People that won't venture to hit on you but have a pretty obvious attraction to you -- C or D?

haven't experienced that for a while but was just thinking of a guy i hadn't seen for a long time who fit that category a while ago.

i think Mr. Fantastic can do this

pssssst! duude, he's not reeeal

-- caitlin oh no (caitx...), May 10th, 2005.

me too :((((

?? Alex that's seriously weird! Really? Or is this just an illustrative exagerration?

xpost: you have it exact, Marcello! or perhaps knocking them out with a club and then dragging them off by the hair.

I WOULD ONLY DO SO WITH MY COLD DEAD HANDS

Noses in the trough. Where is the PJ Pliny of our age?

yeah, that wasn't quite what I meant: more that when I actively hit on someone it's because I'm vaguely attracted to them but not enough to be bothered by rejection. The people I have actual crushes on probably think I hate them, because I'm about the concealing-feelings thing to such an extent that I end up actively ignoring them.

So painfully familiar. The last person to whom I had a strong physical attraction worked at the same place I did. Though it was a very casual workplace and I did not work at all closely with this person, and I even had a sort of inkling that my interest might have been reciprocated in some degree, I was so freaked out about it that I could only cope by ignoring the person almost ostentatiously. (I probably could have worn a sign that said "[PERSON], I WANT YOU" with greater subtlety.) Result: zero, of course -- but also no humiliation, which at the time felt like the real imperative. I am pathetic in so very many ways.

NB only about 3-4 women have ever been attracted to me, so there's not a long list of these demidotes.

x-p

This is exactly what I accidentally do! I think sometimes I go so far that they think I'm insulting their tastes. I'm a pretty critical person by nature in that I know the negatives of my favorite things as much as the positives -- so I can defend them in conversation, of course -- so if someone has similar tastes I pull out the negatives and see how they react!

Worst tactic ever, but it's like some bizarre instinct for me.

hah! same here. i still managed to get married. :-)

Doesnt offend me at all. But I'm REALLY bad at dealing with knowing someone has a crush on me when I really don't like them or find them interesting. I can't be blunt - I end up just doing the ignore-and-hope-they'll-get-bored thing :/ Not nice, I know.

Do I sound egotistical? Im sure I do. But hey it gets me guys.

that and the goth-wear!

Even more frustrating is dealing with knowing someone has a crush on you when you are actually very interested yourself. When that happens to me, I become even more inept than usual, incapable to wrap it up and eventually I start avoiding the person.
L7

Last Thursday, as I rolled into Forbidden Planet for some retail therapy, I noticed a fairly pretty woman sitting on the customer chair by the till. Mainly because she looked straight at me as I walked past and we held the gaze till I walked round to the figures section. Now, usually, I might've smiled, but I wasn't in a great mood, so I decided to brush it off. Then, oddly, the same thing happened when I walked downstairs to the books, and then again when I returned ten minutes later and she was now in the queue. And by this point I was a little baffled.

Now, I'm glad there are lots more cute girls in the Planet these days, but is it becoming a pick-up place and no one told me? Like that supermarket thing?

(la la la la la)
Hey mama, this that shit that make you groove, mama
Get on the floor and move your booty moma
We the blast masters blastin' up the jamma
(REEEEEEEWIIIIIIND)
Cutie cutie, make sure you move your booty
Shake that thing like we in the city of sin, and
Hey shorty, I know you wanna party
the way your body look really make me feel nauuughty
Cutie cutie, make sure you move your booty
Shake that thing like we in the city of sin, and
Hey shorty, I know you wanna party
the way your body look really make me feel nauuughty

He may still be just 16-years-old, but Justin is doing everything he can to learn how to attract the ladies — even hiring someone to help him!

It may seem hard to believe that Justin Bieber has any trouble with the ladies, but to insure his success with the opposite sex Justin has decided to go all out and hire a swagger coach! Life & Style spoke with a source who said about Justin’s coach, “Ryan shows him how to walk, how to talk, how to flirt, even how to wear his hat to attract as many girls as possible.”

If all else fails however, Justin has a quick fix to meet the ladies. “Before a show, Justin has a member of his entourage walk through the crowd and pick out the cutest girls,” an insider says. “Then they all go backstage where Justin is waiting for them.”

It seems like Justin is quite the ladies man with, or without, a swagger coach.

I heard that Justin Bieber has .

~ventured

with a quick glance across the paragraph i saw "how to fart".

inestimable skill, that

christ he's turning into gene simmons

If all else fails however, Justin has a quick fix to meet the ladies. “Before a show, Justin has a member of his entourage walk through the crowd and pick out the cutest girls,” an insider says. “Then they all go backstage where Justin is waiting for them, with ”

Oh it's a rarity when this happens to me. The last time it happened was when I was in a gas station picking up a cup of coffee, there was this rather handsome, well dressed man at the checkout counter. I sort of looked him over and got a good look at his face, I was very close to him but he never said a word. He wasn't wearing a ring but he was probably already in a relationship of some sort.

Finally a thread about me...

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erotomania

also this is one big thread of OTM but this

This is exactly what I accidentally do! I think sometimes I go so far that they think I'm insulting their tastes. I'm a pretty critical person by nature in that I know the negatives of my favorite things as much as the positives -- so I can defend them in conversation, of course -- so if someone has similar tastes I pull out the negatives and see how they react!

Worst tactic ever, but it's like some bizarre instinct for me.

― mike h. (mike h.), Thursday, May 12, 2005 10:12 AM (5 years ago) Bookmark

ugh

but I'll also do that if someone has a crush on me and I'm not interested. live by the taste die by the taste I guess

trying not to be this guy atm — have been rationalizing inaction to mahself on the grounds that I am genuinely uncertain as to whether the person I have the p.obvious attraction to is already dating some1 else, so rather than act on less-than-perfect information I am just waiting until i get clearer signals/fuller picture — but worried even if she's single she might be as bad as me at all this stuff, so have been thinking I should just say something next time I see her — ???

"you may have noticed that I have a pretty obvious attraction to you; let's talk about that"

This is pretty classic.

What is not classic are ppl who passive-aggressively hit on you. It's mega creepy. Does it ever work?

ok Z S seriously I hate you so much

I hate this. A friend has been dropping hints about how we have similar interests (or so I interpret it anyway) but then goes on to talk about his ex.

Then doesn't do anything.

I'd rather we just talk about it, but we always meet in a group and there's never the opportunity.

maybe "talking about his ex" = attempt to subtly call attention to current singleness?? but yeah I feel you, the attractive ppl u never get to really talk to because you only ever see them in group situations = dud of ultimate frustration

He may still be just 16-years-old, but Justin is doing everything he can to learn how to attract the ladies — even hiring someone to help him!

It may seem hard to believe that Justin Bieber has any trouble with the ladies, but to insure his success with the opposite sex Justin has decided to go all out and hire a swagger coach! Life & Style spoke with a source who said about Justin’s coach, “Ryan shows him how to walk, how to talk, how to flirt, even how to wear his hat to attract as many girls as possible.”

If all else fails however, Justin has a quick fix to meet the ladies. “Before a show, Justin has a member of his entourage walk through the crowd and pick out the cutest girls,” an insider says. “Then they all go backstage where Justin is waiting for them.”

It seems like Justin is quite the ladies man with, or without, a swagger coach.

― buzza, Saturday, November 20, 2010 8:52 PM (1 week ago) Bookmark

this is toe-curlingly embarassing. how some people do not crawl into a cave with shame i have no idea.

dud

Justin Beiber is gonna be one very very lonely and unhappy bastard.

ethan: justin hired mandee

DJP otm. Those poor penises.