This is the inevitable thread for ILxors in their forties

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Yes, I know, creeping balkanisation etc. but why should we be left out?

But please leave cheeky Ovaltines at the door.

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 13:35 (ten years ago) Permalink

What do we do?

Dr.C, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:03 (ten years ago) Permalink

You tell us, you're the role models for those of us in our thirties, y'see.

Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:04 (ten years ago) Permalink

My vision has gone 'bifocalish', ie I gotta take the glasses off to read.

Dr Morbius, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:05 (ten years ago) Permalink

left out we certainly be should not.

t**t, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:10 (ten years ago) Permalink

Ah, the Iain Sinclair "serendipitous random art collage" problem (xp).

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:11 (ten years ago) Permalink

I wish I could afford a midlife crisis -- I'd sure have one.

Rock Hardy, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:17 (ten years ago) Permalink

Wait, what were we talking about again? I must have dozed off.

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:18 (ten years ago) Permalink

Btw, Rock, that just means you'll have to live longer.

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:20 (ten years ago) Permalink

The nights are fair drawing in.

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:20 (ten years ago) Permalink

My toes hurt -- do yours? I think it must be this weather.

Brad C., Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:21 (ten years ago) Permalink

Shit, Michael, with my genes I'm doomed to 95 years at least.

Rock Hardy, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:22 (ten years ago) Permalink

I blame it on so-called asylum seeking feral politically correct Broken Britain.

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:22 (ten years ago) Permalink

(the weather, that is)

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:23 (ten years ago) Permalink

That monologue with Rhys Ifans last night.

What was all that about?

Eh?

Eh?

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:23 (ten years ago) Permalink

I can't stop feeling all \o_O/ seeing twentysomething girls wearing essentially the same fashions that girls wore when I was twenty.

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:28 (ten years ago) Permalink

Actually more like when I was fifteen.

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:29 (ten years ago) Permalink

Haven't exactly been bombarded by deelyboppers and pop socks around these parts.

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:30 (ten years ago) Permalink

Shoreham - liminal, but copper messy.

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:34 (ten years ago) Permalink

One upside: being a dirty old man sort of suits me.

Rock Hardy, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:35 (ten years ago) Permalink

I had my midlife crisis from the ages of approx 15-42 so I reckon I'm due uncomplicated happiness now.

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:36 (ten years ago) Permalink

This thread is so much like me at an FAP that it's spooking me out.

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:37 (ten years ago) Permalink

Yeah, I'm drinking here at work, too.

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:38 (ten years ago) Permalink

One upside: being a dirty old man sort of suits me. -- Rock Hardy

As per suits, I don't think I've got any I fit into anymore.
On the, er, thinner side: I amn't that dirty really.

t**t, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:40 (ten years ago) Permalink

Just don't recognise anything in this thread. Including the posts I posted so that suggests it was probably a crap idea. Oh well, it was worth a momentary try.

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:41 (ten years ago) Permalink

Please to God never let me actually become a "fortysomething."

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:42 (ten years ago) Permalink

One upside: being a dirty old man sort of suits me.

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:48 (ten years ago) Permalink

What are the characteristics of a fortysomething? (I bet I have most of them).

Dr.C, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:52 (ten years ago) Permalink

I can legally have an affair with someone half my age!

so, is anyone on for it?

The Real Dirty Vicar, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 16:02 (ten years ago) Permalink

thread is otm, though now I can also see how it mightn't be otm, and would not be surprised to find myself arguing either side of the question for fifteen minutes or so before getting completely distracted by some other stray thought

J0hn D., Wednesday, 27 August 2008 16:35 (ten years ago) Permalink

They say memory is the second thing to go. I can't remember the first one.

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 16:36 (ten years ago) Permalink

My drug of choice these days is Back and Body aspirin, for that extra frisson of caffeine.

Jaq, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 16:39 (ten years ago) Permalink

Memory is going, true, but at least I remember the 70s

Brad C., Wednesday, 27 August 2008 16:47 (ten years ago) Permalink

Memory is going, true, but at least I have begun forgetting the 70's.

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 16:54 (ten years ago) Permalink

hi.

um, I'm OK.

Mark G, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 20:43 (ten years ago) Permalink

What are the characteristics of a fortysomething?

Being aged between 40 and 49. Anyway I though we were all 'middle youths' nowadays.

