Sandra Tsing Loh fired from KCRW

"this bette middler fucking sucks"

"My husband, my soul mate, my ROOMMATE of 15 years -- he sleeps LATE, doesn't LISTEN, moves my STUFF around. But he DOES play guitar for Bette Midler on her MASSIVE new STAGE show. There are times he STANDS within five FEET of her!," the script read. "So I guess I have to f*** him."

And can I humbly ask what this thread has to do with music?

I'm really just responding to this because I've been out of town and didn't want Ned to think I was too chicken to jump into the fray (I work at KCRW). Truthfully, it couldn't have been a huger mess with massive mistakes made by ALL.

And I think it's grotesque that Sandra mentioned the guilty engineer by name in the LA Times.

My husband used to write for LA Weekly and once called KCRW's General Manager the "Iron Whim". Now they adore each other, possibly because of this.

Yes. There's more to our friend ":-)" than meets the eye, eh Raggetty N-dee?

It is part of my plot. So are you going to be able to escape the Stereolab venue for dinner beforehand with folks at Taco Mesa?

this could be on either comfortably, and is.

And lord knows I wouldn't flatter Sing Blow by fighting about her. I must say the bolt of lightning was a shock to us all when it struck, including Zeus herself.

Do you mean Wait, Wait, Don't Tell Me? Or Whaddaya Know?

My best friend is an intern for This American Life!!

SETTING THE RECORD STRAIGHT
IN THE MATTER OF SANDRA TSING LOH

Until now, public radio station KCRW has chosen to respond in limited fashion to reporters and concerned listeners about Sandra Tsing Loh's dismissal and the station's offer to re-hire her, which she rejected.

Out of deference to her personal situation, which she subsequently chose to make public in the media, KCRW provided only factual responses about the station's policy on indecent language and FCC regulations.

After much deliberation, KCRW has decided to release the letter that Ms. Loh faxed to General Manager Ruth Seymour on the day she was notified that her program "The Loh Life" was cancelled.

Less than 48 hours after writing this letter, Ms. Loh retained the services of a public relations firm. In the ensuing weeks, Ms. Loh and her representatives fanned a media storm with negative remarks about the station that led to personal attacks on its employees. She made misleading statements about her own culpability in using “indecent” language on the air.

Little more than a week later, KCRW offered to reinstate “The Loh Life.” Ms. Loh was to respond by the next day. Instead, she requested an extension over a weekend to make up her mind. That same night, Ms. Loh chose to appear on television, and never told the interviewer that she’d been offered her show back.

In her letter, Ms. Loh apologizes and takes full responsibility for her "foolish and ill-timed mistake." She expresses her gratitude to Ms Seymour for the success she's enjoyed because of her association with KCRW.

Ms. Seymour notes: "The discrepancy between the content and tone of this letter and the subsequent attacks on KCRW has yet to be explained. I guess Sandra figured that attacking KCRW gets far more attention than a 3-minute weekly commentary. Unfortunately this came at the expense of the station that had given her a home on the air for six years.”The letter reads as follows:

March 1st, 2004

Ruth Seymour
KCRW
1900 Pico Blvd.
Santa Monica, CA 90405

Dear Ruth,

I just want to say, once again, how deeply horrified I am about what occurred Sunday morning. While uttering an expletive over the air was the very opposite of my intention, I should not have placed another person in a "gatekeeper" capacity for my work. I genuinely hope KCRW will not suffer lasting negative effects due to my foolish and ill-time mistake.

I also wish to extend my apologies to (the recording engineer)...He is an excellent engineer, who I thoughtlessly--and unfairly--put in a professionally precarious situation. The responsibility for this disaster is mine, not his. While I myself have been fired, I hope that (the recording engineer) will be able to continue in his otherwise wonderfully productive career at KCRW.

On a personal note, I do remain extremely grateful for the long tenure I've had with you, and the valuable opportunities that have come my way because of my affiliation with your great station. I continue to wish you all the very best.

Sincerely,

Sandra Tsing Loh

fired from her marriage too

In the December issue of The Atlantic, author Sandra Tsing Loh discusses two books about the concept of bad mothers and expands a little on her current situation. Remember, in July she confessed in a discussion of marriage in the same magazine that she had recently had an affair that ended her married life. This time she writes:

I myself am not just an imperfect mother, I am a bad mother. I am bad not in that fluttery, anxious, 21st-century way educated middle-class mothers consider themselves “failures” because they snap when they are tired, because they occasionally feed their kids McNuggets, because as they journal they soulfully question whether they’re mindfully attaining a proper daily work/life balance. No, I am bad because after a domestic partnership of 20 years, when my kids were still elementary-school-age, I fell in love, had an affair, admitted it, and quite deservedly got tossed out of the house on my ass. Currently between homes (my earthly belongings reside in a 10-by-10-foot windowless U-Haul storage unit whilst I alternately house-sit, pool-sit, and cat-sit), I furtively park at the curb of my former home for an extra few minutes after dropping my kids off and, with my laptop, I steal wireless. Approaching 50, I am living a life that is less sunlit Waldman/Chabon than tattered Charles Bukowski.
In short, I am truly bad, in a 1970s way—that decade when women really were bad!

She also talks about the reaction to her earlier confession:

I’d thought mine was a sad but not atypical tale to cite in The Atlantic as a jumping-off point for a discussion about the state of modern American marriage, but … No!!! Oh, the shock, the outrage, the vitriol, the tying to the bumpers of and being dragged behind blogs large and small all across our fair nation! Oh, the plasterings with a scarlet A, the media stonings. I fielded so many horrified condolence calls after one particularly savage L.A. Times profile of me that I found myself plaintively asking a friend, “Don’t you think the word crucifixion is overused nowadays? Do we have to keep using the word crucifixion?” But what particularly surprised me was the ire of some of my own sisters in the chattering class—college-educated, affluent NPR listeners/New York Times readers. In the old days, for better or worse, members of this privileged demographic would have been on female liberation’s front lines. Now they were among the most censorious. “YOU MUST GO BACK HOME!” one girlfriend of mine (56, married, Boomer professional, no kids) typed in block letters. “THINK OF THE CHILDREN!”
“It feels like we’re living in the ’50s,” said Janet. At which point she downed her prosecco and exclaimed: “For God’s sake! When did people get so timid? In the ’70s people wouldn’t give a damn! Doesn’t anyone read Germaine Greer any more?”

In good news, Ruth Seymour stepped down as general manager this week

i have no idea who this person is but that passage made me feel bad for her - i feel always feel bad when people try to be clever & chatty about the horrible sad shit in their lives

2004 ilx is so terrible

i have no idea who this person is but that passage made me feel bad for her - i feel always feel bad when people try to be clever & chatty about the horrible sad shit in their lives

― a dimension you can only access through self-immolation (contenderizer), Friday, November 20, 2009

And now you know who Sandra Tsing Loh is.

Approaching 50, I am living a life that is less sunlit Waldman/Chabon than tattered Charles Bukowski.

She is hoping to be portrayed by Mickey Rourke.

synchronicity from this week's New Yorker (11/23/09)

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I’m not a KCRW listener, but thought this was kinda interesting (Bentley’s pretty straight-up about some things): https://variety.com/2019/music/news/jason-bentley-leaves-kcrw-exclusive-interview-1203243455/