feel similar to Rev - I don't really go out of my way to pursue relationships, partly because my mind always defaults to the long-term (i.e. I tend to make gross over-generalizations about ~what our future will be like~ when I meet someone I'm interested in) and partly because when I fall for someone, I fall pretty hard. like the can't-sleep acid-stomach mind-revolves around-them mentality. it's not really healthy and I prefer having mental equilibrium instead.
― dayo, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 01:30 (thirteen years ago) link
Haha, I'm not that much of a hopeless romantic, although I used to be.
Reverend: If you had been going for ten years without a relationship, I'd be worrying about you, but there's nothing wrong with you and nothing wrong with the way you're going about things. You've got friends and family, and I'll bet that your next romance will come from the former. It's also alright not to be a casual sex person, many people aren't.
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Tuesday, September 21, 2010 6:03 PM Bookmark
I've never really been in a real relationship tho. :/
― flaccid house (The Reverend), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 03:16 (thirteen years ago) link
when you meet the right person, you notice that they actuallly ~help~ you sort your shit out. obv this all depends on what kind of shit we are actually talking about. but generally a relationship is about sorting all kinds of shit out together.
I do have to say, I've never really thought about it this way and I find it quite heartening!
― flaccid house (The Reverend), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 03:18 (thirteen years ago) link
On more of a downer note, I've long had a suspicion that I tend to come off as aloof and unattainable to potential romantic interests. Never really been sure what to do about this.
― flaccid house (The Reverend), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 03:21 (thirteen years ago) link
What do you think of as a real relationship?
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 03:27 (thirteen years ago) link
you know, it's perfectly ok to be single, for however long you want. i think it's just assumed that everyone wants to be in a relationship, but if that's not your thing then... that's ok too. i don't think there's anything wrong with it, no matter how long you've gone without being in one.
― just1n3, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 03:28 (thirteen years ago) link
One lasting more than a couple months of dating.
On a side note, I just invited a girl over for dinner this friday, to which she obliged. I'm not completely hopeless.
― flaccid house (The Reverend), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 03:32 (thirteen years ago) link
hit it, rev! hit it for all of us!!!
― p.m.s.b. (pre-mall smoke bomb) (zorn_bond.mp3), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 03:35 (thirteen years ago) link
(srs tho <3)
I wish I could have had some of those non-real relationships you talk about when I was younger.
My love life before I met my husband at 23: One makeout session with a classmate at 14. A friend of my nephew's who I played around with a couple of times when I came to visit. My nephew, oral sex, once. One date with a classmate in college. And I lost my virginity to another classmate, who I never saw again. No other boyfriends or girlfriends, even casual sexless ones.
Yes, I am bitter about this.
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 03:55 (thirteen years ago) link
Good going! I'm really happy for you.
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 03:56 (thirteen years ago) link
wait - you blew your nephew?
― master of retardment (ENBB), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 03:56 (thirteen years ago) link
Yes, and vice versa. He was about a year or two younger than me.
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 03:59 (thirteen years ago) link
(No, I'm not Johnny Fever's aunt, silly people!)
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:03 (thirteen years ago) link
People on tv don't lie when they talk about incest being commonplace.
It's a weird thing, though. I would never do that to a niece or nephew, but I'm not at all damaged or grossed out about what happened to me (maybe because my aunt was only 4 years older and not a full-grown woman).
xp Hi! Aunt Christine.
― Johnny Fever, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:06 (thirteen years ago) link
thread delivers.
― beej (crüt), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:07 (thirteen years ago) link
My nephew, oral sex, once.
I know this is the TMI board, but UH.
― cathedral-sized jellyfish in your mind (Trayce), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:08 (thirteen years ago) link
XD
― p.m.s.b. (pre-mall smoke bomb) (zorn_bond.mp3), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:08 (thirteen years ago) link
Aside from the nephew thing, that doesn't sound too much less exciting than my own sex life.
― flaccid house (The Reverend), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:11 (thirteen years ago) link
anyway my newest thing is calling this thread SEX DRAUGHTS in my head and imagining going off to the pub for a pint of SEX DRAUGHT
― dayo, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:14 (thirteen years ago) link
haha I have been thinking that same thing
― beej (crüt), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:15 (thirteen years ago) link
I'll have one.
― cathedral-sized jellyfish in your mind (Trayce), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:15 (thirteen years ago) link
i thought they closed that place etc
― deep-fried cigarette (electricsound), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:16 (thirteen years ago) link
Hahaha!
