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I will soon be gone for 1 month to take an intensive summer language course. My boyfriend has two best friends. One is female. He dated her for 3 years, they lived together, spoke of marriage, etc. etc. She is leaving for 4 months to teach English in Japan. She has been dating someone for the past year or so, I have been on both strained and friendly terms with her, but now mostly friendly. She invited us to some remote island off the coast of South Carolina where her family has a no electricity, no toilets, no showers one room cabin. It would be me, boyfriend, her, her boyfriend. For 3 days-- the next day I would get on a plane and not see boyfriend for a month. This week before I leave will/has been insanely hectic, numerous house guests, heavy workload at job, lots to prepare for time away, moving soon. I understand I have a obligation to give my boyfriend time to hang with his best friend before she leaves for a really long time, especially since his other close friend has been pretty distant lately. To be honest however, it sounds kind of hellacious to me. This girl is perfectly nice, my boyfriend is perfectly nice, infact, I wouldn't necessarily even mind his going for a day or two without me, but logically I would like to spend as much time with him as possible before I leave; by the way, there will be no place private enough to have sex at this remote cabin. There will be a lot of fishing I am told, which kind of grosses me out. I have never done that before. I am squeemish about killing ants, so I might act a little wussy in the situation. This is a place my boyfriend and his best friend used to go together as a couple. They have shared memories of where they get their favorite sandwiches, that one time so and so fell in the water, hahaha, and so forth, etc. I have already been privy to a few of these joint trips down vacation memory lane and felt a little like, eww. I feel like the entire weekend will be kind of like this and I'll wind up making edgy small talk with her boyfriend and wanting God to make me a bird so I c(an) fly, fly far away from (t)here like Jenny in Forest Gump. I guess I just have to suck it up and go, or else the terrorists win?

― Who cares, Sunday, 7 August 2005 00:13 (twenty years ago)

It sounds to me as though your boyfriend is expecting an excessive amount of understanding from you. I would hate it. (In fact, I would probably start a fight about it.)

― Rockist_Scientist (RSLaRue), Sunday, 7 August 2005 00:19 (twenty years ago)

That sounds kind of nightmarish. How much does your boyfriend want to go?

― Cathy (Cathy), Sunday, 7 August 2005 00:22 (twenty years ago)

Nice to hear. I was feeling immature/insecure for harboring problems with this outing. I think what it comes down to though is 1. It just doesn't sound that fun, 2. It is really bad timing.

― Who cares, Sunday, 7 August 2005 00:23 (twenty years ago)

Boring to read.

― paulhw (paulhw), Sunday, 7 August 2005 00:24 (twenty years ago)

No toilets?!

― Rockist_Scientist (RSLaRue), Sunday, 7 August 2005 00:26 (twenty years ago)

this is the kind of shit that would have happened to me if I had stayed in Boston, glad I moved. good luck with it. I'd ask boyfriend if he's really trying hard to test you, or if it was all ex-girlfriend's idea

― Haikunym (Haikunym), Sunday, 7 August 2005 00:30 (twenty years ago)

It sounds awful.

― luna (luna.c), Sunday, 7 August 2005 00:30 (twenty years ago)

I don't like the way it seems that he's treating your going away as no more significant than his friend's going away. I don't know. I'm very typically Scorpionic about this sort of stuff, and I realize other people handle things quite differently, and there are all sorts of arrangements for relationships that appear to work well for others, that I just cannot fathom.

― Rockist_Scientist (RSLaRue), Sunday, 7 August 2005 00:36 (twenty years ago)

It was the friend's suggestion. I loosely agreed for an unnamed date sometime in the future when she asked me after a group bar hang, so crud on my quality of being a happy easy going drunk. My question is, why wouldn't SHE just want a weekend alone in the woods with the dude she is dating?

― Who cares, Sunday, 7 August 2005 01:01 (twenty years ago)

How long after you leave is she leaving for Japan?

― luna (luna.c), Sunday, 7 August 2005 01:03 (twenty years ago)

About a week or so I believe, give or take a few days.

