Asshole.

Sure I love ya, I love all y'all new answers.

DON'T DO IT.

ronan, my son, i am currently going through something (sorta, kinda, not really) vaguely similar. my ex recently got back into contact with me, and while i'd like to remain friends with her, on the first night of resumed contact she professed that she was still in love with me and thought about me all the time (something i can't really say in return.) now, she wants to meet up, but i am refusing because we will invariably end up in bed together. now, we both may enjoy the sex in the, uh, heat of the moment, someone for whom love is still in the pitcher will invariably read/feel more into the scenario than the other person. i'm not saying this girl is still in love with you (or ever was...i don't know the situation), but sleeping with someone whilst there is fugged up emotional stuff running like a windows operation in the background is variably dud, as it will inevitably crash your system, causing a lot of headaches and maybe screaming and kicking the computer once or twice.

Also I am on the rebound from Kermi and our playing it cool thing. Although that's still ongoing.

But she's sooooooooo fine. Er i'm waiting for someone to say i'm treating her like a trophy or something.

I think I just have to not meet her.

Yeah, it sounds like you would just be using her for sex. If you really have no interest in her as a person, don't even think about meeting her.

It would be nice to be the person dishing out the heart ache for once. Er....I'm sickened at how much I mean that.

We still love you, you Irish Stud. Come teach us the art of love.

Jess don't toy with my emotions like that. I think it's safe to say that's you yeah?

Ronan: for the answer you REALLy want, i suggest asking mr. dave q.

The answer I really want? Whatever could you mean.

"[email protected]": surely this shd be weloveronan.ORG.se

you need emotios to toy with first.

Ronan, just take Jess' considered, passionate, well-intentioned response, and ignore it completely. That'd probably be the stereotypical Dave Q response (not that I totally disagree with it, on some atavistic horndog level, mind you).

But, yeah, listen to Jess, if you want to live a conflict-free life (with less nooky, yes, but, damn it, is it REALLY worth the trouble?)

But, hmm, Swedish.

No, no, listen to Jess. To be honest, I WAS THERE on the side of the still-in-love thing, and I felt like two tons of crap sloshing around crap's diaper after crap took multiple craps in succession when she "moved on" to other fellas (who, mind you, were geekier than me, for the luvva God). I don't blame her; I blame myself. Don't do it, son.

Swedish PANTY Society? Hmm?

Hi Ronan, Why you folks find these things so hard is really beyond me now:( I really feel bad for you. All I can say now, is if you can love her go and get her because if you don't someone else will.Where will you be then? Life is pretty short and you do deserve to happy. My advice is follow your heart. On the other hand if you care nothing for her, leave her alone... simple. Gale

Just get really drunk and stoned when she turns up, enough that you won't be able to get it up. That way she'll lost interest in YOU, plus you'll hate yourself every time you even THINK about having sex with her - problem solved.

Dave that is brilliant.

Apparently she's not coming till January now she says. I think what I have to do is ensure I'm obsessed and involved further with the girl from my class whom I really like and then I won't do anything I regret afterwards come January.

Don't do it. You know why; Jess just restated it. The road gets narrower but you'll feel much better about yourself which leaves you in a better postition all around when the real right girl shows up. Be kind and watch your life get better.

"I don't blame her, I blame myself"

This looks more encouraging.

Oh DEAR.

*thinks*

Different scenario, different person, all too familiar situation, 1994. You'll torture yourself forever over it, Ronan, if you don't simply try and stay friends. In my case, I have the memory of someone breaking down completely in my room for an hour straight sitting in my memory banks waiting to smack me down whenever I get too complacent...

If I were her, I'd kill you. So don't. Besides, if Kermi finds out maybe she will bring it up against you and say "Obviously you don't care THAT much about me if you'll run off and have hot sex with Swedish chicks instead of pining alone for me."

That's so like what Kermi might do. It's almost uncanny, you really got the sense of me being her doormat admirably. That combined with your advice Ned is enough to put me off.

Hi Ronin, I couldn't blame you for not wanting to be a doormat.Nobody, me included want to be under another's control. The question is : Are YOU happy? Nobody can tell you what to do. I wish you happiness. Gale

I wish I had problems like this.

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just do it.

ILX was a whole 'nother world in 2001, wasn't it?