Being bald.

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right. i am male, mid-20s and my hair is thinning. what should i do? shave? save for a transplant? buy a 'realistic' wig? get propecia and rogaine and creatively style what i have left? to give a more accurate picture of myself, i wear suits and listen to credible artsy music. i want to have hair like one of the sexy members of suede. i trust you people. joke if you must but i need answers!

Luke, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

DO NOT get a wig.

alix, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Get an 'unrealistic' wig. Or just leave it.

Tom, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

'Credible artsy music'? And you are worried that you are going bald? Get your priorities right matey.

Emma, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

We did a market survey on hair restorers once. The client had wanted loads of stuff like "I think [brand] is a hair restorer that speaks to me" and "I think [brand] is a dynamic and up-to-date product". Strangely however we discovered that the only thing influencing purchase was "I think [brand] makes hair grow back." Marketing can only get you so far.

Tom, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

get a wig. don't tell anyone. Watch the ladies roll in.

DV, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Get a hat. You won't look like a member of Suede but that's a good thing.

Jonnie, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

In glamourous Shoreditch yesterday I way a man with a bright ginger wig and white her down the sides. Alas I couldn't get my spy camera out in time.

Graham, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I'm going to be bald......but I plan on spending lots of money to avoid this. I was also thinking a huge fish tank would be a nice thing to spend some money on, to jump topics a bit.

Ronan, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Samantha to thread!

Deadman, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I'm balding. It's great. I shave my head because I look better like this anyway, and then sometimes I let it grow in just enough to denote a Nick Cage-y widow's peak. People rub my head and tell me it's nice-looking.

nabisco, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

one plus about living in olympia = larger number of over 30 indie (and balding) kids than anywhere else in america, per square mile. makes me feel somewhat better anyway.

jess, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Don't worry your head about it and let nature take her course. I don't generally feel any sort of jealousy toward any one with more hair than myself and I don't think anyone unless they are completely vain, ergo, not really worth your time, is really put off by it, and sometimes you might find it is quite the opposite,but maybe I've been lied to.

Deadman, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Embrace your body's changes. Guys who fight balding = DUD. sorry. If it makes you uncomfortable wear your hair short and it won't be as noticable. If you feel like you have to use Rogaine to stave it off for a few more years, fine. But don't go for hairpieces, transplants, combovers, etc. b/c you'll just look like vain fool.

If you wear your balding without shame you'll come off as confident and self assured. that's sexy.

Samantha, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

you can't do shit. wear a hat maybe.

unknown or illegal user, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

let it go

anthony, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Or, you could do a Michael Stipe and shave it all off. Then again, considering how his looks have detorerated over the years, that may not be the best example.

Christine "Green Leafy Dragon" Indigo, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

It's all very well to talk about dignity but you won't always be able to tell the difference will you. So if you can get a natural looking hair transplant or wig or whatever and fool everyone, then go for it.

Ronan, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

i'm lucky in that i won't go bald. BUT, if i was, i'd do whatever it took to keep it, wigs, transplants, the lot...

gareth, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Baldness is caused by testosterone. So if you don't want to go bald, castrate youself.

Christine "Green Leafy Dragon" Indigo, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Get your head tattoed to look like a lego dude then. (sorry, I'm assuming all the serious advice has been given)

jel --, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Chrisitne reveals baldness as a sign of virilty shocker!

Samantha, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

The only way to properly deal with baldness, obviously, is to rent yourself a Bangbus...

Because, bald people will never find another way to have sex...

...ever

...obviously

(shakes head)

Brian MacDonald, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

shave dude - fuck, if you cna't get teh chicks, the guys will be all over you, licking under your armpits and stuff - yum, shaved heads grrr

The Original Queen G, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

sadly, i am a very vain young man and im not butch enough to go for the full shave. plus, i can't deal with the thought of never having a floppy fringe again! i think hair transplant is the way to go... but i hear you sneer? why oh why? it's only like having an operation to remove a wart. has anyone had a hair transplant (god, just typing the words make me blush but needs must...) or know anyone or have any positive/negative information about them? (i cherish the overall lack of rudeness on this thread)

Luke, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Going bald is sad for me. I just wear my hair short and bear it. I would not mind so much cept I have a hed shaped like a coconut FOR REAL, like an asymetrical dent. Is there such a thing as skull bondo?

