (Ned), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 14:58 (twenty-two years ago)

but it's been used before Ned !

DJ Martian (djmartian), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 14:59 (twenty-two years ago)

what does numerology suggest in the way of a Belmont Stakes trifecta?

hstencil (hstencil), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 15:04 (twenty-two years ago)

That you should give part of your winnings to me, and I will use it wisely for alcohol.

Ned Raggett (Ned), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 15:10 (twenty-two years ago)

hahaha bet your own money, cheapskate! Even sunny California has OTBs (I think?).

hstencil (hstencil), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 15:10 (twenty-two years ago)

warnings like this lose effectiveness when every new threat is presente as the most serious and credible since bin laden struck on 9/11. i'm a huge panicker, but once i actually read the news stories i calmed down considerably.

lauren (laurenp), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 15:24 (twenty-two years ago)

Michael, I've been getting treated by a psychiatrist (stress, not psychologist) for panic attacks since last summer, mainly because I fear driving without having a panic attack. I think I've found something that keeps the panic attacks down, but I'm travelling too much to have time to concentrate on driving.

well anyway, as far as moving goes, I think the best to do is
* visit the city for a weekend, if possible. See if you at least initially like it. if you know people there, stay with them for free
* if you liked the city, then do one of the following things depending on how expensive it is:
- if expensive, try and look ahead into places or neighborhoods you'd like to move to, and get an application before you move back home
- if cheap, AND you have a willing friend hosting you, you can just look around and find a shorter six-month lease rental on the spot.

It really depends on the city you want to move to, when it comes to finding a job.

Probably the most important thing to ask is: are there jobs for me in that city given my resume/"career" at this point? Or... are there jobs willing to take me on in a completely new field, if I want to change? If there are, then it's a matter of luck and finding a job (which in these times can take a while, possibly months)

donut bitch (donut), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 15:33 (twenty-two years ago)

"and get an application before you travel back home"

donut bitch (donut), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 15:34 (twenty-two years ago)

my panic involves driving as well, in places that I am unfamiliar with and heights and mountains. So I took my first big test on my drive down to West Virginia and I did surprisingly well. Yay therapy.

Chris 'The Velvet Bingo' V (Chris V), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 15:37 (twenty-two years ago)

Washington Whispers (http://www.usnews.com/usnews/issue/040524/whispers/24whisplead.htm)
From the White House, a nightmare scenario

White House officials say they've got a "working premise" about terrorism and the presidential election: It's going to happen. "We assume," says a top administration official, "an attack will happen leading up to the election." And, he added, "it will happen here." There are two worst-case scenarios, the official says. The first posits an attack on Washington, possibly the Capitol, which was believed to be the target of the 9/11 jet that crashed in Pennsylvania. Theory 2: smaller but more frequent attacks in Washington and other major cities leading up to the election. To prepare, the administration has been holding secret antiterrorism drills to make sure top officials know what to do. "There was a sense," says one official involved in the drills, "of mass confusion on 9/11. Now we have a sense of order." Unclear is the political impact, though most Bushies think the nation would rally around the president. "I can tell you one thing," adds the official sternly, "we won't be like Spain," which tossed its government days after the Madrid train bombings.

mookieproof (mookieproof), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 16:23 (twenty-two years ago)

Moving out of NYC was one of the best things I ever did, psychologically speaking. I find it somewhat unbearable when I get back. This has not so much to do with the terrorism thing as it does with the general condition of NYC as a crowded and dirty and desparate town, but the National Guard types in Penn Station, say, do strike the fear in me.

Anyway, DB OTM.

Casuistry (Chris P), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 16:25 (twenty-two years ago)

The doctor said I have 5 months to live!!!!

TOMBOT, Wednesday, 26 May 2004 16:27 (twenty-two years ago)

"I can tell you one thing," adds the official sternly, "we won't be like Spain," which tossed its government days after the Madrid train bombings.

