Why *shouldn't* straight guys go out on the pull with gay guys?

Message Bookmarked

Bookmark Removed

Myself and my gay friend Neil were at a party on Saturday night, and we found ourselves comparing notes about who we found attractive, and who we should try and, er, ...approach. I found that we gave each other damn good advice! We certainly both had the best laugh.

BUT - I told another (straight) friend about this, and he looked at me as if I had two heads. Do you find this wierd, too? I don't see what the problem is, myself...

― Will, Friday, 16 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

i have always had a great larrff going out with my gay friends cos they're so BITCHY! i think your other mate is probably scared that they might try and chat him up or something Will.

― katie, Friday, 16 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I used to go out on the (straight) pull with a gay guy who was a fully-made-up and very convincing tranny, and that worked really well for some reason.

― dave q, Friday, 16 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

not weird: nice

― mark s, Friday, 16 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I often try to pick up laundry, but I find its rather prudish

― Mike Hanle y, Friday, 16 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Does your straight friend also hacve any gay friends? The face merely may have unfortunately been for the fact that you have a gay friend...

― Pete, Friday, 16 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Its cool Will. Most women I've been attracted adore gay men, have gay friends, and correctly find homophobic straight-men dull + tiresome.

― stevo, Friday, 16 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Hi Pete! No, me and straight friend have mutual gay/bi friends... I don't understand it. It was the 'comparing notes' thing he had trouble with. Strange...

― Will, Friday, 16 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

yeah but that's just like ME giving my male mates lovelife advice, which i do all the time and very good advice it is too.

― katie, Friday, 16 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

but logistically a party is about the only place where this can happen. places that are considered public pulling locations are usually considered so for the reason that there is a dominant sexuality. my usual pubs and clubs over the last few years have been gay (or at least predominantly so) and pulling isn't really on the cards.

I'm impressed that you can give good advice on blokes, i can't read *anyone*, and going to gay pubs has hardly kept me in training for checking out the laydiez.

― Alan Trewartha, Friday, 16 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I'm gay, and most of my friends are straight. Segregation = dud. As far as the comparing notes thing, well you're both guys. What could be wrong?

― Sean, Friday, 16 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I did not realise that they shouldn't. I quite like going out and about with gay guys, because we can apportion off the room and decide that, depending on the person's sexuality, one or the other will have him.. We have not got beyond the idea of binary sexuality yet; its too much effort speculating on bisexuality. I can't be crass like that with most of my straight make friends, they are scared that I am treating them as though they were sexual objects, which is of course what men are. At least until the balance is evened up somewhat in representations of women and men in media. And if I did talk about that kind of thing with straight male friends they tend to inadvertantly slight me because the reason they are friends with me is that I am regarded as one of the boys.

Another reason they don't like hanging out with my gay friend so much is that they are terrified that he is unable to resist them. he teases them to that effect too.

― Menelaus Darcy, Friday, 16 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Yes Alan, I definitely take your point about venues. Although I have gone to G.A.Y. before for a night out, for a gay guy's birthday. Straight girls go there too! (Of course, not very many at all...)
It was wierd experience, because some of those guys were very forward and taken aback when you gently declined. You also got a sense of how girls must feel when they go clubbing, all those eyes boring into you... scary.
I think you can judge attractiveness (or, better word, suitability) between two guys, two girls, boy and a girl, whoever. Just intuition, I suppose...

― Will, Friday, 16 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Essentially though, I had a good time at G.A.Y, btw.

― Will, Friday, 16 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

how could anyone not have a good time at somewhere named an acronym G.A.Y? actually rugby head blokes have started attending gay venues here because there are always lots of attractive fag hags in the offing. There is no escape dammit

― Menelaus Darcy, Friday, 16 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I've never been to a gay club, I've been to the First Out cafe though and was quite smug at the attention I got from assorted men there...more than I get from you bloody gurls! GRRR!

― DG, Friday, 16 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

My best "trophy" pull (PLEASE no-one take that negatively, I'd hope you know what I mean) was a straight girl in a gay club. She was American, in town for the week with two gay friends. It was so much less tense and mistrusting, for some reason.

― Mark C, Friday, 16 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Total classic. I have several gay friends and non-homophobic straight friends here, and they're all great listeners and easy to communicate with... Such was the case in Orange County, too, but the grander societal scheme down there (and in L.A. and San Diego, too) seems far more segregated and pigeonholed in retrospect -- with respect to sexual orientation, whereas it all just sort blends cleanly here in Seattle.

Always a classic, but in the right city, it's a double scoop of classic.

― Brian MacDonald, Friday, 16 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

...and to relate this to the thread, yes many a good time has been had a various clubs, straight, gay, whatever... Lube wrestling at a gay country bar is a sight to behold, lemme tell you.

― Brian MacDonald, Friday, 16 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

EXCUSE me, Brian? Why are you not telling us these stories on a regular basis? ;-)

One of the odder but more enjoyable situations I've been in was when a very open lesbian and myself went to a Cure show back in 1992 and proceeded to spend a couple of hours beforehand judging the general fuckability of female members of the crowd. If anything, she was more blatant than I was!

― Ned Raggett, Friday, 16 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I said it before: straight men are the new fag hags! In the best possible meaning of the word. I'm SO all for it.

― Arthur, Friday, 16 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I've read a whole load of Military books lately, so here goes:

http://www.megayplex.com/jackoff/media/jackoffcens.jpg

― Kodanshi, Friday, 16 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

man-on-man alive!

― ethan, Friday, 16 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Oddly enough I was at Saphir last night and found myself in the bathroom with a friend of a friend (both gays). I asked him if he was on the hunt and he complained that "(he) only got to to talk to bi boys with straight girls. Look, if a gay chats you up, he added, send him to me; in the meantime, I'll introduce you to the bi boy's girlfriend so we can split the job." That's team-work.

― Simon, Saturday, 17 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I have three really close gay friends: Stuart (art phag), Hugo (media phag) and Feargus (weimar phag). We often go out to places where it is necessary to check the talent, and fun to speculate on orientations. Stu and I are particularily good at this: "Which team?" "Yours!" "After you?" "No, your team!" "Pitch or catch?" "How the fuck should I know?"

It's so not weird to go out pulling with your gay mates. Mine make me feel great on a night out, like I could pull the only cute straight boy in Duckie.

― suzy, Saturday, 17 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

seven years pass...

lol nytimes
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/06/28/fashion/28friends.html?pagewanted=1&ref=style

― velko, Sunday, 28 June 2009 20:46 (sixteen years ago)

OMG! it's SO TRUE!

straight men are, like, rilly uncomplicated

― all yoga attacks are fire based (rogermexico.), Monday, 29 June 2009 06:17 (sixteen years ago)

oh nytimespaws

― We are not a gossip site like Wikipedia (hmmmm), Monday, 29 June 2009 06:27 (sixteen years ago)

You must be logged in to post. Please either login here, or if you are not registered, you may register here.