― Who cares, Sunday, 7 August 2005 01:05 (twenty years ago)

Then I'd say no, just spend the time with your boyfriend, and let them get together with her boyfriend for dinner or whatever after you go. Don't subject yourself to that.

― luna (luna.c), Sunday, 7 August 2005 01:07 (twenty years ago)

i smell a bob robbins orgy

― sunny successor (he hates my guts, we had a fight) (katharine), Sunday, 7 August 2005 01:07 (twenty years ago)

yah fuck that dood. i wouldnt go to that.

― huell howser (chaki), Sunday, 7 August 2005 01:20 (twenty years ago)

What a dreadful situation. And how awful to have to make a decision of this magnatude. I have no suggestions, just sympathy for you.

― Wiggy (Wiggy), Sunday, 7 August 2005 02:11 (twenty years ago)

He doesn't really have any reliable family members to speak of and this girl has been a loyal friend/girlfriend to him for the past 6 years or so I guess. I understand he thinks of her as family and as one of the few people in the world he can count on, and I would not want it to come across as some kind of ultimatum or some bullshit, as it is not. I would rather my last few nights we get to have sex and hang out. He is throwing her a going away party a week after I leave, he and I will probably be going to visit her in Japan in December etc., but I am going to be the jerk if I don't go. Maybe I could contract rubella. But that is typical passive agressive chick stuff; not that any bastion of emotional health would be foisting their middling relationship issues on a message baord. Oh crud. Also: NO ORGY.

― Who cares, Sunday, 7 August 2005 03:02 (twenty years ago)

Also, thanks for the empathy; any dudes opinions on this? Other than that it is kind of boring?

― Who cares, Sunday, 7 August 2005 03:08 (twenty years ago)

Have you told him how you feel about this? Not confrontationally, but something along the lines of "Honey, if you really want us to go to this cabin I'll go, but I'm worried it'll be kind of awkward, and I'd much much rather spend my last few nights in town having sex with you"? Maybe he has no idea how you feel about it.

― nory (nory), Sunday, 7 August 2005 03:08 (twenty years ago)

you're only going away for a month! its not thaaat long...

― phil-two (phil-two), Sunday, 7 August 2005 03:25 (twenty years ago)

phil-two- Yeah, it's true that I am not going away for as long as she is, and we are moving into our first official place together when I get back so it is not as though we won't be seeing plenty of eachother. Like I said, I might just be pussing out. Did I say that?
Nory- In some ways this has been an on-going issue in the relationship. Whenever I just go with the flow and ignore how awkward, annoying or unfun something (this friend related) is and just let it happen it always ends up relatively painless compared to my dread. Sort of like calling my Mom. My boyfriend also seems to register what a real sport I am about things and how super neat and secure I am, eh hem, and things are extra in love and pleasant with him. I of course am not a sport, I am a fake sport who through sheer suspension of all instincts to the contrary gets past intital distaste to making the best of a situation I cannot change. So, I could talk about it, but I think he just wants to go fishing in the fresh air and have a hang. Iwill be forcing him to stay home if I mention being bummed and my last four days will contains distance, doubts, possibly silences, fights and resentment.

― Who cares, Sunday, 7 August 2005 03:40 (twenty years ago)

sounds like you've really already made the decision to go. maybe it will be like the other times you've mentioned and relatively painless. might be a bit depressing facing having to make these kind of fibs forever though, might be worthwhile getting it out in the open sooner or later.

― gem (trisk), Sunday, 7 August 2005 03:45 (twenty years ago)

also, she's only going away for 4 months which is hardly a long time. plus yr going to visit her in japan too. surely he can survive missing this cabin trip? i wouldn't go in a zillion years!

― stirmonster (stirmonster), Sunday, 7 August 2005 03:49 (twenty years ago)

yeah i don't think i'd go either. sounds like you have a lot more patience than me though.

