being "mysterious" vs. telling everyone everything always

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isn't it more fun to leave people wondering?

― sexy waitress connie stevens (Jody Beth Rosen), Friday, 18 March 2005 21:24 (twenty-one years ago)

probably. I tell everyone everything always. my biggest weakness.

― Ronan (Ronan), Friday, 18 March 2005 21:28 (twenty-one years ago)

I never tell anyone anything, if I can help it. I'm not giving strangers ammunition!

(except on ILX for some reason!)

― VIC MACKEY (nordicskilla), Friday, 18 March 2005 21:29 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm a Scorpio, we never tell anybody anything. Girlfriends hate us.

― andy --, Friday, 18 March 2005 21:33 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm a Gemini so I'm...a fickle liar.

― VIC MACKEY (nordicskilla), Friday, 18 March 2005 21:34 (twenty-one years ago)

haha i love how this thread died after four answers.

― sexy waitress connie stevens (Jody Beth Rosen), Friday, 18 March 2005 21:49 (twenty-one years ago)

people here are mysterious.

― Ronan (Ronan), Friday, 18 March 2005 21:50 (twenty-one years ago)

Hi sorry guys I was just away for a second.

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Friday, 18 March 2005 21:54 (twenty-one years ago)

is there anything in your life that you feel is so banal/unimportant you never bother mentioning it? do people ever call you out on it?

― sexy waitress connie stevens (Jody Beth Rosen), Friday, 18 March 2005 21:59 (twenty-one years ago)

yeah tracer, is there? huh?

― j blount (papa la bas), Friday, 18 March 2005 22:01 (twenty-one years ago)

But enough about me. Let's talk about you. *Pulls out pad and starts taking notes*

― M. White (Miguelito), Friday, 18 March 2005 22:02 (twenty-one years ago)

is there anything that you feel is banal/unimportant but you deliberately don't tell anyone cuz people are nosy and they don't have to know every little meaningless detail about your life?

― sexy waitress connie stevens (Jody Beth Rosen), Friday, 18 March 2005 22:02 (twenty-one years ago)

This is none of your business!

― Leon the Fatboy (Ex Leon), Friday, 18 March 2005 22:06 (twenty-one years ago)

well excuuuuu - uuuuuuuu - uuuuuuuuuuuuuse MEEEEE!

― sexy absentminded waitress steve martin (Jody Beth Rosen), Friday, 18 March 2005 22:16 (twenty-one years ago)

This is like the Spanish Inquisition!

― Leon the Fatboy (Ex Leon), Friday, 18 March 2005 22:25 (twenty-one years ago)

Well, to understand my position on this I'm going to have to take you back to this one humiliating incident in my childhood...

― VIC MACKEY (nordicskilla), Friday, 18 March 2005 22:27 (twenty-one years ago)

steve martin rules.
I don't tell my coworkers diddly. I tell my buds everything tho.

― 57 7th (calstars), Friday, 18 March 2005 22:27 (twenty-one years ago)

I am neurotic about giving out information.

― Leon the Fatboy (Ex Leon), Friday, 18 March 2005 22:30 (twenty-one years ago)

Well, basically, I like to stay mysterious. I'm just a real close-to-the-vest kind of guy, you know? I mean, I've had some pretty crazy things happen to me over the years, things that would make normal people just started spilling their guts to any friend within earshot, but I find this kind of thing only lessens one in others' eyes. For instance, I got kicked out of my band. Now I'm not ashamed of this, but I don't see any reason to go around telling the world about it. Why would I? The less people know about these messy details the better. It doesn't help anybody to find out that Lonnie (the singer) had so many problems with his wife that he couldn't focus on the music anymore, and turned up late time and again, and that after I told him he needed to make some "hard decisions" he schemed behind my back to turn my other bandmates against me. It would just stir up resentments and rumours that would better be left alone. So that's how I deal with this stuff. Play it cool, take the high road, and if anyone pesters you about just scream at them to get their noses out of your fucking business.

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Friday, 18 March 2005 22:33 (twenty-one years ago)

I've never seen a picture of you, Leon.

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Friday, 18 March 2005 22:39 (twenty-one years ago)

speaking as a scientist, etc. (I think the line itself is from "Journal of an Airman" by Auden; I know it as part of a Blue Aeroplanes lyric.)

― youn, Friday, 18 March 2005 23:08 (twenty-one years ago)

I never talk about myself, it seems, to my co-workers and such... but man, do they love to gab about the most banal shit. It baffles me how they can bang on and on and never get self-conscious.

I could be seen as mysterious if I were beautiful. Instead I just seem bitchy.

― jill schoelen is the queen of my dreams! (Homosexual II), Friday, 18 March 2005 23:19 (twenty-one years ago)

no-one knows my real name or height.

― RJG (RJG), Friday, 18 March 2005 23:20 (twenty-one years ago)

I DO, I THINK

― jill schoelen is the queen of my dreams! (Homosexual II), Friday, 18 March 2005 23:21 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm a Scorpio, we never tell anybody anything. Girlfriends hate us.

