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ok, here goes.
after a long long day i have had a few glasses of red wine, so please bear with me.
on april 6th 2011 my wife was told "in error" that she had stomach cancer.
[long story - but this should have happened in my presence at some later pre-arranged time, but the fact was dropped while i was on childcare duties 30 miles away .. ]
given that my wife had previously been to see her GP for 2 years re ongoing stomach issues this came as no real surprise, but still, 2 years is quite a long time to have such concerns.
[turned out to be a stomach ulcer that had been left untreated .. resulting in the cancerous growth, but still the advise is that it has not spread beyond the stomach]
so after a 3 month stretch of radical chemo, to isolate and focus the growth, the surgeon today removed my wifes stomach, meaning that today is the beginning of a whole new life for us all.
so, the question is : are there ILX'r who have been through this process, as i have no idea as to what happens next !
how will she be able to digest food etc ?
and far more importantly, will red wine be no longer suitable as a method for her to deal with the daily demands of modern life ?
oh, and in the spirit of the original thread (i hate cancer) : fuck cancer.

mark e, Wednesday, 10 August 2011 23:25 (nine years ago) link

as far as i could tell (i looked - honest !) , ile needed a proper 'fuck cancer' thread.

mark e, Wednesday, 10 August 2011 23:26 (nine years ago) link

=( Best of luck to both of you

Elderflower Gimcrax Flores (admrl), Wednesday, 10 August 2011 23:26 (nine years ago) link

Oh fuck, I'm so very sorry to hear that. btw there is a 'curse cancer' thread but fuck anyone who holds this thread against you.

ceci n'est pas une witty dn (Schlafsack), Wednesday, 10 August 2011 23:27 (nine years ago) link

mark e, I am so sorry you and your wife are facing this. I know a few people who have had some or all of their stomach removed, for various reasons - each has certain foods that aren't processed well and so those are avoided, but digestion starts with chewing and nutrients are absorbed in the small intestine. One friend takes an additional enzyme with each meal, but the others eat smaller meals more frequently. They all are able to still enjoy alcohol, though I'm sure that can vary. See if you can find a support group locally or on-line that can help with the questions/concerns you will both be confronting. I wish your wife a rapid return to health and strength.

Jaq, Wednesday, 10 August 2011 23:52 (nine years ago) link

while i understand and appreciate the concerns, can i just state the following : today is a great great] day.
the surgery went well, my wife is ok (as far as i know), and that is a massive, repeat massive thrill-buzz.
oh, and while red wine is not the answer to most of our daily stresses it can form part of our occasional parental release ..
(i would prefer a very loud listen-n-dance session to kylie, but hey, cant have everythintg ! )

mark e, Wednesday, 10 August 2011 23:59 (nine years ago) link

others eat smaller meals more frequently. They all are able to still enjoy alcohol, though I'm sure that can vary.

have heard this from others.
only time will tell.

ta.

mark e, Thursday, 11 August 2011 00:28 (nine years ago) link

Fuck cancer indeed, so many of my relatives are dead from or are have contracted some form of cancer.

Super Villains With Drum Machines (MintIce), Thursday, 11 August 2011 13:39 (nine years ago) link

My paternal grandmother had her stomach removed for the same reason back in the 1960s. Although her meal size was reduced, she still very much enjoyed food and drink; one of the first things she taught my brother and me when we used to go and visit as wee lads was how to make a "proper" gin and tonic for her. She lived until she was 90.

I really hope your wife can continue to enjoy life in a similar spirit, and that she's making a fast and full recovery from the op.

that mustardless plate (Bill A), Wednesday, 17 August 2011 12:01 (nine years ago) link

cheers bill.
cant believe that its only 7 days since surgery given that yesterday she was looking so good, and up and walking (aka "thank f*ck for the nhs").
and yes, the advise seems to be that she can eat-n-drink whatever.
there may be some food types that may cause issue, but hopefully, the main impact will be that meal times will be a lot more relaxed as opposed to gobble-and-go.

mark e, Wednesday, 17 August 2011 12:06 (nine years ago) link

I guess it must not be too major to have your stomach removed since lots of people get their stomach removed who have a gastric bypass. I mean not too major compared to having your pancreas removed or your colon and getting an ostomy or something. I hope it goes well, I'm sure you will adapt in time and you will be just fine. SOrry to hear it

I love obscure members of the Athrotheiria mammal genus and... (Latham Green), Wednesday, 17 August 2011 13:34 (nine years ago) link

four months pass...

