as a more or less objective new/outsider type, i don't really think it's that bad here, i must say. but really, how inclusive is ILM and ILE to people who are new, or weird, or both, or those who just weren't here for the launch ? is there a secretly elitist/clannish mindset that is reinforced through secret email chain letters that ridicule new people? i've noticed that there really isn't much open hostility towards new posters, which is a good thing, but i guess i can't say this conclusively since i don't know who else is new besides me, and i've just arrived at that conclusion since no one has been hostile towards me. i think, if anything, there seems to be a contemptuous SILENCE towards those who have not proven their intellectual worthiness (or entertainment value, or whatever it is that enders one cyberposter to another here - different for everyone) yet, and maybe this is related to the stereotypes of the hipper-than-thou or "snobbish" stance of the indie community (not nearly as bad as at pitchfork though). since you all seem to know each other - from those things called blogs (which i'm beginning to comprehend), cyberchats and real life meetings - for some years now, it seems natural that it's a pretty tight-knit comunity that has already established its social circles, much like a real "clique" in life; hopefully it doesn't develop into a rejection of newcomers in the future though, due to the security that familiarity represents. or maybe it's laziness of getting to know about new people
I truly think it's better here than at some other communities I have actually been a part of - this other music community, in particular, we were consciously vicious towards newcomers, who would have to prove their salt towards us. there were entire, complex and wholly-realized hierarchies at play. it was a cyber fraternity, nearly, and we were merciless...
ILx seems like a very large playground in comparison, yet one which might find one hopelessly talking to only himself or herself in a lonely dirty corner. maybe the contemputous silence is more potent than campy hostility
― Vic, Thursday, 22 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)
― Marcello Carlin, Thursday, 22 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)
― gareth, Thursday, 22 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)
― Tom, Thursday, 22 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)
oh thanks for thinking i'm part of it, etc. and i'll admit that my post was than tinged with self-consciousness, but i seriously am interested in finding out what everyone else thinks in regards to their experiences here. what's hard if you're new is not to know who other new people are and that "introduce yourself" board is too hard to memorize
i guess an adjunct question would be - what was YOUR experience getting sutured into the ILx community, if you weren't here when there were fields/at the start ? and if you were here in the beginning, what sort of new posters did you accept into your cyber world most at first, and why ?
I don't feel a part of any clique, in fact there are some cliques I feel actively excluded from, for whatever reason or other. I've had bad experiences in the past, both in this community, and in others, so perhaps I go out of my way to avoid cliques when I see them forming.
It must be intimidating as all hell to walk into a forum like this, with its established culture and in-jokes, so I understand your trepidation. It's true that new people get, well, not so much made fun of, but more ignored, which is a worse form of ostracism. Unless you've got a unique and distinctive posting style or high profile, you can get lost in the shuffle.
I don't think this is malicious or conscious, it's just that the volume of this forum makes it difficult to remember or process new additions until they've forced their way into your consciousness. Is that bad? Well, it's probably not very welcoming.
There is stuff that goes on offboard, it's blindeyed to pretend that it doesn't. Had a strange conversation about this just the other night. Because other members of the community don't know it's happening, this lends it a sinister or secretive air that is not necessarily warranted. That frightens me. You might think that you are just a few friends getting together to chat, and in the process you discuss mutual aquaintances and common interests (we discuss this forum the way some people discuss what was on TV the night before) but in the wrong view, it would seem like we were maliciously gossiping behind other's backs. When that was never the intention. And then I fear that I am guilty of exactly what I have chastised others for. My paranoia leads me to imitate the sort of behaviour I despise.
I've stopped answering the question and started thinking out loud at this point, so forgive me. I hope you feel more welcome here.
― kate, Thursday, 22 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)
― Will, Thursday, 22 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)
Maybe we need another introduce yourself thread...
― Sarah, Thursday, 22 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)
Whooo! What's happening - ouija boards? Black masses? DO TELL, Kate?
