Is it okay to treat other people exactly the same way they treat you?

i. winning an argt in yr head (= ethos)
ii. winning an argt in the room (=tactics)
iii. winning an argt in the world (=strategy)

Actually I don't but its a nice idea. I think the moot point in the question is the word "exactly".

Like Kant said, don't just treat others the way you want to be treated: treat others the way you want EVERYONE to treat EVERYONE ELSE. People are very rarely mean to people who are both nice and unflappable.

'Tit for tat' is the most obvious and most basic strategy to achieve a balance of power between individuals. And it works well in cases where the original wrongdoing was calculated. When you dish it back in kind, it takes all the 'profit' out of acting badly. It returns the calculation back to zeroes. The greatest difficulty here is escalation. Most cold-hearted bastards pick on people with less power to do them harm, giving them the edge in an all-out war.

Next, vengance as a tool of justice has real obvious flaws when it is pursued automatically. That leads to feuding and an endless cycle of getting back at the other guy. This is especially true when the original bad act was not calculated, but reckless, heedless or blindly emotional. Then the only way to break the cycle is to interpose forgiveness, involve an impersonal arbitrator, or just walk away.

On the whole, when people coldly choose to treat you like shit on the assumption they will get what they want and you can't or won't fight back - I say get out the hammer and smash 'em back!

deems, would you care to sort this out for us?

imo, only mo now, to presume that someone is getting the same outcome (desired or otherwise) from treating you in manner x as you would obtain from treating them in manner x seems to me to be as foolish an understanding of how ppl work as there might be in this strange world.

the above outlook, and its only mo, leads me to think that kant was as full of shit as anyone ever was, amongst other things

ooh there's my "ethos, tactics, strategy" post

i was less full of shit than kant, when i wrote that post

I'm struggling with this at the moment. Dated this girl in the past and we were friends for years afterwards. However, in the last year she started dating seriously and she e-mails me links from work and just wants me to be her penpal - so I think it's fair to cut her off completely. I don't want this arrangement at all so I don't think treating her the same way as she is treating me works. Does that sound fair?

serious post: saying everyone has the potential to have a different outcome by treating others in manner x can lead to moral relativism; in the mind of a lunatic, hitting someone or treating someone like crap could potentially not do her/him harm or, worse, the lunatic may think the victim may actually benefit from it

unserious post: a tug for a tug yields other results

saying everyone has the potential to etc is true

where it might lead a lunatic is a funny approach to take tbh

nb no philosophy pls we're only looking for a better wqy to be, none of that extreme example shite thks

i c u follow the philosophy of pragmatism

u can't get away from it dmac

philo is all around us maaannn

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i like both those

throwing a name on a non philosophy and claiming it is as lame as claiming atheism as a religion rly but im not strong on it or anything

treat ppl however. try to get something out of it.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pragmatism

it's like the same bong from different perspectives, maaan

the bongs are covered in infinity

it's like an elephant yet we're, like, blind man

all of us

but some of us are, like, touching different parts of the elephants

we can't tell if we're touching the tail or the trunk maaannnn

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thats fair