My best friend is HOT

Message Bookmarked

Bookmark Removed

He is. Anyone else find their best friends extremely attractive (and out of the question)?

― Alfred Soto (Alfred Soto), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:14 (twenty years ago)

Yes.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:15 (twenty years ago)

All the bloody time. I'm always the "not cute" one. "Who's your friend" - this has ACTUALLY BEEN SAID TO ME.

― edward o (edwardo), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:16 (twenty years ago)

But I can't really think of them as hot anymore, because, you know, they're my friends. That's like saying your sister is hot.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:16 (twenty years ago)

Of course.

― Paunchy Stratego (kenan), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:17 (twenty years ago)

Ew luckily my best mate is, while I love him dearly, so not my type its laughable, so I'm glad I dont have this problem!

― Trayce (trayce), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:18 (twenty years ago)

shyeah right.

xpost

― N_RqQ, Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:18 (twenty years ago)

That's like saying your sister is hot.

No doubt. I've had a lot of female friends in my time, and found most of them quite attractive. But after a certain point, you just turn off your penis. You have to. This is easier, I find, when they're married.

― Paunchy Stratego (kenan), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:19 (twenty years ago)

All the bloody time. I'm always the "not cute" one. "Who's your friend" - this has ACTUALLY BEEN SAID TO ME."

that sucks! I defintely exude more pheronomes than my rather neutered straight guy friend, but he's hot anyway.

― Alfred Soto (Alfred Soto), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:22 (twenty years ago)

Hmmm. My entire life has been spent lusting after my friends. Oh well.

― jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:22 (twenty years ago)

I hear ya.

― Alfred Soto (Alfred Soto), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:23 (twenty years ago)

I've been attracted to just about all my close friends at some point, but yeah, it's pretty easy to just turn your dick off.

― edward o (edwardo), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:24 (twenty years ago)

I have no hot friends, by dint of them being friends. If I ever want to stop fancying someone, I become friends with them - works like a charm.

― Come Back Johnny B (Johnney B), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:24 (twenty years ago)

(xpost) It is?!

― jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:24 (twenty years ago)

Oh I have male friends I get crushes on... but yeah, one turns ones dick off. Or um... wait, what do I do?

― Trayce (trayce), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:25 (twenty years ago)

::sobs::

― Alce Tea-Skirt (kate), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:25 (twenty years ago)

Oh, if you're repressed and frigid, it is easy, possibly.

(xpost, HAH Trayce!)

― edward o (edwardo), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:25 (twenty years ago)

Maybe I need to buy a switch.

― Alfred Soto (Alfred Soto), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:26 (twenty years ago)

my friends are always hott. the girl i hung out with most in college was flashily so, a swedish volleyball player. interestingly, many people would cross rooms to talk to her, but would stay to have conversations with me. my co-workers theorized that this was our strategy. i think it made me confident, and her insecure.

― carly (carly), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:26 (twenty years ago)

haha, i can't have good looking friends, i resent them too much.

― g-kit (g-kit), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:31 (twenty years ago)

After a while, I stop noticing. If I make a new friend they are unlikely to be hot though, too intimidating. They would have to be REALLY nice to make up for it.

― Archel (Archel), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:32 (twenty years ago)

are we talking same-sex friends? i think most of my most intense female friendships have started with something resembling a fairly intense crush, although 1) i'm not gay and 2) i've never made out with any of them. this is normal, i think. right?

― The Milkmaid (of Human Kindness) (The Milkmaid), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:33 (twenty years ago)

married people just get used to this feeling

― Banana Nutrament (ghostface), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:34 (twenty years ago)

I guess I meant same-sex attractions, but during my younger anad more vulnerable years I was completely in love (physically, emotionally) with my female best friend.

― Alfred Soto (Alfred Soto), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:36 (twenty years ago)

Life's too short to NOT crush on your same-sex friends. And your opposite-sex friends too. Go on!

― edward o (edwardo), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:37 (twenty years ago)

i have crush immunity.

― g-kit (g-kit), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:37 (twenty years ago)

As long as you don't grab his bum, it's ok.

