i guess it's a valid topic of discussion but i don't know the commercial is very obviously about psy trying to coax a pistachio out of its shell
― PappaWheelie on the zeitgeist (Whiney G. Weingarten), Tuesday, 18 June 2013 13:48 (eleven years ago) link
I hate constructions like "kinda (bad thing)y" and "quasi-(bad thing)" that allow writers to demand a defense without outright claiming the offense.
― da croupier, Tuesday, 18 June 2013 13:57 (eleven years ago) link
I also don't think it does the end-rape-culture cause much of a service to casually throw around that kind of construction.
― i don't even have an internet (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 18 June 2013 13:59 (eleven years ago) link
Yeah, "kinda rapey" is offensive all round
― Deafening silence (DL), Tuesday, 18 June 2013 14:01 (eleven years ago) link
article itself is appreciated though, at least for showing how much sympathy (or the lack of it) affects ones perception of sexism/sexual aggressiveness.
― da croupier, Tuesday, 18 June 2013 14:03 (eleven years ago) link
a lot of the time in cases like this there's a real failure to understand that the visual aspect of pop music may bely the actual substance of the song - especially with mainstream/pop artists, i find their public image (a vague, nebulous thing that lends itself to kinda-constructions) is a lot more conservative/careful/rigid than the actual words they sing
― lex pretend, Tuesday, 18 June 2013 14:04 (eleven years ago) link
in this case it's annoying b/c there's a valid discussion about misogyny to be had but calling the song "kinda rapey" is not it
― lex pretend, Tuesday, 18 June 2013 14:05 (eleven years ago) link
Also, the default mode of writing nowadays is flippant. The worst sin is treating serious stuff seriously.
― A deeper shade of lol (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 18 June 2013 14:10 (eleven years ago) link
totally. i can't really do humorous writing anyway but i especially can't do it about stuff i know a lot about, or love a great deal. when i can write flippantly it's because i don't really care about my subject
― lex pretend, Tuesday, 18 June 2013 14:11 (eleven years ago) link
I know there's a whole thread devoted to this tone of voice but I cannot wait for bloggers to stop hiding behind flippant-feeble "erm"s and "kinda"s.
― Deafening silence (DL), Tuesday, 18 June 2013 14:17 (eleven years ago) link
Yeah, uh that skinhead band is a WEE BIT TOO holocausty for my tastes.
― i don't even have an internet (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 18 June 2013 14:18 (eleven years ago) link
Haha
― ramona & yeezus (some dude), Tuesday, 18 June 2013 15:20 (eleven years ago) link
I cannot wait for things that are never going to happen also.
― Studied keyboard mash (tsrobodo), Tuesday, 18 June 2013 15:25 (eleven years ago) link
"Lucky for Sting that Every Breath You Take predated Jezebel."
actual lol
― maura, Tuesday, 18 June 2013 17:53 (eleven years ago) link
i mean i guess the whole 'any song where a man shows a sexual interest in a woman is now rapey' ideal espoused by some feminist blogs is very 'caricature of feminists in pcu' shit
and i mean i STILL listen to a lot of hard rock. so
― maura, Tuesday, 18 June 2013 17:54 (eleven years ago) link
tbf "i know you want it" is a step beyond the expression of sexual interest. A less sympathetic son of a tv star would get oodles of shit for a song that declares you "the hottest bitch in this place," reaffirms all that stands between you is your "good girl" status, and then offers drugs in the last verse.
― da croupier, Tuesday, 18 June 2013 17:57 (eleven years ago) link
also if the well-dressed men surrounded by topless women weren't doing vaudeville routines
― da croupier, Tuesday, 18 June 2013 17:58 (eleven years ago) link
kind of wish this feminist internet reaction existed when "give it to you" came out
one of the most uncomfortable songs to karaoke
― emo canon in twee major (BradNelson), Tuesday, 18 June 2013 17:59 (eleven years ago) link
someone put robin's vocal over puddle of mudd - "blurry lines" to show how much context matters
― da croupier, Tuesday, 18 June 2013 18:02 (eleven years ago) link
or just get chad kroeger to cover it
But "I know you want it" is bracketed by him talking about how she's grabbing him, and the earlier "you're an animal" lines seem to indicate that it's not a metaphor...
