Innocuous things that make you irrationally embarrassed

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because, for me, embarrassment is a much more common reaction than anger

congratulations (n/a), Monday, 26 November 2012 16:24 (five years ago) Permalink

e.g. when people respond to comedians' tweets or (especially) instagrams with "funny" comments

congratulations (n/a), Monday, 26 November 2012 16:25 (five years ago) Permalink

any type of performance that requires being HAPPY! in a really showy way (which means i can't watch any singing/dancing-based reality show)

congratulations (n/a), Monday, 26 November 2012 16:33 (five years ago) Permalink

eating in public

Shane Breen is a gigantic tool (Noodle Vague), Monday, 26 November 2012 16:35 (five years ago) Permalink

trying on clothes in department stores

set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 26 November 2012 16:44 (five years ago) Permalink

being introduced to new people

set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 26 November 2012 16:44 (five years ago) Permalink

"mingling" at parties

set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 26 November 2012 16:45 (five years ago) Permalink

every single episode of breaking bad

ledge, Monday, 26 November 2012 16:45 (five years ago) Permalink

taking cyrus in to school in the morning. and its not just me, half the people in there could teach a master class on avoiding eye contact.

scott seward, Monday, 26 November 2012 16:47 (five years ago) Permalink

god yeah, i frantically hunt the playground for the 2 or 3 people i can talk to

Shane Breen is a gigantic tool (Noodle Vague), Monday, 26 November 2012 16:48 (five years ago) Permalink

being around my dad when he talks to anybody in a shop, pub etc

Shane Breen is a gigantic tool (Noodle Vague), Monday, 26 November 2012 16:49 (five years ago) Permalink

i could list these things all day but i am too embarrassed

passion it person (La Lechera), Monday, 26 November 2012 16:53 (five years ago) Permalink

i used to get embarrassed when my dad would ramble on and never listen to the person trying to talk to him but now i don't care. i'm just glad he's still alive so i just watch him and smile. its like watching a big demented baby talk to people. who is hard of hearing. and who listens to jazz all day long and reads the wall street journal. okay, that's a really weird baby...

scott seward, Monday, 26 November 2012 16:59 (five years ago) Permalink

guys trying to flirt on facebook, publicly

I have done bad. I love my pj's. (zachlyon), Monday, 26 November 2012 18:05 (five years ago) Permalink

People who comment on the food I am eating, or have just ordered. A truly irrational pet peeve.

One Way Ticket on the 1277 Express (Bill Magill), Monday, 26 November 2012 18:31 (five years ago) Permalink

People trying to impress their favourite musicians on facebook by posting fawning comments. It's even worse in real life. Note : I have done both of these things myself.

it's all fuck what sit says, we'll do our own thing (Matt #2), Monday, 26 November 2012 18:34 (five years ago) Permalink

i told kim gordon that i really liked the harry crews album when i was drunk years ago. #bigfatliar

scott seward, Monday, 26 November 2012 18:41 (five years ago) Permalink

eating chobani yogurt fills me with disgust and self hatred, but i like this one flavor so much that i will suffer through the shame to eat it.

passion it person (La Lechera), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 15:41 (five years ago) Permalink

why does it make you feel that way? also, which flavor?

xanthanguar (cwkiii), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 15:44 (five years ago) Permalink

passion fruit

1) the name is so focus grouped that it makes me ashamed to say it, or even think about it
2) yogurt is for woman, and i am a woman
3) stirring up the fruit from the bottom is the worst sound on earth
4) i have long had an aversion to watching people eat yogurt, it's at least 20 years old
5) do i need another reason?

passion it person (La Lechera), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 15:48 (five years ago) Permalink

all completely valid reasons! especially #1; that's one of those words i do anything to avoid saying, and if i absolutely must say it, i involuntarily shudder.
passion fruit is one of the best flavors, though. recently i've been buying cabot greek yogurt which is cheaper and way better, but doesn't come in the individual sized cups so i can't bring it to work.