― Alfred Soto (Alfred Soto), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:38 (twenty years ago)

Well helLO there, Ed ;P

― Trayce (trayce), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:38 (twenty years ago)

most of my female friends are very good-looking. i don't have crushes on them, though.

― lauren (laurenp), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:38 (twenty years ago)

What if he grabs yours, though? We're getting into ethically grey area here!

(Damn. Why don't I have a Cheeky Girls picture at hand?)

― edward o (edwardo), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:39 (twenty years ago)

if i'm completely honest though, most (ie all) of my friends are better looking than me. but they're not classically chiseled gods or anything, so i let them be my friend. there's a line, i guess. arf.

― g-kit (g-kit), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:44 (twenty years ago)

Has anyone with a hott best friend found that it benefits them more in terms of hooking up? As in if your hot friend attracts hot people easily you get their less-hot friend aka your equivalent?

― Sociah T Azzahole (blueski), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:48 (twenty years ago)

that sounds like the worst situation ever.

― g-kit (g-kit), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:49 (twenty years ago)

perhaps someone should start a BEST FRIENDS EXCHANGE service, where people can trade their best friends for dates (since you kind of don't want to date your best friend).

I'm serious

― ken c (ken c), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:49 (twenty years ago)

my lust objects always seem so much less fanciable once i've been friends with them for a while. by that point it's just too incestuous.

― you people and your friends are fake (Jody Beth Rosen), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:53 (twenty years ago)

hence the exchange idea!!!

― ken c (ken c), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:54 (twenty years ago)

Plus, would you want your friends seeing you naked?

― edward o (edwardo), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:54 (twenty years ago)

I usually just stop being friends with them, because it becomes too difficult if I lust after them constantly.

― Alce Tea-Skirt (kate), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:55 (twenty years ago)

I like being friends with hot girls. It makes life more pleasant.

― Jordan (Jordan), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 14:57 (twenty years ago)

Besides, I think people usually become MORE attractive once you know them as a friend.

― Jordan (Jordan), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 15:01 (twenty years ago)

OTM. Their mere presence is a turn-on.

― Alfred Soto (Alfred Soto), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 15:03 (twenty years ago)

Yes, but that presents the quandary, where you feel you can't, i.e. you can have a friend who you weren't necessarily attracted to, but then you get to know how good they are, you click on lots of levels and then you start fancying them, but you CAN'T fancy them, so you don't. This possibly explains drunken liaisons with friends you regret in the morning, maybe.

― edward o (edwardo), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 15:03 (twenty years ago)

I guess I meant same-sex attractions

Yeah, but you're gay, so I just assumed you meant attractions to people of the sex you're usually attracted to.

― jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 15:04 (twenty years ago)

Although one of my best male friendships from high school was the result of an intense crush.

― jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 15:04 (twenty years ago)

I think, for the most part, all friendships -- same sex, opposite sex, romantic or not -- start as one sort of crush or another. Sometimes our hormones get in the way, most often they don't. Either way, I don't think I could be friends with someone I didn't like. I don't really have time for people I don't like.

As for non-sexual crushes, one of my best high school friends was the same way. I courted her like I would have courted a suitor.

― The Milkmaid (of Human Kindness) (The Milkmaid), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 15:09 (twenty years ago)

Plus, would you want your friends seeing you naked?

blindfolds!

― ken c (ken c), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 15:11 (twenty years ago)

Don't suitors normally do the courting?

― Jordan (Jordan), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 15:11 (twenty years ago)

Not when they're me.

― The Milkmaid (of Human Kindness) (The Milkmaid), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 15:11 (twenty years ago)

Being able to recognise your friend is looking great and being able to tell them so, with you both knowing there's nothing remotely saucy between you, is a wonderful thing.

― Markelby (Mark C), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 15:13 (twenty years ago)

hearing it from a platonic friend is nice too

― you people and your friends are fake (Jody Beth Rosen), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 15:17 (twenty years ago)

As for non-sexual crushes, one of my best high school friends was the same way.