― gem (trisk), Sunday, 7 August 2005 03:52 (twenty years ago)

I don't know. I don't want to have a fight right before I leave and we move in together. Maybe I'll just tell him to go? I think it would be nice to get out of the city and be around trees, I just don't want to be there in that particular nature situation. It would not relax me. That would be awkward for him then though, because he would be kind of a third wheel instead of one fourth of a fun happy double date, yay! Cripes. HOW CAN I WEASEL OUT OF THIS!!??

― Who cares, Sunday, 7 August 2005 04:12 (twenty years ago)

I don't want to be stuck with moody resentful dude with four days off when I basically "make" him stay home by telling him I feel uncomfortable.

― Who cares, Sunday, 7 August 2005 04:18 (twenty years ago)

how is it a fun happy double date if you feel awkward, tense and unhappy? you don't have to tell him you're uncomfortable about it, you could tell him you don't want to go camping and you don't want to share him for the last four days before you go away for a month, which it would appear is just as true as your fear of discomfort. can't be that difficult surely.

― gem (trisk), Sunday, 7 August 2005 05:44 (twenty years ago)

Also it concerns me you say he thinks youre all cool and laid back when inside you're stressed and weirded out. I always assume my guy is cool with me; I'd be very upset if I knew he was holding back hurts, and not telling me. Honesty is pretty key innit?

― Trayce (trayce), Sunday, 7 August 2005 06:08 (twenty years ago)

trayce is spot on as usual. i wouldn't like the thought of pretending i was ok with this stuff forever because i was too afraid to spoil my pretend image of being cool and laid back? i think fibs, not matter how well-intentioned, have a nasty habit of catching up with you and backfiring. everyone is different though.

― gem (trisk), Sunday, 7 August 2005 07:31 (twenty years ago)

As usual? heh, thanks :)

― Trayce (trayce), Sunday, 7 August 2005 07:33 (twenty years ago)

He is throwing her a going away party a week after I leave

I would casually tell him about this. That you would prefer to spend some quality time together. Someone said, Pil-Two maybe, that it's only a month. This is a looooong time in my opinion, I think I'd go mental.Like Trayce says, you really do have to open up and let him know how you feel. I'm sure he won't *reject* you. You love him, so you're bound to want to be together. If you don't like being stuck in a cabin, go fishing,... then tell him. Of course if you don't want a fight/discussion/confrontation, I'd keep quiet and make the *change* after you come back. :-) But you have to let him show the real you. It's easier for both. :-)

― nathalie sans denouement (stevie nixed), Sunday, 7 August 2005 07:54 (twenty years ago)

I think the good advice here is all about talking to your boyfriend and telling him how uneasy you'd be with the cabin and the fishing, how it'll be hard for you to hear him and his ex fondly reminiscing, how you'd rather be able to be alone with him a lot for the last days before your trip away. Don't say it as "I'm not going because...", still less "We're not going because...", and do emphasise that you like his ex and you appreciate that he needs some time with her before her longer trip away. Make it you explaining your doubts and concerns. And good luck.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Sunday, 7 August 2005 08:31 (twenty years ago)

no electricity, no toilets, no showers one room cabin.

i wouldn't even be prepared to consider it

― Bob Six (bobbysix), Sunday, 7 August 2005 09:01 (twenty years ago)

Are you actually going on your trip the day after this trip ends? Because you could just say you need time to pack and do errands and you would feel too stressed coming straight back from the island and getting on a plane. I think that's completely reasonable.

I love how other people are giving advice about the value of honesty in relationships and I'm still thinking of ways you can wheedle your way out with a good lie.

― Cathy (Cathy), Sunday, 7 August 2005 09:07 (twenty years ago)

I can totally understand your discomfort, but maybe by being a secure sport etc. you have genuinely made him think you'd be totally cool with all this? It does sound kind of a nice idea in theory (if you take out potential relationship issues, dislike of fishing etc.) but clearly you're not up for it.

So tell him, openly, honestly and NOT defensively or resentfully, and see what his reaction is. It's probably "oh sweetheart I had no idea you'd feel like that", and then he'll have sex with you (which tbh seems to be an odd priority of yours, but each to their own).