― cathedral-sized jellyfish in your mind (Trayce), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:16 (thirteen years ago) link
i could sure use one
― ('_') (omar little), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:16 (thirteen years ago) link
I rly prob should not be reading this thread at work imo but wtf.
― cathedral-sized jellyfish in your mind (Trayce), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:17 (thirteen years ago) link
if only it were that easy to pull at a bar
― The Reverend, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:17 (thirteen years ago) link
I've never met anyone at a bar I'd want to go home with, much less engage in a relationship with. But then again, I live in a pretty shitty town.
― Johnny Fever, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:18 (thirteen years ago) link
It was his idea (he'd been away from his girlfriend for a while and was horny as hell) and we'd had a lot of romantic and sexual chemistry between us for the four or five years we knew each other. Like I said, he was the best friend I've ever had and the only regret I have about what we did was that it ruined our friendship. I haven't seen him for twenty-some years.
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:22 (thirteen years ago) link
i'm ok dealing with a drought unless there's someone i'm really crushing on. that can be correlated of course and then u might do something stupid. otherwise don't sweat it, totally fine to be single. just do things you want to do without the objective of sex and maybe you will meet someone who's doing some of those things too.
― a fucking knitted scarf (another al3x), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:23 (thirteen years ago) link
Besides, I'm thrilled that I've finally been able to gross out ILTMI.
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:24 (thirteen years ago) link
it finally happened
― beej (crüt), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:24 (thirteen years ago) link
http://11.media.tumblr.com/Tl31aqg2PqrfjmghF1IdiBvQo1_500.gif
― *makes 'drinky-drinky' motion with hand* (gr8080), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:25 (thirteen years ago) link
lol
― Johnny Fever, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:26 (thirteen years ago) link
i don't have a problem with family members having consensual sex
― a fucking knitted scarf (another al3x), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:26 (thirteen years ago) link
just do things you want to do without the objective of sex and maybe you will meet someone who's doing some of those things too.
This is the biggest truth bomb this thread's produced so far.
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:27 (thirteen years ago) link
:)
― homosexual II, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:28 (thirteen years ago) link
DERAIL ALERT: My aunt hasn't had an easy life. She's the mother of five boys with three fathers, broke her back in a car accident, was hooked on pain pills for years, has been to jail for not paying taxes, and is just generally unhealthy.
What I got out of sexual contact that early? I've always been attracted to women in a position of power or with domineering personalities.
― Johnny Fever, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:29 (thirteen years ago) link
eh. the aunt-nephew barrier had already been broken in this thread. any other aunts and nephews are just walking through the open gates at this point.
― The Reverend, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:30 (thirteen years ago) link
xp to christine
Well, that was biography. Not pertinent to the topic at hand, but I wanted to match Christine's follow-up on her nephew. xp
― Johnny Fever, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:32 (thirteen years ago) link
http://i26.tinypic.com/rbf76o.jpg
― homosexual II, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:33 (thirteen years ago) link
just kidddddding btw
― homosexual II, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:34 (thirteen years ago) link
haha
― Johnny Fever, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:35 (thirteen years ago) link
THIS FORUM IS NOW INCESTED
― buzza, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:35 (thirteen years ago) link
hahahahaha that moss gif is the best popcorn one I've seen in a long time
― master of retardment (ENBB), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:37 (thirteen years ago) link
I should really get around to seeing that show.
― Johnny Fever, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:38 (thirteen years ago) link
You don't have to answer this, but I wonder if there was any sexual abuse in her past--most 15-year-old girls aren't that aggressive sexually unless something like that happens, and the rest of her bio suggests some trauma in her background.
(Before someone asks: I have no sexual abuse in my past. None whatsoever.)
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:39 (thirteen years ago) link
x-post - (Totally not on topic but it's very hit or miss imo. There is, however, one episode (Gay - The Gay Musical) that is one of the best things ever.)
― master of retardment (ENBB), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:40 (thirteen years ago) link
― Johnny Fever, Wednesday, September 22, 2010 5:18 AM (18 minutes ago) Bookmark
yeah this happened to me once with a girl this summer, then we met again outside the bar and the chemistry fizzled
:/
― p.m.s.b. (pre-mall smoke bomb) (zorn_bond.mp3), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:41 (thirteen years ago) link