I didn't say mine wasn't sexual.

― jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 15:18 (twenty years ago)

ooooh! juicy.

― The Milkmaid (of Human Kindness) (The Milkmaid), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 15:20 (twenty years ago)

Yeah.

― jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 15:23 (twenty years ago)

My word. That's tender.

― The Milkmaid (of Human Kindness) (The Milkmaid), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 15:31 (twenty years ago)

Seriously.

― The Milkmaid (of Human Kindness) (The Milkmaid), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 15:33 (twenty years ago)

Now you've got me waiting for part two, john.

― Alfred Soto (Alfred Soto), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 15:35 (twenty years ago)

Anyway, I'd say more about this whole topic, except I'm risking laying out my whole psychosexual history.

― jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 15:35 (twenty years ago)

one of my best friends (don't see her as much these days, her being in Chicago) is a model. i've had a perpetual crush on her for about twelve years now.

― gear (gear), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 15:36 (twenty years ago)

Ha ha. You said My word.

I usually pick out new friends based on who I'm attracted to in one way or another. Then I try to chat them up.

But also I've found that any sort of sexual attraction tends to die down after you start to get to know someone as a friend. You hear him make a fart joke or hear her talk about her issues with guys and then you get sort of freaked out that you ever thought about this person THAT WAY. Or, maybe that's just me.

― Kittens Licking Cakes (coco), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 15:37 (twenty years ago)

Alfred: Parts two and three. (I need to revive this blog.)

― jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 15:38 (twenty years ago)

all my friends are hot!

― Homosexual II (Homosexual II), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 15:39 (twenty years ago)

I guess, for evensies, I should mention that my female high school friend I mentioned above also thought I was a lesbian, which scared her for a minute, until I told her that I didn't want to sleep with her because she had terrible taste in men. She did. Terrible. Even if I were a lesbian, I wouldn't be all that interested in her now. She yells at people too much. (Myself included.)

That doesn't change the fact that I had a huge crush on her though. It's just like Sarah said -- after you get to know them, they're not as appealing.

― The Milkmaid (of Human Kindness) (The Milkmaid), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 15:42 (twenty years ago)

You fool, John! Now you have to finish these entries!

― Alfred Soto (Alfred Soto), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 15:43 (twenty years ago)

Duh, John. Of COURSE you need to revive that blog.

I got this close to telling a female friend I was in love with her. That was in high school. I just hadn't had a really close friend in such a long time, so I think the intimate nature of our relationship confused me, to say the least. Anyway, I'm really glad I never did that because I probably would have jeopardized our friendship. Honestly, the whole thing kind of makes me shudder.

― Kittens Licking Cakes (coco), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 15:43 (twenty years ago)

Me too! With a different friend. We were swimming at night on vacation with my parents and everything was so perfect. I didn't say anything though, and to this day she has no idea. Thank goodness.

― The Milkmaid (of Human Kindness) (The Milkmaid), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 15:47 (twenty years ago)

Aww.

― jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 15:49 (twenty years ago)

*cues "Nightswimming." *

― Alfred Soto (Alfred Soto), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 15:52 (twenty years ago)

to my knowledge i've only lusted after one of my friends (and he's not my best friend). he's been in a relationship with one of my other friends for lord knows how long but from time to time i'm reminded of how totally gorgeous he is.

"Who's your friend" - this has ACTUALLY BEEN SAID TO ME.

yeah, i get this a lot too. always in reference to my straight guy friends, asked by gay guys that i usually find attractive.

― joseph (joseph), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 16:04 (twenty years ago)

I've got a lot of female friends, and with the ones I'm pursuing I'm constantly getting trapped in "The Friend Zone." You know, the one where everyone tells you how nice and funny you are.

― matlewis (matlewis), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 16:19 (twenty years ago)

I'm tempted to link to the "Ladder Theory" right now.