My grandfather is in the last stage of leukemia. I am trying to keep in mind he had a long and healthy life so far. But given that his life wasn't too great, it's difficult...

nathom, Friday, 13 January 2012 13:51 (nine years ago) link

two months pass...

exactly one year on and shit gets raised to a new level of emotional chaos.

we weren't even able to get away for 7 days for some well deserved family time without a mad midnight 250 mile dash to a&e.

oh, and all the positivity and hope i displayed earlier in this thread proved to be fucking worthless.

outcome post chemo/surgery : stage 4. terminal. no more treatment.

we currently live in waiting rooms dreading the test results.

fuck cancer.

mark e, Friday, 6 April 2012 20:47 (nine years ago) link

i'm really sorry, mark. my best wishes and support to you and your loved ones. and fuck cancer.

dayo, Friday, 6 April 2012 21:13 (nine years ago) link

mark, I'm so sorry. fuck cancer.

that mustardless plate (Bill A), Friday, 6 April 2012 22:29 (nine years ago) link

I am at a loss for words. I... I wish I could take some of the pain away. Fuck FUCK FUCK cancer. I am so so sorry.

Nathalie (stevienixed), Saturday, 7 April 2012 13:51 (nine years ago) link

How terrible. I wish you love. Fuck cancer.

World Congress of Itch (Dr Morbius), Saturday, 7 April 2012 14:07 (nine years ago) link

Mark, I'm really, really sorry. My best wishes to you and your family.

God, Music and Romeo and Juliet (DJP), Saturday, 7 April 2012 14:17 (nine years ago) link

Echoing the above. Utterly terrible news.

Ned Raggett, Saturday, 7 April 2012 14:18 (nine years ago) link

two weeks pass...

emsley clan : -1

cancer scoreboard : +1

fuck cancer.

mark e, Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:27 (nine years ago) link

Mark, I'm so sorry; my condolences to you and your family.

I'M THAT POSTA, AAAAAAAAAH (DJP), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:29 (nine years ago) link

oh Mark I am so sorry. sending you love and support in this time.

cosi fan whitford (underrated aerosmith bootlegs I have owned), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:31 (nine years ago) link

echoing the above. my sincere condolences to all of you

dayo, Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:35 (nine years ago) link

A hug and kiss for you, Mark.

Exile in lolville (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:37 (nine years ago) link

echoing the above. my sincere condolences to all of you

― dayo, Thursday, April 26, 2012 8:35 AM (1 minute ago)

^^^ So sorry, Mark. Fuck cancer.

improvised explosive advice (WmC), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:39 (nine years ago) link

Sending you love and the tiniest lightening of this burden. I'm so sorry.

how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:40 (nine years ago) link

i'm so sorry mark.

diafiyhm (darraghmac), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:42 (nine years ago) link

Horrible news, very sorry to hear this, good thoughts to you and family Mark.

ooooiiiioooooooooooooooaaaaaaaaoooooh un - bi - leevable! (LocalGarda), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:46 (nine years ago) link

ta for the wired tlc ..

this just goes to prove that even in this day and age of techno miracles, in the majority of cases, the powers that be really dont have a grasp on this evil disease.

we were told back in december that there was a good chance of 12 months of settled life.

to say the last 4 months have been a living hell of health related shyte would be an understatement.

we have no let up from the hospital/a&e chaos, so in some ways, i'm glad that she is now no longer suffering, but damn, its heavy on those of us left behind.

mark e, Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:49 (nine years ago) link

how horrible, Mark. RIP, & I hope you too are able to find some peace in this.

Euler, Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:50 (nine years ago) link

mark i'm so sorry for you and your family's loss, i hope you all get all the love and support you need

seapunk run. run punk run! (Noodle Vague), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:55 (nine years ago) link

Oh Mark, I'm so sorry to hear that. Wishing you all the strength in the world over the next few days and weeks.

btw didn't i braek ur heart (NickB), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:57 (nine years ago) link

That is horrible to hear, take care of yourself, man.

Andrew Farrell, Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:58 (nine years ago) link

Also: fuck cancer.

Andrew Farrell, Thursday, 26 April 2012 14:06 (nine years ago) link

Oh my God. I am so so sorry to read this. I can't imagine how horrible the past year must have been for you. My best wishes go out to you and your family.

wolf kabob (ENBB), Thursday, 26 April 2012 14:10 (nine years ago) link

Damn.

My condolences.

Ned Raggett, Thursday, 26 April 2012 14:27 (nine years ago) link

mark, I'm very sorry. words on a message board don't do it justice.

this just goes to prove that even in this day and age of techno miracles, in the majority of cases, the powers that be really dont have a grasp on this evil disease.