Billy Dods, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 20:46 (ten years ago) Permalink

sorry to have woken you oldtimers up . but. I misread Marcello's OP as

Yes, I know, creeping balkanisation etc. but why should we be left out?

But please leave cheeky Ovaries at the door.

-- Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, August 27, 2008 2:35 PM (7 hours ago)

Thomas, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 20:47 (ten years ago) Permalink

I'll have you know my ovaries are extremely well-behaved; veritable paragons of polite ovarian society.

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 20:49 (ten years ago) Permalink

The ovaries are fine, but I'm prone to brain farts now.

Rock Hardy, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 20:52 (ten years ago) Permalink

The world's worst song.

Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 20:54 (ten years ago) Permalink

Comparing your ovary to a Bronte C/D?

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 21:09 (ten years ago) Permalink

Wuthering Ovaries

Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 21:10 (ten years ago) Permalink

Thrustcrotch Minge

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 21:14 (ten years ago) Permalink

Carry On Bronteing

Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 21:21 (ten years ago) Permalink

One upside: being a dirty old man sort of suits me.

-- Rock Hardy

^^^

moley, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 21:31 (ten years ago) Permalink

haven't you all heard - us 40+'rs are saving the music industry.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/stevelamacq/2008/08/to_bb_or_not_to_bb.html

mark e, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 21:39 (ten years ago) Permalink

Come on - you're not too old to have forgotten this thread already...
I am too old for this...the 40 plus thread.

Ned Trifle II, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 21:44 (ten years ago) Permalink

Don't even remember that thread but this one could do with a few more ovaries...

Marcello Carlin, Thursday, 28 August 2008 08:53 (ten years ago) Permalink

two years pass...

my right knee

already president FYI (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 22 June 2011 19:33 (seven years ago) Permalink

wait, is your right knee also my right knee. Because - my right knee.

The New Dirty Vicar, Wednesday, 22 June 2011 19:51 (seven years ago) Permalink

heh i had someone recently compliment a sweater i was wearing as being "on trend" or something similar, and I said, "thanks, I've had this since the 80s"

sarahell, Thursday, 29 November 2018 08:05 (two weeks ago) Permalink

I feel like they kinda did!

agreed

mookieproof, Thursday, 29 November 2018 08:15 (two weeks ago) Permalink

in the 80s somebody was ribbing my dad about his suspenders (NB "braces" if you're British!) - saying how "yuppie" they were. he was like "I've had these suspenders since the 1950s"

illegal economic migration (Tracer Hand), Thursday, 29 November 2018 09:48 (two weeks ago) Permalink

xxp a few years ago I was told I was voted "best looking guy in IT" (not a high bar obviously) by the early/mid 20s women in the admin team, but they also said they were pretty sure I was only trendy because I'd been wearing the same clothes since the 90s and they happened to be in fashion again, which was obviously true

Colonel Poo, Thursday, 29 November 2018 10:49 (two weeks ago) Permalink

I wear shirts on the weekends older than some of my co-workers.

pplains, Thursday, 29 November 2018 14:36 (two weeks ago) Permalink

Fitting post for this thread being bumped - last week I somehow hurt my lower back really badly, and I have no idea how, and 10 days later it's still completely fucked. I've hurt my back before doing strenuous things like moving house and lifting furniture, and that lasted 3-4 days tops, this just doesn't seem to be going away.

Colonel Poo, Thursday, 29 November 2018 14:40 (two weeks ago) Permalink

I did something to my knee last year where I could barely get up the stairs - for like a month.

And then ... it just went away!

pplains, Thursday, 29 November 2018 15:00 (two weeks ago) Permalink

I wear shirts on the weekends older than some of my co-workers.

I was riding a packed bus to campus at my last job and realized that my circa 1991 sorel boots were older than everyone on the bus including the driver.

joygoat, Thursday, 29 November 2018 17:55 (two weeks ago) Permalink

And how old was the bus?

pplains, Thursday, 29 November 2018 18:12 (two weeks ago) Permalink

It was probably younger than everything else

joygoat, Thursday, 29 November 2018 18:44 (two weeks ago) Permalink

I was riding a packed bus to campus at my last job and realized that my circa 1991 sorel boots were older than everyone on the bus including the driver.