Who loves ya, baby?

Hunter, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

No. NO! Hair transplant BAD! They look scarily obvious -- hair just doesn't grow on one's head in plugs like that. And the skin scars!

Personally I find balding men irresistible, but that doesn't really help you, does it?

Michael Daddino, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I have a theory that the ubiquity of shag cuts (in NYC at least) among men in their mid 20s to early 30s is because of the function of the quasi-Rod 'do as a hipster analogue of the combover. When a carefully fixed lock of hair falls out of place often it reveals thinning hair and a glimpse of scalp.

This has led me to recognize that Rod hairstyles are as much of a sign of pratness as, say, the bald foucauldian grad student look of the 90s.

In fact, if you begin to see the paste-down combover not as an attempt to conceal baldness, but to ADORN it, Bobby Charlton begins to look less objectionable than nineteen of twenty boys at, say, Shout, or Tiswas, or Trash.

If I were to go bald I would keep the remaining horseshoe of hair tidy and my pate shiny, and buy bespoke dark suits and spectacles made of bakelite.

Benjamin, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Ben I saw that guy walking against the flow into the 49th st NR station yesterday!!

Traer Hand, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

His look was totally beguiling, btw (though not rockable by all)

Traer Hand, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

It only really would work in a rockable way if you happened to be brilliant international style architect. Or really knew how to accessorize.

Benjamin, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

It was totally this guy. He had on a watch with a yellow band and his HAIR... okay: he didn't have a bald patch—he had a thick bald STRIPE that went concentrically around, leaving him with a little circle of hair right on the top of his head, and back and sides intact as well. Like if you took just that receding part on either side of most men-over-30's heads, the little bit that makes you feel a little distinguished (or, alternately, nervous about losing more) and just stretched it all the way around... and every hair that remained was just polished to a high patina, like Jude Law's hair in AI. Anyhow he wasn't heavily accessorized but he had what he needed. The aforementioned watch, a small red tartan suitcase, thick bakelite- ish glasses, clompy shoes, and olive-green pants that fit him tightly. ANYONE who comes INTO the 49th st station at 9am gets lots of looks but this guy was obviously well-used to it, and all the daggers we could stare at him fazed him not. Q: on what planet does he wish to retire??

Tracer Hand, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

A reverse commuter no less. He was off to catch his 10am flight to Brasilia. The courier with the blueprints for the opera house was sent away at half three. Here is a man who has no need for Powerpoint; in the red case were his presentation notes, written on axonometric paper, possibly in esperanto. Why is my life not his?

Luke, all this could be yours if you would just embrace your incipient baldness. Suede? Have some ambition, man!

Benjamin, Monday, 29 April 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

i want to have hair like one of the sexy members of suede.text
Number of "sexy" members of Suede = zero, therefore array of possible hair styles is the empty set, therefore, total hair elimination is your desire.
Seriously, though, unless the Rogaine-type drugs work for you (I know a few success stories), the best option would be to shave your head and, if you still feel you need to invest effort in something, hit the gym. I've seen hair plugs, rugs and combovers and they have a way of making the wearer look extrememly desperate. OTOH, a shaved scalp on a fit young man can be very rowr. But maybe that's just me.
There was another thread about this but I am too inept to link to it. That is why I post under a pseudonym.

felicity, Thursday, 2 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I am going to weigh in and redudantly state that DENIAL = BAD and that most (if not all) methods of staving it off / concealing it / hiding it are very much dud. Embrace it! I recall someone saying on this very board somewhere that the essence of style is turning one's disabilities (or percieved physical shortcomings) into an affectation.

Personally, I keep it short. It makes me feel less paranoid. And once you realise nobody gives a fuck about your hair loss except you, it tends to make you feel a bit better...

I'm drunk, BTW

electric sound of jim, Thursday, 2 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

SHAVE IT OFF! Women will stroke your head if you keep it as a close crop - honest.

Anna, Thursday, 2 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I wouldn't. No offence, like. Unless I was already in bed with you in which case the hair thing would not be the most important matter.

Sarah, Thursday, 2 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Mark C to thread...

Archel, Thursday, 2 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Felicity is OTM, there are currently no sexy members of Suede.

What's wrong with being bald or balding? People like Michael Stipe or Moby looked like cockfarmers when they had hair anyway, so don't let them fool you into thinking that bald = less attracive.