GODDAMMIT FUCK YOU YOU STUPID MOTHERFUCKERS!!!@!@#!@((@#!*#!@!!!@(!@(*

sorry everybody, that just makes me so angry. Of course we won't be like Spain, neither of our major pres. candidates are advocating leaving Iraq anytime soon!

hstencil (hstencil), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 16:30 (twenty-two years ago)

yes, you can probably assure your safety by moving to Elkhart, Indiana

haha gabbneb randomly picks somewhere where I have a ton of family. nb this is not a recommendation for elkhart.

teeny (teeny), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 16:46 (twenty-two years ago)

also to be more helpful daddino, I need to sublet out my apartment in two months! 3bd/2ba/garage, $600, perhaps you could also manage a radio station or at least do a morning show? I live in a lovely little college town in the midwest.

teeny (teeny), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 16:49 (twenty-two years ago)

I've been seriously considering Seattle or Minneapolis, or even just moving back to Long Island. My job is so specific (answering proposals and doing marketing for an interior design firm) I seriously doubt I'll be able to get anything like it anywhere, including NYC. I went to Seattle fifteen years ago and I loved the fuck of it; I've never been to Minneapolis but I've had a vague mental connection to it for years. Long Island is really my psychic homeland. Problem is that I don't know how to drive.

I think one plan would be to take a visit to a city solely for finding an apartment, and once I get there, I can take my time looking for the right job because I have quite a bit of money saved up.

Actually, teeny, that option sounds absurdly nice.

Michael Daddino (epicharmus), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 16:59 (twenty-two years ago)

I do love New York City, though. I really do. There are times when, walking through it, I'm just intoxicated by it...which may be the reason I want to move away, I can't stand to see it ruined.

Michael Daddino (epicharmus), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 17:03 (twenty-two years ago)

Would it be difficult for me to move to Toronto?

Michael Daddino (epicharmus), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 17:16 (twenty-two years ago)

it might be difficult to get citizenship, if that's what you want to do, but it wouldn't be hard to move there. I don't know about jobs but I'm sure there's prolly some American or Canadian firms there that would hire you despite not being Canadian.

hstencil (hstencil), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 17:17 (twenty-two years ago)

Keep in mind that, generally speaking (and I stress "generally"), Canadian salaries are lower in Canadian dollars than in the U.S. for the same job. Also sales tax is 14% (except in Alberta and maybe another province or two). That said, you get a not-perfect-but-much-cheaper health coverage, just by being a Canadian citizen... your currency looks awesome. And transit in major Canadian cities tend to be very good.

donut bitch (donut), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 17:25 (twenty-two years ago)

If you happen to know a bit of French, it will certainly help you, as far as moving to Canada. (I think you have to take a test on French to qualify, I believe)

donut bitch (donut), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 17:26 (twenty-two years ago)

I know some French but not enough, I wager. The main attraction of Toronto is that it's cosmopolitan and comparatively near-by.

Michael Daddino (epicharmus), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 17:43 (twenty-two years ago)

take the Skilled Worker Canadian immigration test

mookieproof (mookieproof), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 17:45 (twenty-two years ago)

its a bore though.
(xp)

phil-two (phil-two), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 17:45 (twenty-two years ago)

anyway, Michael, unless you've thought long and hard about this issue, I'd at least try take a vacation really soon -- especially since you've noted you really like NYC and love your job. Your attitude towards moving might change once you leave NYC for a bit, and who knows.. you might feel really homesick right away and decide against a move -- at least for now.

However, if you don't feel homesick and you feel the time has come for you to move, you are certainly in a position of power.

You live in one of the most expensive parts of the most expensive cities in the world. Unless you're planning to move to London or Tokyo, all other choices are going to be cheaper, if not HELLA cheaper. And you also OWN property in NYC. Again, you are certainly in a position of power. (Jen to thread)

It's just a matter of visiting a few places in mind, and it sounds like (from the choices you mentioned), you know people there that are willing to show you around and be your friend. Hell, you seem like the kind of guy that can make friends easy.

at least, I can certainly fill you in on the more social details of Seattle whenever you want. You can ask me. (perhaps on AIM someday, or in person, if you don't move by then.) Surely others here can fill you in on details of Minneapolis, Portland, Toronto, Elkhart, wherever...


donut bitch (donut), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 18:31 (twenty-two years ago)

Why all the Elkhart hate? I love it!

