Kidneys and The Advances Of The Medical Age (or, an update on why I'm still in the US )

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*Slight intro: since a couple of months before, my mum has begun dialysis to keep her kidneys going. However, it was decided that a transplant would be best. I decided to try and give it to her. It has now been 6 weeks. What follows is what occurred at the informational seminar today....*

Finally, the wait is over: Today (Sunday), me, my mum and her husband drove to a Medical Center in upstate New York to find out more of what a kidney transplant entails. First off, there are various phases that Mum (as the patient) and her prospective donors must go through. The first is ensuring that she has proper medical insurance to cover her expenses. A transplant, all told, can cost upward of $20,000 (This doesn't include the various drugs she would have to take forever to prevent organ rejection; that cost can go to over a grand a month. Nor does it cover recovery time in the hospital). There is no one that could totally cover that cost by themselves.

Anyway, the first step is called blood typing (a 3-step test when the lab tests samples of the kidney candidate's blood---as well as those of any possible donors to see whether they match). An ideal setup would be if the patient and donor were blood-related (full siblings); a half-match (between mum and child, for instance) may work too: both share at least one set of "kidney numbers". (I don't know how else to describe it.); a non-match (between hubby and wife, let's say) is possible if they share the same blood type. However, none of the setups are guaranteed: if the donor's body has antibodies in it, the patient may *still* reject the kidney. (However, the drugs to prevent that have improved in the last 20 years, so there's less possibility of that happening.)

Of course, if the patient has no one living to donate, it is still OK to get one from a dead person. However, you have to go onto a kidney transplant list. This may take up to 4 years of wait. Plus, you have to keep in regular touch, so you don't miss your chance.

Frankly, there is a higher success rate with living donor tissue (around 90 - 91 %). Other than me, one of my English uncles (31) has offered his, too. However, I'm here; I go first;> Other than us, she has other willing donors. The ideal situation is to get all possible donors here to get tested within a few days of the patient. (He'd still need to come over, anyway.)

The seminar had English and Asian docs on the panel, as well as 3 former patients, to answer our questions. So, though Mum would need to take anti-rejection drugs the rest of her life, I wouldn't need to do much---other than return to the Medical Center once each year for a followup check-up. This is to ensure I'm not having any after-surgery complications. There is very little likelihood that I could die from it. However, I would have to prevent clots during recovery, by keeping active.

I would only have to stay in hospital 3-5 days. My total recovery would take about 3-5 weeks. (Mum, as the patient, would need longer: 5-7 days; 4-6 weeks (respectively). The docs would probably use a technique where the docs insert a balloon, inflate it and remove the kidney. Apparently, I would only be left with a two-inch scar on the right side of my back. (I already *have* a scar there; I fell onto a barbell, when I was 5.) This would not prevent me from having kids, if I ever want them.

As I have no present medical coverage of my own, Mum's Medicare coverage would cover me. (Certainly, I'll apply for Medicaid, myself.) First, however, we have to make an appointment to get me (us) tested. The results may not be known for a while. The panel said that the entire process (testing--->transplant) would take anywhere from 2 to 3 months. Therefore, if I can get tested within the next 2 weeks, I'll finally be able to leave before mid-July! Yay!

Poor Mum is more worried about this than I. The frustration just came from not knowing the process, and not having anyone to ask. *sigh* Now, that's almost over. With cheap fights available, I can return quickly when (if) I'm needed. And no, I'm not scared at all; dying is only the worst that can happen. With technology and medical practices being the way they are, that's highly unlikely. (wry tone) I've escaped the possibility too many times already.

So, it may be sometime in September/October before this is all over.

All said, I figured an update wouldn't harm.

New "she's mad, ain't she?" answers welcome.

Nichole Graham, Sunday, 23 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Nichole, this is just an incredible story. I think your willing to help your mum out like that is just very rare, selfless, and amazing.

Brian MacDonald, Sunday, 23 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Quite so, indeed. :-) My best for you and her, as always -- it'll all turn out good in the end, I'm sure. :-)

Ned Raggett, Sunday, 23 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I know someone at my work who did this for his sister. It all went really well and his sister is healthy. They say it is best for it to come from family members (less chance of rejection). It's not as difficult a procedure as one might think, though there is a lot of recovery time involved and a lot of post-transplant care for both people obviously. But I'm sure everything will go well - good luck and let me know if you need anything at all, ok?

Ally, Sunday, 23 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

good luck! it's wonderful that you're doing that for your mother. it shows a lot of love.

Maria, Monday, 24 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I can only concur with the other comments made. I think it's great that you're attempting to do this. Let me know if you need me to support you with filthy jokes or odd websites.

Dan Perry, Monday, 24 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Let me know if you need me to support you with filthy jokes or odd websites.

Ah, nothing says warm friendship like internet oddity;> I'll probably take you up on that, Dan....

Thanks for all your kind wishes. I'll certainly keep your offers in mind. Tis only a relief that the process can begin. I may not be chosen, but there are just certain times you have to step up to the plate, regardless of the risk....

Nichole Graham, Monday, 24 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

What a beautiful gift to give your mum, sincere best wishes to you both. I have a friend who went through it a couple of years ago, (unknown doner though) and he is absolutely fine and healthy now. His quality of life post-transplant, is nothing short of miraculous.

Rhia, Monday, 24 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Thanks, Rhia. The docs on the panel said pretty much the same: that post-transplant patients have wonderfully active lives. I can only hope my mum will have that, too.

Nichole Graham, Tuesday, 25 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

My neighbour in Minneapolis was born without kidneys and got one from her mum. She has not yet rejected and leads a very active life, does sports, all of it...

suzy, Tuesday, 25 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Good luck Nichole - I equally know someone who has had this transplant (and her Mum who she did it for) and they are both living the kind of active lives that the phrase active lives in connection with operations never seems to sum up. You know, being lazy slobs generally.

Pete, Tuesday, 25 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

*Update*: Mum is changing her mind on where to have the transplant---again---and is rooting for Columbia Presbyterian Hospital, here. She has already contacted the main surgeon, and is waiting for a reponse.

I shall give her a few days to see whether she talks to him. If not, I've decided to move after all, and keep an eye on her decision. Probably she will need to attend another seminar. In that case, I cannot wait here for another 6 weeks without working. I shall just fly back once I'm needed.

Nichole Graham, Thursday, 27 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)


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