Besides, Brian Eno is the sexiest man alive and he has very little in the way of hair.

Nicole, Thursday, 2 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

You called, Rachel dear?

Luke, you're going to have to face this. IT HAPPENS, and all you can do is make yourself neurotic about baldness, about styling it just so, about feeling a fake etc. etc. It's a pain in the arse, sure, and I can honestly say I'd LOVE to not have lost 90% of my hair, but them's the breaks.

If you are lucky and have a good shaped head, then going short is absolutely the way forward. You never have to worry again about whether it's got mussed up, looks dirty, is obscuring your vision. All you have to do is buy a mirror and a clipper and cut it once a fortnight (or more if you want it really short).

When I bit the bullet (6 years ago now, after 8 years of floppiness), I went out that night to a posh do in a tuxedo. I felt like the bouncer. But I got used to it surprisingly quickly, and so did my then girlfriend.

It's impossible to compare how attractive I was before I had it cut to afterwards, but obviously I felt so self-conscious at my thinning floppy fringe that drastic action was, I felt, necessary. But I honestly don't think I'm missing out on the laydeez because I have a grade 1. And you definitely get your head stroked more often!

If the worst comes to the worst, it WILL (what there is left, anyway :-)) grow back. But being honest with yourself is the only long-term approach. Take advantage of the fact that crew-cuts are pretty much fashionable and wear it without self-consciousness.

Mark C, Thursday, 2 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I am so very lucky I don't need to worry about this. I wouldn't date a balding guy. I know that is beyond shallow, but that's just the way it is. Not trying to be mean or anything. So you'll never be Brett Anderson. You can still try for Brian Molko!

Sean, Thursday, 2 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

there are currently no sexy members of Suede.

Not even Simon? Seems to me he started out very well and has aged even better!

Ned Raggett, Thursday, 2 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

"Ya toooo late, mama... there's nothin' upside yo head......(no mo, no mo, no mo, no moooooooooo)"

Brian MacDonald, Thursday, 2 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

He's all yours, Neddo!

felicity, Friday, 3 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I think michael stipe is attractiver now without hair.

elizabeth anne marjorie, Friday, 3 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

He's all yours, Neddo!

Well, he couldn't be yours, he's gay. ;-)

Ned Raggett, Friday, 3 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Tart! ;)

felicit y, Saturday, 4 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Hey, you're mean. *cries*

Ned Raggett, Saturday, 4 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

did russ abbott try implants?: cuz now that he has gone bravely bald, his shiny pate appears to be full of strange regular marks, like he had a polka-dot print transfer up there...

mark s, Saturday, 4 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

answer = troll-doll wig btw

mark s, Saturday, 4 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Hey, I'm just teasing you, Ned. You know I wuv you! *proffers handkerchief*

felicity, Monday, 6 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

F.Y.I Many women find a bald man very sexy! Just look at Ed. Harris.My my my!

Gale Deslongchamps, Thursday, 9 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Ed Harris in a troll-doll wig! what do you think?

mark s, Thursday, 9 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Sexy bald women:

Sinead O'Connor
Erykah Badu (briefly)
That one African model who was all over everything two years ago

Dan Perry, Thursday, 9 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

two weeks pass...
shave your head it's one of the biggest turn ons you will ever have men and women love it. the first time i shaved my head i came with any hand action. try it if you dont like it it will grow back

howard piccard, Sunday, 26 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

If you keep your hair short, bald heads are just nice. You don't need to shave your head. It's not embarrassing to be bald. Who would be stupid enough to think that something natural was bad? Only maybe girls who are really insecure about their own appearances.

maryann, Sunday, 26 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Yet another vote in favor of not fighting the baldness. The author of this page also would agree.

P.S.: Is "credible artsy music" the new euphemism for IDM?

j.lu, Sunday, 26 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

My hair is thinning in the front and one day....

I decided to shave my head because i got sick of dealing with my hair. Every 2 weeks my girlfriend shaves it for me. I love the no-hassle life i get now. You only get a shock once and then you get over it. No more bad hair days - u get a perfect consistent look.

I'm not sure if ladies like it more but my girlfriend says she does. She says unless your hair is done perfectly it is better to keep it short. Messy hair is apparently a big turn off for women.