I switched oncologists recently, going to the big medical center named after one of the Rockefellers. My new guy is the teacher who taught my two old guys.

We went down the list, talking about the medications I had been given, what my diet could be, drawing a DNA helix on the paper of the examination chair and saying 45 minutes of exercise based on my age x 5 - 2 or something. That last one, "What does running up and down stairs have to do with cancer?" made him literally stroke his beard and say "We don't know. Everything I've told you is basically an educated guess at best."

Now, this guy is pretty educated, but every honest doctor would be the first to tell you that plugging tubes of poison into people's veins and blasting them with radiation is witchcraft at best.

pplains, Thursday, 26 April 2012 14:51 (nine years ago) link

Now, this guy is pretty educated, but every honest doctor would be the first to tell you that plugging tubes of poison into people's veins and blasting them with radiation is witchcraft at best.

i have an uncle who is a highly qualified doctor in canada - and he basically told me this back last year, so while we were getting the 'we will cure you' story from various folks here, i've been quietly preparing for this outcome due to the insider information from him.

still, doesn't make dealing with the fallout any easier ..

good luck with your battle pplains - you have my heartfelt wishes and hopes for a more successful outcome.

for us, the big reveal was the discovery of an evil lump weeks after the completion of premium grade chemo that she underwent as that confirmed just how aggressive the fucker was.

(uncle confirmed that she got the best that was available .. so no complaints on that score)

mark e, Thursday, 26 April 2012 15:08 (nine years ago) link

Heartfelt condolences, mark. I'm so sorry that things turned out this way.

that mustardless plate (Bill A), Thursday, 26 April 2012 19:03 (nine years ago) link

i'm so very sorry, mark.

estela, Thursday, 26 April 2012 19:13 (nine years ago) link

Found out yesterday that mother in-law likely has pancreatic cancer. She got sick the day after we left for vacation, but apparently her doctor's been all kind of amazing and has run 6 months worth of tests in 2 weeks. From what I understand they think it's still in early stages, and possibly slow-growing though I'm still trying to make sense of everything so I don't exactly know all the details.

the worst part is that her Mum died of cancer when she was quite young, and her brother died of pancreatic cancer a couple of years ago, so it's just like AAAAAGGGGH FUCK YOU CANCER SERIOUSLY

the gallows-humor lighter side is that because of a blocked bile duct she now has a major case of jaundice. She said over the phone that she was pretty green, but when she answered the door mr Veg and I were like, 'Whoa. you weren't kidding.' Wicked Witch of the West level neon green. It's really weird!

We visited with her yesterday - she's very scared, tired, etc, but still very much herself. I love her so much...it just fucks me up that she's dealing with all of this. Ugh!

bleh

Peppermint Patty Hearst (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 30 April 2012 20:17 (nine years ago) link

AAAAAGGGGH FUCK YOU CANCER SERIOUSLY

seriously.

hope they caught the fucker in time peppermint.

mark e, Monday, 30 April 2012 20:30 (nine years ago) link

I know. I'd like to have her around for a lot longer :)

Peppermint Patty Hearst (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 30 April 2012 20:38 (nine years ago) link

btw, my condolences to you, mark...a big DOUBLE FUCK YOU CANCER

Peppermint Patty Hearst (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 30 April 2012 20:42 (nine years ago) link

cheers pepper.

borderline alcoholism + v. loud music helps.

a little.

mark e, Monday, 30 April 2012 20:48 (nine years ago) link

<3 <3 <3

Peppermint Patty Hearst (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 30 April 2012 20:58 (nine years ago) link

my mother in law was diagnosed with terminal cancer on Friday. Somehow the fucking doctor she has been getting x-rays and cat scans from for the last five years completely missed the huge tumor crushing her heart. My wife had to take an emergency red-eye last night and fortunately made it home before her mom died. now they're waiting for more tests.

fuck you, incompetent doctors, fuck you cancer, etc.

sleeve, Monday, 30 April 2012 21:31 (nine years ago) link

Somehow the fucking doctor she has been getting x-rays and cat scans from for the last five years completely missed the huge tumor crushing her heart.

due to the time, i am assuming you are US based pepper, cos this scarily similar to our situation.

