just don't entertain romantic relationships in circumstances where there's a drastic power imbalance, this is not difficult
― Chocolate-covered gummy bears? Not ruling those lil' guys out. (ulysses), Tuesday, 12 December 2017 20:28 (six years ago) link
^^^^^^^
― .oO (silby), Tuesday, 12 December 2017 20:52 (six years ago) link
ding ding ding
― Squeaky Fromage (VegemiteGrrl), Tuesday, 12 December 2017 21:08 (six years ago) link
Which involves standing up to persistence in that situation, or actors with directors, etc.
― ... (Eazy), Tuesday, 12 December 2017 21:17 (six years ago) link
By which I mean, it's a substantial cultural shift for many women to say - your appearance, your attractiveness will not be validated or do you any good here.
― ... (Eazy), Tuesday, 12 December 2017 21:19 (six years ago) link
olberman always seems so fuckin phony I wonder about him in all thisdan patrick's whole scene is so ultra bro also wouldn't shock me
― Universal LULU Nation (upper mississippi sh@kedown), Tuesday, 12 December 2017 22:44 (six years ago) link
i've had bad vibes about Bill Simmons ever since he thought it was a good idea to publish a particularly disgusting attractiveness ranking of female tennis players, part of me is surprised nothing's ever come up with him but then again i could see him being a guy whose negative contributions in all this "only" extend to his part in demeaning women in sports in columns.
― omar little, Tuesday, 12 December 2017 22:58 (six years ago) link
I think it is not a good idea to start down the “you know who wouldn’t surprise me at all if they turned out to be a gross creep?” path
― El Tomboto, Tuesday, 12 December 2017 23:02 (six years ago) link
simmons seemed to make a good-faith effort to get diverse voices on grantland/ringer and has maybe grown up some, but
http://www.bronxbanterblog.com/2010/12/17/the-book-of-basketball-and-staggering-casual-sexism
― mookieproof, Tuesday, 12 December 2017 23:04 (six years ago) link
el tomboto otm
― k3vin k., Tuesday, 12 December 2017 23:13 (six years ago) link
― El Tomboto, Tuesday, December 12, 2017 11:02 PM (eleven minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
Otm.
― ♫ very clever with maracas.jpg ♫ (Le Bateau Ivre), Tuesday, 12 December 2017 23:14 (six years ago) link
https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/news/harvey-weinstein-s-hong-kong-associate-accused-sexual-misconduct-by-multiple-women-report-1066921
― maura, Wednesday, 13 December 2017 05:46 (six years ago) link
Salma Hayek on Harvey Weinstein, in @nytopinion:"No to letting a naked friend of his give me a massage.No to letting him give me oral sex.No to my getting naked with another woman.No, no, no ...And with every refusal came Harvey’s Machiavellian rage." https://t.co/8KfW3y3Igz— The New York Times (@nytimes) December 13, 2017
― flappy bird, Wednesday, 13 December 2017 18:08 (six years ago) link
https://www.yahoo.com/sports/news/luc-robitailles-wife-stacia-alleges-trump-made-aggressive-advances-elevator-150356866.html
― omar little, Wednesday, 13 December 2017 18:10 (six years ago) link
that Salma Hayek piece is rough:
The range of his persuasion tactics went from sweet-talking me to that one time when, in an attack of fury, he said the terrifying words, “I will kill you, don’t think I can’t.”When he was finally convinced that I was not going to earn the movie the way he had expected, he told me he had offered my role and my script with my years of research to another actress.In his eyes, I was not an artist. I wasn’t even a person. I was a thing: not a nobody, but a body.
When he was finally convinced that I was not going to earn the movie the way he had expected, he told me he had offered my role and my script with my years of research to another actress.
In his eyes, I was not an artist. I wasn’t even a person. I was a thing: not a nobody, but a body.
Halfway through shooting, Harvey turned up on set and complained about Frida’s “unibrow.” He insisted that I eliminate the limp and berated my performance. Then he asked everyone in the room to step out except for me. He told me that the only thing I had going for me was my sex appeal and that there was none of that in this movie. So he told me he was going to shut down the film because no one would want to see me in that role.It was soul crushing because, I confess, lost in the fog of a sort of Stockholm syndrome, I wanted him to see me as an artist: not only as a capable actress but also as somebody who could identify a compelling story and had the vision to tell it in an original way.I was hoping he would acknowledge me as a producer, who on top of delivering his list of demands shepherded the script and obtained the permits to use the paintings. I had negotiated with the Mexican government, and with whomever I had to, to get locations that had never been given to anyone in the past — including Frida Kahlo’s houses and the murals of Kahlo’s husband, Diego Rivera, among others.But all of this seemed to have no value. The only thing he noticed was that I was not sexy in the movie. He made me doubt if I was any good as an actress, but he never succeeded in making me think that the film was not worth making.He offered me one option to continue. He would let me finish the film if I agreed to do a sex scene with another woman. And he demanded full-frontal nudity.