― maura, Tuesday, 18 June 2013 18:08 (eleven years ago) link
I dunno. All this stuff is so thorny. And there is so much worse misogyny out there that is actively denying of women's sexual agency, you know?
― maura, Tuesday, 18 June 2013 18:10 (eleven years ago) link
yeah there is, but if someone's skeeved by robin they're not wrong to be. and while i'm not much for outrage-culling, acknowledging that the cute can be piggish has its value.
― da croupier, Tuesday, 18 June 2013 18:11 (eleven years ago) link
Oh sure, and it's not like we're otherwise in some golden era for the way that male-female relationships play out in pop culture, either.
― maura, Tuesday, 18 June 2013 18:14 (eleven years ago) link
yeah, i just think that whether a song is gross or not probably shouldn't be judged primarily by our individual "can get it"-o-meters and if people are giving robin a pass for language they'd crucify chad for it's worth looking at why and whether it's anything more than taste in haircuts.
― da croupier, Tuesday, 18 June 2013 18:16 (eleven years ago) link
they should have replaced the models with Chad Kroger in the unrated version
― ttyih boi (crüt), Tuesday, 18 June 2013 18:19 (eleven years ago) link
― maura, Tuesday, June 18, 2013 2:08 PM (10 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
what if it's REALLY not a metaphor and the song is about the goat
― ramona & yeezus (some dude), Tuesday, 18 June 2013 18:25 (eleven years ago) link
― da croupier, Tuesday, June 18, 2013 2:16 PM Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
well except I think criticizing women for "giving robin a pass" because of their "can get it" o meters (which I'm not saying you're doing) starts to get into the territory of "denying womens' sexual agency." I mean it reminds me of those butthurt internet nerd comments that you always see about how "HARUMPH, GUESS IT'S NOT SEXUAL HARASSMENT IF HE'S HOT" -- well (1) no, that's not true, but(2) the "unwanted" part of "repeated unwanted advances" parts is kind of a key element of what makes something harassment.
Like, sorry butthurt internet nerd, you're not as hot as Robin Thicke, and women might want him to say something that they don't want you to say.
― i don't even have an internet (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 18 June 2013 18:36 (eleven years ago) link
And that's a "might" -- it doesn't mean they do, but you're not entitled to some level playing field with Robin Thicke just because, and women shouldn't really be criticized for not giving you that level playing field.
― i don't even have an internet (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 18 June 2013 18:38 (eleven years ago) link
i apologize for the implication but i didn't mean to primarily single out women re "can-get-i"-o-meters, or that personal preferences shouldn't affect one's perception of music - obviously men and women are influenced by their tastes, obviously tastes does influence our preferences, and they should. if someone gives robin thicke's "blurred lines" a 9 and chad kroeger's "blurred lines" a 4 because of haircut, genre, etc that's totally cool. i'm just saying if one's a sexy gentleman and one's a "kinda rapey" pig because of haircut and guitar tone, that's a sign we're not actually dealing with the content of the music. i never would judge someone for what they do or don't find hot, enjoyable, etc (well not seriously judge them), but I do think writers should be conscious of what they're responding to and letting slide.
― da croupier, Tuesday, 18 June 2013 18:46 (eleven years ago) link
itt guy who typed "pussy buffet" onto ILX on three separate occasions parses sexist language
― PappaWheelie on the zeitgeist (Whiney G. Weingarten), Tuesday, 18 June 2013 19:05 (eleven years ago) link
i have no problem with rock guys being overtly into women though! shit, one of my favorite musical discoveries of last year was an extended girl-as-car metaphor by a guy whose physical appearance i only have the vaguest knowledge of
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rEYhapqsb3I
i mean there's always context. the rest of robin thicke's catalog would seem to indicate that he, y'know, likes women as human beings.