― Markelby (Mark C), Sunday, 7 August 2005 13:27 (twenty years ago)

which tbh seems to be an odd priority of yours, but each to their own

People wanting to have sex with their boyfriend/girlfriend is an odd priority?

― Rockist_Scientist (RSLaRue), Sunday, 7 August 2005 13:30 (twenty years ago)

Markelby- I don't mean to be sex focused, it is just that we've had house guests for the past few days in our fairly small place and I will be gone for a month in a matter of days.

Cathy- I like the way you think my friend! Yes, I have been attempting to percolate the perfect lie for a few days down-- one in which I am not in the least implicated as less than game, but which thoroughly puts the kibosh on this plan right now.

Martin- My boyfriend is an extremely disciplined worker who almost never takes time off; in fact, if this were just going to be he and I in a ye olde cabin in the woods, he could probably gut fish on my forehead and hang live bait from his ears and I would be thrilled that he was taking some time to relax. I don't mind the lack of bathroom/electricity etc. The only thing the remotely puts me off this trip is the combination of all these things with the other couple, and I don't know if that is fair. My ex is also one of my best friends, but he lives 800 miles awy, although we talk a lot and see eachother at conferences and things. I would never suggest my boyfriend and I hang out for days in close quaters with him and his girlfriend. It just seems inappropriate.

Nathalie sans- We have been dating for about 2 yearsish and he has a pretty good idea of actual me. He is extremely tuned to other people's emotions around him, but only when he wants to know how they feel. Not in a jerk way, but if the way someone feels is critical of him or in some way contrary to how he wants things, he ignores it utterly and barrels though. Good for getting work done, listening to loud music, playing pranks: bummer for relationship sometimes. I said some things this weekend about how it was bad timing and like, how I had a lot to get done and he got pretty instantly hostile and dismissed it as me getting cranky of the sudden. Then we had to go inside and tend to guests, so all was dropped and the night was pleasant.

Trayce- I know honesty does SEEM key in this situation here, but we're dealing with a limited amount of time in which I would both like to have ease of packing and planning and a lot of sex, which if I can find the right way to blamelessly WEASEL, my last four days will contain. I don't want to spend this week having emotive times and serious talks when the only real problem here is that I JUST DON'T WANT TO! (stamp)

― Who cares, Sunday, 7 August 2005 15:28 (twenty years ago)

Martin- Another thing, and by the way, I am well aware this is totally ridiculous: If I tell him it is hard to heard the two of them reminisce and share private/past related jokes, be friend affectionate, spend time with them in a place that used to be their romatic couple place and he says "oh I understand pefectly" and we don't go to the cabin and he explains to this girl what the problem is and how she understands right? And she understands and the next time I see her looks at me like I am a parapalegic hamster and asks with concern if I'm doing "okay?" NO THANK YOU VERY MUCH AT ALL.
I stand by the idea that honesty, while at times valuable, is NOT always the best policy.

― Who cares, Sunday, 7 August 2005 15:43 (twenty years ago)

Have some respect for your own feelings. You feel really uncomfortable about going, and you also feel afraid to tell your boyfriend that. That is not good. While keeping it copacetic at the expense of your own needs seems to make sense in the short term, in the long term you end up unfulfilled and extremely resentful.

In the end, though, it's not really about that girl. It's about you and your boyfriend. Asking for some time alone as a couple before you leave is not unreasonable, and you probably wouldn't want to pack yourself off to this island no matter who invited you there. If he makes you feel a jerk for wanting time alone with him, and insists on going to the island regardless of your wishes (and the fact that he'll have time with his friend later) then a hundred red flags should shoot up in your brain and wave wildly about.

Start thinking about what *you* need, and stop feeling bad about it.

― Laura H. (laurah), Sunday, 7 August 2005 16:01 (twenty years ago)

It would be me, boyfriend, her, her boyfriend. For 3 days-- the next day I would get on a plane and not see boyfriend for a month.