xanthanguar (cwkiii), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 15:51 (five years ago) Permalink

i hate this brand of yogurt so much that i have thought about ways to create my own passion fruit yogurt by making the pulp myself and freezing it in little individual tubes so that it defrosts by lunchtime and i can enjoy my yogurt with peace of mind.

passion it person (La Lechera), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 15:55 (five years ago) Permalink

empty shops/restaurants that are clearly struggling for business

Ward Fowler, Wednesday, 5 December 2012 15:55 (five years ago) Permalink

people baby-talking to their kids, especially if it's about their faeces.

people pronouncing things wrong. my favourite is when people ask for the beer "bombardier" (pronounced in the ww2 spiffing way) and say "bombard-e-ay" in the french way, just a perfect failure. (i definitely pronounce things wrong myself, obv, sometimes, and then get even more embarrassed)

Heterocyclic ring ring (LocalGarda), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 16:47 (five years ago) Permalink

i heard a mom at the grocery store ask her toddler "do you wanna do oj or peach mango?"
kid in the cart: "let's do oj"

me: shame at having overheard that, it was just too personal and also since when did little kids say "let's do _____" when they want something?!?!

passion it person (La Lechera), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 16:54 (five years ago) Permalink

live theatre :-/

Still S.M.D.H. ft. (will), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 16:54 (five years ago) Permalink

i think you mean bad live theatre

obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 16:58 (five years ago) Permalink

there is *a lot* of bad live theatre though, so yeah

obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 16:58 (five years ago) Permalink

Cartoon characters on generic products.

xanthanguar (cwkiii), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 16:59 (five years ago) Permalink

hockey players in advertisements

obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 16:59 (five years ago) Permalink

overheard conversations

Heterocyclic ring ring (LocalGarda), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 17:01 (five years ago) Permalink

generally

Heterocyclic ring ring (LocalGarda), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 17:01 (five years ago) Permalink

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KOrvdvczpEA

mookieproof, Wednesday, 5 December 2012 17:02 (five years ago) Permalink

improv

congratulations (n/a), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 17:03 (five years ago) Permalink

People who comment on the food I am eating, or have just ordered. microwaving.. A truly irrational pet peeve.

"ooh, that smells nice..."

DO YOU WANT SOME?????

Mark G, Wednesday, 5 December 2012 17:05 (five years ago) Permalink

there is *a lot* of bad live theatre though, so yeah

painfully true. but i do tend to be irrationally embarrassed by people ~acting~ in a live setting, regardless of the quality of performance/ production. the closer they are to me physically, the more embarrassed i get.

Still S.M.D.H. ft. (will), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 17:05 (five years ago) Permalink

improv comedy or improv anything?

passion it person (La Lechera), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 17:05 (five years ago) Permalink

comedy i guess? i'm not sure what other kinds of improv i'd run into

congratulations (n/a), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 17:06 (five years ago) Permalink

omg hahaaaa, mooks knows what i'm talking about
that clip is practically canadian
xps

obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 17:06 (five years ago) Permalink

http://youtu.be/vDggoBZ2A48

obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 17:17 (five years ago) Permalink

though the wayne gretzky ones of the 80s/90s were prob worse and more ubiquitous...

obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 17:18 (five years ago) Permalink

Everything I say and everything I do.

Just noise and screaming and no musical value at all. (Colonel Poo), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 17:31 (five years ago) Permalink

irish politics

bill paxman (darraghmac), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 17:41 (five years ago) Permalink

Oh man. When I correct someone, or answer a question earnestly, and then immediately realise they were only joking. I guess it's rational to feel some embarrassment about that, but probably not rational to feel so much shame I just want to leave work straight away, get the train home, run upstairs to a cupboard, turn out the light and hide under every bit of linen I can find.