― joygoat, Thursday, November 29, 2018 9:55 AM (fifty minutes ago)

Haha, my wife makes fun of my grey Caribous which I believe are from 1988-1989? They're a tiny bit rusty on the metal D-rings but otherwise in perfect shape.

Jersey Al (Albert R. Broccoli), Thursday, 29 November 2018 18:49 (two weeks ago) Permalink

The plastic sandwich box I take to work is the same age as one of my colleagues.

Chequers Plays Pop (snoball), Thursday, 29 November 2018 19:09 (two weeks ago) Permalink

on the behalf of thrift shoppers and vintage clothing wearers, old clothes do not equal old person :)

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Thursday, 29 November 2018 19:13 (two weeks ago) Permalink

that said i have one dress i bought my freshman year in college that i still wear to work sometimes. it gives me the weirdest feeling because i have been wearing it for SO LONG

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Thursday, 29 November 2018 19:14 (two weeks ago) Permalink

My designated funeral dress was my grandmother's. I wore it to *her* funeral, actually, about twenty years ago.

The lol is that my grandmother was a wee thing, maybe 5'3'', and I am 5'10''. Below the knee on her is well above it on me. I wear opaque tights underneath to keep from looking scandalous at funerals.

I am on the cusp of 45 and recently had the thought that were I widowed or something, I'd say fuck it to ever being in an LTR again and would exclusively date 20-something dudes. Then I'm like hmmmm what 20-something dudes would be into a much older woman, would that even be a good idea. The I'm like maybe lol maybe I could find a 20-something dude from ilx. Then I'm like "it could be Treeship!" and then I loled some more.

mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Thursday, 29 November 2018 19:22 (two weeks ago) Permalink

omg

I have measured out my life in coffee shop loyalty cards (silby), Thursday, 29 November 2018 19:23 (two weeks ago) Permalink

wonder how tall treesh is

mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Thursday, 29 November 2018 19:23 (two weeks ago) Permalink

an annoying thing about younger people/age difference is when they wield it in irrelevant ways-- like I was talking to a 30ish person who was very knowledgeable about modern Presidential nomination races. But when I mentioned something about Mondale vs. Hart in 1984 they just said, "That was before I was born."

yeah man, so was most of the rest of history

President Keyes, Thursday, 29 November 2018 19:44 (two weeks ago) Permalink

In my book, one of the best things about having a few decades under my belt is never having to date another 20-something.

mick signals, Thursday, 29 November 2018 19:47 (two weeks ago) Permalink

i'm over 50 and only guys under 30 are interested in me

c'est la gays

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 29 November 2018 19:49 (two weeks ago) Permalink

#humblebrag

(Let me know if you need me to explain that one to you, Pops.)

you guys did not understance his stlye of english (Old Lunch), Thursday, 29 November 2018 19:51 (two weeks ago) Permalink

no i follow the younguns' word salads

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 29 November 2018 19:52 (two weeks ago) Permalink

kids today probably don't remember Harris Wittels

President Keyes, Thursday, 29 November 2018 19:53 (two weeks ago) Permalink

:,(

I have measured out my life in coffee shop loyalty cards (silby), Thursday, 29 November 2018 19:55 (two weeks ago) Permalink

On that front, I'd say the most noticeable difference in my forties (and really for the last several years of my thirties) is that I used to have some degree of demonstrable niche appeal but of late I don't pick up on any signs of putative interest frivolously-prurient interest from anyone at all ever, period.

you guys did not understance his stlye of english (Old Lunch), Thursday, 29 November 2018 19:55 (two weeks ago) Permalink

(Thought I'd cap off that sentence with a sampling of the word salad so favored by the yoot of today.)

you guys did not understance his stlye of english (Old Lunch), Thursday, 29 November 2018 19:56 (two weeks ago) Permalink

btw i wasn't HBing; they like what i hate about me

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 29 November 2018 19:57 (two weeks ago) Permalink

i was not into 'daddies' in my relative youth

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 29 November 2018 19:59 (two weeks ago) Permalink

on the behalf of thrift shoppers and vintage clothing wearers, old clothes do not equal old person :)

― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Thursday, November 29, 2018 11:13 AM (forty-two minutes ago)

quite true! so now, as a 44 yr old thrift shopper and vintage clothing wearer, when I shop for new clothes, not only am I looking at things that resemble new clothes I bought in the 80s (frou-frou fussy & puffy sleeves are a thing again) but also clothes I thrifted in the 80s/early 90s from prior decades ... there is a lot of cognitive dissonance involved (see also record shopping ... this should be a $3 record because that is how much it was priced at in the dollar bin in 1991) ... though I did recently buy a new dress that is more or less a reproduction of a vintage 50s dress I had thrifted around 1991 but I got rid of a few years back because it was a size 10, and I am very much not a size 10 anymore.

sarahell, Thursday, 29 November 2018 20:05 (two weeks ago) Permalink

I am happy that this thread turned flirty. I feel like old ilx had a lot of weird crushes/hookups. thx quincie.

Yerac, Thursday, 29 November 2018 20:07 (two weeks ago) Permalink

new ilx might have the same, just people are more secretive about it because other ilxors can get creepy about stuff

sarahell, Thursday, 29 November 2018 20:09 (two weeks ago) Permalink

xp yup i totally empathize

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Thursday, 29 November 2018 20:13 (two weeks ago) Permalink

ilu quincie

Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Thursday, 29 November 2018 20:17 (two weeks ago) Permalink

iirc the window on treeship as 20-something boy toy is closing fast

rufus can't be too far away though . . .

mookieproof, Thursday, 29 November 2018 20:18 (two weeks ago) Permalink

My boss -- some years younger than me -- was amazed to learn that the band T-shirt I'm wearing today is from 1992, marvelling about the quality. (It is interesting to see which shirts have held up over the years -- and said shirt was a Ned's Atomic Dustbin one, so hey, it keeps up my good name.)

Ned Raggett, Thursday, 29 November 2018 20:19 (two weeks ago) Permalink

there will always be earnest 20 something straight cis-dudes on ilx ... there will be more treeships

sarahell, Thursday, 29 November 2018 20:22 (two weeks ago) Permalink

P sure LJ is unaccountably still in his late teens or something.

you guys did not understance his stlye of english (Old Lunch), Thursday, 29 November 2018 20:23 (two weeks ago) Permalink

he is 31 iirc ... when he was in his 20s i think he proposed marriage to me on ilx? ... glad he has matured

sarahell, Thursday, 29 November 2018 20:24 (two weeks ago) Permalink

you were the sam and diane of ilx for a while there

( ͡☉ ͜ʖ ͡☉) (jim in vancouver), Thursday, 29 November 2018 20:30 (two weeks ago) Permalink

or, i dunno, keeping it in the cheers extended universe, the noel and roz of ilx

( ͡☉ ͜ʖ ͡☉) (jim in vancouver), Thursday, 29 November 2018 20:31 (two weeks ago) Permalink

lol wut?!

this thread got crazy

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Thursday, 29 November 2018 20:31 (two weeks ago) Permalink

being a cis-woman on a board dominated by straight men is inherently awkward

sarahell, Thursday, 29 November 2018 20:32 (two weeks ago) Permalink

indeed

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Thursday, 29 November 2018 20:35 (two weeks ago) Permalink

esp if you are single or not obviously unavailable

sarahell, Thursday, 29 November 2018 20:36 (two weeks ago) Permalink

40 is pretty good, have made measurable strides recently in emotional maturity and self-compassion. yay meditation and therapy. lucky not to have had any health problems yet. single and feel weird about it (not coming here to pick anyone up tho)

Uhura Mazda (lukas), Thursday, 29 November 2018 23:05 (two weeks ago) Permalink

i'm over 50

Me too. Where's our thread?

Probably everyone's too tired to make one.

Ned Trifle X, Thursday, 29 November 2018 23:15 (two weeks ago) Permalink

Is there an over 60 thread? Would offer my Medicare Open Enrollment expertise. Which is actually a thing I have. Ask me anything.

mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Thursday, 29 November 2018 23:28 (two weeks ago) Permalink

There is a thread for us folks over 50: [This is a thread for ILXORS IN THEIR 50's]...ILXORS IN THEIR 50's

that's not my post, Saturday, 1 December 2018 04:48 (one week ago) Permalink

^who of course fail at ILX formatting

that's not my post, Saturday, 1 December 2018 04:49 (one week ago) Permalink

The all-caps is a nice touch.

pplains, Saturday, 1 December 2018 14:07 (one week ago) Permalink


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