Could you ask for a revision to these plans? Maybe two days with everyone in the cabin, and then one day/night just you and your boyfriend in a posh (adjust according to budget) hotel room near the airport?

― Paul in Santa Cruz (Paul in Santa Cruz), Monday, 8 August 2005 00:42 (twenty years ago)

Well, I was honest and he appreciated that, and will be going to the cabin without me. So, I guess I won't see my boyfriend for a month and four days, give or take a day. Yay honesty. I SHOULD FAKED RUBELLA ILE! I SHOULD HAVE FAKED RUBELLA.

― Who cares, Monday, 8 August 2005 05:21 (twenty years ago)

(Possibly bad) advice from me: Dump this got-no-time-for-you-but-always-time-for-the-ex-girlfriend guy.

― Haikunym (Haikunym), Monday, 8 August 2005 05:36 (twenty years ago)

Hey! Yay! He said he's not going to go, and he does not seemed bummed or resentful and we'll have nice dinners and some sex and a few days to hang out since he already has the time off. I CANNOT BELIEVE CALM HONESTY WORKED. WTF. This screws up my whole world view. And about 1 minute ago I was totally seething and way into your advice Haikunym; not because I actually wanted to dump him, but because I wanted to repeatedly poke him in the eyes, and then pummel him with my fists and then head butt him. Thanks.

― Who cares, Monday, 8 August 2005 05:49 (twenty years ago)

Although since I want him to be able to hang out and relax, and I want him to go fishing, hang with friend before she goes etc., I guess it is kind of crummy of me to be GLAD he is staying? Is that some manipulative female thing? Selfish, childish thing? Her or me, I better win thing? Ah crap. I try to curb this kind of stuff in myself.

― Who cares, Monday, 8 August 2005 05:55 (twenty years ago)

don't take advice from ilx people, they almost all crazy

― Dan I. (Dan I.), Monday, 8 August 2005 05:58 (twenty years ago)

Paul in Santa Cruz-- that was really good adive, but we were renting a car together as they do not have one and ours won't make the trip.

Thanks again dudes (the female inclusive form of dudes) I don't know from ILE; Dan, (perhaps sadly) the ilx people are way smarter, and oddly more honest than me and most of the people in my actual life who give me advice.

― Who cares, Monday, 8 August 2005 06:00 (twenty years ago)

that is sad

― Dan I. (Dan I.), Monday, 8 August 2005 06:31 (twenty years ago)

http://www.junglebook-collection.nl/images/jb-1673.jpg
don't worry about it though, what? we're your friends to the bittah end

― Dan I. (Dan I.), Monday, 8 August 2005 06:40 (twenty years ago)

i hope he doesn't tell all his buddies how psycho clingy his girlfriend is.

― phil-two (phil-two), Monday, 8 August 2005 06:45 (twenty years ago)

I totally understand this situation & it WOULD NOT be happening in my world. I hate it when my boy walks down memory lane with his best mate, as he (the best mate) always manages to mention one of my boy's ex's. I think it's totally insensitive. My boy was/is friends with one of his ex's & I had terrible trouble trying to deal with it. To be honest, we nearly split up over it, but he knows how I feel & respects that. Good luck with this though, it sounds like you are a saint!

― Panther Pink (Pinkpanther), Monday, 8 August 2005 08:08 (twenty years ago)

don't take advice from ilx people, they almost all crazy

Yes, they tend to project way too much. wink wink

WhoCares, I'm happy it worked out! :-))) It's not a female thing, it's a wuv thing. :-)

― nathalie sans denouement (stevie nixed), Monday, 8 August 2005 08:19 (twenty years ago)

glad he changed his mind and isn't going, if he went without you that would send pretty crap vibes.

can the two of you plan something relaxing and private for that weekend, if you're concerned about taking his relaxing weekend away from him?

― colette (a2lette), Monday, 8 August 2005 08:52 (twenty years ago)

I find it strange that you think it's weird or bizarre or mean or manipulative to want your boyfriend to stay with you and not go and hang out in some cabin in the woods with his ex-girlfriend. I would not want me or my Bloke, separately or together, to ever be in this situation under any circumstances.