So these "anyone fancy a pint" messages are really Tom's code for something far more sinister. Be careful out there.
― Dr. C, Thursday, 22 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)
― Gale Deslongchamps, Thursday, 22 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)
A few weeks after I started to post people started talking about having a big meet-up and I like parties so I threw one for everyone, despite feeling most of the time like I couldn't organise a piss-up in a brewery. Now I have at least 10 new friends because of ILx, one or two of whom are pretty close. THAT is cool.
I'm not really bothered about cliquishness; I didn't transplant myself 5000 miles to relive all my Junior High neurosis with a different set of people (but I like telling stories about it). The only things that annoy me about the whole thing is that ILx is the best procrastination device IN THE WORLD and I have a phone bill to prove it!
― suzy, Thursday, 22 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)
and see, these responses are very interesting so far. one, that you actually treat this whole thing as something you can talk about like TV from last night, that was just strange when I first read it, but I can understand how this can be an entertainment-pasttime like that. i guess everyone doesn't just post from work/the office then, and most also from home? secondly, how some of you met in real life/other places before here...see, that would not have even been possible in the other community i used to post in, since we were all scattered from everywhere, very dispersed. but we would plan fantasy meet-ups and such. and we actually had these award things too.. even for "worst/best new poster," "poster you most want to kill," etc. to be as obnoxious as possible
and you're right, about all the intrigue that's going on behind everyone's back, thats why i brought it up - secret email alliances and such. it was so much drama, it was just like a nasty cyber version of high school except that you can't get back at people as easily as you could in high school (real life = more opportunities to destroy someone forever), and that helplessness adds to the paranoia. it was so funny though since i noticed myself getting wrapped into so much melodrama with people i knew i never would even meet in real life...so why did i care? why did any of us? the power of the internet
and i loved it. too much. that's why i left, cause really, i was addicted. i honestly think internet-addiction is just as *strong,* if not as dangerous, as say heroin or coke... if you can't get up at 3 am on your way to the bathroom without stopping to see if anyone posted, well, that's just fucking sick
A good job I haven't turned up yet, but I will one of these days - prepared to defend myself!
I try not to drag any of the cliqueness on to the boards - though it can be difficult if you know people in real life not to refer to in- jokes (though it is best to explain them). Luckily we have another forum where this can be done...
― Pete, Thursday, 22 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)
I must say especial thanks to Pete on Tuesday, who was a very good listener.
I still find socialising very difficult (as Mark S will testify) because (a) it's hard to try to do something alone that you're so used to doing as half of a couple for so many years; and (b) the fact that I can't let 20 minutes of talk go by without coming back to my bereavement. Am very conscious that people would get put off by my going on and on and on about it (as I'm sure I've said somewhere else on these boards) but it's impossible not to when it remains the overhanging thread which governs my life. It's what I still think about 90% of the time (that new Cher song "The Music's No Good Without You" nearly got me weeping - how sad is that? Definitely Simon Bates territory).
But seeing as I've now assimilated myself into the "London Clique" (which is easier than the two-man "Oxford Clique" of old) I do appreciate it that everyone puts up with me so gracefully.
The boards? Well I'm just happy to settle for entertainment from them, from whoever posts. It's all an extension of inner self blah de blah but threads certainly work better when you know the people doing them. So "Wally Klemmer" is as real as "Marcello Carlin" although the former tends to come into play more when things are getting TOO serious.
I'm looking forward to the Xmas do, whenever and wherever it will take place, and to meeting a hell of a lot more of you WONDERFUL GUYS (sob sob, pray for the Dalai Lama . . .)
However, when you have been the subject of not-very-pleasant gossip, and you find out about it in a not-very-pleasant way (and if the person doing the revealing of said gossip is doing it in a malicious way) then that changes your perspective considerably. It should reflect badly on the persons doing the reporting, rather the persons doing the gossiping. (Something said in passing pub gossip should probably be left there, and it is malicious to quote it out of context with unknown purposes.) But it never seems to work that way, does it?
