Posts you had second thought about and decided not to post - put them here

seems like a halfway measure

anyway, to get on “topic”:

Wikipedia, for reference

what is a uniform distribution anyway, ehh who cares, here you go

I am not sure why my bona fides are now under question when you can’t answer why you were making a daft generalisation about the AMAB experience

okay ... uh ... you realize you are kinda proving Branwell's point ... like, why are _you_ on the attack? Why is this "answer" important to you? Why don't you stay in your lane? ... Now you can easily flip that on me, fair game. ...

My stake here is that I have been the subject of ilx pile-ons, I have seen other posters receive this treatment unfairly, and I have had friends experience this type of treatment IRL. It feels like bullying and punching down and is painful to see people I generally like and respect participate in something like this. It is super fucking traumatizing to the person being attacked.

Now, sometimes, the person being piled-on has legitimately wronged someone, or there is past history, like what sic referred to (whether correctly or incorrectly), but this type of interaction is not going to make that person "better" ... assuming the intent is to get the person being attacked to take accountability and make amends and work on bettering themself? If the intent is punishment, then y'all are doing a great job at inflicting that. If y'all want some catharsis, you might be getting that too. But otherwise, this just sucks.

In the context of the incident that provoked this, there are two main people involved, both of whom are already dealing with trauma, ... Branwell has clearly described theirs and Brad's responses to the posts definitely indicate a sensitivity that is totally related to trauma ... and that makes this toxic pile-on even worse to watch, esp. when you have "more privileged" posters joining in the pile-on.

Starting to wish I'd just gone to r/askreddit.

That feeling when you inadvertently step in some dog poop, but actually it's a mine field and the mines are filled with dog poop and shards of glass. Gah. Sorry.

sarahell, did you read the block quoted text where Branwell attacked gyac's character, which had zero relevance to the argument?

wow @ this
I'm not reading what you say
I'm going to judge it anyway
Now you listen to me!

I know such "discussion" board behaviour is common but it's unusual to see it so candidly admitted.

I saw the new Troye Sivan video and was startled at how much he's kinda biting a Patrick Wolf look and almost posted "Patrick Wolf got fucked so that Troye could get fisted, huh" but then I had second thoughts about it

I mean you just did

if only this were the thread for that :)

^ had second thoughts about, added a smiley

feel like the old farts of ILM might be comfier on that music producer lad's site they keep ripping on

threads like this are an excellent resource for derision

It’s goo

there is WW1 memorial I often pass which has For The Glory Of Goo inscribed on it, people died for goo!

I mean
It wasn't derision so much as it was appreciation coming from a place of negativity

There is another meaning there and it's not supposed to be necessarily obvious so that's all good.

Jolly goo

I think some of us are talking at cross purposes a bit, I was amused by yr post fgti.

kk good
it wasn't coming from a place of bottom-shaming, neither, I'm not Perez, I firmly believe that the more dilated the anus, the closer to god

you better believe i just googled the phrase "anal chakra"

https://kosmicrockstar.com/2017/06/06/the-power-of-anal-penetration/

it's less about survivor's guilt and more about survivor's confusion. understanding there's no real reason why i've survived, so far, and he didn't. if he was alive, you know, he might actually have figured a lot of this shit out for himself, possibly do a better job of it than my own ham-fisted stumblings about. he's not, though.

fair, although ofc everyone's shit is somewhat distinct, as the old cliche goes

Wow I was confused for a moment but yeah
tbh I've been having major spirals the past two months and I wanna tell people "if only you knew the unbearable pain of persistent suicidality, it is more intense than anything else" and I guess I read your post as trivializing, even if it wasn't <3

it is a difficult topic to talk about, the actual experience of suicidality. not just for internal reasons, but knowing that for some people, hearing someone talking about it can not just hurt them but put them in danger. so i try to circumlocute the topic, and in this case what i was saying was too raw, circumlocution didn't make it any easier.

everyone reading this, particularly everyone participating in this particular little convo, i care about you and i hope you can stay safe.

there is WW1 memorial I often pass which has For The Glory Of Goo inscribed on it, people died for goo!

was it Minchenhampton or somewhere in the Cotswolds? As a kid there was a cafe there that had this delicious treat called goo -- chocolate, caramel, cookie base -- it was, er, to die for

You can't produce wine without crushing a few grapes.

xp

it's at Thornhill rectory in W Yorkshire, it looks like Goo but my eyesight is bad and I do admit to a tendency to be flippant about war memorials. Goo sounds nice!

https://i.imgflip.com/4an2hw.jpg

Ooh, I could vote in an ILM poll

in the spirit of #onethread, is there a thread where we can find out who the fuck these new user and display names are?

also reading this whole thing and then going back through the LGBT thread has made me think about Bimble, and how i bet Bimble would have been a real delight to have in these conversations. seriously!

Mountain View, not San Jose ... tourist

Indeed, I was visiting.

it's not like the South Bay was some place to be proud of being from tbh

it seemed prideworthy! but mushrooms tell tales

mushroom compost has a really strong smell ... much stronger than garlic fwiw

xps to table:

ILX2 NEW USERNAME TRANSLATOR COMPENDIUM

thx sleeve

also reading this whole thing and then going back through the LGBT thread has made me think about Bimble, and how i bet Bimble would have been a real delight to have in these conversations. seriously!

It was the anniversary of Bimble's death just the other day. It's been 11 years!

Jeez! I remember that day very distinctly. It was awful. RIP Bimble.

getting me all excited to talk about lee morgan but no, you're discussing the worst fuckin band ever, again, why do you do this

Absolutely nothing more irritating than someone coming in late and deciding to bump a drama-filled thread everyone else had let fall down sna.

International time zones exist tbf

get rid

xp doesn’t mean we need a useless take delivered late

right on schedule, ilxors yearning for a world where politicians only pander to white leftists under 40

Pander to meeeeeee!

oh look more fucking DARVO

Eat Scamps Do Knife Crimes

Post not about yourself challenge

i'm only interested in politically engaging with people who are capable of listening to people whose beliefs differ from their own with kindness and respect. that quality isn't exclusive to white leftists under 40 but you certainly don't seem to be evincing it right now.