rough
― marcos, Wednesday, 7 February 2018 20:39 (six years ago) link
office lunchroom conversations
― I'm very active in the pegasus community (Old Lunch), Wednesday, 7 February 2018 20:40 (six years ago) link
these days I'm thinking about how to be less neurotic, as in less embarrassed/angered by innocuous things, reasoning life would be more enjoyable that way
advice?
― niels, Wednesday, 7 February 2018 21:15 (six years ago) link
start doing something that makes you do embarrassing or confrontational things in public
starting some sort of thing where you do a performance: learn a musical instrument from a teacher that has class recitals, go to an improv group, anything where you're publicly having to do something where the stakes are low but you have attention on you
spending time in public with a small child is great if you have friends with kids, because kids are constantly doing something awkward and, while you might have to apologize to strangers, kids are 100% expected to do weird/awkward things
basically, get yourself in a situation where the level of embarrassment goes down because you're able to put it in perspective
― mh, Wednesday, 7 February 2018 21:27 (six years ago) link
challenge yourselfi feel this pretty much never
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Wednesday, 7 February 2018 21:28 (six years ago) link
...these days, anymore
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Wednesday, 7 February 2018 21:29 (six years ago) link
also there is a difference between self-consciousness and "irrationally embarrassed"
I feel like there is a link, but there are strong areas where there is no overlap
― mh, Wednesday, 7 February 2018 21:33 (six years ago) link
I'm irrationally embarrassed whenever I'm in a store and i overhear a weird mild disagreement with an undercurrent of hostility between a customer and an employee, usually at checkout. usually involving the customer being mildly peeved by something they didn't understand about a price or a discount, and the employee not de-escalating but rather standing a bit too firm. it rarely gets to be a full blown argument but i'm standing there listening to it and it's embarrassing for both of them. and me, irrationally.
― omar little, Wednesday, 7 February 2018 21:35 (six years ago) link
mh thanks for the kind advice
I'm used to performing in public, doesn't really embarrass me - I was thinking more about the irrational, neurotic embarrassment I feel on behalf of other people, like when someone is talking during a movie in the cinema, it's annoying, but mostly I feel embarrassed for all of us that this is happening
would be nice to have a kid though, and surely would give perspective on many a matter
― niels, Friday, 9 February 2018 11:33 (six years ago) link
that seems like kind of an anxiety -- this person is talking, all of us notice it, what if one of us has to deal with it when they don't stop?
― mh, Friday, 9 February 2018 15:07 (six years ago) link
fwiw I used to get horrible anxiety as a kid (and I still do! *rimshot*) and actually puked on stage, twice
the first time was in fifth grade, we were rehearsing for a school chorus concert during the day and I felt lightheaded and threw up, went to the school nurse
the second time was sometime in maybe.. seventh grade? it was insanely hot because the auditorium had no a/c, I'm once again standing on a stage singing, and I nearly pass out from the heat/anxiety/standing combo. one of my classmates behind me had the presence of mind to nudge me and I ended up getting out of there and splashed water on my face outside
oddly enough, never had any problems playing in orchestra or string ensemble. but in any case, thinking back about it, I guess I do understand the "embarrassed for others" bit -- I feel worse about the fact all these kids and parents had to experience this than I feel personally embarrassed by what happened
― mh, Friday, 9 February 2018 15:12 (six years ago) link
I always think of it as being neurotic, but I guess it's a kind of anxiety
I try to do kind of mindfulness excercises when it happens, which works to some extent, but (and this is perhaps because of Freudian propaganda) I can't help but think it's caused by a more general unease that should be addressed in a different way
― niels, Friday, 9 February 2018 17:39 (six years ago) link
coworker bitching out her cable company on the phone (no doubt deservedly, but still)
― mookieproof, Thursday, 15 February 2018 16:07 (six years ago) link
responses to tweets
― marcos, Friday, 2 March 2018 20:28 (six years ago) link
The excelsior thread
― obnoxious pun (ultros ultros-ghali), Friday, 2 March 2018 20:32 (six years ago) link
when people tweet at companies about mildly negative customer service issues
― na (NA), Tuesday, 13 March 2018 19:36 (six years ago) link
guy i follow tweeting at chipotle because some fajita vegetables had fallen into the pinto beans and made it into his burrito accidentally
― na (NA), Tuesday, 13 March 2018 19:37 (six years ago) link
stop ratting out the workers at Chipotle #587 to corporate
― mh, Tuesday, 13 March 2018 20:11 (six years ago) link
or just take it back and get a new burrito
― na (NA), Tuesday, 13 March 2018 20:16 (six years ago) link
but also oh no i got a couple of vegetables in my burrito is hardly something to complain about jesus
― Louis Jägermeister (jim in vancouver), Tuesday, 13 March 2018 20:23 (six years ago) link
Imagine, having vegetables fall into your meal.
Now, an onion ring in your french fries - there is no complaints made about that.