3 years of 'problems' that were ignored cos it would have cost a few quid to send bh for a CT scan ..

so, yes fuck you incomp. doctors and fuck you tory policy to make doctors even more important in the decision making process.

once bh was escalated to the next level of care then it has to be said, the care was absolutely fantastic, but the fact of the matter is that he problems were ignored by the the GPs for 3 years .. and the GPs defence : 'bh is too young to get stomach cancer'

ok, time for more wine ..

mark e, Monday, 30 April 2012 21:39 (nine years ago) link

hang in there, also check out the revive on the Steve Albini thread, very inspiring.

sleeve, Tuesday, 1 May 2012 00:36 (nine years ago) link

I was told just today that my aunt was in the final stages of her cancer, so I feel you. It's amazing how much money + resources gets pumped into research and how it's still such a crapshoot of who survives and who doesn't.

musicfanatic, Tuesday, 1 May 2012 00:47 (nine years ago) link

she has a little boy about 10. I haven't been able to visit since September. fuck this

CP Radio Gorgeous (Colonel Poo), Thursday, 1 April 2021 20:59 (one month ago) link

Fucking hell, I’m so sorry CP.

pomenitul, Thursday, 1 April 2021 21:42 (one month ago) link

So sorry to hear, CP.

it's like edging for your mind (the table is the table), Thursday, 1 April 2021 21:51 (one month ago) link

I’m so sorry. Wishing them both the best and hoping that they come through it.

Scamp Granada (gyac), Thursday, 1 April 2021 21:55 (one month ago) link

man, can you stop hogging all the misery and suffering for your family and friends? share it around, send some to elected Tories.

armoured van, Holden (sic), Thursday, 1 April 2021 21:57 (one month ago) link

i’m so sorry CP <3

terminators of endearment (VegemiteGrrl), Thursday, 1 April 2021 22:58 (one month ago) link

<3

scampopo (suzy), Thursday, 1 April 2021 23:00 (one month ago) link

Really sorry to hear you've gone through so much shit recently CP. My mum's twin sister has 3 different cancers right now and at the start of Rona it wasn't looking good for her and the NHS wouldn't even operate on her. But somehow now she is still going and they have decided to operate on her now so there might be a dim glimmer of hope.

calzino, Thursday, 1 April 2021 23:14 (one month ago) link

Goddamn. Best to all for sure.

Ned Raggett, Thursday, 1 April 2021 23:15 (one month ago) link

sending hope and good vibes, cp

kinder, Friday, 2 April 2021 07:38 (one month ago) link

Sorry to hear this CP, what horrible shit to deal with.

Bastard Lakes (Camaraderie at Arms Length), Friday, 2 April 2021 11:24 (one month ago) link

Indeed, I’m sorry CP. it’s too much.

Zach_TBD (Karl Malone), Friday, 2 April 2021 13:53 (one month ago) link

Sorry to hear this, CP. Don't forget to breathe. Sending good vibes.

DJI, Friday, 2 April 2021 18:06 (one month ago) link

Friends often send me LATEST BREAKTHROUGH MIRACLE news. They mean well.

Anyway here's a regularly scheduled fuck cancer reminder. Fuck it.

Suggest Banazir (onimo), Wednesday, 14 April 2021 12:32 (three weeks ago) link

fuck cancer 4ever

a friend of mine, god help her, is deep in a "health food" pyramid scam and tried to tell me about these amazing "studies" on how her shakes and gummies "improve cancer numbers" and i love her but i almost tore her head off and shit in it.

fuck those sociopathic fucks who generate this predatory misinformation to suck profit out of desperate frightened people, and also fuck cancer again.

anonymous internet <3 2 u, onimo

cat, Wednesday, 14 April 2021 17:59 (three weeks ago) link

I'm really sorry CP and onimo, sending good thoughts and vibes to both of you.

soaring skrrrtpeggios (jon /via/ chi 2.0), Wednesday, 14 April 2021 18:05 (three weeks ago) link

fuck those sociopathic fucks who generate this predatory misinformation to suck profit out of desperate frightened people

indeed. i was helping my mom make some phone calls recently, and she had written down the medicare number down incorrectly, off by one digit. when we called, a voice appeared saying it was the medicare hotline, and that 1 in 5000 people who called would be automatically entered into a drawing to win a special prize. a few seconds passed as the "hold music" came on, and then lo and behold, we had won the Medicare prize! my mom hung up before i could tell her, so at least she has her wits about her still, but i did think about calling that number and threatening to call MI6 on them

Zach_TBD (Karl Malone), Wednesday, 14 April 2021 18:06 (three weeks ago) link

Just lost an uncle to colon cancer yesterday. Went into the hospital for another ailment less than a month ago and during the diagnosis they discovered “innumerable” tumors all through his body. His body shut down so abruptly in the past few days and I’m just happy he’s no longer in pain.

Please get a colonoscopy when you’re of age. He never did and it sounds like some of this was preventable.