― chrisco (chrisco), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 17:34 (twenty years ago)

haha, this thread and the one about the kingdom of Pretty should be linked. It's like, if you don't want to do your friends than you're letting down society - you're even letting down America! And maybe if your friends aren't hot, you could recommend they wear some nice clothes to increase their hottness factor. oh, man...
That said, I think I've had varying degrees of crush on all my friends (esp at the beginning, which I think is often just plain, almost innocent, excitement at newness and coolness) - obv acting on it is the big issue, as explained above - it is what separates us from the animals, etc.!

― rrrobyn (rrrobyn), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 18:02 (twenty years ago)

my HOTT best friend IS my boyfriend, so that's lucky

― dahlin (dahlin), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 18:04 (twenty years ago)

"It's like, if you don't want to do your friends than you're letting down society - you're even letting down America!"

Dubya to thread.

― Alfred Soto (Alfred Soto), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 18:14 (twenty years ago)

I can't imagine wanting to hang out with anyone uglier than me. Fortunately, that doesn't often arise.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 18:31 (twenty years ago)

""Who's your friend" - this has ACTUALLY BEEN SAID TO ME."

Oddly enough, my friends often get asked this about me, which is completely ridiculous because most of my friends are much hotter than me. though i do have one friend who's a totally cute guy and i've been asked to introduce him by many an interested girl, only the whole time while he and i spent a lot of time together he was dating a psycho-hose beast who he would never have broken up with if she hadnt left him. i love him 100% platonically but if i were drunk enough id probably make out with him.

― Fetchboy (Felcher), Tuesday, 9 August 2005 22:36 (twenty years ago)

Jaymc, you have no idea how beautiful that was.

― edward o (edwardo), Wednesday, 10 August 2005 01:35 (twenty years ago)

Over the past decade or so, I've always had a lot of very attractive platonic female friends, and in some cases I had an initial crush on them that died out pretty quickly when either a) it became clear that they would never be interested in me that way and/or b) I realized that my interest in them was more akin to fascination than real attraction. Some of my best, long lasting friendships started this way, so as time goes on, I find it fairly easy to find women that I like as friends, but really difficult to find women that I want to pursue relationships with. But then again I wonder if that's just a cop out for me assuming that no one is attracted to me and/or not having the guts to pursue anyone.

― Matthew C Perpetua (inca), Wednesday, 10 August 2005 02:51 (twenty years ago)

Having a slight crush on all your girl friends and friends' girlfriends and girlfriend's friends - c/d

― plain ol' jaxon (jaxon), Wednesday, 10 August 2005 03:44 (twenty years ago)

that there are little footnotes is the best part of jaymc's blog entries, i think!

― joseph (joseph), Wednesday, 10 August 2005 04:56 (twenty years ago)

Plus, would you want your friends seeing you naked?

I've seen most of my friends naked, and vice versa. It's not a big deal. You don't get a boner or anything.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Wednesday, 10 August 2005 08:49 (twenty years ago)

You know, the one where everyone tells you how nice and funny you are.

HAHA oh my. i was speaking to a girl mate the other night and I was whining on about me being single and these were the TWO EXACT WORDS SHE USED TO COMPLIMENT ME. I gave her my death glare.

― Ste (Fuzzy), Wednesday, 10 August 2005 08:57 (twenty years ago)

Tuomas, ILX gets boners seeing your friends with their clothes on!

― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Wednesday, 10 August 2005 08:57 (twenty years ago)

(because for a start I'm not even 'funny' so that just leaves 'nice' which basically means i should just blow my brains out right now eh)

(xpost to myself)

― Ste (Fuzzy), Wednesday, 10 August 2005 08:59 (twenty years ago)

Yeah, but once you get used to seeing people naked you have no immanent reaction. Besides, people often look hotter with clothes than without.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Wednesday, 10 August 2005 09:09 (twenty years ago)

all my friends are hot!

And I'm Mandee's friend! Score!

― Markelby (Mark C), Wednesday, 10 August 2005 09:16 (twenty years ago)

Hah, my reaction was: "aw, Mandee doesn't like me"

― Forest Pines (ForestPines), Wednesday, 10 August 2005 09:17 (twenty years ago)

You must be logged in to post. Please either login here, or if you are not registered, you may register here.