It was soul crushing because, I confess, lost in the fog of a sort of Stockholm syndrome, I wanted him to see me as an artist: not only as a capable actress but also as somebody who could identify a compelling story and had the vision to tell it in an original way.
I was hoping he would acknowledge me as a producer, who on top of delivering his list of demands shepherded the script and obtained the permits to use the paintings. I had negotiated with the Mexican government, and with whomever I had to, to get locations that had never been given to anyone in the past — including Frida Kahlo’s houses and the murals of Kahlo’s husband, Diego Rivera, among others.
But all of this seemed to have no value. The only thing he noticed was that I was not sexy in the movie. He made me doubt if I was any good as an actress, but he never succeeded in making me think that the film was not worth making.
He offered me one option to continue. He would let me finish the film if I agreed to do a sex scene with another woman. And he demanded full-frontal nudity.
― omar little, Wednesday, 13 December 2017 18:17 (six years ago) link
Salma <3that story made me cryFrida was such a heartfelt & beautiful movie, and the knowledge that she was dealing with that level of abuse from Weinstein, & fighting so hard to realize such a personal dream just breaks my fucking heart (and that her friends helped her when she really needed it was v moving)
― Squeaky Fromage (VegemiteGrrl), Wednesday, 13 December 2017 19:12 (six years ago) link
Drew Magary wrote a pretty good column about this sort of thing (in the beginning, before all the football picks)https://deadspin.com/the-reckoning-always-comes-1819874125
― frogbs, Wednesday, 13 December 2017 19:38 (six years ago) link
The new Russell Simmons piece in the NYT is pretty horrible.
Also breaking:
http://variety.com/2017/tv/news/tavis-smiley-pbs-1202639424/
― Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 13 December 2017 23:36 (six years ago) link
that Salma Hayek story. sad.and once again, another one of those "whatever happened to her career..." memories ruefully explained
― Nhex, Wednesday, 13 December 2017 23:55 (six years ago) link
I just saw this on twitter https://mic.com/articles/186795/after-allegations-against-johnny-iuzzini-abc-pulls-the-great-american-baking-show-off-the-air
― Squeaky Fromage (VegemiteGrrl), Thursday, 14 December 2017 01:55 (six years ago) link
from a previous Iuzzini storyhttps://mic.com/articles/186721/four-more-women-accuse-celebrity-chef-johnny-iuzzini-of-sexual-harassment-and-abuse In the spring of 2010, a female pastry chef and food stylist who’d briefly worked under Iuzzini at Jean-Georges the year prior reached out to Iuzzini over text message, she told Mic in a phone interview. She requested anonymity because she still works in the industry. The first season of the Top Chef spinoff show Top Chef: Just Desserts had just been announced, and since Iuzzini was a judge on the show, she wondered if the show had food styling work opportunities. She said that Iuzzini texted her back amenably, adding, “Why don’t we get together and talk about your career?” The woman said she repeatedly suggested a public meet-up over coffee during daytime hours, but Iuzzini countered that she come to his apartment for drinks at night. The woman received Iuzzini’s final text messages in the presence of a friend, who confirmed to Mic that he’d seen the texts and had been told about the full exchange at the time.“I’m like, ‘Well, jeez — you’re living up to that bad boy reputation.’ I was trying to make light of it,” the woman said. “And then he very blatantly put it out there. He said, ‘This isn’t high school anymore, sweetie. I’m not helping you for free.’” When the woman questioned what Iuzzini meant by “for free,” she said he responded, “When you want to be a real woman, then give me a call.” She did not end up meeting with Iuzzini or working on Top Chef: Just Dessertsgross
― Squeaky Fromage (VegemiteGrrl), Thursday, 14 December 2017 02:21 (six years ago) link
We’ve finally reached the stage where men just start outing themselves as creeps. https://t.co/CFCRZNIGWa— Lydia Polgreen (@lpolgreen) December 14, 2017
― j., Thursday, 14 December 2017 06:05 (six years ago) link
the cynic in me thinks it was less “i wonder when they will come for me” and more “no one talks about me anymore so i will talk about myself in a topical manner”
― Squeaky Fromage (VegemiteGrrl), Thursday, 14 December 2017 06:34 (six years ago) link
he sure is getting out in front of that story and calling into question the memories and motives of those he wronged...
― omar little, Thursday, 14 December 2017 06:58 (six years ago) link
eating big macs for a month and filming it is already pretty deep self-abasement so
― j., Thursday, 14 December 2017 07:02 (six years ago) link
Oh god, please don’t let Spurlock make a film about all this.
― Position Position, Thursday, 14 December 2017 11:29 (six years ago) link
I've been trying to discourage too much invocation of "witch hunt" in this context, but yeah groundless speculation doesn't help.
― ice cream social justice (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 14 December 2017 13:03 (six years ago) link
spurlock has a movie coming out soon so i assume he wanted to get in front of the allegations lest they come up from the woman/women and tank his deal. his non apology here is pretty weak.