OTM

― mark p (Mark P), Friday, 18 March 2005 23:22 (twenty-one years ago)

It may be a bit late for me to start trying for mystery now.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Friday, 18 March 2005 23:22 (twenty-one years ago)

hahaha otm about scorpios

― sexy waitress connie stevens (Jody Beth Rosen), Friday, 18 March 2005 23:23 (twenty-one years ago)

I don't see it as 'mysterious' to not tell everyone everything, but merely that in many cases it is much more polite not to, while in other cases I'd fail to see why anyone would even begin to care. Flipside -- hell, I'll talk to anybody about things in general! That's why I'm here!

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Friday, 18 March 2005 23:23 (twenty-one years ago)

anyway being attracted to someone because they are mysterious is usually bad news. they usually turn out really boring.

― jill schoelen is the queen of my dreams! (Homosexual II), Friday, 18 March 2005 23:27 (twenty-one years ago)

Maybe I should tattoo "I AM NOT MYSTERIOUS" on my forehead.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Friday, 18 March 2005 23:37 (twenty-one years ago)

i can't tell if tongues are in cheeks on this thread.

i talk too much about my "problems" and my non-problems. sometimes i try to be mysterious but it usually lasts a few days or hours and then i start whining.

― Amateur(ist) (Amateur(ist)), Friday, 18 March 2005 23:51 (twenty-one years ago)

you know, i think the only francis ford coppola movie i've ever seen in full is "tucker: the man and his dream"

― j blount (papa la bas), Friday, 18 March 2005 23:55 (twenty-one years ago)

Hahaha

― Alex in SF (Alex in SF), Saturday, 19 March 2005 00:00 (twenty-one years ago)

Open source life.

― Girolamo Savonarola, Saturday, 19 March 2005 00:32 (twenty-one years ago)

walk the thin line.

― cozen (Cozen), Saturday, 19 March 2005 00:34 (twenty-one years ago)

yeah, that's a good example of too-much-information

― Amateur(ist) (Amateur(ist)), Saturday, 19 March 2005 00:35 (twenty-one years ago)

There's nothing at all mysterious about

― Pleasant Plains /// (Pleasant Plains ///), Saturday, 19 March 2005 00:44 (twenty-one years ago)

When people talk about themselves without thinking too much about it, it just seems part of who they are. Then their words are more like action. I've gotten used to making small talk, and it's nice to be able to share pleasantries with the right amount of affability. Sometimes I have the feeling of disarming people: they tell me too much or I have nothing to say, so the next time we meet, it's awkward. Sometimes I feel as though I have nothing to say to anyone ever, but sometimes if I feel susceptible, there is so much urgency and intensity, it could only be foolish. There are people (my family mostly) whom I know too well (and who know me too well?), so nothing I could say would matter, so I don't share important things with them anymore. Talking is complication. In The Wings of the Dove, the characters frequently speak of simplicity as an ideal basis for a relationship. I wonder what they mean. Less chance to cause injury, knowingly or unknowingly? Less chance to speak falsely? Or, deception by omission or neglect? False pretense of common ground? Or, the realization that talking is an action like any other that changes the situation so that it must be best to keep still and be patient?

― youn, Saturday, 19 March 2005 10:43 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm a closed book.

― jel -- (jel), Saturday, 19 March 2005 10:46 (twenty-one years ago)

I prefer to concentrate on the banal/mundane/inane/pointless, as that's probably what I am.

― jel -- (jel), Saturday, 19 March 2005 10:47 (twenty-one years ago)

i weigh 150 pounds

― charltonlido (gareth), Saturday, 19 March 2005 12:40 (twenty-one years ago)

I veer between a cultivated air of mystery and unexpectedly letting it all blurt.

― lovebug starski (lovebug starski), Saturday, 19 March 2005 13:13 (twenty-one years ago)

OMG YOU ARE LESTER BANGS! Er, wait.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Saturday, 19 March 2005 14:14 (twenty-one years ago)

apparently i swing from the former to the latter at the wrong time.

― f--gg (gcannon), Saturday, 19 March 2005 14:33 (twenty-one years ago)

omg i've got a monet personality!!

― f--gg (gcannon), Saturday, 19 March 2005 14:34 (twenty-one years ago)

Being mysterious makes you a piece of performance art, which is classic

― Curt1s St3ph3ns, Saturday, 19 March 2005 15:58 (twenty-one years ago)

I think you are heavier than me Gareth, or my scales are broken. Which, is possible I guess.

― jel -- (jel), Saturday, 19 March 2005 16:30 (twenty-one years ago)

I'll tell someone anything they want to know about me IF THEY ASK. Otherwise, my policy is to never volunteer information.

But mostly I find 99.9% of people to be unbelievebly self-involved. Do people really find themselves that interesting? Yes they do. Why, I have no idea.