Ismael Klata, Wednesday, 5 December 2012 17:58 (five years ago) Permalink

stop correcting ppl, it's ama awful habit, even when they're wrong. get home.

bill paxman (darraghmac), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 18:00 (five years ago) Permalink

*points out typo*

*kills self*

Ismael Klata, Wednesday, 5 December 2012 18:12 (five years ago) Permalink

witnessing people bragging

homosexual II, Wednesday, 5 December 2012 18:42 (five years ago) Permalink

good one

mookieproof, Wednesday, 5 December 2012 18:43 (five years ago) Permalink

I probably embarrass people when I temporarily bond with sales people (usually at the cosmetics counter).

homosexual II, Wednesday, 5 December 2012 18:45 (five years ago) Permalink

empty shops/restaurants that are clearly struggling for business

I end up never even going into these places since I know that if I go in and start browsing I will feel obligated to buy something because I feel bad about their business not doing well.

I don't really feel embarrassed or anything though, this is just expensive sympathy.

silverfish, Wednesday, 5 December 2012 18:48 (five years ago) Permalink

Funny movie

remember the lmao (darraghmac), Tuesday, 19 December 2017 17:45 (five months ago) Permalink

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if a finger was presented,

the bold insect would immediately draw its sucker, make a charge, and if allowed, draw blood. No pain was caused by the wound. It was curious to watch its body during the act of sucking, as it changed in less than ten minutes, from being as flat as a wafer to a globular form. This one feast, for which the benchuca was indebted to one of the officers, kept it fat during four whole months; but, after the first fortnight, the insect was quite ready to have another suck."

Dean of the University (Latham Green), Tuesday, 19 December 2017 17:59 (five months ago) Permalink

one month passes...

The pretentiousness and the lack of social awareness of the title character in Barton Fink apparently.

haudrum, Wednesday, 7 February 2018 18:22 (three months ago) Permalink

intentional on the part of the Coens

mh, Wednesday, 7 February 2018 19:14 (three months ago) Permalink

Yeah, true but it does feel irrational to be embarrassed by a movie characters actions. I wonder if it's because I subconsciously recalls these traits from myself when I was younger. But then again I guess I'm sort of easily embarrassed.

haudrum, Wednesday, 7 February 2018 19:34 (three months ago) Permalink

http://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=1&v=1CNyzdmXhe0

(Sorry, had to. I love that movie yet 100% of the time I'm reminded of it this is the first thing that comes to mind)

Evan R, Wednesday, 7 February 2018 19:50 (three months ago) Permalink

I'm easily embarrassed by fictional characters that reflect my own less favorable qualities (past or present). I don't really think of it as irrational, though.

I'm very active in the pegasus community (Old Lunch), Wednesday, 7 February 2018 20:05 (three months ago) Permalink

office lunchroom conversations

na (NA), Wednesday, 7 February 2018 20:35 (three months ago) Permalink

* one person saw a movie, they thought it was pretty good. another person saw it and thought it was pretty good too. another person hasn't seen the movie yet but wants to.
* two guys have a long detailed conversation about sports while everyone else at the table eats silently and looks at their phone
* one person sees something funny on social media on their phone and passes their phone around for everyone to look at it and chuckle

na (NA), Wednesday, 7 February 2018 20:38 (three months ago) Permalink

rough

marcos, Wednesday, 7 February 2018 20:39 (three months ago) Permalink

office lunchroom conversations

I'm very active in the pegasus community (Old Lunch), Wednesday, 7 February 2018 20:40 (three months ago) Permalink

these days I'm thinking about how to be less neurotic, as in less embarrassed/angered by innocuous things, reasoning life would be more enjoyable that way

advice?

niels, Wednesday, 7 February 2018 21:15 (three months ago) Permalink

start doing something that makes you do embarrassing or confrontational things in public

starting some sort of thing where you do a performance: learn a musical instrument from a teacher that has class recitals, go to an improv group, anything where you're publicly having to do something where the stakes are low but you have attention on you

spending time in public with a small child is great if you have friends with kids, because kids are constantly doing something awkward and, while you might have to apologize to strangers, kids are 100% expected to do weird/awkward things

basically, get yourself in a situation where the level of embarrassment goes down because you're able to put it in perspective

mh, Wednesday, 7 February 2018 21:27 (three months ago) Permalink

challenge yourself
i feel this pretty much never

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Wednesday, 7 February 2018 21:28 (three months ago) Permalink

