What kind of sex do people engage in during sleepsex?
Both heterosexual and homosexual sexually oriented touching and fondling of a bed partner's genitalia are common. Intercourse is another known form of sexual behavior that occurs during sleep. While only one clinical case study of sleep masturbation has been published in the book Sleepsex: Uncovered, numerous instances of sleepsex episodes involving masturbation by both men and women are reported. Oral and anal sex seems to be less common but does occur.
Can having sleepsex be problem?
Sleepsex is not necessarily always problematic--some persons happily incorporate it into their normal sex lives. On her boyfriend's sleepsex one woman comments: "I believe what causes it is sex appeal."
It is an extreme turn-on to be awakened by my boyfriend fondling me. I love the fact that we can have sex all the time. I have also had sex with him without him waking up. That is amazing as well.
Some cases, however, can be very disturbing. Violent sleepsex, the varieties of which comprise the dark side of sleepsex, is just beginning to be discovered by researchers and talked about by clinicians as a potentially serious problem many individuals may be coping with. As bizarre as it might sound, thousands, and quite possibly millions of sleepers worldwide (most are probably women) are being unceremoniously yanked into consciousness by groping, moaning, and sexually aggressive behavior of others (most are probably men) who happen to be dead asleep.
Many women experience sleepsex as rape-like and have been violently forced into intercourse by unconscious husbands, boyfriends, and male friends who are often nearly impossible to awaken. Ellen (not her real name) whose husband has sleepsex episodes writes: "During his sleepsex episodes he becomes very aggressive and violent and then claims he does not remember anything. Everybody we have talked to, neurologists, psychologists, etc., can't explain it, but see it as a huge danger to our children and me. The only medicine they have tried is Ritalin (20 mg) before bed. This does not work and our doctors don't know what to do next. I had to call 911 last night because of a violent attack."
In a situation involving masturbation, a young man had crashed-out on a hotel bed along with his girlfriend and her female friend. To his horror, he awoke to find that he had masturbated upon his girlfriend's friend. In another case, a man had nightly episodes of vigorous masturbation in his sleep. This put a strain on his relationship as his female partner was very disturbed by it and she did not believe that he was actually asleep.
During sleepsex episodes, it is common for both men's and women's sexual demeanor to be more dominant than during waking sex. Men and women on the receiving end of sleepsex often report that, in Jekyll and Hyde fashion, their typically gentle partners become aggressive and even violent. Cases like this have led at least one expert on the forensics of sleep to suggest: Individuals with undiagnosed sexual behavior in sleep (SBS) are at risk of being accused of sexual assault. (Shapiro, Fedoroff, Trajanovic, 1996).
In one documented criminal case of sleepsex, a normal, healthy, 45 year-old male awoke to the screams of a 14 year-old girl--a friend of his daughter--who was spending the night at his home. Evidently, he had gone to bed as usual. Later, while asleep, he had walked downstairs to where the two girls were sleeping. He then began fondling his daughter's young friend. She woke up and began screaming. The police were called and he was forced to explain his behavior to them. He was arrested and charges of sexual battery were leveled against him. At the time he was happily married and had no history of sexual misconduct. While both he and his spouse believed he had been sleepwalking, his attorney advised him to forget about this business of sleepwalking because a jury would never believe it (Rosenfeld ; Elhajjar, 1998).
― velko, Thursday, 8 April 2010 09:45 (thirteen years ago) link
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