joy-suckers

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this is something that came up for discussion between me and a close friend recently.
we decided that there exist in the world people who possess the ablitiy to suck the joy out of any occasion/event/room, just by being there.
different from just being kinda down at the time, people who joy-suck actually manage to create such a feeling of joylessness that everyone around is affected by it.
it is almost impossible to be immune from a joy-sucker, no amount of happy happy joy joy will overcome the shroud of grey gloom that descends upon the environment when a joy-sucker is there.
the only way out is OUT.....actually removing yourself from their presence and even then it takes a while to regain your own sense of wellbeing.
anyway, i decided today that joy-suckers are actually a necessary evil, to show us what we might become if we lose our own ability to find happiness in small moments.
am i exaggerating the extent of depression these people can cause?
i think not.
and i cant remember how to spell exaggerate, is it 2 g's or 2 r's?? or both?

― donna (donna), Tuesday, 1 October 2002 02:42 (twenty-one years ago) link

2 g's, 1 r

― donna (donna), Tuesday, 1 October 2002 02:42 (twenty-one years ago) link

and i dont just mean when someone is really unhappy and in need of some down-time, thats different.
think eeyore, puddleglum...........

― donna (donna), Tuesday, 1 October 2002 02:51 (twenty-one years ago) link

Yeah, I know people like this. They bring everyone down with just about everything that comes out of their mouth.

― electric sound of jim (electricsound), Tuesday, 1 October 2002 02:56 (twenty-one years ago) link

i know people like this too. they actually get joy out of making everyone else miserable. and theres no way to avoid them, they'll turn up to yr parties uninvited. [hamish-aimed disclaimer] of course i do not mean this about anyone i personally know on these boards.

― di smith (lucylurex), Tuesday, 1 October 2002 03:21 (twenty-one years ago) link

as for me, i just like dancing.

― di smith (lucylurex), Tuesday, 1 October 2002 03:23 (twenty-one years ago) link

I am people like this. Actually, I call friends of mine like this Eeyores.

― bnw (bnw), Tuesday, 1 October 2002 03:36 (twenty-one years ago) link

bnw, you are not.

But what do they do with all the joy? is that where MDMA comes from?

― felicity (felicity), Tuesday, 1 October 2002 03:45 (twenty-one years ago) link

they consume it somehow into the black hole of their innards.......come to think of it, they are a bit like a black hole.

― donna (donna), Tuesday, 1 October 2002 04:48 (twenty-one years ago) link

i ran into one today, hence the thread. simply did not move fast enough to get away, and got tainted. i wondered why i felt so crappy til it dawned on me what had happened.

― donna (donna), Tuesday, 1 October 2002 04:50 (twenty-one years ago) link

I dunno, I lurve Eeyore! But I would...'cause I'm a perv...and a Morrissey fan. Ned, I can hear you say, "But isn't that redundant?" Yes, I know, silly lad.

As a perv, I also started my own alternate reading of what a "joy-sucker" is in an oral-sensual way -- kind of like a yummy chupa chup but even sexier and more ecstatic.

But back to the joy sucker as depressant...there is only one person I've ever met who fits Donna's description of a joy sucker, except I wouldn't go so far as to say that the mere presence of the person is a downer -- only if that person actually spoke to me would I become instantly depressed. Luckily, I've been spared the presence of this person for a number of years.

THis person was so unpleasant to be around that I tried in vain to think of a good raison d'etre for this person. The best I could think of was 1) Someday, with passionate and bitter struggle, this person may flower into a lovely human being, and 2) THere but for the grace of some deity or 'nuther, go I.

I guess the latter is something like your realization, Donna. I try to be less negative socially whenever I think of the joy sucker in my life. It's one thing to wallow in despair in one's own personal cocoon, but it's another to bring other people down when perhaps they don't enjoy the gloom as much as one does.

― Melinda Mess-Injure, Tuesday, 1 October 2002 06:49 (twenty-one years ago) link

puddleglum is grate!!

― mark s (mark s), Tuesday, 1 October 2002 08:01 (twenty-one years ago) link

i have to admit i love eeyore too. he isnt even a joy-sucker, but he is handy as a sort of arrow pointing in the direction of where i meant.

― donna (donna), Tuesday, 1 October 2002 08:05 (twenty-one years ago) link

I don't think that anybody is a joy sucker all the time -- context is all. Somebody who can do nothing but bring you and your pals down might be a joy to others.

I've been accused (in a Blog! on the INTERWEB!) of being a joy sucking psychic energy vampire before myself -- curiously enough, I found this person a stone drag anyway, so I'm not too bothered by it.

― Colin Meeder (Mert), Tuesday, 1 October 2002 08:31 (twenty-one years ago) link

My book called CHILDREN OV THEE NIGHT wd call this an instance ov a PSYCHIC VAMPIRE! They tend to have miserable lives and a hard time finding people strong enough to be around w/o sucking all the positive vibes from. I personally think this is a load of NEW AGE HIPPY RUB (more books avt psy-vamps can be found in the new age section of Foyles) and blame it on grumpiness.

Although I wish psy-vamps were better than that cos they've got a grebt name (despite being a bit babylon 5 on yo ass).

― Sarah (starry), Tuesday, 1 October 2002 08:33 (twenty-one years ago) link

Ned, I can hear you say, "But isn't that redundant?"

Some comments pre-empt themselves. ;-)

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Tuesday, 1 October 2002 18:37 (twenty-one years ago) link

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