Perhaps I am the one who is strange.

― accentmonkey (accentmonkey), Monday, 8 August 2005 09:46 (twenty years ago)

wow, he's lucky he got time off so fortuitously...we're super busy at work this week. I can't be resonsive to anyone while I'm at work practically.

anyway, more ultimatums! and by the way, how old are you?

― alexis kornikopolous, Monday, 8 August 2005 10:24 (twenty years ago)

Alexis-I am too old to be this completely emotionally retarded, and also too old to type 'yay!' when a moment of resolution in interpersonal relationships is reached, but c'est la vie. That is the boon of the annonymous post.
Perhaps I was being unfair to my actual friends when I stated that you dudes gave better advice, however I think in person I can wheedle people who know me into giving me the advice I want them to give. ILE kind of self selects people who enjoy advising, sharing thoughts on random topics, posting pictures of rodents etc. and that is the kind of objective, random thoughtfulness I can take to the bank. THE NOT BEING A SPAZZ in PERSON bank! Yes, for all my nail biting whinery and boohoo-itude on this thread, you might be surprised to know that I compartmentailze, and in normal life am thought of as kind of a strong minded confident human being.
Phil- if I will get to sleep naked, have daytime sex and showers with my boyfriend before I go away for a dry dull academic month of flashcards and tenses, oh yes, I am willing for those few days to be classified to "buddies" who's ever they might be, as whatever my boyfriend would like. Although I have to say, he is thoroughly his own man and very stubborn; I feel he has his own reasons for staying home. He vacilated on the trip a week ago, and his friend convinced him to go. I think, unromantically enough, he realized that he wanted to get more done with the move and has freelance stuff hanging over his head and was mostly going away as a favor to his friend. I generally tend to cave in these situations, so this is adding a nice counter balance to the pattern in our relationship so far. It should be said, a brief coastal vacation was taken this summer so he did have some just hanging-out time.

― Who cares, Monday, 8 August 2005 15:13 (twenty years ago)

X-POST TIMES A MILLION

"Scorpionic"

― ai lien (kold_krush), Monday, 8 August 2005 15:33 (twenty years ago)

fishing is fun, you people are crazy.

― hstencil (hstencil), Monday, 8 August 2005 15:51 (twenty years ago)

I spoke too soon. He told her we weren't going to go and I guess she got really upset and bummed out and so now he is going without me, so that I can finish up what I have to do at home, nurse the recent cold I caught and I suppose not have to endure the bulk of my womanly blood-letting with no toilet or shower. What can I do? I don't want to make her unhappy, I don't want to put my boyfriend between us and yet this turn of events makes me deeply sad. I wish my bummed out mattered like her bummed out, but I am not a generally depressed person, and she is.

― Who cares, Tuesday, 9 August 2005 18:13 (twenty years ago)

She's going to be there a whole week after you leave - she's a selfish bitch, and I hate her.

― luna (luna.c), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 18:21 (twenty years ago)

Find a cute boy while you are away on language course, peg him, and send the photos home to your bf.

― Leon C. (Ex Leon), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 18:28 (twenty years ago)

Thanks Luna! You don't know how much someone else swearing about the person takes pyschic weight from my shoulders. I can't do it because I'll be punished tenfold for being petty and not being grateful that he has this really good friend in his life who has stuck by him, and she is kind and intelligent and beautiful and funny and all of that stuff BUT sometimes I feel like she is as oblivious of my feelings and unconcious of the effects her actions have on others as a toddler. I know I am rad, I know my boyfriend loves me, I just wish I knew how to do what she does, which is make herself and what she needs THE priority.

― Who cares, Tuesday, 9 August 2005 18:42 (twenty years ago)

wait what does a toddler have to do with this?

― hstencil (hstencil), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 18:45 (twenty years ago)

hstencil- and as unconcious as a...toddler. Whatever. Crumb.

