What do you do when you lose your cool?

The few times I do, I throw stuff (at the walls, never anything that'll do any harm, or break). But usually I'm far too good at putting up with things, or at least not letting people know I'm upset.

*ahem* Kidding!

Really, I've just shut myself into an empty room, and indulged in some primal scream therapy.

Cleansing.

Just tooooootally lost my cool and this is what I did:
I talked too much. Way way way way way too much. This is what I do when I lose my cool :-/

i think i'm over it now but man for a few minutes the embarrassment reverberated in my head like a gong

xxx <3 We love you anyway, even when you feel embarrassed (and you probably feel more embarrassed for yourself than is objectively called for from an outside perspective).

i dunno man, she said "i'm going to back away from your desk now"

Are you okay? In both macro and micro senses?

Inner fisher cat, attack.

oh i'm fine -- if i weren't fine i wouldn't have posted that! i was just embarrassed at cool loss.

There's a filter on my words that assesses outgoing information and edits it with "how the other person feels" in mind. When I lose my cool I start speaking twice as fast because that filter no longer is engaged. I usually don't lose my cool more than twice or three times a month, but I lost my cool twice yesterday.

The first time was on the phone with a co-worker, and I lost my cool and suddenly heard myself explaining that it was unreasonable that I should receive a "first draft" of something the day before it was due, it didn't provide me or the editors with enough time to even consider or discuss a second or third draft. I cited various examples of how I submit things months before their due date. Then I caught my breath and apologized for losing my cool.

The second time I lost my cool was coming hot off the heels of a friend making some grand comments about how "Sky Ferreira was shit" and judging her because it has been reported that she does heroin. Rather than lose my cool then and there, I reminded myself that people never know How They Sound when they're talking about music. I reminded myself that it's important, in social situations, to create an environment where people feel comfortable with expressing their opinions and don't receive The Face Of Judgement unless they really, really deserve it. So I let it slide and quietly defused the potential "you like Elliott Smith and Nirvana and Judee Sill so I guess you only like a junky when she's dead" train of thought.

But a moment later I began a story about the one time I went to the grocery store while severely depressed and had a complete mental collapse when the song "1, 2, 3, 4" came on and he, a fan of that artist, turned and rolled his eyes and said to another person "guess we should change the topic" and I lost my cool. "I cannot believe that you would interrupt me and roll your eyes at me when I am telling a story that begins with a scene-setting admission of 'when I was severely depressed'. I sit here and listen to your opinions with no judgement even when you're driving me crazy. I am so hurt and offended right now and the next thing out of your fucking mouth had better be something that convinces me to stay here at the table with you because otherwise I am leaving this restaurant this second." He didn't apologize but he did try and calm me down. I calmed down, and we finished dinner and there were some jokes on the way home. But it bugged me all night and today I think I've downgraded that guy's friend-level from "intimate" to "close".

When I lose my cool I start speaking twice as fast because that filter no longer is engaged.
otm! me too. i just spew/babble, usually about stuff that is too personal for the conversation.

i think this is what happens when relatively controlled people lose their cool
like if i lost my cool as many times as other people do, every time i found something upsetting, i would be doing it all the time
as it is, maybe once every few months? it's also usually a symptom of stress.

Losing my cool often makes me go flat and cutting. So I guess most of the time I'm holding back meanness.

Which will no doubt come as a surprise to everyone who thinks I'm mean enough already.

The other day during a very positive job review when the mgr finally said, brightly and falsely, "So, your last day with us will be XX, just wanted to make sure you were aware of that! But I'm so impressed that you were trying to work your way up and make strategic decisions anyway!" I said, "Not that it did me any good, apparently" and basically got up and walked out.

It surely did your heart good to let that out, although yr mgr may not have a clue why (s)he so richly deserved that.

I didn't feel good, I felt completely numb, it just seemed like a statement of fact. I was pretty much a zombie for the 7-hour shift I still had to work after that. (Nice timing, assholes.)

I, too, speak quickly when stressed.

The numbness was the only possible alternative to completely losing your shit. Damn! They don't know what they're losing in you.

losing my cool is not usually related to being angry -- mostly it happens when i'm stressed

I actually, if it's a stressful loss of cool, get very quiet and agreeable and sometimes do some self-blaming. The former isn't so bad as long as I process information and respond to it in a timely manner (criticism or feedback at work, personal criticism in life) but self-blame is not productive.

losing my cool is not usually related to being angry -- mostly it happens when i'm stressed

This is a interesting distinction, I think.

Some people react to stress with anger! I don't really get _angry_ about anything. Mostly frustrated.

right, i'm just saying that i'm not one of those people

btw everyone around me seems to be losing it -- i blame the change of seasons. even the animals are freaking out.

I get angry and stressed out pretty often, but I think I've actually visibly lost my cool once in the last few years. Everybody was surprised. I expect someday I'm going to flip the fuck out and wind up in a straitjacket.

I went to bed early, woke up at 1AM, and immediate had three ideas of things to check on at work today. Couldn't fall back asleep for an hour and a half. Wonder if I'm losing my shit!

The other day during a very positive job review when the mgr finally said, brightly and falsely, "So, your last day with us will be XX, just wanted to make sure you were aware of that! But I'm so impressed that you were trying to work your way up and make strategic decisions anyway!" I said, "Not that it did me any good, apparently" and basically got up and walked out.

This is called "keeping your cool" and admirably so, imo

tbh that sounds like that person would be a good workplace reference, not that you lack for any

y'all are all cool in my book. http://i.imgur.com/zi7hd.gif

What do you do when you lose your kewl?

Button my lips before I can say anything unforgivable. Then go home and eat and drink too much.

Having your cool is overrated

I cry enough tears to fill the ocean.

preventive way that helps me not lose my cool: be happier. talk to beautiful new people. check out interesting contemporary art. have fun on a dance floor.

All things u can do from yr desk eh

god, i am a wreck.

I buy ice by the bag so I cut off hunks and throw them at the wall as hard as I can

man for a few minutes the embarrassment reverberated in my head like a gong

minutes? who was i kidding. days. gongongongongongongongongong
losing my cool sucks.

i am always looking for my lost cool

i throw my xbox one controller against the wall.

I think I lost mine in 2005 or so

I threw my guitar into the fire and a full mug of tea off the far wall and a bottle of vodka through a window glass and all but i mean i didnt know we were discussing tantrums

Throwing glasses of absinthe against the wall is my preferred method

+1 if you're in a foreign country when you lose your cool

i punch a wall. that's how i got this bad bruise on my knuckles. *high-fives the captain of the football team*

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What do you do when you lose your Kools?

What do you do when you lose your Zuul?

I snapped at my dad when I was doing some plumbing and he was helping with suggestions

the great time i had last week was too little too late to prevent me from snapping at that "too fast too furious" teenage jacky who always roll close to me and step on the gas hard to make loud noise , to intimidate me or some shit. May a happy calm arise in my mortal soul
and may neither anger nor fear survive in it.

today i have been very angry and i haven't lost my cool at all
although i did yell WHAT THE FUCKING FUCK at a fedex truck

Did you get the pizza? If not maybe you are cranky because of your unfulfilled pizza needs.

no pizza yet

I usually kind of pace heavily back and forth and breathe hard