...these days, anymore

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Wednesday, 7 February 2018 21:29 (three months ago) Permalink

also there is a difference between self-consciousness and "irrationally embarrassed"

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Wednesday, 7 February 2018 21:29 (three months ago) Permalink

I feel like there is a link, but there are strong areas where there is no overlap

mh, Wednesday, 7 February 2018 21:33 (three months ago) Permalink

I'm irrationally embarrassed whenever I'm in a store and i overhear a weird mild disagreement with an undercurrent of hostility between a customer and an employee, usually at checkout. usually involving the customer being mildly peeved by something they didn't understand about a price or a discount, and the employee not de-escalating but rather standing a bit too firm. it rarely gets to be a full blown argument but i'm standing there listening to it and it's embarrassing for both of them. and me, irrationally.

omar little, Wednesday, 7 February 2018 21:35 (three months ago) Permalink

mh thanks for the kind advice

I'm used to performing in public, doesn't really embarrass me - I was thinking more about the irrational, neurotic embarrassment I feel on behalf of other people, like when someone is talking during a movie in the cinema, it's annoying, but mostly I feel embarrassed for all of us that this is happening

would be nice to have a kid though, and surely would give perspective on many a matter

niels, Friday, 9 February 2018 11:33 (three months ago) Permalink

that seems like kind of an anxiety -- this person is talking, all of us notice it, what if one of us has to deal with it when they don't stop?

mh, Friday, 9 February 2018 15:07 (three months ago) Permalink

fwiw I used to get horrible anxiety as a kid (and I still do! *rimshot*) and actually puked on stage, twice

the first time was in fifth grade, we were rehearsing for a school chorus concert during the day and I felt lightheaded and threw up, went to the school nurse

the second time was sometime in maybe.. seventh grade? it was insanely hot because the auditorium had no a/c, I'm once again standing on a stage singing, and I nearly pass out from the heat/anxiety/standing combo. one of my classmates behind me had the presence of mind to nudge me and I ended up getting out of there and splashed water on my face outside

oddly enough, never had any problems playing in orchestra or string ensemble. but in any case, thinking back about it, I guess I do understand the "embarrassed for others" bit -- I feel worse about the fact all these kids and parents had to experience this than I feel personally embarrassed by what happened

mh, Friday, 9 February 2018 15:12 (three months ago) Permalink

I always think of it as being neurotic, but I guess it's a kind of anxiety

I try to do kind of mindfulness excercises when it happens, which works to some extent, but (and this is perhaps because of Freudian propaganda) I can't help but think it's caused by a more general unease that should be addressed in a different way

niels, Friday, 9 February 2018 17:39 (three months ago) Permalink

coworker bitching out her cable company on the phone (no doubt deservedly, but still)

mookieproof, Thursday, 15 February 2018 16:07 (three months ago) Permalink

two weeks pass...

responses to tweets

marcos, Friday, 2 March 2018 20:28 (two months ago) Permalink

The excelsior thread

obnoxious pun (ultros ultros-ghali), Friday, 2 March 2018 20:32 (two months ago) Permalink

when people tweet at companies about mildly negative customer service issues

na (NA), Tuesday, 13 March 2018 19:36 (two months ago) Permalink

guy i follow tweeting at chipotle because some fajita vegetables had fallen into the pinto beans and made it into his burrito accidentally

na (NA), Tuesday, 13 March 2018 19:37 (two months ago) Permalink

stop ratting out the workers at Chipotle #587 to corporate

mh, Tuesday, 13 March 2018 20:11 (two months ago) Permalink

or just take it back and get a new burrito

na (NA), Tuesday, 13 March 2018 20:16 (two months ago) Permalink

but also oh no i got a couple of vegetables in my burrito is hardly something to complain about jesus

Louis J├Ągermeister (jim in vancouver), Tuesday, 13 March 2018 20:23 (two months ago) Permalink

Imagine, having vegetables fall into your meal.