Leon- it is a bummer, but it certainly doesn't warrent that!

― Who cares, Tuesday, 9 August 2005 18:59 (twenty years ago)

well, considering the changes in situation, i'm sorry to say i think your boyfriend is coming across as a bit of a doofus. you've told him your concerns (were part of your concerns 'i'd like us to have time on our own before i leave'?), and he heard them and then decided her concerns are more important.

yeah, she's selfish and mean, and not good news. but sounds like he buys it, so he's probably not worth your time. i'd say to him that this is a really serious issue, that it looks to you like he's clearly picking spending time with her over you, and see what he says.

this is especially the case since she's around for a week longer than you and he's throwing her a party. if you were leaving on the same day, and she was away longer, i could *maybe* understand it. but the fact that he'd rather spend your last weekend with someone else says to me that you're a pretty low priority to him.

chuck him.

― colette (a2lette), Wednesday, 10 August 2005 11:36 (twenty years ago)

I was joking in my earlier post, but colette seems pretty otm. He is a goofus.

― Leon C. (Ex Leon), Wednesday, 10 August 2005 13:21 (twenty years ago)

He does not sound like a good boyfriend, and after twenty girlfriends have broken up with him he will still not realise that this ex of his is as much of a handicap as a clingy mother. Luckily by then your current boyfriend will be cruising you around the Caribbean and telling you for the millionth time what a lovely and kind person you are, just because you listened to his uncle's slightly boring stories over dinner.

― accentmonkey (accentmonkey), Wednesday, 10 August 2005 17:30 (twenty years ago)

seven months pass...

Seamus Crowe this is draggin on!!.. Got about ½ way thru, then lost it. Come for a holiday here @ the farmlet in australia..Heaps fUn..
Way less stress than there by the sounds ;-)

― Flux, Sunday, 2 April 2006 07:15 (twenty years ago)

― electric sound of jim (and why not) (electricsound), Sunday, 2 April 2006 08:08 (twenty years ago)

I will have gone soon so that 1 month takes an intensive course of languages of summer. My boy friend has two better friends. One is female. He dated it during 3 years, they lived together, spoke of marriage, etc etc... It leaves for 4 months to teach English in Japan. It had dated somebody during the last year or thus, I was in the conditions tended and friendly with it, but maintaining most of the time friendly. It invited us to a certain remote island in addition to coast of South Carolina where its family has an electricity of not, aucunes toilets, aucunes showers a fuselage of part. It would be me, boy friend, it, his boy friend. During 3 days -- the next day I would get into a plane and would not see the boy friend for one month. This week before I leave will/has be the agitated and many guests alienated of house, heavy workload to work, fates to prepare at left time, moving soon. I understand that I have an obligation to give my boy friend the hour to hang with his best friend before it leaves during a really long time, more especially as his/her other friend of fine was rather distant recently. To be honest however, it resounds me the kind of hellacious. This girl is perfectly nice, my boy friend is perfectly nice, infact, I would not equalize necessarily the spirit his going for one day or two without me, but logically I would like to spend as much hour with him because possible before I leave; moreover, there will be no place deprived enough to have the sex with this remote fuselage. There will be much fishing that I of which am said, the kind incorporates me out of. I before never did that. I am squeemish about the ants of massacre, thus I could act wussy in the situation. It is a place my boy friend and his best friend used to go together like couple. They shared memories from where they obtain their preferred sandwiches, this once thus and thus fell into water, the hahaha, and so on, etc... I was already private with some of the common lane of memory of holidays of these voyages to the bottom and smelled like, eww. I feel as the whole weekend will be kind of like this and I will be rolled up to the top making the small maintenance irritated with his boy friend and wanting that God makes me a fly of bird thus of c(an) of I, remote fly far from (t)here like the she-ass in Gump forest. I guess that I just must suck it upwards and go, or the terrorists gain? Relocate again

― Mr Jones (Mr Jones), Sunday, 2 April 2006 08:55 (twenty years ago)

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