That doesn't stop me from doing it. ;-)
(actually, the cliquishness doesn't really bodder me, as i've been more or less assimiliated into the mainstream of ilx cultcha. i talk to a buncha people off board via IM, email, etc., but i will probably never meet anyone - even the people who live in pa and nyc - owing to povery and EXTREME laziness on my part.)
― jess, Thursday, 22 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)
I think I am going to start talking like this. Or, er, I guess I mean typing. I think everyone should type like that.
i'm from the other side of pa than you, you know: the hick side
― Ronan, Thursday, 22 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)
― Maria, Thursday, 22 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)
Now where are you again, Vic, in LA? Because I'll probably be up there next weekend with some friends, let's meet up (Arthur as well, if you're reading this). We're going to do an Amoeba run or something. I'm down in OC, BTW.
Regarding cliques -- I guess I can lay claim to helping along a certain founding bunch thanks to some machinations of mine (with the best of intent!) two years ago when alt.music.alternative was dying on its knees and we decamped elsewhere. Tom's work on FT is the real key, though, and from there it all just merrily spread. :-)
― Ned Raggett, Saturday, 24 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)
TEEEEEEEEEEAAAAAAAAMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM
― Dom Passantino, Wednesday, 5 March 2008 14:47 (eighteen years ago)
There were "veterans and old-timers" six years ago?
― chap, Wednesday, 5 March 2008 14:48 (eighteen years ago)
of course there is n00b stfu
― ken c, Wednesday, 5 March 2008 14:54 (eighteen years ago)
i always think stfu sounds like a university name
― Surmounter, Wednesday, 5 March 2008 14:54 (eighteen years ago)
or abbreviation
― Surmounter, Wednesday, 5 March 2008 14:55 (eighteen years ago)
they have big rivalry with those foad punks
― blueski, Wednesday, 5 March 2008 14:56 (eighteen years ago)
I was a star Running Back in the ROTFL.
― Kerm, Wednesday, 5 March 2008 15:07 (eighteen years ago)
all the cool kids were on USENET
― DG, Wednesday, 5 March 2008 15:19 (eighteen years ago)
=P
― Surmounter, Wednesday, 5 March 2008 15:21 (eighteen years ago)
And I am only going to say this once: it is NOT namedropping if the so-called names really are friends
glad we cleared this up, good revive
― That mong guy that's shit, Wednesday, 5 March 2008 15:22 (eighteen years ago)
if you never attack-dialled the ilx bbs you never lived
― Autumn Almanac, Wednesday, 5 March 2008 15:23 (eighteen years ago)
Please put this in the FAQ, Morten Gamst Pedersen was just telling me the other day he wasn't 100% clear on the issue
― That mong guy that's shit, Wednesday, 5 March 2008 15:23 (eighteen years ago)
DG, don't joke. search google groups for some early '90s Ned/Hongro USENET music debates. It's like looking down the rabbit hole.
― sanskrit, Wednesday, 5 March 2008 15:23 (eighteen years ago)
Was just saying this the other day, at a dinner party around Steve "The Brooklyn Brawler" Lombardi's house.
― Dom Passantino, Wednesday, 5 March 2008 15:24 (eighteen years ago)
search google groups for some early '90s Ned/Hongro USENET music debates. It's like looking down the rabbit hole.
All too true.
― Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 5 March 2008 15:24 (eighteen years ago)
http://img54.imageshack.us/img54/7199/ericbrakimrm9.jpg
― DG, Wednesday, 5 March 2008 15:24 (eighteen years ago)
"Extended Beat"
― That one guy that hit it and quit it, Wednesday, 5 March 2008 15:30 (eighteen years ago)
Actually, when I went to Pizza Express with Rakim the other week (Special Ed was there, and Ian Holloway), he said the original title for it was "Extension Beat"
― Dom Passantino, Wednesday, 5 March 2008 15:34 (eighteen years ago)
haha!!