@d@ml (nordicskilla), Wednesday, 26 May 2004 18:33 (twenty-two years ago)

So...tell me about Pittsburgh, then.

Michael Daddino (epicharmus), Thursday, 27 May 2004 12:05 (twenty-two years ago)

Nice town, cheap (I was there last month and paid $3 for two pints of Yuengling), more cloudy days than almost anywhere, perhaps not all that exciting. Lotta bridges.

A friend of mine who went there for the opening of the Warhol museum years ago said, "Nice place to live; wouldn't want to visit."

mookieproof (mookieproof), Thursday, 27 May 2004 13:38 (twenty-two years ago)

Pittsburgh is okay but you never wanna spend a night in jail there, believe me.

hstencil (hstencil), Thursday, 27 May 2004 13:41 (twenty-two years ago)

A friend of mine who went there for the opening of the Warhol museum years ago said, "Nice place to live; wouldn't want to visit."

That actually sounds like my kind of town...or at least my kind of neighborhood, which of course is a totally different thing.

Michael Daddino (epicharmus), Thursday, 27 May 2004 14:03 (twenty-two years ago)

actually aside from bad experience involving the Allegheny County courthouse and jail, Pittsburgh seemed like a pretty nice place with a fair amount of stuff going on considering its size.

hstencil (hstencil), Thursday, 27 May 2004 14:21 (twenty-two years ago)

All the hills and rivers kind of segment the city into neighborhoods more than in other cities, so even though Pittsburgh's not terribly large (~400K?) it can seem like an even smaller town.

what'd they get you for, hstence?

mookieproof (mookieproof), Thursday, 27 May 2004 14:36 (twenty-two years ago)

they didn't get me, just a member of the touring entourage.

hstencil (hstencil), Thursday, 27 May 2004 14:38 (twenty-two years ago)

Pittsburgh Rocks

mookieproof (mookieproof), Thursday, 27 May 2004 14:41 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm feeling better now, thank you all. God knows how long that'll last.

I've sorta caught myself in a bind. I want to live in a smaller city, nothing too huge, yet every city I consider always seems to me culturally stunted in comparison to New York City -- they don't have the amount of museums, movie theaters, rock venues and gay bars I need to feel comfortable now that NYC has totally spoiled me.

Michael Daddino (epicharmus), Friday, 28 May 2004 02:56 (twenty-two years ago)

(big cities not that far from NYC)

i am a big booster of philadelphia -- if you gave it a try, you may be pleasantly surprised. there's also boston, baltimore, and DC. none of these are NYC, but each has much going for it AND are relatively close to NYC to get there if you MUST go back to NYC for yer hijinks AND each has an ILXor presence.

Eisbär (llamasfur), Friday, 28 May 2004 03:07 (twenty-two years ago)

six years pass...

I *love* LA (amazing weather, food, general weirdness, love our house, plenty to do and see, more affordable than other big cities) but every time we get away we realize how much it stresses us out and makes us flake on everyone, and none of the other places we've lived in seem to have this effect. We just had our second hit and run in a year and the traffic and certain tendencies that do seem specific to many Angelenos get very tiresome. Plus in a way living here has been so tied to the experience of grad school and being in a particular bubble that I would like to break out of said bubble rather than remain for the rest of my life dealing with an extension of that. Or maybe I just like moving to a new city every 4 years? Often think about moving at these times but who knows how specific to place this is. Maybe it's a time-of-life thing?

puff pastry hangman (admrl), Thursday, 23 December 2010 21:34 (fifteen years ago)

You should move back up here. We miss you guys!

Fig On A Plate Cart (Alex in SF), Thursday, 23 December 2010 22:49 (fifteen years ago)

We might actually. Find us jobs

puff pastry hangman (admrl), Thursday, 23 December 2010 22:50 (fifteen years ago)

Haha I don't think you'd want any job that I could help you get.

Fig On A Plate Cart (Alex in SF), Thursday, 23 December 2010 22:52 (fifteen years ago)


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