― maura, Tuesday, 18 June 2013 19:09 (eleven years ago) link
smart take
― balls, Tuesday, 18 June 2013 19:10 (eleven years ago) link
I think Thicke's got the same songwritery/model detachment as Chris Isaak that can make him flirt with models in a video without it coming across as entitlement or worse.
― lols lane (Eazy), Tuesday, 18 June 2013 19:10 (eleven years ago) link
(Also because the dude is married and talks about his marriage and makes his wife the love object in all of his other videos!)
― lols lane (Eazy), Tuesday, 18 June 2013 19:11 (eleven years ago) link
― balls, Tuesday, June 18, 2013 3:10 PM (7 minutes ago) Bookmark
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you have such an insane memory when it comes to ilxors
― we're up all night to get (s1ocki), Tuesday, 18 June 2013 19:17 (eleven years ago) link
always nice to know there are dudes still thinking about dumb shit i said in 2005
― da croupier, Tuesday, 18 June 2013 19:19 (eleven years ago) link
haha i just remembered you were kinda ott zealous in yr defense of 'the whisper song' so it was kinda weird to see you go in on this much more innocuous thicke song (more weird to see to see those old responding to the larger debate voice pieces w/o the context of the actual larger debate, i can barely remember what you're responding to there though i think jessica hopper was involved). 'kinda rapey's too far for this track but it's obv skeezy, more so than default hair metal trax about girls (which when not obv ott gleeful misogynist could be kinda ott vulnerable romantic)(the only huge hair metal act i can think of right now that was really better in misogynist mode and they knew it was motley crue; g'n'f'n'r, cinderella, skid row, bon jovi were better bringing on the heartbreak), less so than kanye on his best day. video amplifies it obv (though bros playful disinterest probably mitigates a little bit) but it's there in the song also.
― balls, Tuesday, 18 June 2013 19:34 (eleven years ago) link
I'm predicting circles of dancing gals at nightclubs pointed at each other and mouthing "You're the finest bitch in this place" for the next 12-18 months.
― lols lane (Eazy), Tuesday, 18 June 2013 19:40 (eleven years ago) link
yeah maura sorry i've got you on the defense here, i'm being strawmanny and asking for that - shades of 'wait', oddly enough. where i was all defensively "hey don't say it's wrong for men to be sexually aggressive" to no one in particularly all those years ago now my stance is "let's just admit this stuff can be gross if you're not playing along," again to no one in particular. i was on better ground when there were particulars re: the sfw video, obv.
― da croupier, Tuesday, 18 June 2013 19:41 (eleven years ago) link
wait til you see my thicke
― ramona & yeezus (some dude), Tuesday, 18 June 2013 21:25 (eleven years ago) link
lol
― ttyih boi (crüt), Tuesday, 18 June 2013 21:27 (eleven years ago) link
haha some dude otm
― Shock G Mo Collier (Spottie_Ottie_Dope), Tuesday, 18 June 2013 21:30 (eleven years ago) link
nailed it
― i don't even have an internet (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 18 June 2013 21:35 (eleven years ago) link
ship!
― The Reverend, Tuesday, 18 June 2013 22:02 (eleven years ago) link
Just watched the unrated video. Daddy horny, michael.
― i wanna be a gabbneb baby (Hungry4Ass), Wednesday, 19 June 2013 01:57 (eleven years ago) link
wait so there's a 1970s hit that sounds a LOT like Blurred Lines. I can't think of what it is but it has cowbell and a falsetto male voice, and I feel like it might be War or KC and the Sunshine Band or something.
― i don't even have an internet (Hurting 2), Wednesday, 19 June 2013 17:02 (eleven years ago) link
LOL
― Not Simone Choule (Eric H.), Wednesday, 19 June 2013 17:04 (eleven years ago) link
YouTube commenters say Gaye stole the beat from Thicke. Film at 11.
― Not Simone Choule (Eric H.), Wednesday, 19 June 2013 17:07 (eleven years ago) link
Rémi Vouliot 1 week ago
Marvin so gayyyy! He stole Robin Thicke song omFG KILL HIM
― The Reverend, Wednesday, 19 June 2013 21:15 (eleven years ago) link