― pplains, Tuesday, 13 March 2018 21:45 (six years ago) link
the hypothetical here is someone with an allergy, but if you had an allergy you'd be stating that and probably be careful to not eat at places with allergens right next to the ingredients you'd pick, anyway
― mh, Tuesday, 13 March 2018 21:46 (six years ago) link
You wanna follow https://twitter.com/customercaring
― kinder, Tuesday, 13 March 2018 22:39 (six years ago) link
I made a trivial throwaway remark 5 minutes ago which I just realised is false, and now I am wondering if everyone else is wondering why I said a stupid false thing or if I'm just being weirdly and needlessly sarcastic, but it's far too trivial to bother correcting and everyone else has probably forgotten I said anything already
("it's too bad there isn't a shop selling x on y street" which should have been "it's too bad the shop I am thinking of shut recently but in fact there is another one nearly opposite which has been there for much longer and is kind of a local institution" duh)
― a passing spacecadet, Thursday, 19 April 2018 12:29 (six years ago) link
that is classic
― niels, Thursday, 19 April 2018 13:34 (six years ago) link
imo you should double down if questioned. there was NEVER a shop selling x on y street :)
― mh, Thursday, 19 April 2018 13:47 (six years ago) link
Mh otm
― after party for the apocalypse (Ross), Thursday, 19 April 2018 15:01 (six years ago) link
Whenever I'm corrected on something that's very obviously and provably wrong, I like to employ Hank Kingsley's incredulous 'I don't think so.'
― Across the You Never Her (Old Lunch), Thursday, 19 April 2018 15:17 (six years ago) link
Went on Nextdoor to log my complaints about a neighborhood traffic issue. Called the street in question CrestWOOD instead of its actual name, CrestVIEW.
My Lord, those grannies skinned me alive.
― pplains, Thursday, 19 April 2018 16:40 (six years ago) link
u r an unadulterated monster
― Across the You Never Her (Old Lunch), Thursday, 19 April 2018 16:44 (six years ago) link
Crestwood is where all the murders happened
― Mario Meatwagon (Moodles), Thursday, 19 April 2018 16:45 (six years ago) link
Gonna start walking through their front yards and really piss 'em off.
― pplains, Thursday, 19 April 2018 17:22 (six years ago) link
Walking into a bathroom that the previous occupant has stunk to high heaven and then vacated, taking a perfectly mild and harmless whiz yourself, then walking out of the still stunk-up bathroom just as one of your coworkers is walking in.
― how's life, Friday, 20 April 2018 18:24 (six years ago) link
for sure
― marcos, Friday, 20 April 2018 18:24 (six years ago) link
Nice try, how's life. We all know what really happened.
― Mario Meatwagon (Moodles), Friday, 20 April 2018 18:33 (six years ago) link
The cafeteria staff at my workplace have started playing music recently to liven the place up. Honestly, it's made all the difference in making another bland Sodexo trough feel more comfortable and relaxed. They usually play older r&b hits, so one morning we'll get Stevie Wonder, another morning we'll get Michael, sometimes we'll get a smattering of Motown hits. Today it was Marvin Gaye and I ended up purchasing my oatmeal to the sounds of Sexual Healing.
― how's life, Wednesday, 2 May 2018 12:13 (six years ago) link
lolthat's awesomeif only every oatmeal purchase were that memorable
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Wednesday, 2 May 2018 12:31 (six years ago) link
Just a few minutes ago, a woman in the plaza of the building where I work struggling and struggling to open one of the outward-opening doors against a very strong wind, when there was also a revolving door right there.
― Millennial Whoop, wanna fight about it? (Phil D.), Wednesday, 2 May 2018 16:32 (six years ago) link
When people call Theresa May 'Tresemme'
― brand new universal harvester (dog latin), Friday, 4 May 2018 09:25 (five years ago) link
Also when people call Corbyn a 'cockwomble'
― brand new universal harvester (dog latin), Friday, 4 May 2018 09:28 (five years ago) link
total IE: when I ask for help in a store to locate something, and I'm the one who ends up finding it, and usually I spot it well before I actually grab it because I still want to give them a chance to find it first. and sometimes they do but most of the time they don't, and even more embarrassing and irrational is how i'll sometimes wait for them to give up, tell me they don't have it, then after they walk away i grab it.
― omar little, Thursday, 16 August 2018 17:47 (five years ago) link
When grownups talk about “superheroes” or “superpowers” as a metaphor
― Fedora Dostoyevsky (man alive), Tuesday, 21 August 2018 02:43 (five years ago) link
Omar, I’ve been in that position so many times! Feeling this.
― Right column Leftist (sunny successor), Wednesday, 29 August 2018 18:34 (five years ago) link
Kind of like when at work you boss tells you something like "that report should include the red information" and you know this but you just nod gratuitously pretending this is helpful new information.
― Rabbit Control (Latham Green), Wednesday, 29 August 2018 18:58 (five years ago) link
just mispronounced someones name on the phone at work - i pronounced the surname Blades as in Rubén Blades, it should've been blades like the english word
― ( ͡☉ ͜ʖ ͡☉) (jim in vancouver), Wednesday, 29 August 2018 19:02 (five years ago) link
damn I've been pronouncing Rubén Blades wrong all this time
not that I've ever had occasion to say his name out loud
― Number None, Wednesday, 29 August 2018 19:03 (five years ago) link
i just realized that's a dumb comparison because the spanish pronunciation is different but i think Rubén Blades does actually use the english pronunciation himself to an extent
― ( ͡☉ ͜ʖ ͡☉) (jim in vancouver), Wednesday, 29 August 2018 19:05 (five years ago) link
I find it easier to get over embarrasment if you say "forgive me I am not of earth and I don't know yoru ways"
― Rabbit Control (Latham Green), Thursday, 30 August 2018 19:00 (five years ago) link
I'm still embarrassed about using Rubén Blades in that anecdote
― ( ͡☉ ͜ʖ ͡☉) (jim in vancouver), Thursday, 30 August 2018 19:04 (five years ago) link