― omar little, Wednesday, 5 March 2008 18:17 (eighteen years ago)
luckily, we landed on a broad expanse of richard griffiths, so nobody broke a tooth or nothin'
― remy bean, Wednesday, 5 March 2008 19:14 (eighteen years ago)
brb guys, the bassist from Urge Overkill is on the phone
― Dom Passantino, Wednesday, 5 March 2008 19:17 (eighteen years ago)
Tell him Courtney says hi.
― Noodle Vague, Wednesday, 5 March 2008 19:21 (eighteen years ago)
doompatrol did all these jokes in 2001 guys
― DG, Wednesday, 5 March 2008 19:23 (eighteen years ago)
Revivalist
― Dom Passantino, Wednesday, 5 March 2008 19:25 (eighteen years ago)
he was only doing research :(
― DG, Wednesday, 5 March 2008 19:26 (eighteen years ago)
"thread reinvigoration engineer"
― remy bean, Wednesday, 5 March 2008 19:26 (eighteen years ago)
^^^^hipster
― felicity, Wednesday, 5 March 2008 19:27 (eighteen years ago)
i am growing an ironic mustache as we speak
― remy bean, Wednesday, 5 March 2008 19:28 (eighteen years ago)
http://www.zshare.net/audio/725398748fc8bd/
― Dom Passantino, Wednesday, 5 March 2008 19:29 (eighteen years ago)
Hate u all tbh
― virginity simple (darraghmac), Wednesday, 26 April 2017 22:47 (nine years ago)
Hate, jealousy, whatever you want to call it.
― How many gigabyte is in trilobites (Old Lunch), Wednesday, 26 April 2017 22:51 (nine years ago)
shunned like the chicken pox
― reggie (qualmsley), Wednesday, 26 April 2017 23:04 (nine years ago)
I love me.
― Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 26 April 2017 23:06 (nine years ago)
anyone wanna start an elite clique
― flopson, Wednesday, 26 April 2017 23:08 (nine years ago)
i love you too, ned. i want to bask in another terrastock : )
― reggie (qualmsley), Wednesday, 26 April 2017 23:08 (nine years ago)
no sense in making a big deal bc who gives a fuck but there are pretty obvious cliques on here
dmacs chill tho
― i n f i n i t y (∞), Wednesday, 26 April 2017 23:09 (nine years ago)
more interested in starting an ilx rebellion tho tbh
p sure we can pinpoint the source of the empire
― i n f i n i t y (∞), Wednesday, 26 April 2017 23:15 (nine years ago)
the godhead is nicky wire in a banana suit
― remy bean, Wednesday, 26 April 2017 23:47 (nine years ago)
We know better, dmac. From a quick search of Say something nice about another ILXor:
I like ilx, mostly
― mister borges (darraghmac), Friday, March 22, 2013
i got love for my passionate & earnest ilxors u know that
― should we bin tapping? (darraghmac), Tuesday, June 18, 2013
Im on record as loving ye all, with all yere faults. Im an irish mammy if anything.
― Daithi Bowsie (darraghmac), Thursday, May 26, 2016
Another search in the same thread for the affectionate nicknames "dmac" and "deems" reveals much gooey reciprocation. The lovefest is a sight to behold.
― a little too mature to be cute (Aimless), Thursday, 27 April 2017 00:17 (nine years ago)
Nothing lasts forever, deal
― virginity simple (darraghmac), Thursday, 27 April 2017 00:21 (nine years ago)
you are familiar with the term turncoat, then, eh? it's not a pretty one. not pretty at all.