Western® with Bacon Flavor, Wednesday, 14 April 2021 18:06 (three weeks ago) link

Sorry, Bacon Flavor. That is tough. Best to you and your family.

Oh, fuck cancer.

guillotines aren't just for royalty anymore (PBKR), Wednesday, 14 April 2021 19:40 (three weeks ago) link

Co-sign the getting a colonoscopy advice. If you have any incidence of cancer in your family at all, I'd start getting them at 35.

it's like edging for your mind (the table is the table), Wednesday, 14 April 2021 23:08 (three weeks ago) link

Just got my first one scheduled today, by chance, having turned 50 and all. A wise thing to do. Condolences indeed to you, Bacon.

Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 14 April 2021 23:11 (three weeks ago) link

It's an unpleasant experience that can truly prevent a much more unpleasant experience, as I can attest.

it's like edging for your mind (the table is the table), Thursday, 15 April 2021 11:07 (three weeks ago) link

I'm losing my ability to read and type. It's depressing as shit.

I was leave here soon.

The took ten minutes to type.

Change display name in my last (onimo), Tuesday, 27 April 2021 15:28 (one week ago) link

Get that wrong

Change display name in my last (onimo), Tuesday, 27 April 2021 15:33 (one week ago) link

Sending lots of love to you, onimo. We're all rooting for you.

it's like edging for your mind (the table is the table), Tuesday, 27 April 2021 15:39 (one week ago) link

Sorry onimo. That sounds shitty and alarming.

DJI, Tuesday, 27 April 2021 15:42 (one week ago) link

Sending love ❤️

the thin blue lying (suzy), Tuesday, 27 April 2021 15:48 (one week ago) link

Thanks all

I'm playing with would tools to see I'm they help but it's tiring

Change display name in my last (onimo), Tuesday, 27 April 2021 15:49 (one week ago) link

Yeah <3 Onimo.

Tim, Tuesday, 27 April 2021 15:49 (one week ago) link

Much love to you Onimo.

xyzzzz__, Tuesday, 27 April 2021 16:01 (one week ago) link

<3 onimo

Filibuster Poindexter (Neanderthal), Tuesday, 27 April 2021 16:04 (one week ago) link

Much love, onimo.

pomenitul, Tuesday, 27 April 2021 16:06 (one week ago) link

Very, very sorry, onimo. Keeping you in my thoughts.

keto keto bonito v industry plant-based diet (PBKR), Tuesday, 27 April 2021 17:07 (one week ago) link

Really sorry to hear, Onimo, wishing you the best.

Scamp Granada (gyac), Tuesday, 27 April 2021 17:16 (one week ago) link

<3 onimo

terminators of endearment (VegemiteGrrl), Tuesday, 27 April 2021 19:39 (one week ago) link

Dang. Deepest love indeed Onimo.

Ned Raggett, Tuesday, 27 April 2021 19:42 (one week ago) link

Best wishes to you, Onimo.

In my house are many Manchins (WmC), Tuesday, 27 April 2021 19:43 (one week ago) link

lots of love, onimo

lukas, Tuesday, 27 April 2021 19:44 (one week ago) link

Adding my <3 to you, onimo.

emil.y, Tuesday, 27 April 2021 19:44 (one week ago) link

Very best wishes Onimo

Ward Fowler, Tuesday, 27 April 2021 19:50 (one week ago) link

strength to you during this tough time Onimo

calzino, Tuesday, 27 April 2021 19:53 (one week ago) link

love and hugs onimo! hope things improve soon

building a hole (NickB), Tuesday, 27 April 2021 20:05 (one week ago) link

Lots of love, man.

Andrew Farrell, Tuesday, 27 April 2021 20:48 (one week ago) link

Strength to you onimo

flagpost fucking (darraghmac), Tuesday, 27 April 2021 21:00 (one week ago) link

💕

maura, Tuesday, 27 April 2021 21:04 (one week ago) link

Thanks all x

Change display name in my last (onimo), Tuesday, 27 April 2021 21:19 (one week ago) link

so sorry, onimo - sending my best wishes

scampus unrest (a passing spacecadet), Tuesday, 27 April 2021 21:26 (one week ago) link

Sending you all good vibes onimo.

soaring skrrrtpeggios (jon /via/ chi 2.0), Tuesday, 27 April 2021 21:26 (one week ago) link

strength, friend.

Draymond is "Mr Dumpy" (forksclovetofu), Wednesday, 28 April 2021 02:05 (one week ago) link

thinking of you onimo, I hope each day is better than the last x

boxedjoy, Wednesday, 28 April 2021 08:35 (one week ago) link


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