Now, an onion ring in your french fries - there is no complaints made about that.

pplains, Tuesday, 13 March 2018 21:45 (two months ago) Permalink

the hypothetical here is someone with an allergy, but if you had an allergy you'd be stating that and probably be careful to not eat at places with allergens right next to the ingredients you'd pick, anyway

mh, Tuesday, 13 March 2018 21:46 (two months ago) Permalink

You wanna follow https://twitter.com/customercaring

kinder, Tuesday, 13 March 2018 22:39 (two months ago) Permalink

one month passes...

I made a trivial throwaway remark 5 minutes ago which I just realised is false, and now I am wondering if everyone else is wondering why I said a stupid false thing or if I'm just being weirdly and needlessly sarcastic, but it's far too trivial to bother correcting and everyone else has probably forgotten I said anything already

("it's too bad there isn't a shop selling x on y street" which should have been "it's too bad the shop I am thinking of shut recently but in fact there is another one nearly opposite which has been there for much longer and is kind of a local institution" duh)

a passing spacecadet, Thursday, 19 April 2018 12:29 (one month ago) Permalink

that is classic

niels, Thursday, 19 April 2018 13:34 (one month ago) Permalink

imo you should double down if questioned. there was NEVER a shop selling x on y street :)

mh, Thursday, 19 April 2018 13:47 (one month ago) Permalink

Mh otm

after party for the apocalypse (Ross), Thursday, 19 April 2018 15:01 (one month ago) Permalink

Whenever I'm corrected on something that's very obviously and provably wrong, I like to employ Hank Kingsley's incredulous 'I don't think so.'

Across the You Never Her (Old Lunch), Thursday, 19 April 2018 15:17 (one month ago) Permalink

Went on Nextdoor to log my complaints about a neighborhood traffic issue. Called the street in question CrestWOOD instead of its actual name, CrestVIEW.

My Lord, those grannies skinned me alive.

pplains, Thursday, 19 April 2018 16:40 (one month ago) Permalink

u r an unadulterated monster

Across the You Never Her (Old Lunch), Thursday, 19 April 2018 16:44 (one month ago) Permalink

Crestwood is where all the murders happened

Mario Meatwagon (Moodles), Thursday, 19 April 2018 16:45 (one month ago) Permalink

Gonna start walking through their front yards and really piss 'em off.

pplains, Thursday, 19 April 2018 17:22 (one month ago) Permalink

Walking into a bathroom that the previous occupant has stunk to high heaven and then vacated, taking a perfectly mild and harmless whiz yourself, then walking out of the still stunk-up bathroom just as one of your coworkers is walking in.

how's life, Friday, 20 April 2018 18:24 (one month ago) Permalink

for sure

marcos, Friday, 20 April 2018 18:24 (one month ago) Permalink

Nice try, how's life. We all know what really happened.

Mario Meatwagon (Moodles), Friday, 20 April 2018 18:33 (one month ago) Permalink

The cafeteria staff at my workplace have started playing music recently to liven the place up. Honestly, it's made all the difference in making another bland Sodexo trough feel more comfortable and relaxed. They usually play older r&b hits, so one morning we'll get Stevie Wonder, another morning we'll get Michael, sometimes we'll get a smattering of Motown hits. Today it was Marvin Gaye and I ended up purchasing my oatmeal to the sounds of Sexual Healing.

how's life, Wednesday, 2 May 2018 12:13 (three weeks ago) Permalink

lol
that's awesome
if only every oatmeal purchase were that memorable

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Wednesday, 2 May 2018 12:31 (three weeks ago) Permalink

Just a few minutes ago, a woman in the plaza of the building where I work struggling and struggling to open one of the outward-opening doors against a very strong wind, when there was also a revolving door right there.

Millennial Whoop, wanna fight about it? (Phil D.), Wednesday, 2 May 2018 16:32 (three weeks ago) Permalink

When people call Theresa May 'Tresemme'

brand new universal harvester (dog latin), Friday, 4 May 2018 09:25 (two weeks ago) Permalink

Also when people call Corbyn a 'cockwomble'

brand new universal harvester (dog latin), Friday, 4 May 2018 09:28 (two weeks ago) Permalink


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