― shookout (shookout), Saturday, 19 March 2005 17:32 (twenty-one years ago)

The Aimless mystique is founded upon the very rock of maintaining my secrets. This is where Aimless and I differ somewhat. In my Other Life I am honest, upright and true - not to mention brave, courageous and bold.

― Aimless (Aimless), Saturday, 19 March 2005 17:58 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm probably more perplexing than mysterious

― miccio (miccio), Saturday, 19 March 2005 18:08 (twenty-one years ago)

i think there's a percieved masculinity in not telling everyone everything always, like, you're more of a "real" man if you don't bother yourself or other people with detail. "mind your own business". women and gay men on the other hand love a bit of a chin wag.

― scg, Saturday, 19 March 2005 18:27 (twenty-one years ago)

nah, it's the power of mystery, which is a very powerful thing indeed. If you can pull off the 'look all you want but you'll never see me' bit, you're golden.

― shookout (shookout), Saturday, 19 March 2005 18:28 (twenty-one years ago)

But mostly I find 99.9% of people to be unbelievebly self-involved. Do people really find themselves that interesting? Yes they do. Why, I have no idea.

because they're them? i dunno, i think everybody is worried about themselves. some people vocalize it more.

― Amateur(ist) (Amateur(ist)), Saturday, 19 March 2005 19:05 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm a Scorpio, we never tell anybody anything. Girlfriends hate us.
That's halfway true with me. I wouldn't mind being brutally honest all the time if I didn't hurt people's feelings by doing so.

― I loved Ian Riese-Moraine so much, I bought the company! (Eastern Mantra), Sunday, 20 March 2005 01:20 (twenty-one years ago)

you don't have to be "brutally" honest, just honest! i for one can't stand it when people feel they have to walk on eggshells around me. i mean cmon, i'm not a TOTAL basket case...

― sexy waitress connie stevens (Jody Beth Rosen), Sunday, 20 March 2005 16:13 (twenty-one years ago)

Well, I find that if you try to be even plainly honest most people consider it to be brutal.

― Ian Riese-Moraine. Sweeter than a lorry load of white Toblerones. (Eastern Mantr, Sunday, 20 March 2005 16:52 (twenty-one years ago)

I don't know...to quote The Pop Group, "Words disobey me."

― Ian Riese-Moraine. Sweeter than a lorry load of white Toblerones. (Eastern Mantr, Sunday, 20 March 2005 16:53 (twenty-one years ago)

to quote gloria estefan, "the words get in the way."

― sexy waitress connie stevens (Jody Beth Rosen), Sunday, 20 March 2005 16:55 (twenty-one years ago)

Ouch!

― Ian Riese-Moraine. Sweeter than a lorry load of white Toblerones. (Eastern Mantr, Sunday, 20 March 2005 17:12 (twenty-one years ago)

I'd probably be on here more if I hadn't been so free with revealing my secrets in the past. That follows in real life as well.

― Bryan (Bryan), Sunday, 20 March 2005 18:56 (twenty-one years ago)

"The words just come out wrong"

- Barry Manilow -

― Aimless (Aimless), Sunday, 20 March 2005 19:09 (twenty-one years ago)

to quote booji boy, "the words get stuck in my throat"

― sexy waitress connie stevens (Jody Beth Rosen), Sunday, 20 March 2005 23:05 (twenty-one years ago)

"Being mysterious" or "Telling everyone everything always" >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> "Telling everyone you're mysterious"

― donut debonair (donut), Sunday, 20 March 2005 23:26 (twenty-one years ago)

I have not been answering this question as if the alternative to being open was for the sake of being mysterious. At bottom, I want to believe in Amateur(ist)'s view that the world can change by talking about it.

― youn, Monday, 21 March 2005 04:51 (twenty-one years ago)

is that my view?

― Amateur(ist) (Amateur(ist)), Monday, 21 March 2005 04:55 (twenty-one years ago)

sorry, I don't know. I hope it is.

― youn, Monday, 21 March 2005 05:00 (twenty-one years ago)

I tell everyone everything.
I'm not sure that they like it though.
I seem incapable of shutting the fuck up.

― Katie. (Argh.), Monday, 21 March 2005 06:03 (twenty-one years ago)

donut otm. I'm a yakker, myself, unfortunately.

― Matos-Webster Dictionary (M Matos), Monday, 21 March 2005 06:11 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm a sagittarius through and through. I couldn't shut my mouth if my life depended on it.

― Miss Misery (thatgirl), Monday, 21 March 2005 06:21 (twenty-one years ago)

it's amazing how nice it is to just listen to people sometimes. i say that as someone who has to remind myself to shut up a lot.

― Amateur(ist) (Amateur(ist)), Monday, 21 March 2005 07:47 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm a sagittarius through and through. I couldn't shut my mouth if my life depended on it.

Is so true for me, too.

― Remy (x Jeremy), Monday, 21 March 2005 07:52 (twenty-one years ago)

i'm pretty quiet

― mookieproof (mookieproof), Monday, 21 March 2005 09:13 (twenty-one years ago)

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