― a little too mature to be cute (Aimless), Thursday, 27 April 2017 00:24 (nine years ago)
XXp
Hes a man of many faces
All the good ones are tbh
― i n f i n i t y (∞), Thursday, 27 April 2017 00:25 (nine years ago)
Mines reversible and even goes in the drier gway and shite
― virginity simple (darraghmac), Thursday, 27 April 2017 00:25 (nine years ago)
(pirouettes away)
― a little too mature to be cute (Aimless), Thursday, 27 April 2017 00:26 (nine years ago)
Ive been posting/reading this board since 2002 and barely know who you assholes are
― officer sonny bonds, lytton pd (mayor jingleberries), Thursday, 27 April 2017 00:44 (nine years ago)
Couldn't care less captain dingleberry
― i n f i n i t y (∞), Thursday, 27 April 2017 00:47 (nine years ago)
I always knew you were one of the mean ones, whoever u are
― officer sonny bonds, lytton pd (mayor jingleberries), Thursday, 27 April 2017 00:47 (nine years ago)
nominations for head of the resistance?
― calstars, Thursday, 27 April 2017 00:51 (nine years ago)
Sketch out the targets first just tbs tbs
― virginity simple (darraghmac), Thursday, 27 April 2017 00:58 (nine years ago)
They definitely post on the us politics thread
― i n f i n i t y (∞), Thursday, 27 April 2017 01:15 (nine years ago)
I'm for carpetbombing, no innocents on that thread imo
― virginity simple (darraghmac), Thursday, 27 April 2017 01:17 (nine years ago)
ilx doesn't have enough regulars for cliques. god, even our secret board isn't a clique.
― increasingly bonkers (rushomancy), Thursday, 27 April 2017 01:19 (nine years ago)
I aim to bring down the leviathan from the inside
― El Tomboto, Thursday, 27 April 2017 01:23 (nine years ago)
maybe your "secret" board isn't but the real secret board is
― a landlocked exclave (mh), Thursday, 27 April 2017 01:24 (nine years ago)
Be shocked but I recently discovered twitch and have been watching with zeal how these dudes raid peoples channels or whatever theyre called
RES RAID
― i n f i n i t y (∞), Thursday, 27 April 2017 01:26 (nine years ago)
you ever notice that when there are "61 Active Users", there only seem to be about 20 active users? did it ever make you wonder?
― a little too mature to be cute (Aimless), Thursday, 27 April 2017 01:27 (nine years ago)
lol irc channel raids used to be a thing xp
― a landlocked exclave (mh), Thursday, 27 April 2017 01:27 (nine years ago)
active users just means people signed in and clicking
this place used to be meaner
― Treeship, Thursday, 27 April 2017 01:29 (nine years ago)
now we're just averager
― a little too mature to be cute (Aimless), Thursday, 27 April 2017 01:29 (nine years ago)
yeah, we got got harrison bergeron'ed
― Treeship, Thursday, 27 April 2017 01:31 (nine years ago)
FPs for Algernon
― i believe that (s)he is sincere (forksclovetofu), Thursday, 27 April 2017 01:36 (nine years ago)
i used to be meaner. but i just can't be too much of a dick when i have wally beben's c64 tetris soundtrack on loop.
― increasingly bonkers (rushomancy), Thursday, 27 April 2017 01:52 (nine years ago)
Just gotta ride the net splits then kickban the mods out of the ilx irc channel
― officer sonny bonds, lytton pd (mayor jingleberries), Thursday, 27 April 2017 02:01 (nine years ago)
winnukeping flood their modem-connected computer off of your friend's server (he works at an ISP)convince them to install trojans
― a landlocked exclave (mh), Thursday, 27 April 2017 02:02 (nine years ago)
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I could "FP" for calling austerity a buzzword. Instead I'll call you a cunt, like a grown-up.― xyzzzz__, Wednesday, 26 April 2017 22:39 (yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
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― Punnet of the Grapes (Tom D.), Thursday, 27 April 2017 07:43 (nine years ago)
male menopause finds fatigue swamping venality
― Supercreditor (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 27 April 2017 10:36 (nine years ago)
i'd been wondering how long it would take for an ilxor to get swatted
― ben "bance" bance (bizarro gazzara), Thursday, 27 April 2017 11:24 (nine years ago)