― akm, Thursday, 14 December 2017 14:16 (six years ago) link
Yeah like his language in the piece --
The first incident she remembered as a rape and he's literally remembering them rolling around giggling in bed.
The second incident he almost portrays as him giving in to blackmail.
The cheating stuff, well I'm sure the cat's already out of the bag there.
It's trying to be The First Good Apology but it's terrible.
― omar little, Thursday, 14 December 2017 14:35 (six years ago) link
The time is right for collective revenge fantasy screenplays for sexual misconduct to circulate. Mary Harron directing, of course.
― Sanpaku, Thursday, 14 December 2017 14:39 (six years ago) link
spurlock: cookies denied
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Thursday, 14 December 2017 14:49 (six years ago) link
that spurlock statement is... not good
― dipso inferno (bizarro gazzara), Thursday, 14 December 2017 15:02 (six years ago) link
there will soon be a Groundhog's Day remake where the main character has to keep writing an abuse apology until he GETS IT RIGHT
― President Keyes, Thursday, 14 December 2017 15:11 (six years ago) link
I think in most circumstances there's really no substitute for "I fucked up, I apologized in private and am now doing so publicly. I'm sorry. I'm gonna fuck off indefinitely."
― Simon H., Thursday, 14 December 2017 15:19 (six years ago) link
oh no not the guy that ate a bunch of shitty food and filmed it, we really are losing our heroes
― AdamVania (Adam Bruneau), Thursday, 14 December 2017 15:22 (six years ago) link
eh his permanent association with a movie i really like, the one direction documentary, means this bums me out. it's extremely cool to be an asshole about it though
― flamenco drop (BradNelson), Thursday, 14 December 2017 15:24 (six years ago) link
Giving me flashbacks to the old Daily Show "Ted Hitler" bit - http://www.cc.com/video-clips/rk9abw/the-daily-show-with-jon-stewart-bloggers
― JoeStork, Thursday, 14 December 2017 15:31 (six years ago) link
https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2017/12/13/magazine/the-reckoning-women-and-power-in-the-workplace.html?_r=0
many essays to read
― j., Thursday, 14 December 2017 21:00 (six years ago) link
http://www.cnn.com/2017/12/13/politics/congress-women-democrats-dress-kaptur/index.html
sounding like a 71 year old
― akm, Thursday, 14 December 2017 22:05 (six years ago) link
more from espn
http://www.bostonglobe.com/sports/2017/12/14/women-who-worked-espn-say-its-problems-far-beyond-barstool-sports/L1v9HJIvtnHuBPiMru6yGM/story.html
― mookieproof, Thursday, 14 December 2017 22:55 (six years ago) link
Wonder if that Hong Kong investigation will go any further than Weinstein and Logan.
― Robert Adam Gilmour, Thursday, 14 December 2017 23:18 (six years ago) link
Dustin Hoffman.
― The Harsh Tutelage of Michael McDonald (Raymond Cummings), Friday, 15 December 2017 02:29 (six years ago) link
http://variety.com/2017/biz/news/dustin-hoffman-2-1202641525/
― flappy bird, Friday, 15 December 2017 02:31 (six years ago) link
picturing him smiling that insouciant smile and staring right into their faces while he's violating them is enough to make me throw my phone across the room
awful
― Squeaky Fromage (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 15 December 2017 03:32 (six years ago) link
i definitely believe that Hoffman's a piece of shit rapistthat said, I'm not sure what to take from the third account in that story, or if it should have been reported - it's kind of hard to buy hypnosis?
― Nhex, Friday, 15 December 2017 07:17 (six years ago) link
Well that does it. I'm never watching Ishtar again.
― how's life, Friday, 15 December 2017 09:44 (six years ago) link
This article is great. Among other things, she articulates my inchoate worries about this moment we’re in, my resistance to the claims that we’re living through a revolution.https://nplusonemag.com/issue-30/the-intellectual-situation/in-the-maze/
― horseshoe, Friday, 15 December 2017 11:50 (six years ago) link
According to this profile, Lorin Stein was hired at FSG as an editorial assistant to Jonathan Galassi in 1998. The same year, I was turned down for an assistant position at FSG (with a different editor) because I was "too old." I'm a year younger than Stein. https://t.co/LCqaF1Gqk7— Ruth Franklin (@ruth_franklin) December 15, 2017
― mookieproof, Friday, 15 December 2017 15:07 (six years ago) link
Just seeing this after I awoke, I burst out crying. There it is, confirmation that Harvey Weinstein derailed my career, something I suspected but was unsure. Thank you Peter Jackson for being honest. I’m just heartsick https://t.co/ljK9NqICbm— Mira Sorvino (@MiraSorvino) December 15, 2017
― mookieproof, Friday, 15 December 2017 15:40 (six years ago) link
Was not expecting this:
http://amp.mcclatchydc.com/news/nation-world/national/article189931514.html
― Lyudmila Pavlichenko (dandydonweiner), Friday, 15 December 2017 17:56 (six years ago) link