One of the good things about shaving your head is that you will be less obsessed about your hair. Some things ive learnt is that you should redesign your look. For me i changed my glasses, got an earring and bought some new clothes. Dont dwell on your old look (with hair).

Even if they find a cure to baldness i will still keep my hair short. The cycle of hair is sick to me. Haircut - look different - wait to grow - perfect for 5 mins - time for haircut again and the gel, shampoo...power to u if u plan to shave!

Kim, Friday, 31 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Alek Wek and she still is

anthony, Friday, 31 May 2002 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

four years pass...
In January 2007, Italian stem-cell researchers say they've come up with a new technique for curing baldness. Pierluigi Santi of a Genoa clinic said stem cells could be used to "multiply" hair roots. He said the clinic would be ready to perform its first hair transplants on priority patients - those who have lost their hair in fires or other accidents - within a few months. After that, he said, "we'll open our doors to paying customers". Santi's approach works by splitting roots and growing new follicles.

Rib Dinner, Friday, 9 March 2007 20:00 (nineteen years ago)

four years pass...

Irrational fear of bald people.?

I've been having chronic sinusitis for 8 months, and within first first couple weeks of having it, I didn't think I had sinusitis, and I thought I was gonna lose my hair since, i felt tightness around the forehead area/top of the head, which is a symptom of sinusitis. I soon became anxious about being bald, even though I haven't and still not losing any hair. This spiraled into me being afraid of bald people, as If I had a bald person, meaning someone with a receding hairline and/or shaved, not someone with full head of hair and shaved, I felt extremely anxious and uncomfortable, and I feel i have to leave.(which usualy i do.)
Another thing is I like listening to James Taylor's music, but he was losing his hair in his 30's and hes completey bald now. This made me feel weird if I was listening to him even though I enjoy his music. Same goes for other bald musicians.

This phobia makes me not want be in the sight of bald people. This is ruining my life, I need help.

Soon or later if Im gonna have a job, I have to deal with bald people and bald coworkers.

And this isn't a joke, this is really happening to me and Im feeling miserable. I am no shape or form having hair loss and my dad has full head of hair and my mom side of my grandpa isn't bald. So i should have no reason to think im going bald, but this is irrationality was cause by sinusitis, which i still have right now, and tightness in my forehead convined me i was gonna lose hair there. But now I know that I have a condition called sinusitis and I havent lost any hair.

billbowl...

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You no problems other than over thinking something.

omar little, Wednesday, 23 March 2011 17:39 (fifteen years ago)

I think a solution might be positive reinforcement. Could you arrange for some bald people to give you little treats and do you spontanaeous favours? Then you will start to associate baldies with happy and joyful things and always want to be in their company.

The New Dirty Vicar, Wednesday, 23 March 2011 17:54 (fifteen years ago)

if I were bald, I'd keep it shaved, but would get an elaborate tattoo of a nicely styled, flowing hair all over my head

Grotjahn in the Moma (Pillbox), Thursday, 24 March 2011 10:22 (fifteen years ago)

man, shaved was just an awful look on me.

the '' key on my keybord is not working (darraghmac), Thursday, 24 March 2011 10:27 (fifteen years ago)

Another thing is I like listening to James Taylor's music, but he was losing his hair in his 30's and hes completey bald now.

For whatever reason I have an irrational respect for bald celebrities and athletes, like Matt Hasselbeck. You have so much money and fame that it would be easy to get the finest/most realistic hair treatment avilable, but to just say "fuck it, so I'm bald" at that level of exposure deserves some kind of respect.

frogbs, Thursday, 24 March 2011 14:50 (fifteen years ago)

three years pass...

Any ILX baldheads use depilatory cream? I get as close to the skin as possible every few weeks with clippers, but I don't want to mess with shaving that last bit of stubble.

you make me feel like danzig (WilliamC), Sunday, 15 February 2015 02:49 (eleven years ago)

I've used a headblade for almost a dozen years. You get used to shaving pretty quickly.

EZ Snappin, Sunday, 15 February 2015 03:39 (eleven years ago)

for a second there I thought this was ilm and "Being Bald" was the title of the new Human League single

http://i.imgur.com/upyiI6W.jpg

i ain't marchant anymore (unregistered), Sunday, 15 February 2015 03:44 (eleven years ago)


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